FabSwingers.com forum: Someone saying they cant get anyone to meet but i am ready to meet.

By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I have been seeing a lot of this around my area,now i cannot get meets with ladies and couples and believe me i have tried so hard to get a meet just to get shunned for the idiot who never turns up, (i do have a couple who i meet every one to two months or so) but i read peoples statuses saying they will be alone and cannot get anywhere or the person they were meeting backed out and blocked them and then they say they will be leaving due to these people who futz things up, but i am right here ready and waiting for the call to duty and action and i get nothing at all, i really dont understand it and my head hurts for trying to understand why? can anybody explain this to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being ready, willing and able isn’t enough

If people want to meet you then they will. Keep plugging away and it will happen, maybe.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I may have misunderstood so bear with me: you’re waiting for the call to action? Does that mean you don’t send out messages? Do you prefer spontaneous, last minute meets which means you’ll take the place of whoever backed out? (Your profile doesn’t imply this btw).

If you don’t send messages perhaps you could try sending some... be aware that you may not be what folk are looking for. Good luck.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I have been seeing a lot of this around my area,now i cannot get meets with ladies and couples and believe me i have tried so hard to get a meet just to get shunned for the idiot who never turns up, (i do have a couple who i meet every one to two months or so) but i read peoples statuses saying they will be alone and cannot get anywhere or the person they were meeting backed out and blocked them and then they say they will be leaving due to these people who futz things up, but i am right here ready and waiting for the call to duty and action and i get nothing at all, i really dont understand it and my head hurts for trying to understand why? can anybody explain this to me?

Just because you are available doesn’t mean that you’re what they’re looking for it that they find you sexually attractive

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By *parkle......Woman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

There are other ways of meeting people not just of fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are other ways of meeting people not just of fab! "

Heresy! Stone her

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

i fully understand that i may not be what they are looking for and yes i do send messages of a nice nature and yes i do wink a lot which doesnt do anything for a lot of people but i sound a bit stupid with my messages sometimes which are nicely worded to have them just deleted or no reply from, it just feels (to me) like these people are getting let down by these people and i am ready, i dont know really, never been into attraction really, personality thats what gets me going and enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just means they can get a meet with the person(s) they wanted to meet.

It's like I have 700 odd messages but (aside from friends and people I speak to regularly) the only guy I really want to meet is the guy I was meeting Nov to January.

Attention don't mean shit unless you get it from the one you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't not can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just means they can get a meet with the person(s) they wanted to meet.

It's like I have 700 odd messages but (aside from friends and people I speak to regularly) the only guy I really want to meet is the guy I was meeting Nov to January.

Attention don't mean shit unless you get it from the one you want. "
i get overexcited when i have 3 messages 700

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By *eorgeyporgeyMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Not to take the piss, but it aint easy... Try the chat rooms (they can be difficult to get into, socially, but you hear about big social meets etc where you can show your face and become known).

Try clubs in your area, they're expensive, but there are real people there....

Your profile is OK, but nothing special and I definitely wouldn't mention being your being OK to unbag, that's definitely uncool.

Winks are pointless tbh, I don't know any women or many couples who take any notice....And messaging is kind of not worth it either (See posts about hundreds of messages to ladies and couples)....

Chose the people that you want to meet up with, put them on your "Hotlist" and stalk their updates. Send a witty message relating to those statuses (use your wit in the title of your message too)...

And don't whine about not getting meets (not that I'm saying that you do). It's not sexy.

Good luck

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

well with regards to the clubs near me, of which i wish to go to, i only find out my shifts at work the week before but the club meets always happen the night before a working shift in the early morning which buggers me right off that i cant get to them, i used to whine 5 years ago that i didnt get any meets, i admit that freely but i dont do that anymore

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP you might be ready, but that doesn't mean people are going to fall over themselves to meet you - you have to stand out from the crowd and get yourself known, back it up with a decent profile and pics that show you off (not your cock). Get more involved in the forums if clubs and socials are not possible, they're a great way to get to know people and get yourself known.

I'll be honest and say your username isn't going to appeal to a lot of users either - it's verging on infantile in my opinion, maybe come up with something that reflects your personality?

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By *eorgeyporgeyMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I'd reply in PM, but.....

Don't take it personal, man, not my intention.... Clubs are open most nights, just prep to pay the fee and go... There's bound to be people there. Don't go expecting to get laid, just talk to people and if something happens, otherwise it's an investment...

I was lucky when I started off, I got a few lucky breaks, but it still took 6 months or so to get regular meets... I then moved to a different part of the country and got nowhere... It really is a mix of luck and perseverance in the right way. Profile (in terms of visibility) is key, you need to do that face to face... Get in the chat rooms n say hello!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called Sod's Law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club

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By *yLittleMushroomIndeed OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

thanks for telling me my name was infantile, i have changed it from BigBreastageLover (of which i love big boobs by the way, big time) to celestialbalancer

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"thanks for telling me my name was infantile, i have changed it from BigBreastageLover (of which i love big boobs by the way, big time) to celestialbalancer"

Much better

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