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Goodbye but hopefully not farewell...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

Today's chat about depression had me thinking that me being on this site is probably not a good thing in the short term so I'm going to take a break from it. Have obviously not been participating on this forum for that long but have met some great people on here.

Currently working through my own struggles and although I have chatted to and met some absolutely lovely people it's just become another thing I dare not fail at. Unread messages have been blown up out of proportion in my mind and I am probably putting extra pressure on myself due to my illness.

Hopefully when things calm down and I am more relaxed I'll pop back on and say hi. Will miss the characters on these forums and of course all the beautiful women too!

Happy fabbing and if anyone ever needs a chat about anything, just send me a message.

Chris x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Do what works for you. Theres no harm in sticking around for the forums, you dont need to be looking for anything or messaging.

I find the forums can be very supportive at times.

Best of luck, whatever you do

Be happy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can imagine loads of unread or deleted messages won't do much for a persons confidence or self esteem.

You could stay for the forums and just chat on here.

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Hope you overcome these struggles your going through.

Look after yourself chris.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Hide your profile and just use the forums. I’m off to read the depression thread. It’s interesting what you say about not wanting another fail - have no expectations - just see what happens. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you decide, do what is best for you and your health. I wish you the very best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a few people have mentioned sticking around for the forums is totally acceptable, people here can be really supportive and sometimes the anonymity helps.

You know yourself what is best though.

Hopefully we speak soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that!

Be kind to yourself and do what you feel’s best! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look after yourself, like Steve said you can always hide your profile and just chat on the forums.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I have to be honest, when I had my episode last year, I dread to think where I'd be now if it wasn't for the support I was shown from some of the biggest hearted and supportive forumites. I'm not trying to convince you to stay, I just wanted to let you know this place can be wonderful.

I would say though, I can imagine just how frustrating the unread messages etc can be.

I also understand the failure thing, it breaks my heart for you, as most people here know that failure is my biggest fear. I can completely see where you're coming from.

I wish you all the very best with whatever decision you make

Xxxx

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Good luck with the break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can decide what's right for you. Whatever it is I Hope you find your peace

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Only you can decide, hide your profile for a bit and see how you feel.

Either way I hoe you feel better soon.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP it probably is a good decision for you to take a break from fab, you don't need to leave you can just hide your profile and come back when you are feeling a bit better.

Fab is extremely difficult for most single men because there are just so many of them, it's hard to get noticed in a good way. If you are not in a good place mentally and emotionally it can make things worse.

On the flip side most of the people who use the forums can be very supportive and helpful in your time of need so we are here for you if you need us.

Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all so much for the kind words and advice. I expected nothing less from this forum!

I have decided to hide my profile and just use the forums. Pretty much treated the site as a messageboard. I have an OK support network around me but not a huge amount of friends locally so it's good that all the great forumites are here day and night.

Hugs to all

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