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"This winds me up. Going to see my bestie. Never shagged/kissed anything as much as pecked. We top and tail in a double bed. No he hasn’t been ‘friend zoned’ I simply believe if we had a relationship that didn’t work out I’d lose my best friend as well as a lover. What camp are you in? Yes they can or not?! Xx" Works for me | |||
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"Sure they can..my mummy is my bestie " Do you mean your actual mummy? If so awwwww | |||
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"This winds me up. Going to see my bestie. Never shagged/kissed anything as much as pecked. We top and tail in a double bed. No he hasn’t been ‘friend zoned’ I simply believe if we had a relationship that didn’t work out I’d lose my best friend as well as a lover. What camp are you in? Yes they can or not?! Xx" Defo can. Some of my best long-term friends are women and never has it even hinted towards anything more. You're right. A true friendship isn't worth the gamble that relationship complications could bring. | |||
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"My best friend is a man. We started off as fwb and after about a year we decided to ditch the sex and just be friends. We have been just friends now for 4 years. The friendship was far more important to both of us than the sex and our relationship nowadays is amazing. We have definitely friendzoned each other and it works great." Much the same as this! Met on here and after 15 months he wanted something else. He’d never had a girl friend, so I have shown him the way. We meet and have a hug and a peck and that’s it. I consider him a good friend | |||
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"I think they can for sure but at some point of their relationship one or both have had some feelings for the other, they may not have said something or act on it and so got over it but I do think that no one can spend that much time and be emotionally connected with another human being without feeling something at some point. " But they can, and do. I have 'feelings' for lifelong friends - both male and female - but they're not romantic or sexual feelings. It's more of the feeling you'd have for a brother or sister. Thinking that friends must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings is like saying brother and sister must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings. It's obviously not always the case. | |||
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"I think they can for sure but at some point of their relationship one or both have had some feelings for the other, they may not have said something or act on it and so got over it but I do think that no one can spend that much time and be emotionally connected with another human being without feeling something at some point. But they can, and do. I have 'feelings' for lifelong friends - both male and female - but they're not romantic or sexual feelings. It's more of the feeling you'd have for a brother or sister. Thinking that friends must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings is like saying brother and sister must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings. It's obviously not always the case." Eww no it's not so let's not even go there thank you. And like I said they may never do/say anything about it so how do you know your mates didn't have feeling for you at some point? | |||
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"Yes they can be ... as long as you’re on the same page. " | |||
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"I think they can for sure but at some point of their relationship one or both have had some feelings for the other, they may not have said something or act on it and so got over it but I do think that no one can spend that much time and be emotionally connected with another human being without feeling something at some point. But they can, and do. I have 'feelings' for lifelong friends - both male and female - but they're not romantic or sexual feelings. It's more of the feeling you'd have for a brother or sister. Thinking that friends must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings is like saying brother and sister must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings. It's obviously not always the case. Eww no it's not so let's not even go there thank you. And like I said they may never do/say anything about it so how do you know your mates didn't have feeling for you at some point? " I don't. But I like to think the world can have purely platonic relationships. It feels a little 'sex pesty' to think all friends must invariably be unable to have platonic friendships. | |||
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"The question (and answer) can be simplified. Do you think you'll feel sexually attractive to all of your opposite sex friends at some point, even the less attractive ones? If the answer is 'obviously not' then that answer can apply to bestest friends. If you find absolutely everybody sexually attractive at some point that's probably a bit wierd." Thanks for confirming that I'm weird. | |||
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"The question (and answer) can be simplified. Do you think you'll feel sexually attractive to all of your opposite sex friends at some point, even the less attractive ones? If the answer is 'obviously not' then that answer can apply to bestest friends. If you find absolutely everybody sexually attractive at some point that's probably a bit wierd. Thanks for confirming that I'm weird. " Like Carlsberg, the word 'probably' us key. | |||
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"Sorry I’m not answering the question but asking another one on the same subject. Can they be friends even if they’ve been lovers ? " Isn't that a Michael Bolton song? | |||
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"Exactly! Left alone with each other long enough and something will happen 100%" Even if he / she looks like John or Norma Major? Really? You'll fancy somebody regardless of looks? | |||
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"Sorry I’m not answering the question but asking another one on the same subject. Can they be friends even if they’ve been lovers ? Isn't that a Michael Bolton song?" | |||
