FabSwingers.com forum: Intimate Photo Taken and Posted Without Consent

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I was NOT aware it was being taken... And NEVER would have given permission. I am very careful about controlling what pictures there are of me. I have never once allowed, or wanted, an intimate photo taken of me during sex and seeing this made me throw up.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

It now bothers me (probably more than it should) not knowing what other photos he may have of me on his phone. I consented to having sex with this guy but I never gave permission for him to take any photos, or God forbid a video. I feel violated.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before).

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

Unfortunately you did put yourself in this situation and he has betrayed your trust, you have no idea what other photos and videos are out there. Lesson learnt hopefully and yes I have been in the same situation some years ago and it is not pleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

When we join and meet on these sites we place huge trust in the people we meet to respect us and our wishes. We place pics up that are our property and so it's our choice. Anyone taking a photo or vid during meets should always have permission, not do it unbeknown to the others and NEVER post it anywhere. So no not being daft at all OP.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You only put yourself in the position in as far as any of us do meeting virtual strangers but the responsibility for abusing your trust is his. It was a low thing to do. I'm not sure if the revenge porn law covers things like this.

I'd say that although it's easy for me to say you're going to have to try and accept his word that he has no more images and move on. When you meet other men ask them to put their phone, turned off somewhere that you can see it. If you meet in another person's home make sure any laptops are shut and they don't have pc's with web cams in the same room.

Sorry this has happened. It isn't your fault.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before).

But hopefully lesson learnt, not to trust others who you barely know

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before).

But hopefully lesson learnt, not to trust others who you barely know

Just to say we've been there and done that and this was a guy we had known for 2years...lack of judgment on our part...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked somebody to take photo down and he took it down without protest?

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"You asked somebody to take photo down and he took it down without protest?

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it."

Why shouldn't she start a thread about it? It's obviously worrying her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Hope it's now sorted OP, you did right to confront the person I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think this person will try to extort you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to."

If someone tries to use the photo in any other way she will have recourse to the law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to."

the OP hasnt identified them, and if it makes someone else think twice, and use the advice about leaving phones within sight, then it can only be a good thing.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to."

So she should just sit back and say nothing? I think it is a good post as it hopefully warns others about these knobs

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to.

the OP hasnt identified them, and if it makes someone else think twice, and use the advice about leaving phones within sight, then it can only be a good thing."

exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to.

the OP hasnt identified them, and if it makes someone else think twice, and use the advice about leaving phones within sight, then it can only be a good thing."

Exactly this - it's partly what the forums are for - to share experiences good and bad and hopefully pass on the lessons learned from those experiences to others in the hope they benefit from them.

I'd also be inclined to report the profile in question OP so that private pics etc can be checked and if necessary appropriate action taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities."

so what if he's annoyed? he must be well aware of exactly what he did, he didnt do it by accident..that's no reason not to post as a warning for others.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities."

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities."

There is nothing "innocent" about posting pics of someone else without their consent - especially when those pics were taken without consent in the first place!!

And if the person concerned sees this thread I'd hope he's have the good sense to be ashamed of his behaviour rather than inflamed by it!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to.

the OP hasnt identified them, and if it makes someone else think twice, and use the advice about leaving phones within sight, then it can only be a good thing.

Exactly this - it's partly what the forums are for - to share experiences good and bad and hopefully pass on the lessons learned from those experiences to others in the hope they benefit from them.

I'd also be inclined to report the profile in question OP so that private pics etc can be checked and if necessary appropriate action taken."

Well said Gemini

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place."

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities."

It sounds like you're condoning it, hope it never happens to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

why would it not be true? what would be gained by that? and you can say the exact same about any experience anyone ever posts about on here surely?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

So she's a liar as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

It sounds like you're condoning it, hope it never happens to you.

It's called having an open mind and not taking everything at face value.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

It sounds like you're condoning it, hope it never happens to you.

It's called having an open mind and not taking everything at face value."

Well it's happened to me and its not a great experience....but then I could be lieing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

So she's a liar as well?"

