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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Just make getting married more difficult.

Saves all the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think they are the reasons people generally stay in crap marriages.

But what do I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easier. Well easier than it used to be.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

My divorce was easy, just did it myself, £135, 20years ago and I think it should be all of the things you mention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

My divorce was easy, just did it myself, £135, 20years ago and I think it should be all of the things you mention "

Crikey that's cheap! It's at least £600 now. A friend told me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just make getting married more difficult.

Saves all the hassle."

I'm unlovable, unfuckable and unsociable. I'm saving ££thousands.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

My divorce was straight forward and pretty cheap,although I haven't a clue how much it was I left that to him. It could have been a nightmare mind if I had brought the circumstances into play but that would have been to the detriment of me. My twin brother who went through it at the same time can't say the same thing though,his was a nightmare!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Having went through a divorce.... its can be easy.. its when the vulture solicitors get involved that prey on the weak who are in turmoil.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

My divorce was easy, just did it myself, £135, 20years ago and I think it should be all of the things you mention

Crikey that's cheap! It's at least £600 now. A friend told me. "

Yes it could well, better than paying thousands to a solicitor though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually there’s only one winner & that’s the solicitor

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Usually there’s only one winner & that’s the solicitor "

So true, that's why, if it's a straight forward divorce and you both agree on everything, leave the solicitors out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cost of divorce isn't a factor for most.

Children and finances come into play too!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My divorce was very easy. No custody battle, no financial battle.

Took 5 months from beginning to end.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My divorce was very easy. No custody battle, no financial battle.

Took 5 months from beginning to end. "

pretty much the same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The process cost isn’t really an issue. It’s the process itself.

‘I don’t want to be married to this person any more’ should be enough of a reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The process cost isn’t really an issue. It’s the process itself.

‘I don’t want to be married to this person any more’ should be enough of a reason"

Bit weird that they make you wait a few years or have to give some 'good reason' for not wanting to be together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Usually there’s only one winner & that’s the solicitor "

It's insane how much they charge for every little thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, this may be frowned upon on here but my divorce cost me and my ex husband the price of stamps and that’s it, he was getting benefits at the time and got it free. Took us 10 months from start to finish and did it ourselves.

Geeky x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

My divorce was easy and cheap. Waited five years, filed the papers myself...think it cost me £400.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

My divorce was easy, just did it myself, £135, 20years ago and I think it should be all of the things you mention

Crikey that's cheap! It's at least £600 now. A friend told me. "

Allowing for inflation that's about right, did mine ten years ago.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The cost of divorce isn't a factor for most.

Children and finances come into play too!!! "

Agreed. Had my own money and he continued to give me £500 a month for th kids until they turned 18 then gave the money to them. We split everything 50/50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easy. 2 year separation both agree don't need a lawyer. Just court fees to pay. Done

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"It is easy. 2 year separation both agree don't need a lawyer. Just court fees to pay. Done "

If you want to divorce before two years are up it’s a little more complex. When I divorced the ex hubby it was on the grounds of his unreasonable behaviour. We kept it amicable and I emailed him copies of the paperwork to agree to before it went to the court, that way there were no hurt feelings etc. I basically made him out to be a total bastard, worse than he actually was, just to get it agreed to by the court.

Our divorce cost about £500 which was purely court fees, it cost more now. Time was the biggest issue for us. The court was very busy and it took 7 months to finalise. I got my decree absolute with 2 weeks to spare for marrying Shaggy and it only came through then because I took a day off work to sit in the court and wait while it was done

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Just make getting married more difficult.

Saves all the hassle.

I'm unlovable, unfuckable and unsociable. I'm saving ££thousands. "

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Yes. God yes. Please!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"It is easy. 2 year separation both agree don't need a lawyer. Just court fees to pay. Done "

The divorce is the easy bit. Untangling the finances is another matter that is very expensive.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

My divorce was easy, just did it myself, £135, 20years ago and I think it should be all of the things you mention

Crikey that's cheap! It's at least £600 now. A friend told me.

Allowing for inflation that's about right, did mine ten years ago."

