FabSwingers.com forum: When it comes to giving your opinion...

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say it how it is ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who's asking as to how I respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one ever listens to me anyway

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"no one ever listens to me anyway

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ahem...we are listening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, I prefer to be to the point but realoise that sometimes that isn;t the best option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to speak my mind but now I'm not allo.... um.... can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only thing i hold back on is when this woman here keep picking on me , lol same person on loads of posts one day she will get fed up and stop i hope .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but I am getting more "restrained" as the years go by.

I think they call it "mellow"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"only thing i hold back on is when this woman here keep picking on me , lol same person on loads of posts one day she will get fed up and stop i hope ."

She probably just wishes she had boobs like yours. You did win the Bestest Boobies on Fab y'know.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"only thing i hold back on is when this woman here keep picking on me , lol same person on loads of posts one day she will get fed up and stop i hope ."
victimisation is never good, hope it gets better for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask myself "If I say xyz will 'they' hear it, maybe question it in an enquiring way, and use it to learn or will their ego get in the way?"

Most opinionated people assume they're right and the other person is wrong. Sometimes its a case of two perspectives where both are incomplete.

So I don't have rule, I judge the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I speak my mind and not afraid x

If I had a problem with someone I would say whenever on site or off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends xx

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I told my (ex)boss what I thought of him and promtly got made redundant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Situational awareness and my mood lol...

I do tend to say it straight...hate those dysfunctional enviroments where everything but the truth is spoken but never uttered...

Time and place I guess...when my amygdala is in check ...ahem ! %*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you think?!

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Situational awareness and my mood lol...

I do tend to say it straight...hate those dysfunctional enviroments where everything but the truth is spoken but never uttered...

Time and place I guess...when my amygdala is in check ...ahem ! %*"
nuclei are fuckers aint they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Situational awareness and my mood lol...

I do tend to say it straight...hate those dysfunctional enviroments where everything but the truth is spoken but never uttered...

Time and place I guess...when my amygdala is in check ...ahem ! %*nuclei are fuckers aint they?

Pesky peptides haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always try to be diplomatic, but sometimes it's good to just let rip and say it as it comes into my head.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Situational awareness and my mood lol...

I do tend to say it straight...hate those dysfunctional enviroments where everything but the truth is spoken but never uttered...

Time and place I guess...when my amygdala is in check ...ahem ! %*nuclei are fuckers aint they?

Pesky peptides haha "
well you can shrink em by 30% ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Situational awareness and my mood lol...

I do tend to say it straight...hate those dysfunctional enviroments where everything but the truth is spoken but never uttered...

Time and place I guess...when my amygdala is in check ...ahem ! %*nuclei are fuckers aint they?

Pesky peptides haha well you can shrink em by 30% ya know

Fuddling with my hormones is quite the de riguer thoust knows

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I try to pick my moments. If you're always having to have your say then people will eventually start to tune out. If you save it up for when it really matters, people listen more.

In theory anyway

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

It all depends on the subject matter!

It all depends on how people have been responding to the OP.

It depends if there is a balance of opinions on here? Surely not!

Or it varies depending on who feels they know a helluva lot to reply, but in reality have no clue and are really speaking out of their rear ends!

I suppose ion one way too, is that I'm a Scot, and we usually want to have the last word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My posts are about 50% toned down to what I really want to say on some threads.

I have a vast vocabulary, erudite and eloquent but there are times when "stop spouting bollocks you cretinous arsewipe" would be an appropriate response...but I resist the urge and step away from the laptop.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I have a vast vocabulary, erudite and eloquent but there are times when "stop spouting bollocks you cretinous arsewipe" would be an appropriate response...

Loved that comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I speak as I find, rant, talk bollocks and take the piss and then some!

At least I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't give a nats arse what people say on line because most of the time its online bravado and they are church mice in the real world. Its same on all sites i go on even the train spotters one

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?

Guess

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Couldn't give a nats arse what people say on line because most of the time its online bravado and they are church mice in the real world. Its same on all sites i go on even the train spotters one

get us an anorak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on subject and tone of the conversation.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Some will speak their mind in the open air and that is the end.

Some will sneak and threaten and keep it between the people involved.

Others will threaten and show their feelings in the open air and make a fool of themselves.

I suppose it depends on the person you are how you feel about them and the situation

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"Couldn't give a nats arse what people say on line because most of the time its online bravado and they are church mice in the real world. Its same on all sites i go on even the train spotters one

get us an anorak.

a spotty one or the one with the specs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?

I hold back,,,and i hold back and if its someone being really nasty, spitefull, vindictive,,i still hold back, then,,im so annoyed, so frustrated the words dont come out, so if anyone ever gets a message from me with just,,, "you,,,,,,your,,you just you eh eh eh", that'll be me tryin to say im upset,, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My posts are about 50% toned down to what I really want to say on some threads.

