FabSwingers.com forum: Why so many time wasters and rude people!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After being on and of these sites for a while all the time wasters are driving me mad aarrrggghhhh ! Why arrange meets then never turn up ,why put status updates that have absolutely nothing to with swinging / meets / fun ,sick of seeing things like out shopping or does anyone have a cheap car for sale ! Why do people leave mail sat unread for 2 weeks in mailbox but keep asking for more and why do people beg for others to fab their pics and get them on page 1 of most fabbed! Please tell me I’m not the only one thinking these things lol it makes it soooooo hard to just have /find fun on here x

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Live and let live I say. People will use the site how they see fit, there’s no right or wrong.

Although you might want to reevaluate your selection process if you’re getting that many people stand you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not exactly time wasting, people run their profiles however they want to, if you don't like them, just go to the next one

Simples

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If it’s not a fun experience, stop doing it. At least for a while. Have a break from fab and come back when your mindset is not ‘arrrgh!’ I don’t suffer from any of those things you mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this account for over 2 years now and I haven't had any meets. I've given up on the idea of meeting anyone from here. So I just nose around the Forums and look at the pretty pictures. From my experience you get more from the online experience when you're not so 'thirsty' and frustrated and you go in with zero expectations.

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Reading

Fab is a jungle. Natural selection rules apply. Not for the sensitive or feint hearted

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

What you are experiencing is normal for this and other similar sites.

You just have to filter through the Profiles and any responses you get.

But remember, it all comes down to how you "sell and portray yourself" against 100's of other guys seeking the same thing.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had this account for over 2 years now and I haven't had any meets. I've given up on the idea of meeting anyone from here. So I just nose around the Forums and look at the pretty pictures. From my experience you get more from the online experience when you're not so 'thirsty' and frustrated and you go in with zero expectations."

Mostly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your approach then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s fab, not a dick, don’t take it so hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After being on and of these sites for a while all the time wasters are driving me mad aarrrggghhhh ! Why arrange meets then never turn up ,why put status updates that have absolutely nothing to with swinging / meets / fun ,sick of seeing things like out shopping or does anyone have a cheap car for sale ! Why do people leave mail sat unread for 2 weeks in mailbox but keep asking for more and why do people beg for others to fab their pics and get them on page 1 of most fabbed! Please tell me I’m not the only one thinking these things lol it makes it soooooo hard to just have /find fun on here x"

So many questions. Most of which you could answer yourself if you thought about them.

But your right. People do what they want on here, it’s up to you if you want to get involved with all that stuff.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Change your approach then"
are you suggesting a side ways scuttle like a crab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Change your approach then are you suggesting a side ways scuttle like a crab?"

Yeah, come in from an angle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Change your approach then are you suggesting a side ways scuttle like a crab?

Yeah, come in from an angle."

Yes that would definitely work better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pet hate.......

Why have 'safe sex' on your profile but have bareback pics ?????

And before people say 'it was with an ex'!! I wonder whether that ex consents to having her vag pics on a swinging site ????

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Change your approach then are you suggesting a side ways scuttle like a crab?

Yeah, come in from an angle.

Yes that would definitely work better. "

Sort of ‘back up darling, left a bit, right a bit, open wide....’

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It seems to me they are not wasting anyones time if they are using the site how they want to

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"It seems to me they are not wasting anyones time if they are using the site how they want to"

*Mod head *

Don't forget too report anyone buying or selling on the site

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

to * not too

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not sure how any of those things make it hard to "find fun" OP? I've found if you look beyond the FB style statuses and Fab requests and take your time to get to know people so that you have a reasonable idea they're genuine (and not a bloke pretending to be a woman) that there's a lot of pleasure to be had from the site - especially if you have a decent profile and pics that are appealing to others

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By *allypWoman
over a year ago

Bricket Wood

I tried to get my pics fabbed enough times to get to page one but I'm not hot enough lol. And I know there's girls who cheat to get on page one, but I liked the challenge . It was just an experiment for me ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its up to you to take steps to ensure you know someone well enough that they wont let you down without saying.