£500 for the petition. £50 for any court orders. £50 for Absolute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My divorce was simples. We agreed everything before going to see a solicitor. We then told them what we were doing. So much so that I was questioned by the court before my divorce was granted. That I wasn’t agreeing under duress. I was made aware of my entitlements and was made to feel stupid because “ I wasn’t taking my husband through the mill” I agree solicitors will drag out a battle over a loaf of bread for an extra pound. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it is pretty easy and cheap now, around £600 doesnt seem that much, especially considering the eye wateringly stupid amounts some spend on weddings! i know that with kids, property etc it can drag on but if people act like grown adults i dont see how it could be any easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My divorce was not easy due to the circumstances leading up to it and after my ex effectively disappeared so i had to use the 5 year rule of abandonment.. but it actually took me more like 6 yrs altogether

I didnt have a solicitor, i did it all myself, which i am very proud of ..because i still didnt know where he actually lived the judge directed me to send him the divorce papers via facebook messenger... and then to get a screenshot of the little tick that acknowledged he had seen it...

I personally think they should scrap the 5 yr rule if there is absolutely no chance of a reconciliation as its just pointless waiting that long

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve had 2 divorces and they both cost me a fucking fortune

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"My divorce was not easy due to the circumstances leading up to it and after my ex effectively disappeared so i had to use the 5 year rule of abandonment.. but it actually took me more like 6 yrs altogether

I didnt have a solicitor, i did it all myself, which i am very proud of ..because i still didnt know where he actually lived the judge directed me to send him the divorce papers via facebook messenger... and then to get a screenshot of the little tick that acknowledged he had seen it...

I personally think they should scrap the 5 yr rule if there is absolutely no chance of a reconciliation as its just pointless waiting that long "

Completely. I’ve gone for unreasonable behaviour and it’s all gone through fairly smoothly but just taking so long with the courts.

And if you’re not ‘lucky’ enough to have a reasonable case of that or adultery it’s far too onerous. If it’s really over, you know - they should stop trying to force it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My divorce was not easy due to the circumstances leading up to it and after my ex effectively disappeared so i had to use the 5 year rule of abandonment.. but it actually took me more like 6 yrs altogether

I didnt have a solicitor, i did it all myself, which i am very proud of ..because i still didnt know where he actually lived the judge directed me to send him the divorce papers via facebook messenger... and then to get a screenshot of the little tick that acknowledged he had seen it...

I personally think they should scrap the 5 yr rule if there is absolutely no chance of a reconciliation as its just pointless waiting that long "

I absolutely agree it's ridiculous having to wait 5 years. Should be 1 year for abandonment.

Brilliant that you got it sorted, congrats.

Love the fb messenger thing, clever judge!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think it is pretty easy and cheap now, around £600 doesnt seem that much, especially considering the eye wateringly stupid amounts some spend on weddings! i know that with kids, property etc it can drag on but if people act like grown adults i dont see how it could be any easier."

If people acted like grown adults they wouldn't be ex's!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My divorce was not easy due to the circumstances leading up to it and after my ex effectively disappeared so i had to use the 5 year rule of abandonment.. but it actually took me more like 6 yrs altogether

I didnt have a solicitor, i did it all myself, which i am very proud of ..because i still didnt know where he actually lived the judge directed me to send him the divorce papers via facebook messenger... and then to get a screenshot of the little tick that acknowledged he had seen it...

I personally think they should scrap the 5 yr rule if there is absolutely no chance of a reconciliation as its just pointless waiting that long

I absolutely agree it's ridiculous having to wait 5 years. Should be 1 year for abandonment.

Brilliant that you got it sorted, congrats.

Love the fb messenger thing, clever judge! "

I know..its a sign of the times i guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My divorce was not easy due to the circumstances leading up to it and after my ex effectively disappeared so i had to use the 5 year rule of abandonment.. but it actually took me more like 6 yrs altogether

I didnt have a solicitor, i did it all myself, which i am very proud of ..because i still didnt know where he actually lived the judge directed me to send him the divorce papers via facebook messenger... and then to get a screenshot of the little tick that acknowledged he had seen it...