Priceless! Loved that post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am renouned for saying what I think and to any one regardless of grade or position (sure I would have been promoted years ago if I could just shut up)

I am about guarded on here because being relatively new but reading the found a lot I can see sometimes people do get 'ganged up on sometimes'

I do however know who's opinions I agree with and who is going to give 'honest' opinions and not go with the clique. I admire those people greatly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a vast vocabulary, erudite and eloquent but there are times when "stop spouting bollocks you cretinous arsewipe" would be an appropriate response...

Loved that comment!

My sentiments exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always good to be honest in your opinions, but sometimes decency and politeness get forgotten during the process...for this there is generally no excuse.

In addition, my experience is that that in an online environment people can be extremely rude and opinionated for no real reason...put them into the equivalent one on one real life scenario and that attitude quickly disappears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends who the target is. ill always try to spare some feelings unless they are really not worth it in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I tend to give my opinion and that will never be a problem, there is no need to get to the point where you resort to calling names.

In real life I am the same. At work I have to be, my workload revolves around giving my opinion based on evidence in front of me. I express tact and diplomacy but I have to be honest as it would be detrimental if I wasn't.

Within a social group I would never be rude to someone if I didn't like them. I understand the meaning of the word tact and am intelligent enough to put that into practice. I do have a limit though and if goaded I will probably become a little more opinionated, and if I've said more than I wished to I've let myself down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is rather humorous to see though is when a group of women have opposing views on the forum and if it gets to a point where they are lying in wait for the other to post, you can tell by how quickly they respond to each other, then there is little input by men.

This is either because men can see that ladies are much more in competition with each other and will steer away from a potential 'catfight' because they think its childish, or they don't want to scupper their chances of a meet. Sometimes I think the men on here have the right attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we all had the same opinion we would all be the same day in and day out.(boring)

we was made all different shapes and ethnic origin and gender for a reason.

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

Depends on the subject matter, the situation, the effect etc.

I am happy to keep my own counsel as for the most part I'm comfortable enough in my own skin. However while I may keey my opions to myself when given they're honest -don't see the point in softening them or lying.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I try to be honest.

Doesnt mean I'm right, but if its what I think, then its what I say.

I can be a little too forthright, and some people dont know how to take that, but those who know me and count me as a friend kinda get where I am coming from.

I have been known to bite my tongue (no, really, I have, honest!!), but many times I have jumped in with both size nines and ginven my opinion, even if it aint wanted lol.

At the end of it all, people have got a voice, if they dont like it they can tell me to jog the fuck on!

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By *teborahCouple
over a year ago

warrington

Opinions! Like arseholes, everyone has one and normally stink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My posts are about 50% toned down to what I really want to say on some threads.

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I new all that with out you posting here .

why we like your post here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opinions are like nipples. Everybody has them.

Some have firm points, others are barely discernible through layers, and some are displayed at every opportunity regardless of whether the audience has stated "I am interested in your nipples" or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is rather humorous to see though is when a group of women have opposing views on the forum and if it gets to a point where they are lying in wait for the other to post, you can tell by how quickly they respond to each other, then there is little input by men.

I must be sleeping when I post because this is the second time this weekend someone has mentioned catfights on the forums...haven't noticed that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havent saw anything either i must have spent all the weekend sleeping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel theres are people who lay in wait and jumps on others for what ever .. iconic is right i hate the catfights and how it all looks so childish .. and i do bite my lips as people mail me and tell me too if its me on other end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel theres are people who lay in wait and jumps on others for what ever .. iconic is right i hate the catfights and how it all looks so childish .. and i do bite my lips as people mail me and tell me too if its me on other end."

im not being funny now but are you a tad over sensitive about this

people come on the forums all day and all night and no-one is waiting to pounce at you or are waiting for you to post.

this is a forum ie open discussion and sometimes we all get a bit worked up about subjects and i have had to walk away before now but that's what i do walk away! its just text nothing more.

everyone on fab are entitled to use the forums and post when and what they want to long as it does not break the rules..

if you feel that you are being victimised or bullied mention it to the admin and mods. im sure they will look into the things you have highlighted if you feel that strongly about it.

if you dont want to report it to admin deal with it in your own way ( out of forums)as i come on here for a laugh and to unwind not to see catfights or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i am going to ignore this thread now as i dont want and need to see negativity on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and i am going to ignore this thread now as i dont want and need to see negativity on here

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well i had this month now and i bite my lip . Thats what this forum post was asking ... was it not?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?

Time , place and relevance to my belief system.

There is no need to ALWAYS speak your mind.

To me, those that say they always speak their mind or give their opinion show a lack of maturity, discretion , thought , tact , restraint or empathy and probably a hundred other social/emotional labels.

Equally those that respond 'What do you think' or suchlike are simply attempting to bolster an image they need to have of themselves. Narcissistic at the least. Quivering jellies in private. People that cry a lot when they are alone.

There are times , in reality , when even though I am worried about the outcome of giving an opinion / sharing my experiences and ideas , I have to do it.

It's difficult.

Firstly one thinks of the outcomes - weighs up the damages but above all BEFORE an opinion is given a decision to take RESPONSIBILITY for what is said, the damage it causes, the great outcomes it brings , should be well and truly taken on board.