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"I think they can for sure but at some point of their relationship one or both have had some feelings for the other, they may not have said something or act on it and so got over it but I do think that no one can spend that much time and be emotionally connected with another human being without feeling something at some point. But they can, and do. I have 'feelings' for lifelong friends - both male and female - but they're not romantic or sexual feelings. It's more of the feeling you'd have for a brother or sister. Thinking that friends must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings is like saying brother and sister must invariably develop sexual or romantic feelings. It's obviously not always the case." Flowers in the attic springs to mind. | |||
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"Sorry I’m not answering the question but asking another one on the same subject. Can they be friends even if they’ve been lovers ? " Yes, my closest male friends are ex lovers. | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was " Why? Sometimes sex is just "Fun for grown ups".... | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was Why? Sometimes sex is just "Fun for grown ups"...." Yep absolutely but theres a line a friend is a friend someone you have sex with is a different level maybe a fwb. I dont know as I dont sleep with my friends | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was Why? Sometimes sex is just "Fun for grown ups".... Yep absolutely but theres a line a friend is a friend someone you have sex with is a different level maybe a fwb. I dont know as I dont sleep with my friends " I don't need any more friends | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was " Totally agree. Once the Genie is out of the bottle you can put it back. | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was Why? Sometimes sex is just "Fun for grown ups".... Yep absolutely but theres a line a friend is a friend someone you have sex with is a different level maybe a fwb. I dont know as I dont sleep with my friends I don't need any more friends " You can never have too many friends. Although, according to this thread, I'm a bit of a slag. I've never viewed a female friend as "like my sister", but then, I've never had a sister. | |||
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"Some lines are just not worth crossing just for sex! you can never go back to how it was " The line was crossed before the friendship part. No choice was given just a one way flight back to Spain. | |||
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"The consensus appears to be yes but for me it's a no, sorry. " You and me both mate | |||
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"The consensus appears to be yes but for me it's a no, sorry. You and me both mate " Me three | |||
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"The consensus appears to be yes but for me it's a no, sorry. " Can I ask why? Seems a bit medieval of you if you think sexual feelings will occur! | |||
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"Definitely can! I have lots of male friends. Not remotely interested in them sexually. " For you maybe but what about them? | |||
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"The consensus appears to be yes but for me it's a no, sorry. Can I ask why? Seems a bit medieval of you if you think sexual feelings will occur! " You appear to have wanted to answer your own question! | |||
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"As I said earlier. I think there are women who are happy to have business colleagues etc. But then there are women who like to have man options... guys they might fuck if it ever came to it. The former is a genuine platonic friendship. The latter is a bluff. Maybe I'm cynical but I think many women's "platonic" friendships are the latter. It works fine for them but it fucks with the guy's head " Yep, cynical Mr!! I have no desire to fuck my male friends as been there and done that, didn’t work out. They couldn’t think of anything worse with me either, you get to a point where the thought actually is a turn off. | |||
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"My ex's best friend was a man, he used to sleep there all the time when I was working away and nothing happened. After we broke up he was there an awful lot making sure she was ok" What a great friend he was to her | |||
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"Sure they can..my mummy is my bestie Do you mean your actual mummy? If so awwwww " haha i was teasing x | |||
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"As I said earlier. I think there are women who are happy to have business colleagues etc. But then there are women who like to have man options... guys they might fuck if it ever came to it. The former is a genuine platonic friendship. The latter is a bluff. Maybe I'm cynical but I think many women's "platonic" friendships are the latter. It works fine for them but it fucks with the guy's head " How about the guys who pretend to be friends so they can get into the woman's pants? | |||
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"So would you women who fucked a guy and then ended up being just good friends with them say that the sex wasn't very good? I can see that working. " No, the sex was fine but we wanted different things. Weren’t compatible long term. I don’t look at any of them in a sexual way now, infact, once the blinkers are off, I now see them as annoying little brothers and wonder what the hell I saw in them. Ha. Not everything is about sex. What about my lesbian friends, should I not be friends with them also in fear of them liking me too much? | |||
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"I don’t think men and women can be friends! Every man I’ve been friends with has wanted sex so they weren’t my close friends after that and no I didn’t!!!! " | |||
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"Men and women can be best friends but if you are in contact regularly, without developing sexual feeling I'd suspect something is off. either you don't spend time doing something together or you both have low libidos. I think the friendship can be maintained as long as there is a distance between both. Who is to say friends can't have sex and still maintain the friendships. Things can get awkward if one of you or both are in a relationship which I think that is where the problem occurs because there are 4 people in that relationship." A voice of reason, well said! What I think what a lot of people fail to remember is despite all our believed intellectual superiority and thousands of years of evolution we are still animals with all inherent traits and urges. | |||
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