I personally think they should scrap the 5 yr rule if there is absolutely no chance of a reconciliation as its just pointless waiting that long

I absolutely agree it's ridiculous having to wait 5 years. Should be 1 year for abandonment.

Brilliant that you got it sorted, congrats.

Love the fb messenger thing, clever judge!

I know..its a sign of the times i guess "

This is the way forward. Divorce by text. "yer dumped!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amicable divorces are already easy and affordable.

My divorce was neither. £££££ spent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X "

Hi Angie. Done mine 20years ago, got the forms from the County Court, you do have to be careful they are filled in accurately, of course. No doubt you can do it all on line now. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X

Hi Angie. Done mine 20years ago, got the forms from the County Court, you do have to be careful they are filled in accurately, of course. No doubt you can do it all on line now. Good luck. "

Yes I’ve looked online and seen it all. My only problem is I don’t have an up to date address for him as I believe they’ve moved. And we don’t have any contact. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My divorce was easy. It helped that we didn't own a house together, although we do have children.

Despite it being me who wanted the divorce, I handed my ex a list of all the things that would constitute my unreasonable behaviour and convinced him to take it to a solicitor to petition me. He earned far less than me so qualified for legal aid.

I didn't have a solicitor and represented myself. Was all done within about 5 months.

Proof that where there is a will there is a way.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

It should be easy, but people drag it out because They want to hurt the other one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place. "

Not that easy xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X

Hi Angie. Done mine 20years ago, got the forms from the County Court, you do have to be careful they are filled in accurately, of course. No doubt you can do it all on line now. Good luck.

Yes I’ve looked online and seen it all. My only problem is I don’t have an up to date address for him as I believe they’ve moved. And we don’t have any contact. Thank you x "

Oh, ok Angie, that does make it more difficult.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place. "

If only life were that easy _eeside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X

Hi Angie. Done mine 20years ago, got the forms from the County Court, you do have to be careful they are filled in accurately, of course. No doubt you can do it all on line now. Good luck.

Yes I’ve looked online and seen it all. My only problem is I don’t have an up to date address for him as I believe they’ve moved. And we don’t have any contact. Thank you x "

See my OP, when i did mine i sent the original papers to the last known address knowing full well he would not be there as it had been where we last lived together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should be more information on how to go about one. I’m just about to start my divorce process. Should be simple as no money or children to sort out. X

Hi Angie. Done mine 20years ago, got the forms from the County Court, you do have to be careful they are filled in accurately, of course. No doubt you can do it all on line now. Good luck.

Yes I’ve looked online and seen it all. My only problem is I don’t have an up to date address for him as I believe they’ve moved. And we don’t have any contact. Thank you x

See my OP, when i did mine i sent the original papers to the last known address knowing full well he would not be there as it had been where we last lived together "

It’s her mother’s address so it should get to him. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re easy and can be cheap as long as no disputes...they just take fucking forever

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

My divorce was simple.

We’d been apart for ten years and all the kids were over 16.

Filled out a form, sent it to the sheriff court in Scotland with a cheque (wasn’t much, maybe £100). Court contacted my ex who took the “do nothing” option and within two or three weeks I teceived the certificate in the post.

If there are no kids, you have been apart for two years or more and both agree, it’s a formality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x"

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place. "

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Just make getting married more difficult.

Saves all the hassle."

I'm a big believer that it should be mandatory to live together for at least a couple of years before getting married. You don't really know what being married is like until you live together.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good friend of mine lost more than half to his/her other half and he/she didn’t work a single day during the marriage.. my friend kept on saying he/she took my house. It’s fucking disgraceful

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x"
. But how long till absolute?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A good friend of mine lost more than half to his/her other half and he/she didn’t work a single day during the marriage.. my friend kept on saying he/she took my house. It’s fucking disgraceful "

I agree!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute? "

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute?

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute."

That’s correct. So that’s still the same under the new process? It took the courts 6 weeks to process my application for Nisi and send out a letter with the date - which was another 5 weeks away. It’s the courts that take up much of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

My opinion is men stay in crap marriages longer because of how much it will cost them if they divorce.

Women stay on crap marriages because of the kids or house or even dog!

