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How do you explain your fab life to your nearest and dearest?

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By *antingfun92 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don’t openly tell people I’m on here- but obviously I have public photos and won’t hide away from my life choices.

My two best friends I think have some inkling I’m on here. They don’t talk about it and aren’t very open to the idea of it but I feel like they don’t judge me for it if they do know- more banter?

What about everyone sle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing really to tell. Haven't had a meet in over a year and a half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our kids question us as we’ve suddenly started staying over at friends

We just lie- think eldest suspects something but she is 24!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who we are closest to know. We want to be ourselves with them- so share all our truthes and this is one of them.

We wish it could be the same for everyone but sadly it’s not- as gossips create horrid rumours and I’d rather just not deal with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t told anyone...

This is my private life and I keep it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my oldest mates know I'm on here but, none of my other mates or any of my family do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn’t say anything at all while my parents still lived at home (Dad died and Mum in care home) but I don’t need to explain myself at all now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My closest mates and some family know, have nothing to hide and nothing to feel embarrassed about.

Thankfully we are all quite open with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our teenage kids do ask why we’re going out more & not back till the early hours ? We say “ we do have a life “

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just don't tell anyone, wouldn't occur to me to discuss any part of our sex life with family and friends anyway, so why talk about swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't shout it from the rooftops but I have nothing to hide. When I say that I am knackered from a night out my work colleagues (who don't have a clue what the lifestyle is really like) will ask if it is was an 'Alternative Club' that I had been at and I answer honestly.

I would have no problem with telling my family if it was required, so long as I am safe and well they wouldn't have an opinion on it. All of my friends are on here anyway so there is no conflict there.

I am aware that people have their reasons, but in my mind if you are embarrassed to be something then you got no business being it in the first place. Own it, take control of it, and all the power is yours and nobody can harm you.

Just my 2 cents worth.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I don't have a nearest and dearest so no problum

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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No I don’t discuss my sex life with anyone OP and I also don’t discuss Fab with people either because it’s private and personal. Not really up for discussing or sharing it

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"No I don’t discuss my sex life with anyone OP and I also don’t discuss Fab with people either because it’s private and personal. Not really up for discussing or sharing it "

Ditto.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

none of my friends are on here but they know what I get up to. why hide it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friends don't need to know every aspect of my life.

Mine don't know, it's my business and I like to keep private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends dont know. But I would tell them if it arose. It is my choice after all

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

All my friends are well aware. A couple have asked to go to a club. The ones that frustrate me are the ones that think you’ll ‘try it on’ with them automatically as you ‘shag everyone’ but then I have friends that think that I will try it on with them because of my sexuality... like I have no limits/decisions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very open about it as we aren't embarrassed about how we wish to live our lives.

Phil meets women from here socially in cafes and pubs locally so its just as well we dont try and keep it secret

When I first told my very prudish and naive best friend many years ago about me going to swingers clubs, she thought I was winding her up as she didn't know such places existed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .

We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t told anyone...

This is my private life and I keep it that way."

This

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .

We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx "

She had better not tell anyone! That’d be a right twats trick! Xx

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I haven’t told anyone...

This is my private life and I keep it that way.

This "

Completely this

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

No one knows but I think my youngest who is 22 has an idea ... as we are quite open in what we talk about plus he lives with me anyway so is more aware of my habits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t told anyone...

This is my private life and I keep it that way."

This for me too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't explain our fab life to our nearest and dearest. In fact we don't explain our private affairs to anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't its your business..and that's the pitfalls of having face pics on show too..you never know who could come across them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't tell anyone at all , This is our private life and we keep it that way . We wouldn't be too bothered if we didn't have kids but I would dread to think of stick they would get if thier mates ever found out so that's the only reason really .

We have a feeling my cousin might have an idea as one of her best friends is on here and we have spoke with a view to meet ( before we realised who she was ) but pretty sure she wouldn't tell the world though. ,so unless she asks we won't be saying anything either . Xx

She had better not tell anyone! That’d be a right twats trick! Xx"

We are quite close so I know she wouldn't just tell anyone but my fear is ,she tells her mum everything even about her own sex life and conquests lol ....so if anyone it would be her. But then her mum is close to mine so she may tell mine . Although my mum is very open minded and takes most things as a joke I think she would be pretty shocked haha . Xx

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no need to tell anyone my sex life is my concern nobody else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no one else's business but mine and those I meet.

