FabSwingers.com forum: Should I name and shame?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you shouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your going to get a lot of guys messaging you... get used to it!!!

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Go for it.... but you won't be on fab long if you do

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"
No you will get a ban

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No. Why would you want to?

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

No. Sexual desire is really private and personal. Admitting a desire you’ve been taught it wrong takes courage. Let people take those steps in their own time.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No of course not you don't have the right to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

Seriously go for a walk or go on group chat with your pals or something. It's not that big of a deal x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Only if you want a spell on the naughty step.

It's none of your business how others choose to label themselves. Worry about your own business and let others look after themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

No definitely not .... just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to laugh at a guy on hot pics who had himself listed as straight yet every other picture of him was him sucking a dick.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

You don't have the right to out people or tell them how to run their profile. I hate lies but no-one has the right to do that.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

Not at all but it's none of your business.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Fab straight is a recognised description on here - if someone wants to list themselves as straight it’s up to them.

Maybe block men from messaging you that will solve the problem. If you name and shame you will get a ban and achieve absolutely nothing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

What would it achieve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to

You don't have the right to out people or tell them how to run their profile. I hate lies but no-one has the right to do that."

This!!!!........ you don’t have the right to police other people and their profiles, just your own...... if you continue to question your role in scenarios like this, you’ll make yourself frustrated and very unhappy.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

Are you out to everyone in your life? Your flat mate? Your colleagues? Your family? Women you’ve dated?

If you’re not that you’re exercising your right to choose who you tell. These men are choosing to tell you privately.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s called Fab straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It appears you like to tell people what they should and shouldn't do.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

What and how other people describe themselves is no concern of yours, if you have no interest in them simply block their profile. No one has asked you to be our protector, people make up there own minds who they are interested in, you just need to mind your own business and let others mind theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

Why? It's got nothing to do with you what people's sexual preferences are or if they are open about them, get on with your own life and leave others to do the same!

or do you think doing this will make you Mr popular and get you a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ugh... what are you actually achieving from this? They haven’t lied if they’ve messaged you about it.. get a grip and block if you don’t like what you receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?

Why? It's got nothing to do with you what people's sexual preferences are or if they are open about them, get on with your own life and leave others to do the same!

or do you think doing this will make you Mr popular and get you a shag?"

I personally think it’s a look at me post

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Absolutely no..

Who are you....God?

Allow people to be whoever they are and identity with whatever they choose..

It's a no brainer.

Ps. People lie in order to get their rocks off, get used to it.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

Many people would not be comfortable with opening up about their sexuality. Before it was as socially acceptable as it is now homosexuality and bisexuality were things that got people beaten up and in extreme cases killed.(this still goes on to a lesser degree these days) So if you want to "out" people on here that may be afraid to come out themselves for whatever reason then go ahead and do it but be aware that only a total cunt would do something like that. On a sidenote if someone outed a friend or family member of mine and they suffered in any way for it then the person that outed them would be one very sorry individual. Apart from that it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather like asking should someone tell my family my mates my none mates and the internet what I do that I don't want to shout from the rooftops...isn't it OP?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

OP just because we don't agree with people naming and shaming doesn't mean we are ok with being lied to.

If I come across someone who is a liar I simply choose not to interact with them and I block them - it's not difficult!

The problem with name and shame is this :-

"The OP arranged to meet me and didn't turn up. He's a timewaster, avoid him at all costs."

Obviously this didn't happen but I could publish this and nobody knows the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

Maybe it's because we don't choose you to be judge and executioner.

You have the simple option of blocking with either no, or stock reply any men who don't show bi on their profile.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm bi OP and wouldn't meet guys who are listed as straight who contact me because I figure if they're lying about that what else are they lying about - but that's where it stops in terms of it being any of my business how they list themselves.

I personally think they're deluding themselves when they have done so because they think it increases their chances of a meet but it's none of my business all the same.

Naming and shaming other profiles is against forum rules and that really is all the answer you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm not afraid to put on my profile that I'm bi-curious. However in the last few days alone I've had multiple guys message me.

When I've said but your profile lists you as straight, they say oh but I am bi.

Should I name and shame. Just purely because I understand that some women/couples don't want to meet bi guys. And they are obviously lying to the good people of fab?

So should I name and shame?"

Seriously? What age are you? Have you nothing better to do but to discuss and judge others sexuality? So what if they say bi or not? Some may find it hard actually considering themselves bi. There are all sorts of reasons to leave their profiles as straight. It's their prerogative. Name and shame? Pathetic in this instance.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

As much as people should be honest about being bi especially on here.

Outing people is who i know from personal experience i was outed due to rumours being spread it sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to

You don't have the right to out people or tell them how to run their profile. I hate lies but no-one has the right to do that.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

No as it would get you into trouble

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By *wingingman30Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I specifically say no males message me on my profile as I am 100% straight but low and behold I get at least ten males message me a day offering to suck my straight cock lol. I have a chuckle and delete the message. Your going to get those messages so your better off just laughing about it mate and hit the delete button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No as it would get you into trouble"

Here endeth the lesson

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I specifically say no males message me on my profile as I am 100% straight but low and behold I get at least ten males message me a day offering to suck my straight cock lol. I have a chuckle and delete the message. Your going to get those messages so your better off just laughing about it mate and hit the delete button. "

Or block men.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Or block men."

That would be too easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just cos someone says theyre of one persuasion or another, its not set in stone. ie We all like the sun but we dont all like sunbathing 24/7 and those that do say they would do it may choose to do it 12/5 now & then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to"

Not your Monkey not your Zoo OP....not sure why this bothers you so much?

Be like Elsa...#letitgo

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By *wingingman30Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Or block men."

Lol I only recently found out you could do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So all this says to me is that your all OK with being lied to

Not your Monkey not your Zoo OP....not sure why this bothers you so much?

Be like Elsa...#letitgo

Cue the music......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discretion my friend

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

GRASS!!!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"GRASS!!!"

Snitches get stitches

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