I think a pre-nup would be good for everyone involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute?

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute.

That’s correct. So that’s still the same under the new process? It took the courts 6 weeks to process my application for Nisi and send out a letter with the date - which was another 5 weeks away. It’s the courts that take up much of the time. "

Time in between is good for sorting financial stuff. Friend doing online divorce via the .gov site seems to be getting paperwork back faster than the one going via postal/ solicitor for route.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DIY ones are fine, but if theres any discussions over money, however amicable..you still need a financial consent order which you cant get till the divorce is complete..and for that you do need a solicitor, but its still pretty cheap, and better than something coming back to bite you later on.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute?

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute.

That’s correct. So that’s still the same under the new process? It took the courts 6 weeks to process my application for Nisi and send out a letter with the date - which was another 5 weeks away. It’s the courts that take up much of the time.

Time in between is good for sorting financial stuff. Friend doing online divorce via the .gov site seems to be getting paperwork back faster than the one going via postal/ solicitor for route."

Sounds like a bonus! I’ve been told to expect the court to take around 4-6 weeks to process and (hopefully) sign off the financial consent order.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"DIY ones are fine, but if theres any discussions over money, however amicable..you still need a financial consent order which you cant get till the divorce is complete..and for that you do need a solicitor, but its still pretty cheap, and better than something coming back to bite you later on."

I didn't know this till quite recently. Even after a divorce the other half could come back for more money if you don't get a consent order or financial order! Worth doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute?

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute.

That’s correct. So that’s still the same under the new process? It took the courts 6 weeks to process my application for Nisi and send out a letter with the date - which was another 5 weeks away. It’s the courts that take up much of the time.

Time in between is good for sorting financial stuff. Friend doing online divorce via the .gov site seems to be getting paperwork back faster than the one going via postal/ solicitor for route.

Sounds like a bonus! I’ve been told to expect the court to take around 4-6 weeks to process and (hopefully) sign off the financial consent order. "

Argghh that's ages! Hope it's quick.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Just reading on the daily mail about the new ‘apply online’ on the government website and cost just £550 and results in less offical papers being returned.

Couples will be able to divorce online for £550

https://dailym.ai/2HTmtOa

Geeky x

This works really well. From first application to decree nisi only took 5 weeks! x. But how long till absolute?

Apparently after the nisi you have to wait 6 weeks before you can apply for the absolute.

That’s correct. So that’s still the same under the new process? It took the courts 6 weeks to process my application for Nisi and send out a letter with the date - which was another 5 weeks away. It’s the courts that take up much of the time.

Time in between is good for sorting financial stuff. Friend doing online divorce via the .gov site seems to be getting paperwork back faster than the one going via postal/ solicitor for route.

Sounds like a bonus! I’ve been told to expect the court to take around 4-6 weeks to process and (hopefully) sign off the financial consent order.

Argghh that's ages! Hope it's quick."

Thank you me too - once that’s sorted I can cut off contact. It’s not been an easy few months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"DIY ones are fine, but if theres any discussions over money, however amicable..you still need a financial consent order which you cant get till the divorce is complete..and for that you do need a solicitor, but its still pretty cheap, and better than something coming back to bite you later on.

I didn't know this till quite recently. Even after a divorce the other half could come back for more money if you don't get a consent order or financial order! Worth doing."

its pretty essential, ageing parents popping off etc...dont want an ex trying to get hold of something your family may have left you!...but, yes, no alternative for a solicitor with that im afraid...but its not expensive.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

If it wasn’t for the children I’d happily walk away with just the clothes I’m wearing, leaving her the house.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

My divorce was quick & easy. No solicitors. 4 months start to finish. We agreed everything beforehand.

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just going through mine now - just need to sort the finances/asset split and we should be done - by the Autumn I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?"

Easier? You just get divorced don’t you? It can only get expensive if on of the parties becomes a dick.

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By *traight up guyMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Mine was taking ages until the ex and I chatted. We both then realised that it was the solicitors taking the piss. We agreed our own deal, told the Solicitors what the deal was and it was then sorted in no time.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

Not that easy xx"

Y not ?