It seems unlikely to be made up to me but she wouldn't be the first internet fantasist.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

It's true there are always three sides to every story. However the advice given holds true for the situation described. Trust no one. Don't allow anyone to take photos of you saying they're for their own use only, or using your sd card which they give back. If someone appears to be trying to get you to lay in a certain spot or keeps looking at a certain point in the room, leave.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

Great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

It sounds like you're condoning it, hope it never happens to you.

It's called having an open mind and not taking everything at face value.

Well it's happened to me and its not a great experience....but then I could be lieing

You could but then again the fact that it happened to you could be the reason that you've taken it all as fact.

And I've no doubt that it's not very nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

Great advice

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i see no reason to disbelieve the OP at all. It's hardly something unheard of is it?...and nothing whatsoever to be gained by inventing it..seems needlessly nasty to accuse someone of potentially lying for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

It sounds like you're condoning it, hope it never happens to you.

It's called having an open mind and not taking everything at face value.

Well it's happened to me and its not a great experience....but then I could be lieing

You could but then again the fact that it happened to you could be the reason that you've taken it all as fact.

And I've no doubt that it's not very nice."

I've taken it as fact as it sounds very similar and I'd rather give people the benefit of the doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything."

"To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

...i said 'potentially'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do only I'm giving 2 people the bebefit of the doubt.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything."

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

"To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

...i said 'potentially'..."

Fair enough.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"So do only I'm giving 2 people the bebefit of the doubt."

Pardon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So do only I'm giving 2 people the bebefit of the doubt.

Pardon?"

maybe means where the guy may have done it 'accidentally'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me...."

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So do only I'm giving 2 people the bebefit of the doubt.

Pardon?"

Yeah, it was a bit of a mess...phone typos.

I'm giving the mystery guy the benefit of doubt too.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?"

Yes I would, why wouldn't I?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"So do only I'm giving 2 people the bebefit of the doubt.

Pardon?

Yeah, it was a bit of a mess...phone typos.

I'm giving the mystery guy the benefit of doubt too."

And of course, it's your right to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?"

without good reason not to, yes, i would imagine they would do. Its a common enough problem to have various laws against disseminating peoples pics without permission...sadly its not that unbeliveable at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So with no evidence either way you'd back one against the other?

I hope you never do jury service.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

What a disgusting thing to happen, I'd have rammed the phone somewhere the sun don't shine. I'd have said nothing, kept the evidence and reported him.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"So with no evidence either way you'd back one against the other?

I hope you never do jury service."

It sounds feasible to me, having had the same experience, but we're hardly in a court of law...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?

It's completely believable, I would imagine it goes on way too often.

But so does making stuff up on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So with no evidence either way you'd back one against the other?

I hope you never do jury service.

It sounds feasible to me, having had the same experience, but we're hardly in a court of law..."

It's starting to feel like it with you snd aanna.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So with no evidence either way you'd back one against the other?

I hope you never do jury service."

this is not a court room. the OP hasnt named anyone. just voiced a serious concern aboyt what happened to her, which , as peple have already said, can only be a good thing if it makes people aware of the risk.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?

It's completely believable, I would imagine it goes on way too often.

But so does making stuff up on the internet."

Who's making stuff up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people do.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Fake news. I've not accused anybody of anything.

You have said that we have taken everything the Op has said as truth and we don't know that is the case.....Sounds a bit accusatory to me....

Not really. Let's just say the guy in question is a popular member on the site who quite a few people have met and liked.

Would people still take the story at face value?

It's completely believable, I would imagine it goes on way too often.

But so does making stuff up on the internet."

Well let's hope it doesn't happen to you

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Lots of people do."

Including you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case."

I'm guessing you're someone that thinks it's ok to share pics of others!

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

The person who did this is a low life scumbag. Betrayed your trust. Not your fault

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plead guilty to making stuff up occasionally but not to having my photo taken whilst being shagged from behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who did this is a low life scumbag. Betrayed your trust. Not your fault"

You know what? I fooking wish I'd have just said this now.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"The person who did this is a low life scumbag. Betrayed your trust. Not your fault"

Some right sad twats about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who did this is a low life scumbag. Betrayed your trust. Not your fault"

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I plead guilty to making stuff up occasionally but not to having my photo taken whilst being shagged from behind.

