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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He's not on this site any longer so it's not airing dirty laundry.

Remember the 2nd guy I was speaking to and meeting to try and get me over that first guy (the ones that were both based in the same barracks) Brief breakdown of the 3 months I was speaking to him, spoke every day both on phone and text. Only met a handful of times, two meals, two over night stays and another day meet for a few hours. Only slept with him once. He was fully aware that I was still hung up on first guy, if I was online on WhatsApp and not speaking to him he would ask me who I was speaking to but in a not so nice manner.

Things came to a head in April with me last messaging him back on the 15th. Had a message asking how I was 2 weeks later but I didn't answer.

Now I live in a small village an hours drive away from the barracks with both swansea and Cardifff, Merthyr, Caerphilly being the main closest cities to the barracks, now I stress where I live is not enroute to the barracks, it's a full hours drive away.

Saturday I was in my local Asda that's a stones throw away from my house. I get home and I had a message saying "well that was awkward" I messaged back thinking that it was something to do with first guy and that's they'd spoken or something but it wasn't, it was him saying that he'd just seen me in Asda. I said what are you doing down here and he said he's moving here. I didn't answer. Lastnight he initiated contact again and I said you're not really moving here and he said he's moving to a house in my street.

Now does this seem odd? He could be full of shit but he was down here and did see me in Asda, said I was by the freezer shouting at the girls (my daughter and her friend who were playing bollocks) If he does move to my street does that seem odd to you guys? It's an hours drive away from his works and like I said there any many more towns and cities along the way. I live in a small village!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does seem a bit odd but I wouldn't worry about it just yet. He may be telling you porkies just to try and freak you out.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sounds like he saw you by coincidence but is trying to freak you out. If you get any more hassle from him you could always talk to his base commander or whatever they’re called.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My friend said he might be full of shit but he definitely did see me as he described where I was in the shop and what I had on etc. Very strange for him to be in this area as it's not really on the way to anything and his barracks has a big Tesco behind it and obviously an hours worth in all directions of other towns and cities. Don't know why someone would drive an hour to a small village to go to quite a small Asda.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"My friend said he might be full of shit but he definitely did see me as he described where I was in the shop and what I had on etc. Very strange for him to be in this area as it's not really on the way to anything and his barracks has a big Tesco behind it and obviously an hours worth in all directions of other towns and cities. Don't know why someone would drive an hour to a small village to go to quite a small Asda. "

sounds like a Stalker

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Are there any houses for sale on your road?

He doesn't have to live in the nearest town or city. Some people prefer villages.

Did he know it was where you lived before hand?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes it would freak me out. Are there any houses for sale or recently sold in your street?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, he’s moving to your street? if this is true why would it be awkward? just carry on with your own business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can see a couple of signs for sale and to rent, it's not really a street it's a big culdesac thing but my row of houses is in the middle where you enter and turn left or right.

Yes he did know where I lived as he came here and sat nav'd it as he'd never heard of the place before or been here.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Is it a major deal of he does? Do you think he's going to be watching over you?

Might just be that it's within his price range etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon he’s full of shit and got a little if the green eyed monster. Rise above and block him, it’s easier said than done I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend said he might be full of shit but he definitely did see me as he described where I was in the shop and what I had on etc. Very strange for him to be in this area as it's not really on the way to anything and his barracks has a big Tesco behind it and obviously an hours worth in all directions of other towns and cities. Don't know why someone would drive an hour to a small village to go to quite a small Asda.

sounds like a Stalker "

I second that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are cheaper places to live that are closer to where he is based.

It doesn't bother me if he lives there although I got a funny feeling around him that I couldn't put my finger on. He was very very argumentative and that's a bold statement for me to make but his arguments didn't make sense or have any point to them, he used to argue for what felt like having attention.

It's probably bull shit, I just know that I wouldn't date someone and then after they called it off go and move to their street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he saw you, why didn’t he just go up and say hi?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, saying that he's moving to the street you're on does seem very strange/creepy/stalker-y.

Do you think he's the kind of person to do something if he's jealous/thinks he's got something to be jealous about? It might be worth briefly dropping by the police station and documenting the conversation/circumstances. If he turns up on your doorstep or whatever and you don't want to deal with him, they'll have a record at that point, and so are probably more likely to take your concerns properly if you end up giving them a call.

Safety first, always!

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By *raceytvcdTV/TS
over a year ago

mansfield

Wants you to do his washing and cook his meals every night when he comes home from work

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"I mean, saying that he's moving to the street you're on does seem very strange/creepy/stalker-y.

Do you think he's the kind of person to do something if he's jealous/thinks he's got something to be jealous about? It might be worth briefly dropping by the police station and documenting the conversation/circumstances. If he turns up on your doorstep or whatever and you don't want to deal with him, they'll have a record at that point, and so are probably more likely to take your concerns properly if you end up giving them a call.

Safety first, always!"

I totally agree, very good advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he saw you, why didn’t he just go up and say hi?!"

