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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been feeling very low for a while now and yesterday the doc started me on medication for depression and anxiety plus referred me for councelling. She also told me to exercise as that helps too.

I know there are many people here with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety and i wondered if people had things they do that help them ? Also how did they get on at work ? Iv been put on the sick for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been on similar medication before? Some people find it makes them feel even worse for the first couple of weeks before your body gets used to it. Just something to be aware of so you stick with it.

Also there are different types of medication. If that one doesn't work for you don't be afraid to ask to try something else.

Hope you start to feel better soon. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck "

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck "
Good advice .

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues. "

If you jnow what's causing your issues counselling is the right route for you, helped for me. I personally didn't get on with the meds.

It will get better, big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you start to feel better soon.

I find working helpful as I enjoy where I work and it’s time away from the mundane.

I keep busy doing the garden or decorating or crafts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you been on similar medication before? Some people find it makes them feel even worse for the first couple of weeks before your body gets used to it. Just something to be aware of so you stick with it.

Also there are different types of medication. If that one doesn't work for you don't be afraid to ask to try something else.

Hope you start to feel better soon. x"

Iv been on similar ages ago but for a different reason. The doc warned me i might feel worse at first and to stick with it. The one iv been prescribed has less side effects than others so thats good. I feel better/more positive for having done something about how im feeling.

Thank you x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues. "

If work is not triggering or exacerbating your depression, get back to work as soon as able, taking into account the physical aspects of depression eg, tiredness, not sleeping properly, not eating properly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues. "
Positive thinking helps and it looks like your starting as you have been to the Docs. Small steps and thinking about you and what is best for you. Good Luck and one Day at a time .. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues.

If you jnow what's causing your issues counselling is the right route for you, helped for me. I personally didn't get on with the meds.

It will get better, big hugs "

Thank you.

Iv phoned the councelling service but the earliest appointment is end of May so iv started the meds aswell for now and see how i go.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I'd use pills as a last resort once you've collapse into a quivering wreck and not been outside for over a week and switched your phone off"incase it rings"

and not before.... Use nature and take positive steps,communicate with people u know,not strangers in a virtual world.... Wasting days arnt gonna help

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By *abtastic30Woman
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

Hi Nellie,

Firstly a massive well done on seeing your GP when we feel low it’s hard to admit.

I found counselling helped more than the meds. Exercise is a great way of enhancing your mood. Also try some mindfulness exercises they help with your anxiety. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hope you start to feel better soon.

I find working helpful as I enjoy where I work and it’s time away from the mundane.

I keep busy doing the garden or decorating or crafts. "

Thank you.

Work is one of the problems so im best away from there at the moment.

I did plant some seeds yesterday and a bit of gardening and i cooked dinner which i rarely do as im usually later home than hubby

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues.

If work is not triggering or exacerbating your depression, get back to work as soon as able, taking into account the physical aspects of depression eg, tiredness, not sleeping properly, not eating properly...

"

Thank you

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

There is a correlation between physical wellbeing and mental wellbeing. While not necessarily the cure, the body and mind work in tandem, so your odds are helped by the condition of your body.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues. Positive thinking helps and it looks like your starting as you have been to the Docs. Small steps and thinking about you and what is best for you. Good Luck and one Day at a time .. x"

Thank you, im definetely feeling more positive now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step."

Funds are at an all time low so access counselling anywhere you can - have you got occupational therapy via work? Contact MIND, ask GP for referral, talk to trusted friends.

As for meds, no they aren't just for tiding you over. Think of them as correcting a deficiency eg, like iron tablets for anaemia. There are many types if these new ones don't work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd use pills as a last resort once you've collapse into a quivering wreck and not been outside for over a week and switched your phone off"incase it rings"

and not before.... Use nature and take positive steps,communicate with people u know,not strangers in a virtual world.... Wasting days arnt gonna help"

Iv already started the pills on a low dose as the councelling cant start for a while. Im going for a walk today and football tomorrow which is something id stopped doing recently. I see family frequently anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Nellie,

Firstly a massive well done on seeing your GP when we feel low it’s hard to admit.

I found counselling helped more than the meds. Exercise is a great way of enhancing your mood. Also try some mindfulness exercises they help with your anxiety. X"

Thank you. I will look into mindfullness too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a correlation between physical wellbeing and mental wellbeing. While not necessarily the cure, the body and mind work in tandem, so your odds are helped by the condition of your body."

Im walking today although i have a painful problem that means full on exercise is impossible but il do a little

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step.

Funds are at an all time low so access counselling anywhere you can - have you got occupational therapy via work? Contact MIND, ask GP for referral, talk to trusted friends.