Have you been shagged from behind then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

I'm guessing you're someone that thinks it's ok to share pics of others!

Are you?

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over a year ago

"I plead guilty to making stuff up occasionally but not to having my photo taken whilst being shagged from behind.

Have you been shagged from behind then?"

Not lately...but you know what they say about taking things at face value?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

I'm guessing you're someone that thinks it's ok to share pics of others!

He hasn't said that. He has fairly calmly in my opinion, put an alternative point of view whilst acknowledging that what the op has said is likely to be true.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I plead guilty to making stuff up occasionally but not to having my photo taken whilst being shagged from behind.

Have you been shagged from behind then?

Not lately...but you know what they say about taking things at face value?"

So then it's unlikely you have had your photo taken in that position then.

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over a year ago

"That depends on the type of person she's dealing with I guess. He might think again or he might be annoyed by the issue being highlighted.

It could just be an innocent mistake. He may be shagging different women every night and it's slipped in with rest of his 'haul'.

All sorts of possibilities.

If he's annoyed then he shouldn't have done it in the first place.

To be fair you've just taken everything thst the OP has said to be the truth and we don't know that is the case.

I'm guessing you're someone that thinks it's ok to share pics of others!

Are you?"

No! I think it's a nasty thing to do, why would you even try to argue the twats corner!

I hate seeing action pics on a single profile! Always wonder whether the other person knows pics of them are on fab !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with that Kay. If the Op's story is true then it's appalling.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Shine 10, what’s the point, exactly, of any of your posts in this thread? You’ve shifted from offering advice which suggests you believe it happened (albeit showing incredible charity to some unnamed arsehole) to claiming that you’re keeping an open mind, to repeatedly suggesting that the OP is a fantasist. You’re squirming your way around the point so that you can make little jibes, all the while protesting innocence. All you're really achieving is giving everyone the impression that, actually, you have no problem with what the chap has done, while failing to offer a single point worth discussion.

A spectacularly pathetic little display. Bravo.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Shine 10, what’s the point, exactly, of any of your posts in this thread? You’ve shifted from offering advice which suggests you believe it happened (albeit showing incredible charity to some unnamed arsehole) to claiming that you’re keeping an open mind, to repeatedly suggesting that the OP is a fantasist. You’re squirming your way around the point so that you can make little jibes, all the while protesting innocence. All you're really achieving is giving everyone the impression that, actually, you have no problem with what the chap has done, while failing to offer a single point worth discussion.

A spectacularly pathetic little display. Bravo."

Gosh, You put it so much better than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done Oatcake, plenty of likes coming your way, maybe even a congratulary pm or 2.

You're popular at last.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

Not daft at all, lots of us consent to having sex with other. That consent doesn't stretch to having pictures taken of you.

I would be very uneasy in meeting him again, as the trust has gone.

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over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

isn't that illegal???

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over a year ago

"I agree with that Kay. If the Op's story is true then it's appalling.

I believe the OP! So often on here I ask people from single profiles that have action pics 'does the other person know their arse etc is on display on fab?' Usually they admit they don't get permission! And for that reason alone I block them, it infuriates me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Well done Oatcake, plenty of likes coming your way, maybe even a congratulary pm or 2.

You're popular at last."

He's always been popular

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over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before).

isn't that illegal???"

Yes it's illegal!!

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over a year ago

"Well done Oatcake, plenty of likes coming your way, maybe even a congratulary pm or 2.

You're popular at last.

He's always been popular

Phew, at least we have something in common. I thought we wasn't going to get for a while there.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Well done Oatcake, plenty of likes coming your way, maybe even a congratulary pm or 2.

You're popular at last.

He's always been popular

Phew, at least we have something in common. I thought we wasn't going to get for a while there."

You obviously agree with his post then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

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over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

Lack of etiquette on his part, sorry you feel this way. Going forward make it clear the only recording is done by memory only.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He didn't really say a lot to be fair.

12 lines where 1 would have done kind of post.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before).

Lack of etiquette on his part, sorry you feel this way. Going forward make it clear the only recording is done by memory only."

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should get this pic to number 1 in that picture thingy on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Can we stick to the topic please and stop taking random digs at each other.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"He didn't really say a lot to be fair.