So I don't tell anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr tells people we are going to a Mrs's friends

And

Mrs tells people we are going out with Mr's friends

Simples

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"No I don’t discuss my sex life with anyone OP and I also don’t discuss Fab with people either because it’s private and personal. Not really up for discussing or sharing it

Ditto. "

Snap!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

None of our nearest and dearest have a clue (I hope) and thats how we keep it.

When people ask how we 1st met, as they do, we tell them it was over a cup of tea in Sainsburys... which is the truth... only we say we were on adjacent tables and just got chatting and hit it off. (This is not beyond the relms of possibility as Im known to chat to anyone!) They dont need to know he popped up on my local updates with a status of "Im bored, what to do?" or that id arranged to meet him from a swingers sex site.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

I told my parents only because I was viewed by a couple who were my ex husband & the woman he left me for. I wanted them to find out from me in case he tried to use it against me.

I told my closest friends for safety reasons.

They know I met Frank “online”. No one knows about our couples profile.

B x

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"All my friends are well aware. A couple have asked to go to a club. The ones that frustrate me are the ones that think you’ll ‘try it on’ with them automatically as you ‘shag everyone’ but then I have friends that think that I will try it on with them because of my sexuality... like I have no limits/decisions "

Go on, they know you want to really. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come from a liberal background so nothing would shock my family. My close friends and family know enough to know that I’m more adventurous than the average person. They don’t judge so I’m lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep it private. I've been on and off fab now for a few years. I've told some people who have a more open mind, but some people just wouldn't understand. So I prefer the mystery that surrounds me.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't openly discuss swinging and fab with most of my friends and family but some may have an inkling.

There are 3 people who I will chat with it about. One is my best mate and we chat about everything. The other 2 are my sister and her husband but they are swingers who met via fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .

Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew Xx

Mrs xx

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I don't go starting conversations on it as people might not actually want to know, but if we happen to be talking about the subject then I have nothing to hide. I'm not embarrassed about enjoying sex, and I'm not embarrassed about using a website to find people to have sex with.

It's just another form of communication, one that I'm more comfortable with than going out into a town I don't like, to meet the kind of people I have no interest in as I don't like going to pubs and bars and wasting money on over priced drinks and being overwhelmed by all the sights, sounds and smells, just to meet complete strangers for sex.

I'd rather stay in the comfort of my own home, talk to guys I want to talk to, read their verifications, and have time to think through questions to ask and the answers I'm given.

If people have a problem with that then the simple answer is, well don't do it yourself then.

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By *iberatedPairCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk

We have family members on here. An when we found out it was a little bit omg.

But now. We have no qualms about it whatsoever. It’s about realising. It’s consenting adults enjoying life.

We think it’s a shame swinging in the public eye is still frowned upon and taboo.

I play cricket Nd nearly all the young lads are on tinder. This is basically meet and fuck.

Swinging is far more civilised than that, it’s sociable and you can meet some greet people who have similar interests and outlooks.

I appreciate people use this site to fuck. But we definitely use it for more than just fucking.

We like to remain private which is a shame. Because what harm are we Ll really doing ??

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .

Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew Xx

Mrs xx "

How old is she? 16?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to tell one of my best friends just to see her reaction to it all but don't think she would understand .

Love her to bits but she really needs to open her eyes to the world . I took her to Ann summers the other week and she was like a school kid trying to take pictures of things secretly to show her fella as she had never been in there before lol ....if only she knew Xx

Mrs xx

How old is she? 16?! "

She is in her 30's lol but very limited on experience I think ...her idea of experimenting is getting on top . She does have a few toys but all bought online and very rarely used . Can only imagine her face as I told her ...she thinks we are abnormal having sex just with each other the amount of times we do for a long term married couple haha . Xx

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I don't. It's my private life

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adam has told some of his friends at work who are all cool with it.

I have made the mistake of telling a close friend and two work friends. I regretted each one.

Luckily my close friend came around after a while but she was disgusted initially.

The work friends I no longer work with.

So, I wouldn't tell anyone again but we don't keep our faces a secret on here.

Eve. x

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