FabSwingers.com forum: Are we too fussy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nothing wrong with being fussy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with being fussy. "

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no one on here is too fussy.

You fuck who appeals to you.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

I don’t think you can ever be too fussy, you either fancy them or you don’t and when there’s two of you needing to find another two people attractive it makes it even harder.

Don’t settle.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Nothing wrong with being fussy.

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!"

How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be sure that who you choose is right for you both...

And that takes as long as it takes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

as a couple you both need to fancy that person, so it is very hard to find someone whom you both got to agree..

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

You can never be to fussy

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By *orningtonCroissantMan
over a year ago

notts and humberside

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

You have every right to be fussy! I won’t meet just anyone either. Mind you, you guys look saucy! And close by (I am in hessle)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with being fussy.

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!

How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing. "

Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?

You have every right to be fussy! I won’t meet just anyone either. Mind you, you guys look saucy! And close by (I am in hessle)"

Hahah. Cheeky!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s completely your prerogative to be fussy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

I would use the word discerning rather than fussy xx

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I couldn’t play with anyone I didn’t like. Even more difficult as a couple but don’t compromise. It’s much more fun when you meet the right people.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

You are here for your benefit.. not others..

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Nothing wrong with being fussy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can never be too fussy .... why settle for something that you might regret

. It is harder trying to find 4 people who are all attracted and for us personality plays a massive part too . If you are here for the long haul rather than just a few months to get a few meets , take your time and find the right people you really like .

Clubs are good and we enjoy them but I will say that we arnt by any means shy but sometimes find it hard to start chatting to people so go expecting to push yourself a little and start the conversations first . Xx

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not always possible to know whether there would be a sexual connection from a profile. If we were actively looking, and had the time to meet, we would probably get a shortlist together from about 50 profiles and see where that goes. You can always say no after meeting in person.

Mrs

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

We are here for us.so only meet people we want to. Some of the people who have mailed are never going to stand a chance. Some think as you are swingers you fuck anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, you looked first...

, or one of you did..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey, you looked first...

, or one of you did..

Ah that was me hahaha I’m the forumite and fabber

MrsH

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The right sort of people will appear in time. In the meantime.....here are the forums!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time

Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Nothing wrong with being fussy.

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!

How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing.

Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha"

We love clubs because it is hard to find mutual attraction between 4 people. Clubs massively increase you chance of meeting the right couple.

There's some rather nice clubs about... we've busted several and very few could be labelled seedy.

Nita

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Busted

Visited

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Busted

Visited

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I read ‘busted’ and didn’t think it was the wrong word!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Busted

Visited

I read ‘busted’ and didn’t think it was the wrong word!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time

Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there. "

So funny as MrHs family are there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Busted

Visited

I read ‘busted’ and didn’t think it was the wrong word!

Make either hahaa!

Not many around here tho....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time

Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there.

So funny as MrHs family are there

My social skills are a tad below par this evening (see Busted comment)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great advice so far! Also don’t want to be on our own doorstep as we live in an area where there are way less than 7 degrees of separation most of the time

Be grateful it’s not Norfolk - it’s only 3 there.

So funny as MrHs family are there

My social skills are a tad below par this evening (see Busted comment)

Haha mine too. Wine before dark is lethal. Or fun hahh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being fussy why not ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like being fussy why not ? "

We’re still new and wasn’t sure if we were discounting a whole raft of people!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It's your time, your bodies and therefore your choice. Just the same as they can say no to you you can say no to them. Why would you agree to meet somebody you didn't fancy.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like being fussy why not ?

We’re still new and wasn’t sure if we were discounting a whole raft of people!"

Yes, you probably are - they are adrift on the sea of unsuitability, but look yonder! Here come more people....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s good to be picky and have standards. Why meet someone you don’t fancy?

A lot of people have sex with anything with a pulse just for the sake of having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like being fussy why not ?

We’re still new and wasn’t sure if we were discounting a whole raft of people!"

You pick who you feel is right

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Nothing wrong with being fussy.

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!"

Agreed,this is why we mainly use this profile for clubs and socials and have seperate profiles to meet alone on too.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

U are what u are no likey no lighty simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You all make sense! Thank you!

MrH and I have AMAZING sex and just want to explore boundaries. You’re right. We can wait for the right ones.

Nor saying we’ve not met some already mind you

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I haven't had sex in over a year! If I am not attracted to somebody body and mind then it is not going to happen, am I happy about it? Fuck No, would I change my process? I'd love to be able to say yes, but alas my brain knows what my body wants so I am stuck with not having sex

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

i hate to be the pragmatist here.... but just because they looked, it doesn't mean they wanted to swing with you either...

they may be just as fussy as you....

so unless you got 50+ replies, you can't presume anything....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, you looked first...

, or one of you did..

Ah that was me hahaha I’m the forumite and fabber

MrsH "

I'm relieved.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of the 50+ views, how many approached you with a message, wink or friend request?

If they all did at least one of the above, fair enough for you being fussy. If they didn't initiate any contact... weeeellll... that's not you being fussy.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Out of the 50+ views, how many approached you with a message, wink or friend request?

If they all did at least one of the above, fair enough for you being fussy. If they didn't initiate any contact... weeeellll... that's not you being fussy. "

Totally agree, views mean Sweet FA, they looked they weren't interested in messaging, no idea why people use 'views' as any sort of measurement

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Standards are good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too far away

No veris

Too short

Looks like a Viking

Too old

Too young

Profile full of cock pics

Text speak

Graphic pictures attached to message

Too thin

Too fat

I think I may be a teeny weeny bit fussy hence 8 months of "me time"

I'm not sure being fussy is always such a good thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

Imagine if the ratio of men to women was reversed, how many women would make the cut?

Not many judging but your own standards

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Nothing wrong with being fussy.

Generally I’d agree but getting 4 people together who all want to...gotta be like hens teeth?!

How about going to a social or club? See more people in one place type of thing.

Steve I think they’re not for us. Seem quite seedy (sorry!) and not what we’re looking for or needing? And maybe not brave enough haha"

A social is pretty much going to a pub for a drink and a chat. Having a stranger in your home to fuck and go imo is far more seedy.

I think also you should be as choosy as you like..... I know I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

Views are not messages. Maybe the people viewing you are being too fussy?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"

Only you know if you’re being too fussy .

Do you get pissed off at the lack of opportunity coming your way ?

As others have said a view means nothing , it’s when you get 50 messages that it means anything .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so today we have 50+ views but sorry guys, not many would we swing with.

Are we too fussy?

We’re new so maybe we’re being too fussy I fear haha! However we’ve had a few socials and meets and found them to be what we want so.?"
nothing wrong with being fussy it's a good thing! Not everyone is someone's type and when you connect with someone you like and they like you it's well worth the wait

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont think there is such a thing as to fussy. We all only meet people we are attracted to whatever we base the attraction on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all forgot I posted this oops!

I know views mean nothing but I don’t really go searching for people, I’ll look at folk on the forums and ones that have looked at ya or dabbed our pics but that’s all. It was just an example of numbers if that makes sense.

We’re still very new to this and one of us isn’t as naturally sociable as the other

so taking things really slowly and definitely not up for clubs. Always do a social first anyway, so wouldn’t change that.

I’m glad others are fussy and our filters don’t allow certain groups to message us anyway. I’d be horrified to receive hundreds of messages, we get enough really!

I was just curious as to what others do, wondered if your “standards” changed as you became more experienced.

Have a good day!

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