12 lines where 1 would have done kind of post."

Oh I think he said it all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We should get this pic to number 1 in that picture thingy on here

Absolutely, I want to see this arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We should get this pic to number 1 in that picture thingy on here

hilarious!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then? "

Who's got the jaffa cakes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sage advice.

I think the topic is done though, anything else will be just repetition.

Unless the guy wants to come forward with his excuse/version of the story?

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over a year ago

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then?

Who's got the jaffa cakes?

PMSL

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Sage advice.

I think the topic is done though, anything else will be just repetition.

Unless the guy wants to come forward with his excuse/version of the story?"

I think it is too, but I doubt he will be coming forward to admit to his wrong doing

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then?

Who's got the jaffa cakes?

PMSL"

Don't forget, you may need it at a later date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With me as his defence lawyer,

A;he's got no reason to hide.

B; he's fooked

Delete where necessary.

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over a year ago

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then?

Who's got the jaffa cakes?

PMSL

Don't forget, you may need it at a later date

I think we need a new one if people really kick off at one another.. hmmmm

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"With me as his defence lawyer,

A;he's got no reason to hide.

B; he's fooked

Delete where necessary."

I think he's fooked, if you're his defence lawyer

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By *iss FontaineWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

I’m grateful to OP for making me think about and warn me of something I hadn’t previously maybe a bit nieve of me but yes I would def like to see phones away going forward

and man in question is cheeky what a flaming liberty hope he learnt a lesson too here!! Fuming for you pet! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I'm not lying... And they guy in question admits he had done wrong and is completely at fault.

Yes there are two sides to every story and this is my very real side.

I am thankful that this thread has given me advise in future to ensure that mobile phones are removed from the situation... As obvious as it seems is not something I've ever though about before.

For the record this guy was someone i'd known for a quite a while and the betrayal from that alone hurts a lot.

I won't name him or damage his reputation in the scene... As I do believe it was a minor lapse in judgement... However boundaries were crossed!

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By *humper9erMan
over a year ago

Rocklin

"I just think it stands a chance of stirring the ire of somebody who is in posession of photos that the OP says she didn't consent to.

the OP hasnt identified them, and if it makes someone else think twice, and use the advice about leaving phones within sight, then it can only be a good thing.

I think the scum bag deserves to be fed a 6 month supply of "Salt Peter!" I would hope, this gal has contacted the powers that be and they will act in the right way if this idiot tries to again post any pictures of any women. He can't be trusted, even if he were to have a signed seal and notorized permission slip.

Exactly this - it's partly what the forums are for - to share experiences good and bad and hopefully pass on the lessons learned from those experiences to others in the hope they benefit from them.

I'd also be inclined to report the profile in question OP so that private pics etc can be checked and if necessary appropriate action taken."

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Oh I do love it when the guys get all uppity with one another..

I’m quite new to all forum stuff.. so, what’s the saying now?

Oh “Got the popcorn out”

No...that's old hat now..

What’s the new saying then?

Who's got the jaffa cakes?

PMSL

Don't forget, you may need it at a later date

I think we need a new one if people really kick off at one another.. hmmmm "

It's all handbags at dawn on here, nothing too serious, just nothing better to do on a Thursday night/ Friday morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm not lying... And they guy in question admits he had done wrong and is completely at fault.

Yes there are two sides to every story and this is my very real side.

I am thankful that this thread has given me advise in future to ensure that mobile phones are removed from the situation... As obvious as it seems is not something I've ever though about before.

For the record this guy was someone i'd known for a quite a while and the betrayal from that alone hurts a lot.

I won't name him or damage his reputation in the scene... As I do believe it was a minor lapse in judgement... However boundaries were crossed!"

Thanks for clearing that up Cherry.

Just to let you know; I had your back while you were away.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Well I'm not lying... And they guy in question admits he had done wrong and is completely at fault.

Yes there are two sides to every story and this is my very real side.

I am thankful that this thread has given me advise in future to ensure that mobile phones are removed from the situation... As obvious as it seems is not something I've ever though about before.

For the record this guy was someone i'd known for a quite a while and the betrayal from that alone hurts a lot.

