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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does it frustrate you if someone has the wrong impression of you?

Do you try change their mind?

Does it make you question your actions and why they have interpreted things the way they have or do you just put it down to it being a difference of opinion?

Do you dismiss it as their issue not yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I would try to prove they had misunderstood me and got it all wrong, but on Fab I wouldn't really bother, unless it was someone I had met and really liked them, but otherwise people are strangers on an internet site so it doesn't matter.

And after all, I know I'm always right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone got the wrong impression of what I said, I’d try to put it right.

If someone continues to get the wrong impression of me, what can I do but give up? I’ve not got long enough time to put their life right, when I’m trying to live mine.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

It all depends wether their opinion of me matters to me. If it was someone who meant something to me it would bother me and I would try to rectify it. If this could not be achieved I would be sad but I would have to move on for my own sake. If I wasn’t bothered about their opinion anyway then no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can never change another's perception of us. It's a deep felt part of them.

So how do you get in someone's mind to do that?

Only they can change their view of me no matter how much I may sometimes wish it otherwise....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope because there’s likely to be some element of truth to the impression they have that I can learn from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In any scenario people have got on with me or they haven't. My attitude is the way it is and shapes my personality.

Why would I change myself for a person?

They either accept me or they don't.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"We can never change another's perception of us. It's a deep felt part of them.

So how do you get in someone's mind to do that?

Only they can change their view of me no matter how much I may sometimes wish it otherwise....

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I was assuming they got their impressions of me based on my behaviour or what I’d said so surely you can use the same means to change their impressions of you. Always assuming they are open minded enough to be able to change opinion, granted a lot of people aren’t and once they have an opinion that’s it so move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope because there’s likely to be some element of truth to the impression they have that I can learn from "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In any scenario people have got on with me or they haven't. My attitude is the way it is and shapes my personality.

Why would I change myself for a person?

They either accept me or they don't. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people have a very negative opinion of me and I couldn’t care less. I don’t know them and never will.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If people are anything like me,once they have an opinion,it rarely changes.

So I wouldn't go out of my way to try and convince anyone.

I know who I am and that's all that matters .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to an extent then give up if they won't let me explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t bother me unless i like them.

I wouldn’t try and change their opinion.

I know that beneath my brisk and no nonsense exterior i’m actually a pussycat, and those who matter to me and know me, know that.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m rubbish at impressions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My philosophy is: It’s none of my business what people say of me and think of me. I am what I am and I do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. And it makes life so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people probably hand the wrong impression of me. I’m not easy to know. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d ask them what gave them the wrong impression of me and try to sort it out. If they still felt the same, then there’s not much I can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do care what people think and say even if it’s just in a passing comment made on the internet or in person.

So many people hide behind the keyboard it’s unreal and in real life this shit wouldn’t happen.

Personally myself I have insecurities and I put on a brave front every little jibe has a lasting effect and I worry that people judge me without knowing the real me and I hate this about myself And wish I could have a don’t give a fuck attitude but I’m too easily controlled by my emotions to be this detached but this also makes me the person I am

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I deal with it everyday and often hide my profile on here to stop it.

If you are a tv on a swinging site that is active people make all sorts of assumptions about you.

I think its worth just talking and finding the ones that want to know y9u Better... Thats how i cope anyhow.. Some things can't be forced and some people will never chnage once they have made uo their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they're not wrong and its my own perception that is skewed?

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I hate when I think someone has the wrong impression of me. I’m quite bad at trying to undo that, but more often than not end up just digging myself a deeper hole, which probably just frustrates me even more.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I’m only bothered by it if someone has got the wrong impression of me by listening to someone else. That wouldn’t happen on here though would it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would anyone have the wrong impression of you if you're simply being yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is, and there are precious few people who's opinion of me I care about.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not at all. We all see things differently. If someone has a negative view of me thats their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diesnt bother me as I don't wear my heart on my sleeve and am quite guarded about who I am until I really get to know someone and feel I can safely let them in.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Does it frustrate you if someone has the wrong impression of you?

Do you try change their mind?

Does it make you question your actions and why they have interpreted things the way they have or do you just put it down to it being a difference of opinion?

Do you dismiss it as their issue not yours? "

Not at all, if someone has made up there mind on you that's there choice.

If they change it through your actions at a later date that's up to them.

But I can't forget what someone thought of me originally so that's an obstacle but again not my problem

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

The people that don't get me aren't my kind of people so no I wouldn't try and change their mind cause they aren't the people I want to hang with.

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"How would anyone have the wrong impression of you if you're simply being yourself?

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I probably meant more if someone misinterprets something I’ve said as much as anything else. And that would depend a lot on who they were.

If I’m being myself, I would be less bothered about people not getting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a cock and i think it comes across very well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"im a cock and i think it comes across very well "

You're a bus driver!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it does bother me, depending on the time of the month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would anyone have the wrong impression of you if you're simply being yourself?

I probably meant more if someone misinterprets something I’ve said as much as anything else. And that would depend a lot on who they were.

If I’m being myself, I would be less bothered about people not getting me."

Unfortunately, that's both the blessing and the curse of the written word.

A poem or song lyric can mean something unique to any given individual.

Alas when posting things on a public forum there's always one or two who will seek to twist what you say or do to find an appropriate amount of outrage or offence.

As long as you know what you meant and how it was intended, stand by your own values and integrity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes it does bother me, depending on the time of the month "

Yes I find I'm far more acceptable of most things on or around payday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People do care what people think and say even if it’s just in a passing comment made on the internet or in person.

So many people hide behind the keyboard it’s unreal and in real life this shit wouldn’t happen.

Personally myself I have insecurities and I put on a brave front every little jibe has a lasting effect and I worry that people judge me without knowing the real me and I hate this about myself And wish I could have a don’t give a fuck attitude but I’m too easily controlled by my emotions to be this detached but this also makes me the person I am "

I think it's a good thing that you care. See it as a positive not a negative.

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