As for meds, no they aren't just for tiding you over. Think of them as correcting a deficiency eg, like iron tablets for anaemia. There are many types if these new ones don't work."

I was just going on what my GP told me, particularly if you know what the trigger is. As much as anything it means that you shouldn’t need to take them forever as there are other methods for a long term cure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered from the same about 2 years ago, had the same issues, was put on medication and joined the long queue for counselling. My advice us try your hardest to relax, put all negative things that trigger your anxiety on hold or eliminate if it's not a priority. Place yourself in the hands of your doctor and when your appointment to see a councillor comes do not hold back, let everything out.

I found that joining a gym and a local spa really helped, gave me something to focus on.

If you stick with it and take the advice here that appeals to you, you'll get through this. There really is a big light at the end of the tunnel, I promise

Stay strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd use pills as a last resort once you've collapse into a quivering wreck and not been outside for over a week and switched your phone off"incase it rings"

and not before.... Use nature and take positive steps,communicate with people u know,not strangers in a virtual world.... Wasting days arnt gonna help

Iv already started the pills on a low dose as the councelling cant start for a while. Im going for a walk today and football tomorrow which is something id stopped doing recently. I see family frequently anyway. "

Excellent. You're probably aware it's easy to spiral deeper into depression, but these actions you're undertaking will prevent this and do you the world of good.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Do 3 rolley polleys then do a hand stand....achieve this,then your cured

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step.

Funds are at an all time low so access counselling anywhere you can - have you got occupational therapy via work? Contact MIND, ask GP for referral, talk to trusted friends.

As for meds, no they aren't just for tiding you over. Think of them as correcting a deficiency eg, like iron tablets for anaemia. There are many types if these new ones don't work."

The GP has referred me for councelling and i have the initial telephone consultation at the end of may. I will phone MIND too.

Yes im in agrement with taking meds as i understand that they can correct what im missing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suffered from the same about 2 years ago, had the same issues, was put on medication and joined the long queue for counselling. My advice us try your hardest to relax, put all negative things that trigger your anxiety on hold or eliminate if it's not a priority. Place yourself in the hands of your doctor and when your appointment to see a councillor comes do not hold back, let everything out.

I found that joining a gym and a local spa really helped, gave me something to focus on.

If you stick with it and take the advice here that appeals to you, you'll get through this. There really is a big light at the end of the tunnel, I promise

Stay strong

"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd use pills as a last resort once you've collapse into a quivering wreck and not been outside for over a week and switched your phone off"incase it rings"

and not before.... Use nature and take positive steps,communicate with people u know,not strangers in a virtual world.... Wasting days arnt gonna help

Iv already started the pills on a low dose as the councelling cant start for a while. Im going for a walk today and football tomorrow which is something id stopped doing recently. I see family frequently anyway.

Excellent. You're probably aware it's easy to spiral deeper into depression, but these actions you're undertaking will prevent this and do you the world of good."

Yes im determined to get better. Hubby is hugely supportive too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do 3 rolley polleys then do a hand stand....achieve this,then your cured"

Ha ha ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As above, the medication is often just to tide you over until the counselling can sort out the cause.

Well done for getting help, it’s the first big step.

Funds are at an all time low so access counselling anywhere you can - have you got occupational therapy via work? Contact MIND, ask GP for referral, talk to trusted friends.

As for meds, no they aren't just for tiding you over. Think of them as correcting a deficiency eg, like iron tablets for anaemia. There are many types if these new ones don't work.

I was just going on what my GP told me, particularly if you know what the trigger is. As much as anything it means that you shouldn’t need to take them forever as there are other methods for a long term cure"

There is a difference between chronic (long term depression ie, over two years) and acute. Anti-depressants are not prescribed with long term in mind as the body should actually start correcting it's deficiency.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I mean.... As in right now... Used for the wall for the handstand is ok... Go on,chop chop.... Now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice. Counselling could help but like all things may Bly help straight away and a lot of the work is done away from the session (when you are reflecting and discovering) me personally I wouldn't take medication and again they may take a while to work however that's your choice entirely.

For me exercise and being outside is really good. Also make a music playlist, cook, write, paint, watch Corrie do anything that makes you feel good.

Main thing is talking too. If you have a supportive partner / friend/ family member chat to them it really does help you make sense of things.

