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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If anyone can offer real help, thanks so much. OK, I came out 2 years ago, and am STILL waiting for my first appointment at Leeds gic. I have got into a really place where I don't know what to do to get out of it, but am too tired in my self to take the easy option. Does the NHS expect people to go away and stop hassling them? Please let me know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, I’m not quite sure what you’re asking or that I know the or an answer - but I wanted to send you a hug and say I hope you’re okay. Xx

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Things always seem so much worse late at night.

Sorry that whatever is going on with you is frustrating at the moment, it’s unfortunate that these things take time but you need to keep on. Think of it as two years into a process rather than 2 years waiting. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its late, things always seem worse before bed time , i have no idea what your going through and do not pretend i do, buti do know a young person who is going through the same and is yet to reach the age ofeven starting 't' but is utterly utterly a omg amazing person and has had hell throughout but is determined all the same he holds on to the little things and the day by day to get him through he has a long wait ahead too but has gone on the internet and his facial hair now is as exciting to him as not shaving hair on his legs please hang in there your day will come bit in the mean time look at it as a journey a difficult yet beautiful one u shall succeed in and appreciate it more for what it is and remember also this is your dreamone u can achieve and remember that there are 10000 of us out there living our dream for others that is just a lie to protect what we have been brought up to believe .i assure u , that your frustration now will be so worth you TRUE happiness you have been brave enough to seek 'out of the box of the norm' i for one utterly admire u and commend you for pursuing your dream . Just give it time darlin it will be a reality soon enough and the time it takes is time to reflect time to breath time to understand time for mistakes time to learn from them and then a pur wisdom to pass on to other people in your situation xxx

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I too cannot claim to understand but just wanted you to know you are never alone and send a big hug of support as it sounds as though you need it. Xx

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By *anya_DarloTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlington

Have you been given an idea of waiting list times. If not chase them up.

Newcastle area the current wait is around a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep me informed op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not have the answer but be strong, be true to yourself and I send you lots of hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone can offer real help, thanks so much. OK, I came out 2 years ago, and am STILL waiting for my first appointment at Leeds gic. I have got into a really place where I don't know what to do to get out of it, but am too tired in my self to take the easy option. Does the NHS expect people to go away and stop hassling them? Please let me know."

Hassle your gp for help. Tell him or her about your thoughts.

What is the 'easy option'?

Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't understand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I checked the list if gic's onot the lgbt website (trans UK site,but it had last been updated in October 2015), and have not been able to find details of the waiting times for the gic's. It's so fucking bad that we don't get a letter saying how the waiting list is doing. Am really not happy, but am trying to keep going. It's no wonder that we attempt or even end being successful in the easy way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give Leeds a call and tell them how you’re feeling.

The waiting list there is one of the longer ones but you must be getting close to the top now.

As soon as you were referred you should have had a letter confirming they had recieved it. You then have access to counselling straight away. Use it. It’s there to support you and get you through these times.

You’re already doing so well to have come out. Have you made all the steps you can on your part? As in; busying yourself changing your name on everything? Etc.

When I get low, I treat myself to something new to give myself a lift. I bought a simple dress from eBay for less than a tenner recently and will be transferring the badge from my work shirt onto it. Then getting an iron on print for the back ready to be on the Brighton pride float for the company I fit bathrooms for.

It’s the beginning of pride season so I’ll be attending and parading on four this year plus ‘sparkle’. It’s all these things and surrounding myself with people on a similar path, that keeps my mind occupied while I wait for my appointment.

PM me if you want to chat.

You really aren’t alone on this path xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I checked the list if gic's onot the lgbt website (trans UK site,but it had last been updated in October 2015), and have not been able to find details of the waiting times for the gic's. It's so fucking bad that we don't get a letter saying how the waiting list is doing. Am really not happy, but am trying to keep going. It's no wonder that we attempt or even end being successful in the easy way out."

I think theyve all taken their waiting times down off the sites as we were trying to hold them to those.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

The NHS is great in a crisis but, like most big organisations under pressure, struggles when its lower priority.

Sometimes you have to squeeze it quite hard to be seen or heard. Whoever your contact is, start with some gentle pressure and ratchet it up until you feel you are making some progress.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember; the help the gic offer is only a small part of your transition. What’s between your legs, most people are unaware of so that bit is for you and your lovers.

There is much that can only be done by ourselves.

Come out gently in your part of the world. Dramatics of turning up in a frock when no one was expecting it can often cause defensive negative reactions.

Grow your hair.

Pluck your eyebrows or get them done.

Remove your body hair and shave several times a day if you have a strong beard growth

Look at online makeup tips to cover beard colour and avoid looking overly made up during the day.

Develop a ‘day look’ for work and, er, well daytime

I’m quite tall so I wear flip flops and sketchers so I don’t add to my height.

Name changing is cheap and a real ego boost. Get an online certificate and fill it in with a friend to witness it. You can change your name for free once you have this with most places. Including your driving licence.

Your passport needs a letter from your gp or clinic as well as the deed poll. You have to pay for the passport change.

Get out there and be seen!

I was at a local festival last night and there was another trans girl there too. We’re everywhere! You’re not alone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember; the help the gic offer is only a small part of your transition. What’s between your legs, most people are unaware of so that bit is for you and your lovers.

There is much that can only be done by ourselves.

Come out gently in your part of the world. Dramatics of turning up in a frock when no one was expecting it can often cause defensive negative reactions.

Grow your hair.

Pluck your eyebrows or get them done.

Remove your body hair and shave several times a day if you have a strong beard growth

Look at online makeup tips to cover beard colour and avoid looking overly made up during the day.

Develop a ‘day look’ for work and, er, well daytime

I’m quite tall so I wear flip flops and sketchers so I don’t add to my height.

Name changing is cheap and a real ego boost. Get an online certificate and fill it in with a friend to witness it. You can change your name for free once you have this with most places. Including your driving licence.

Your passport needs a letter from your gp or clinic as well as the deed poll. You have to pay for the passport change.

Get out there and be seen!

I was at a local festival last night and there was another trans girl there too. We’re everywhere! You’re not alone xx"

Nice one Rachael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone can offer real help, thanks so much. OK, I came out 2 years ago, and am STILL waiting for my first appointment at Leeds gic. I have got into a really place where I don't know what to do to get out of it, but am too tired in my self to take the easy option. Does the NHS expect people to go away and stop hassling them? Please let me know."

Contact Dr Webberly a gender Doctor,

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