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"We don’t have time to play 20 questions with folk as is clearly stated on our profile. ‘Straight’ bi guys aren’t our thing..." Fair enough I suppose, it’s your profile after all. I just find labels a little too defining. To me it’s all just sex and if it’s enjoyable for all involved does it matter what sex your partner happens to be? | |||
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"We don’t have time to play 20 questions with folk as is clearly stated on our profile. ‘Straight’ bi guys aren’t our thing..." Just for clarity...this isn’t the couple I’m talking about  | |||
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"We don’t have time to play 20 questions with folk as is clearly stated on our profile. ‘Straight’ bi guys aren’t our thing... Fair enough I suppose, it’s your profile after all. I just find labels a little too defining. To me it’s all just sex and if it’s enjoyable for all involved does it matter what sex your partner happens to be? "To us, yes. We’re here to find something quite specific. It’s easier for us at clubs. Each to their own and we wouldn’t dictate how anyone else runs their profile. | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. " Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked "What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do. You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of. | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of. "Perhaps a lack of experience on here but I think to say it was lacking respect is harsh. | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of. "^^ This. Thank you | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked "Hang on, you;re a bi guy, who states that they are straight who messaged a couple who states that they only meet people who are open about being bi on their profiles and you can't work out why they blocked you?? | |||
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"I'd prefer it if the 'sexuality' tick box was removed from profiles and it just said who we are looking for. "I agree. My sexuality is quite fluid I think | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x " Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
I think that pretty much sums it up.
Hang on, you;re a bi guy, who states that they are straight who messaged a couple who states that they only meet people who are open about being bi on their profiles and you can't work out why they blocked you??" | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
Hang on, you;re a bi guy, who states that they are straight who messaged a couple who states that they only meet people who are open about being bi on their profiles and you can't work out why they blocked you??"Yup. Got it in one. Not just me (her) confused then! | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... " why do I have to label myself as anything? | |||
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"All my labels came off in the wash "I cut them off, I find they get a bit scratchy otherwise. | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of.
Perhaps a lack of experience on here but I think to say it was lacking respect is harsh. "I don't mean to hurt your feelings but do you really think it's respectful to ignore their wishes? I'm a couch potato- what would you do if I mailed you? | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of. "Back the truck up, it’s only a label. | |||
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"All my labels came off in the wash "Looking at your outfits I imagine the labels must have been quite tiny to start with  xx | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... why do I have to label myself as anything? " You absolutely don’t. Just don’t message folk who aren’t looking for folk like you - that’s all I’m saying. | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of.
Perhaps a lack of experience on here but I think to say it was lacking respect is harsh.
I don't mean to hurt your feelings but do you really think it's respectful to ignore their wishes?
I'm a couch potato- what would you do if I mailed you? "probably mail back saying thanks, but no thanks. | |||
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"I'd prefer it if the 'sexuality' tick box was removed from profiles and it just said who we are looking for. "Foreigner - Waiting For A Girl Like You 
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... why do I have to label myself as anything? " Because the site asks you too. obviously you can lie/bend the truth hoping it will get you somewhere but that's not exactly working out well so far is it? | |||
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"There’s a thread about sexuality numbers in the forum - choose yourself a number, OP. I think I’ll stick to here...I’m struggling to keep up as it is! lol. " | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... why do I have to label myself as anything? Because the site asks you too. obviously you can lie/bend the truth hoping it will get you somewhere but that's not exactly working out well so far is it?" Who is lying? | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... why do I have to label myself as anything? Because the site asks you too. obviously you can lie/bend the truth hoping it will get you somewhere but that's not exactly working out well so far is it? Who is lying? " Lie is maybe being harsh. But your first post makes it clear that either your profile isn't honest about your sexuality or you told the couple what you thought would get you a meet | |||
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"But their profile clearly stated their preference and what would happen so why would you expect anything different? People are free to do things they way they want to, you might not agree with it but it doesn't mean it's wrong. Fair point I suppose. Maybe I need to be more selective x Or respect the choices people make on their profiles? Just move on or own being bi curious... why do I have to label myself as anything? Because the site asks you too. obviously you can lie/bend the truth hoping it will get you somewhere but that's not exactly working out well so far is it? Who is lying? Lie is maybe being harsh. But your first post makes it clear that either your profile isn't honest about your sexuality or you told the couple what you thought would get you a meet" I told the couple about myself, not what I thought would get me a meet. I dont regularly have any sexual activity with men but I have in the past and be enjoyed it. Straight is closest to what I consider myself to be but I don’t claim to be straight to hide anything from anyone. I got messages from men on a regular basis but I didn’t block anyone for it. I did review my settings though. | |||
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"What is it with people and labels? I messaged a couple who were seeking men women couples etc but, in the small print, it said if you don’t state that you’re bi on your profile you will be blocked. I messaged explaining that I prefer to describe myself as straight but open minded as that’s what I am. I predominantly have sex with women but have also had sex with men in the past, both singly and as part of a couple. I added a few well chosen pics which I thought gave a clue to the sexual activities I enjoyed (nothing gross or too graphic) and next thing I’m blocked
What is confusing you? They clearly stated what they are looking for and what they would do.
You ignored their wishes. It's basic respect - or lack of.
Back the truck up, it’s only a label. "It's not just a label to the couple mentioned in the OP. | |||
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It's a fluid sex site - people have the right to be picky and it's something we all have to live with. | |||
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"This is normal on a site or in a place where there are yes and no answers. It's much easier to get your point across in person, so at a social or something. Unfortunately, it's just easier to say you're Bi or not rather than trying to explain yourself. I'm 70% for boys and 30% for girls, but that means by definition, that I'm bi-sexual. End of. If you've had consensual sex with a guy (oral or otherwise) and would do it again, you're bi. That's just the way things are on here. Unfortunately, there are many guys who would be put off by being in a play scenario with a guy who is bi, so I understand why you don't put it on your profile. But equally, that then makes some couples doubt your conviction. It's a lose-lose situation as a single guy on here. Conversely, I'm not a lesbian so I don't expect to be picked up by a couple for the female half's fantasy and then shut away in a corner, not being able to touch the guy and get my cock fix
It's a fluid sex site - people have the right to be picky and it's something we all have to live with."I think this pretty much sums everything up. It’s a learning curve I suppose even though I’ve been here before. I don’t think I was ever blocked for sending a message though. | |||
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