I won't name him or damage his reputation in the scene... As I do believe it was a minor lapse in judgement... However boundaries were crossed!"

Well, bless you, you sound very gracious about it all and thank you for highlighting/reminding us all of the pitfalls in meeting others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to mention leaving a clue to who it was in her verifications

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not to mention leaving a clue to who it was in her verifications

Crack on trying to work that out - you'd be wrong

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Not to mention leaving a clue to who it was in her verifications

Hmmm..how'd you work that out then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm never wrong.

Just ask _amiss and Oatcake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to mention leaving a clue to who it was in her verifications

Hmmm..how'd you work that out then?"

I can't.

I was being facetious.

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over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

I’m sorry to here this person has done that as in my mind no matter what the situation was or anything really without your permission it’s an invasion of privacy and shouldn’t be done just common curtesy really

There are hundreds of pictures of me with others on my phone and on others but I have always said they should never be online unless asked and convent is given and to this day I believe they have never been used or shared as these people I still know

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'm not sure how you can tell, when she doesn't show all her verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just messing.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it."

Twaddle!! She has every right to start a thread about it. There are numerous pointless attention seeking threads on here but this is an unconsenting, unfortunate incident that could be helpful for others.

Sorry to hear about that OP. Not your fault at all. The guys a twattock

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it.

Sorry to hear about that OP. Not your fault at all. The guys a twattock

He is a twattock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it.

Twaddle!! She has every right to start a thread about it"

She has.

But then again nobody said she hasn't.

I'm not playing the whole thing over again, you'll have to watch the highlights.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Might have been for the best just to leave it at that rather than start a thread about it.

Twaddle!! She has every right to start a thread about it

She has.

But then again nobody said she hasn't.

I'm not playing the whole thing over again, you'll have to watch the highlights."

Just read it all. I guess you're bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And tired...and only 10% on my phone battery.

Which is a bit of a shame because you seem like a challenge

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"And tired...and only 10% on my phone battery.

Which is a bit of a shame because you seem like a challenge

No interest in silly spats on the internet dear. But good luck with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you.

Can you post your favourite album in the album thread then please?

A man can tell a lot from that.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Not read the whole thread but Im fairly certain taking pictures like this without consent is an offence in itself. Report him to admin so they can check he's not just made it private.

This is the very reason I don't like that the site allows pics of others on profiles.

We wont knowingly meet anyone who does it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few days ago I saw a photo on a fab profile that I recognised to be me taken while I was having sex with someone I foolishly trusted.

There were thankfully no identifying features that anyone else would link to be me but I knew the room and what I was seeing belonged to me. The photo was taken while I was being fucked from behind.

I asked the guy, who I have spent a few occasions with, if it was me and he confirmed it was and quickly removed the photo from the fab profile.

He has told me it was one photo only and he has since deleted it - but the trust has gone.

Am I being daft? Did I put myself in this situation? I wasn't d*unk btw (they were taken very early in the morning after the night before). "

No you're not being daft and it's not your fault.

Have you and him ever taken pics during sex together before? If yes, that could be why he probably thought it was ok.

If no, that's totally different and I wouldn't ever meet him again.

Either way he should have told you.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Hi OP, I'm sorry that you have had this experience. I just hope that the man in question doesn't make a habbit of this unforgivable behaviour.

Some sound advice from others on this thread, while perhaps one has demonstrated that they are not matutre or trustworthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had something similar happen to me a couple of years back when I first joined Fab. The bloke was getting me to stay in a certain spot, after sex I noticed his phone stood up on end pointing at the bed. He saw me looking and made a lame excuse about expecting a parcel. I left swiftly and went home and messaged him angrily. He denied it of course. I think he tried to make it to wank over but I don't think anything came out anyway. But it made me more cautious.

The OP is very likely to be telling the truth judging by the amount of single men's profiles that show more of a female they are having sex with than themselves. Seems men think a picture of them having sex with a female will attract other females and this is maybe why some do it, but it doesn't attract me it puts me off. Another way of avoiding this scenario is to avoid men with photos of them having sex with other females on their profiles.

The OP is right to be upset about it, it's sneaky and underhand. X

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