FabSwingers.com forum: Fab vs traditional relationships

By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Having been in traditional relationship of marriage before and having gone through separation, it's no understatement to say that fab has changed my life in a major way. It has done away with feelings of jealously or possessiveness and has made me more care free in general.

With all this freedom I often think i've crossed a threshold that I cannot come back from regarding what would be termed a traditional or "vanilla" relationship. Were I to find a significant other, I feel it would have to be someone who's embraced this lifestyle and would want an open relationship that would be based on total transparency, communication and mutual agreement. Simply put, I can't look at loving relationships the same way again.

I'd love to hear people's comments on this and if you've come to feel the same way as well.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

You know that swingers can lie and cheat in their relationships as much as non swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i wouldnt do marriage again as i feel its overrated..

Not sure i would even want a vanilla relationship either..

Can't i just have a kinky one?

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"You know that swingers can lie and cheat in their relationships as much as non swingers.

Indeed they can, as can everyone. Yet, i've met some lovely swinging couples in clubs and at socials that clearly love each other and are on the same page when it comes to swinging and sharing each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know how you can tell until you meet someone. You might find you only want to be with them and lose interest in this way of life. You might find that they aren't into this and accept it because you love them and that's more important.

What you think you want isn't always right. You just know what's right when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re enjoying Fab at the moment but if either of us wants to stop then that would be ok with the other one. We don’t want marriage at the moment but doesn’t mean we’re any less committed to each other x

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"We’re enjoying Fab at the moment but if either of us wants to stop then that would be ok with the other one. We don’t want marriage at the moment but doesn’t mean we’re any less committed to each other x "

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"I don't know how you can tell until you meet someone. You might find you only want to be with them and lose interest in this way of life. You might find that they aren't into this and accept it because you love them and that's more important.

What you think you want isn't always right. You just know what's right when it happens. "

I don’t know what I think, as three years on from separation and in the midst of a divorce that I suspect is about to get nasty, I can’t even contemplate a significant partner in my life, of any kind.

But I agree with you Rubi, that often whatever you are looking for/think you want, something/someone quite different can present themselves and that is what is right for you at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few people met here and rode off happily into vanilla land. Lots here just use it as a stop gap.

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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"A few people met here and rode off happily into vanilla land. Lots here just use it as a stop gap. "

And more than a few i've spoken to have left fab trying vanilla, and inevitably come back again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I,'ll go back to a vanilla relationship now. I am enjoying being single too much XXX

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"A few people met here and rode off happily into vanilla land. Lots here just use it as a stop gap. "

I love vanilla land. I'm just nosey so I stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d happierly give this all up to be with a woman I love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d happierly give this all up to be with a woman I love."

I’m waiting...

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

Im still exploring. Im entirely unsure if this lifestyle would be for me as part of a serious relationship, wholly dependant of the dynamic perhaps, i really dont know. of the couples ive met so far though, its fantastic to see two people so sexually liberated yet seemingly very committed. Nice! , good on them.

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