If you try to meet within a day of talking or push for a meet then chances are you will be let down.

Go with your gut

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

If people are interested they are polite if leaving a chat.. if they just go mid chat then a sure sign of time wasting or other motive.

Lets meet? and the reply is they are busy for a few weeks another sign.Especially if there status suggests wanting a meet.

Its just something you have to get used to and i use the block as at least you dont see them appearing every 5mins of the day

If in doubt don't waste time is my motto

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If people are interested they are polite if leaving a chat.. if they just go mid chat then a sure sign of time wasting or other motive.

Lets meet? and the reply is they are busy for a few weeks another sign.Especially if there status suggests wanting a meet.

Its just something you have to get used to and i use the block as at least you dont see them appearing every 5mins of the day

If in doubt don't waste time is my motto

If people leave mid chat then it could be that your conversation was really boring or they have a life outside of fab or any number of reasons not necessarily one being that they are timewasters. Same goes for arranging meets - people have busy lives and can’t always meet immediately.

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

I have been on enough sites to tell the difference. I am talking about the stage when you know the other person is fake. YES I WILL MEET YOU TOMORROW. They then go on about the details of play etc and guess what forgot where time,place.

Never even ask and if you suggest a time etc they answer as if they never recieved the mail and carry straight on about other stuff.

I have no issue them using the site as they wish but lots of newbies must be very letdown.

BEST ONES they are the ones who say yes lets meet tomorrow and when you say Hi that being the best intro they just carry on as if they had never promised at all.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Absolutely this.

As for saying we can't meet for weeks, it is true in our case. We tell people this very early on, we have things going on in our lives that mean we don't (often) do drop of the hat meets.

Doesn't mean we aren't genuine, if the wait is too long for you, then you aren't for us. Our last meet was 7 weeks from agreeing to it actually happening, but was well worth the wait.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have no answers to your questions OP sorry.

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

I often start a conversation the day after the supposed meet with Hi.. the one with the hotlisted both friends and 60 messages until 2 in the morning ones.

NO i am so sorry i forgot or even i was busy as they just start where they left off two days previously before the supposed meet with no reference to the huge message history

Its all may of the site and i enjoy the

Interplay and spotting the genuine.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

I never have any issues, its about making sure there is a connection in the first place and the correct questions are asked and answered. Be selective, its quality over quantity, why would you be asking somebody for a meet who isn't a member, has no pics let alone a profile pic, no veris and joined 24 hours ago...

Common sense goes a long way as well as manners...

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Yes they had veries,pics, longstanding too.

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

As for manners just pointed out to the lady who left me hanging last night

After ageeing to meet that being polite should be a requirement of the site. JUST before i blocked her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They stand you up because they come on the forum and see you whingeing. They put up statutes for fun, because they want to. They leave your mail unread in their inboxes because you don't interest them. They ask for their pictures to be fabbed because they enjoy it

Ok...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for manners just pointed out to the lady who left me hanging last night

After ageeing to meet that being polite should be a requirement of the site. JUST before i blocked her"

That showed her!

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Really its my first post they must have been quick.

THEY do it because they get off on it the bad ones and others are married and its all they can getaway with.

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By *lirtyskirtTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Fab is a jungle. Natural selection rules apply. Not for the sensitive or feint hearted "

"Feint [sic] heart ne'er won fair lady"

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"Fab is a jungle. Natural selection rules apply. Not for the sensitive or feint hearted

"Feint [sic] heart ne'er won fair lady""

True

First rule of fab is to have a thick skin, or cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear, I have no words....

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By *urseitCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I hate it when you chat on lone for ages and they say they ibtobtjis and that and when it comes to it I’d rather watch wallpaper dry. So now very cautious when making a new meet. Don’t say your dom when you are not.

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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago

Failsworth

Arranging meets and not turning up I agree is irritating, it happened to me once in my first few weeks on here. Its one of the reasons I insist on the ping pong email now as someone who genuinely wants to meet you will put the effort in.

Status updates are inevitably going to take on a f/book stance, its the nature of the beast I'm afraid, but also very easy to ignore.

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