Too many people shout out in total disregard and then pathetically attempt to disown their damage.

If you are going to say 'what you think' then have the backbone to stand behind it OR have the humility to accept that others opinions have changed yours.

Oh.. if it counts I rarely lie or arselick.

Gran.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't agree with any of this. It's assumptive, gender divisive and sexist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to speak my mind, although that doesn't mean I am tactless.

I post to a few different forums and I note that, usually, people fall into two camps and those that i agree with on one subject are the same that I agree with about most other subjects (I am on a political site as well, as if you might not have guessed....)

Differences of opinion are what makes the world go round and we don't live in a fascist dictatorship so we can say what we like. Where I draw the line is when people can't counter an argument effectively and switch from attacking the opinion to attacking the person giving the opinion. when this happens I know I have won the argument and stop posting......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I tend to speak my mind, although that doesn't mean I am tactless.

Agreed. No it's never been obvious that you are involved in a politcal forum. I don't think touting for tits gives that away GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it falls to me to start a fight to cut out the cancer of bent and twisted journalism in our country with the simple sword of truth and the trusty shield of British fair play, so be it. I am ready for the fight. The fight against falsehood and those who peddle it. My fight begins today. Thank you and good afternoon."

The inestimable Johnathon Aitken..

I think he believed those words...we know, as he has freely admitted..he was lying thru his teeth...at that moment he was honest in his desire to get away with it..

Sometimes people say things to hurt or win a battle of words, awash with emotion...they believe the " subjective truths " they say will win..they honestly believe that..

Some people are unable to percieve their real motives in expressing their ..honest opinion..

Slightly muddying the waters..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"If it falls to me to start a fight to cut out the cancer of bent and twisted journalism in our country with the simple sword of truth and the trusty shield of British fair play, so be it. I am ready for the fight. The fight against falsehood and those who peddle it. My fight begins today. Thank you and good afternoon."

The inestimable Johnathon Aitken..

I think he believed those words...we know, as he has freely admitted..he was lying thru his teeth...at that moment he was honest in his desire to get away with it..

Sometimes people say things to hurt or win a battle of words, awash with emotion...they believe the " subjective truths " they say will win..they honestly believe that..

Some people are unable to percieve their real motives in expressing their ..honest opinion..

Slightly muddying the waters..

Clap,Clap,Clap,Clap. Motive - always the motive.... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to speak my mind, although that doesn't mean I am tactless.

Agreed. No it's never been obvious that you are involved in a politcal forum. I don't think touting for tits gives that away GP."

Lol, and the pussy, Granny, don't forget the pussy.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I tend to tell it like it is... in an objective way...

you may have noticed I don't tend to do "slush" and "fluff"......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opinions are like nipples. Everybody has them.

What about those of us who only have one nipple .......... are we fence sitters?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You dont have to be rude to speak the truth. You also dont have to go in depth.

ie someone messages you and you say thanks but no thanks, you dont have to go on and say cause they are an ugly pig.

I prefer the diplomatic truth every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speak my mind if pertinent but never cast pearls amonst swine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and i am going to ignore this thread now as i dont want and need to see negativity on here

well i had this month now and i bite my lip . Thats what this forum post was asking ... was it not?"

the question was "you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?"

which you have answered and I understand totally, then you went on to Claim that you have been victimised and bullied!

I have been through some of the posts while baking and pottering about and to be fair you give as good as you are getting.

like i said not the thread in no way did the OP mention about bullying etc, and my opinion is still the same, if you aren't happy Jo, report it simples.

and no i'm not having a dig or waiting till you post to reply i have been busy with my life outside of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a lot more diplomatic online than off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no one ever listens to me anyway

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Who said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to know... don't ask... I always tell the truth- useless liar so gave up at a very early ago

I sometimes wouldn't post my opinions- I have seen a post that would have me ranting and raving so I choose for all concerned not to post

, but if i'm asked I always say the truth and would love it if people were the same with me

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester

I use my descression!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

i don't have an opinion,i'm married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and i am going to ignore this thread now as i dont want and need to see negativity on here

well i had this month now and i bite my lip . Thats what this forum post was asking ... was it not?

the question was "you tend to hold back sometimes OR you always speak your mind?"

which you have answered and I understand totally, then you went on to Claim that you have been victimised and bullied!

I have been through some of the posts while baking and pottering about and to be fair you give as good as you are getting.

like i said not the thread in no way did the OP mention about bullying etc, and my opinion is still the same, if you aren't happy Jo, report it simples.

and no i'm not having a dig or waiting till you post to reply i have been busy with my life outside of fab

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Theres just no need for no one to have digs at people on sites like this ... as it should be fun ..... over the years i have made 100s of good friends and thay are what this is all about .. and i will always be true and truthfull no matter . And maybe people will run rings around me at times but as long as i know the truth all i am worried about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What dig! I was answering u that's all.

If you don't like the comments or opinions don't leave a question answered.

You are a grown woman so please wind your neck in!! Or I will start having a problem with u

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As normal, these type of threads turn sour. They are almost as bad as married men and BBW threads now.

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