You meet sumone.

You get to no them

If your both then 100% Shor you want to be together for ever then marry. Easy

No one ses you haf to marry the 1st person you get on with.

That's the problem todays date.

Everyone seems to marry the 1st person thay got on with ruther than wateing a bit to get to no them well 1st.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

Not that easy xx

Y not ?

You meet sumone.

You get to no them

If your both then 100% Shor you want to be together for ever then marry. Easy

No one ses you haf to marry the 1st person you get on with.

That's the problem todays date.

Everyone seems to marry the 1st person thay got on with ruther than wateing a bit to get to no them well 1st.

"

That’s a lovely idea but doesn’t always work in practise, there are lots of people that have been married 30 plus years of course but I’ve known people to be together 10 years then get married and within 5 years split up, sometimes marriages don’t work for one reason or another and doesn’t matter if you have been together a year or 20.

My first marriage was rushed and we had 15 years, which for a couple as young as us and as ‘shotgun’ as ours (I wasn’t pregnant we just wanted to get married) that was quite a good run and we worked hard through it to stay married but it just didn’t work. When I married Ads it felt different but no one knows what around the corner, I would like to think he will still be my husband when I take my last breath but you never know what might happen (this sounds awful as I write this!), I think because I’ve been through one divorce I haven’t got rose tinted glasses on this time and live my marriage in the here and now, still plan for a future when we are old and grey but also have it buried in my head that just because we signed a piece of paper doesn’t mean it’s forever and ever, although I know we will we are both older and we are so well matched that I can’t see us not waddling along a seafront in our 80’s lol.

Geeky x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

Not that easy xx

Y not ?

You meet sumone.

You get to no them

If your both then 100% Shor you want to be together for ever then marry. Easy

No one ses you haf to marry the 1st person you get on with.

That's the problem todays date.

Everyone seems to marry the 1st person thay got on with ruther than wateing a bit to get to no them well 1st.

"

I was with my first husband from the age of 13. I was 20 when we got married and we just drifted apart, wanted different things. I was with him 28 years in total and it was an amicable split. My parents however, were married 67 years until her death 2 years ago.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

Not that easy xx

Y not ?

You meet sumone.

You get to no them

If your both then 100% Shor you want to be together for ever then marry. Easy

No one ses you haf to marry the 1st person you get on with.

That's the problem todays date.

Everyone seems to marry the 1st person thay got on with ruther than wateing a bit to get to no them well 1st.

That’s a lovely idea but doesn’t always work in practise, there are lots of people that have been married 30 plus years of course but I’ve known people to be together 10 years then get married and within 5 years split up, sometimes marriages don’t work for one reason or another and doesn’t matter if you have been together a year or 20.

My first marriage was rushed and we had 15 years, which for a couple as young as us and as ‘shotgun’ as ours (I wasn’t pregnant we just wanted to get married) that was quite a good run and we worked hard through it to stay married but it just didn’t work. When I married Ads it felt different but no one knows what around the corner, I would like to think he will still be my husband when I take my last breath but you never know what might happen (this sounds awful as I write this!), I think because I’ve been through one divorce I haven’t got rose tinted glasses on this time and live my marriage in the here and now, still plan for a future when we are old and grey but also have it buried in my head that just because we signed a piece of paper doesn’t mean it’s forever and ever, although I know we will we are both older and we are so well matched that I can’t see us not waddling along a seafront in our 80’s lol.

Geeky x"

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Should divorce be easier, cheaper and quicker? Would people still stay in crap marriages if it was easier to get divorced?

Or just marry mr/ms right in the 1st place.

Not that easy xx

Y not ?

You meet sumone.

You get to no them

If your both then 100% Shor you want to be together for ever then marry. Easy

No one ses you haf to marry the 1st person you get on with.

That's the problem todays date.

Everyone seems to marry the 1st person thay got on with ruther than wateing a bit to get to no them well 1st.

I was with my first husband from the age of 13. I was 20 when we got married and we just drifted apart, wanted different things. I was with him 28 years in total and it was an amicable split. My parents however, were married 67 years until her death 2 years ago. "

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