I didn't even notice him, I was shouting at my daughter and her friend cos they were dancing behind shoppers and standing still when they turned around. I must not have looked approachable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he saw you, why didn’t he just go up and say hi?!

I didn't even notice him, I was shouting at my daughter and her friend cos they were dancing behind shoppers and standing still when they turned around. I must not have looked approachable!"

Haha I never look approachable in the supermarket with the kids! However saying that I wouldn’t expect anyone I’ve met from here to approach me in public x

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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago

Prudhoe

I haven’t read all the threads from this post - but just from this one he sounds like a controller.

Doesn’t matter whether he IS moving into your street (which WOULD be weired) the fact that he TOLD you he is - and that you have reacted to it the way you have is evidence of his power over you!!

Don’t let him - take the power back

Only way to deal with it is to cut him off - dead!!

Respond once more to his text telling him you want no further contact with him in any way and if he does you will report himasa stalker

B xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id just becareful and cease all communication.

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

Definitely coming over a bit stalker-ish. Make sure you keep/take screenshots of any and all messages between you. I’m sure it won’t go that far, but if you ever need to get the police involved then at least you’ve got documented proof of any contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him.

He’s trying to play games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely coming over a bit stalker-ish. Make sure you keep/take screenshots of any and all messages between you. I’m sure it won’t go that far, but if you ever need to get the police involved then at least you’ve got documented proof of any contact. "

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Look Just confront him and FIND OUT what the truth is first.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Sounds well dodgy to me - I would start documenting contact etc just in case.

I guess one thing is if they are in the forces they are definitely 'under authority' so you would know who to complain to if it became harassment! It does sound as though he has rejection/jealousy issues too, that's a heck of a bruise to the ego if you preferred his subordinate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If he does have stalker like tendencies or him doing this is coming from any kind of crazy behaviour then cutting off his way of contact could lead to some kind of anger or stepping anything up a gear.

My friend reckons he's full of shit anyway. I was just wondering if people think it's odd as I've got a high tolerance to crazy and as such I don't always recognise when things can be considered a bit out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds well dodgy to me - I would start documenting contact etc just in case.

I guess one thing is if they are in the forces they are definitely 'under authority' so you would know who to complain to if it became harassment! It does sound as though he has rejection/jealousy issues too, that's a heck of a bruise to the ego if you preferred his subordinate. "

Yes he called him a subordinate, and he is 2 ranks above the guy I first met and was hung up on. I wanna speak to first guy but I can't. I wanna say look is this guy known for being full of wool or what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could he maybe be seeing another woman in the Asda vicinity and just saw you by chance? That could explain why he didn’t come over?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could he maybe be seeing another woman in the Asda vicinity and just saw you by chance? That could explain why he didn’t come over?"

Maybe, he deleted his account on here ages ago though and said he didn't want to use sites again but that could be an explanation.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

If he's in the army wouldn't he have a new posting at some stage anyway.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't want to worry you anymore than you sound like you are already but yes, I do think it's odd. Who wants to have a 2hr round trip to work every day?!

This is one reason I don't meet anyone at mine.

Why can't you talk to guy #1?

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

You could complain to the MP, based at his barracks or his commander .it could get out of hand other wise and he may take it out the lower rank lad your seeing ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are no bases where I live, the one he's at is an hours drive away and there's another one 45 mins away but he wouldn't be there as that's for sfsg, raf and marines.

I can't speak to guy number 1 either, not spoke to him since January, he's no longer on here and I'm blocked on WhatsApp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend said he might be full of shit but he definitely did see me as he described where I was in the shop and what I had on etc. Very strange for him to be in this area as it's not really on the way to anything and his barracks has a big Tesco behind it and obviously an hours worth in all directions of other towns and cities. Don't know why someone would drive an hour to a small village to go to quite a small Asda. "

Your friend is probably right.

You don’t say if he is local, does he have family or friends in the surrounding area? Is it likely he was on his way back from a day out somewhere?

It could be that he can’t get you out of his head and is looking for any excuse to contact you again.

It does sound odd though on the face of it and could be lying to provoke a reaction. If nothing else he got you to answer a message which previously you wouldn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he does have stalker like tendencies or him doing this is coming from any kind of crazy behaviour then cutting off his way of contact could lead to some kind of anger or stepping anything up a gear.

My friend reckons he's full of shit anyway. I was just wondering if people think it's odd as I've got a high tolerance to crazy and as such I don't always recognise when things can be considered a bit out there. "

I agree, I wouldn't block him because that could cause more issues. That's why I pretty much never block people on here.

I give people the benefit of the doubt far too often but even I think it's odd. I can't come up with any genuine reason he'd coincidentally be buying a house on your street. It may not be true but then that makes it more odd that he'd turn up in your Asda.

Keep an eye out for him when you go out. He may be following you.

Also the thing you said about him being very argumentative rings alarm bells for me too. He wants to be in charge. Be careful.

I'd keep contact to a minimum and don't talk about anything personal. Don't tell him you've met someone (whether you have or not) because that could annoy him further.

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