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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some messages and sitting on chat this morning made me think....

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

personally i wouldn't meet anywhere but a bar or coffee place or chams if was meeting for the 1st time

i have to feel safe and if i dont get that impression from the messages or phone call i wont meet

how important is safety to you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havent really thought about it. maybe cuz am a guy.

still we should all think about safety. could be anyone u end up meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very this is my family home so it is very rare that I invite people back here always meet for a drink socially and If I feel comfortable then move it on to tease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i havent really thought about it. maybe cuz am a guy.

still we should all think about safety. could be anyone u end up meeting"

+1 second that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it dont feel right dont meet . And better to meet in public place if worried coffee or a drink as you can get up and go if its not right.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I can only speak for me i only ever meet in a public place for a drink/meal/chat.

So my first meet is a social only and it at least gives you a chance to see what someone is like and get an idea if you wish to take it further.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Some messages and sitting on chat this morning made me think....

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

personally i wouldn't meet anywhere but a bar or coffee place or chams if was meeting for the 1st time

i have to feel safe and if i dont get that impression from the messages or phone call i wont meet

how important is safety to you ?"

We prefer house meets but generally still prefer to meet up in a cafe or pub first. But have been know to meet straight at someone's house if we have chatted with them over a period of time.

Suppose because we meet together then neither of us think too much about safety.

But agree that if I was playing as a single then safety would be important. Would organise meets and play in a different way.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think im a bit different as im a single girl but always meet at home.

However, it usually takes quite awhile before i meet someone and i put them through a vetting process (that they dont know about) if there is a tiny weeny doubt in my mind i wont meet.

So far ive had guys that i want to meet prepared to wait and never had a bad experience

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

.... "

Yes.

The really sick people won't give you their home address... or want a trail leading to their door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

....

Yes.

The really sick people won't give you their home address... or want a trail leading to their door."

Unless it's Fred West

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

....

Yes.

The really sick people won't give you their home address... or want a trail leading to their door.

Unless it's Fred West "

Did he pick up women from the internet and email/text his address?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

This is an issue for single guys too! I know a few who have been threatened or hit. Sometimes its a set up to rob but far more often a cuck husband gets jealous halfway through and pulls him off and hits - i've heard this a few times from friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

....

Yes.

The really sick people won't give you their home address... or want a trail leading to their door.

Unless it's Fred West

Did he pick up women from the internet and email/text his address?"

u look scary

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"This is an issue for single guys too! I know a few who have been threatened or hit. Sometimes its a set up to rob but far more often a cuck husband gets jealous halfway through and pulls him off and hits - i've heard this a few times from friends! "

staggering, would call the old bill personally.

fuck the embarrasment etc, would not allow some moron to resort to violence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do go to peoples homes and yes I do take precautions (which I'm not about to broadcast on here).

I've never had any issues...touch wood lol. I chat to people for a while before meeting and if any alarm bells ring then I don't meet.

I've only met at my home once and it went ok, I have to say that I don't like accommodating just in case they do turn out to be a stalker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some messages and sitting on chat this morning made me think....

i mean do you go to peoples houses for meets (1st time if you are alone)

personally i wouldn't meet anywhere but a bar or coffee place or chams if was meeting for the 1st time

i have to feel safe and if i dont get that impression from the messages or phone call i wont meet

how important is safety to you ?"

Aye I know what ya mean

I went to a meet 10 months ago and the phyco has never let me go since

Be careful people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is an issue for single guys too! I know a few who have been threatened or hit. Sometimes its a set up to rob but far more often a cuck husband gets jealous halfway through and pulls him off and hits - i've heard this a few times from friends!

staggering, would call the old bill personally.

fuck the embarrasment etc, would not allow some moron to resort to violence "

i`d prolly freak in a situation like that. just imagine being attacked mid-way through. all kinds of shit would go be running through ur mind.

would prolly start throwing punches and fighting for my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

everyone should think about it

dont get me wrong nothing has happend etc but some of the messages i had in chat today made me think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find having people round at mine is safer than cruising / dogging spots - not to mention warmer, drier and without as much chance of being copped !

my days of cruising ended after a run in with the law and after i was chased thru a woods by a madman

so yes, safety is paramount - but for me, i find a home visit more secure than outdoors

i wouldn't advocate that for family people or single females though, unless you have gotten to know the other person a bit first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone should think about it

dont get me wrong nothing has happend etc but some of the messages i had in chat today made me think x"

awww I have had some odd messages on chat though.. so lol

Me.. depends really.. but as men have to be prepared to be on cam from walking through my door.. so far so good..

Although sometimes to socials first.

Cali x

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Well u can still meet sumone @ the cofee shop but surely ure never gonna play there.U just have to trust ure int i guess........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a guy therefore things are different for us, but especially for females it is important. If you have a good friend that you can confide with, then if possible let someone know where your going! there are very strange sick people out there.

just be sensible about it!!!

Dont ley it stop us from having fun..

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By *annGentMan
over a year ago

With a cracking view

For me, it's wherever the lady feels the most comfortable meeting.

Met in public, and met at mine, but would never force where to meet for the first time.

MSN and Skype have been useful for my off-island trips

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