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Mental Health Awareness Week - Stress and Resilience - my story, your thoughts.

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By *elloIntrigue OP   Man
over a year ago

North West UK

Bit of a topical post this one.

Reading the various websites I realise that I am stressed in my job.

I used to be of really resilient character, did 20 years public service, got made redundant and had 18 months where I did no paid work at all and a bit of volunteering.

I have since gone back into an office environment on a part time basis. Its a small company and needed several systems setting up when I started.

I am probably being my own hard task master because they have been pretty happy with me there for 5 months but I don't feel as resilient as I once was and hate leaving tasks outstanding, even though I am going through them in priority order.

I know here I am opening myself up to criticism and comment but was after a couple of different views and possibly strategies I can employ moving forward.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Make a list of priorities and divide up into urgent and important, find out deadlines and work backwards. Make a plan of action and stick to it whilst leaving room for unexpected things tht crop up and delays. Make sure people know what you’re doing. Remember, you were employed to do the job so you’re the expert. Don’t always agree to everything first off. Make time for your own things out of work. Take up a new hobby that is non sex related. Don’t worry about not finishing things cos you can have success criteria and once you hit them, as good as job done. Deprioritise it.

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By *elloIntrigue OP   Man
over a year ago

North West UK


"Make a list of priorities and divide up into urgent and important, find out deadlines and work backwards. Make a plan of action and stick to it whilst leaving room for unexpected things tht crop up and delays. Make sure people know what you’re doing. Remember, you were employed to do the job so you’re the expert. Don’t always agree to everything first off. Make time for your own things out of work. Take up a new hobby that is non sex related. Don’t worry about not finishing things cos you can have success criteria and once you hit them, as good as job done. Deprioritise it. "

Thanks Steve I really appreciate your time and comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be scared of saying no. Even to your boss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Steve said going through them in order of priority seems logical. I always find a to do list helpful , I like lists and enjoy ticking tasks off.

Make sure you have a good work/life balance so when you leave work, if you can, literally don’t think about it until you go back in. I didn’t used to do that, I do now and I personally find it’s much better and makes me more productive.

If you know what’s left to be done of the systems you’re setting up, set realistic timescales. Don’t put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Your employers sound happy with you, so you must be doing a good job.

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By *riefcase_WankerMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

The Eisenhower decision matrix can be quite a nifty little tool - it breaks things down into 4 quadrants:

1: Urgent and important

2: Important but not urgent

3: Urgent but not important

4: Not important or urgent

All too often, we get caught up in Quadrant 3 - especially things like emails where someone is chasing something but in reality it's not that important. Ideally we should be in Quadrant 2 - taking care of important things that aren't urgent, because then we can dedicate the time and focus to doing them well, rather than rushing them because we're just firefighting

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By *eedsandyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

But not of this is really about mental health or resilience!

As the previous poster set out the 4 options, it's just about prioritising tasks that need to be done.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"But not of this is really about mental health or resilience!

.....”I don't feel as resilient as I once was....”

As the previous poster set out the 4 options, it's just about prioritising tasks that need to be done."

.....”and hate leaving tasks outstanding, even though I am going through them in priority order.....”

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By *eedsandyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Always leave tasks outstanding, otherwise they will say that you are not busy enough, and then start thinking about giving you more work, or redundancies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop beating yourself up.

Are you a perfectionist ?

Prioritising is a good idea, and don't worry about unfinished jobs. Do not take work home - when you clock off, switch off, and forget about work.

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By *eedsandyMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Stop beating yourself up.

Are you a perfectionist ?

Prioritising is a good idea, and don't worry about unfinished jobs. Do not take work home - when you clock off, switch off, and forget about work."

That is the law in France.

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By *elloIntrigue OP   Man
over a year ago

North West UK

Thank you everyone - some valid points here.

I think it's more the stress that I've been putting myself under and perfectionist sums it up.

Go easier on myself and work through the tasks pragmatically.

Sometimes you need someone to mention the obvious before you see it yourself.

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