Best of luck at least you've acknowledged it and seem to want to improve things and also know some triggers. Take care x

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Do 3 rolley polleys then do a hand stand....achieve this,then your cured

Ha ha ok "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd use pills as a last resort once you've collapse into a quivering wreck and not been outside for over a week and switched your phone off"incase it rings"

and not before.... Use nature and take positive steps,communicate with people u know,not strangers in a virtual world.... Wasting days arnt gonna help

Iv already started the pills on a low dose as the councelling cant start for a while. Im going for a walk today and football tomorrow which is something id stopped doing recently. I see family frequently anyway.

Excellent. You're probably aware it's easy to spiral deeper into depression, but these actions you're undertaking will prevent this and do you the world of good.

Yes im determined to get better. Hubby is hugely supportive too. "

Well then you have the best remedy right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck

Thank you.

This place doesnt bother me one way or another though, i know exactly whats causing my issues. Positive thinking helps and it looks like your starting as you have been to the Docs. Small steps and thinking about you and what is best for you. Good Luck and one Day at a time .. x

Thank you, im definetely feeling more positive now x"
Our minds play tricks with us ..... I find I have to say to myself no I am not thinking like that ................ As I know what we think about become true to us .. Why I like to think positive .

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

As someone has already said, the antidepressants will help by helping restore a chemical imbalance in your head. Please don't be afraid of taking then for a few months and whatever you do, don't stop taking them suddenly.

Great that you are starting counselling in a month. Most important thing with counselling is to be open and honest. Don't decide what you will talk about, and what to keep quiet. It can be painful and make you feel worse, as you talk through difficult issues. Stick with it, going through the nasty stuff, is the only way to get to a solution and cope with it better.

Finally try to eat healthy, there is tryptophan in cottage cheese and chicken which is a feel good compound and is thought to help. The B vitamins....marmite and dark green veg are also good to include in the diet. Broccoli is especially good.

Remember RED.

Relaxation ( including sleep)

Exercise

Diet

These are all key.

Sorry long post. This was my area of expertise in the past, pm me if I can help more

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

Finding and dealing with/working on dealing with the cause. When I couldn't do this, for example when waiting for appointments, I tried to keep myself busy (and so kept my mind occupied) - I cleared out my flat and found out and dealt with why I hoarded, i then redecorated and totally change the style, I kept myself busy with hobbies, I planned my future (I have a big move and job change coming up now).

Some days you may just sit and do nothing, don't beat yourself up about it if you do, it's not a waste of a day. Sometimes we just need to give our minds a break, to stop fighting and we just need to let our emotions take over. This can help "clear the air" in our minds when they become overwhelmed with trying to keep it together.

Be kind to yourself and try not to get frustrated with yourself. You didn't become depressed overnight so you're not going to learn what works for you with how to cope with it overnight, it takes time.

Take a deep breath, you're stronger than you think you are x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Finding and dealing with/working on dealing with the cause. When I couldn't do this, for example when waiting for appointments, I tried to keep myself busy (and so kept my mind occupied) - I cleared out my flat and found out and dealt with why I hoarded, i then redecorated and totally change the style, I kept myself busy with hobbies, I planned my future (I have a big move and job change coming up now).

Some days you may just sit and do nothing, don't beat yourself up about it if you do, it's not a waste of a day. Sometimes we just need to give our minds a break, to stop fighting and we just need to let our emotions take over. This can help "clear the air" in our minds when they become overwhelmed with trying to keep it together.

Be kind to yourself and try not to get frustrated with yourself. You didn't become depressed overnight so you're not going to learn what works for you with how to cope with it overnight, it takes time.

Take a deep breath, you're stronger than you think you are x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope you start to feel better soon.

I find working helpful as I enjoy where I work and it’s time away from the mundane.

I keep busy doing the garden or decorating or crafts.

Thank you.

Work is one of the problems so im best away from there at the moment.

I did plant some seeds yesterday and a bit of gardening and i cooked dinner which i rarely do as im usually later home than hubby "

I hope you get as much satisfaction watching the seeds grow as much I do well done with dinner, it’s the small things that make a difference. Yes I’d stay away from work for a while and possibly find other work or go on ESA. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice above

Worst feeling with depression is feeling that you're the only one going through it. You're not!

We all have down days, some alot worse then others.

Best thing for you OP, if you can is talking through what's going on. If you find you can't talk certain things through, write them down. Once you have them on paper, you can see what might be easier to sort out and help take some weight off of those shoulders.

Never get stuck in a rut and dwelling makes things worse!

If you can get out and about even for 10-15, a walk, drive anything will help.

I started running this year and when I'm out, it gives me the freedom to let everything that might be on my mind F **k off for a bit

Fab can have its positive and negatives, great to let off steam if you need it, but it's easy to take things said personally.

Good luck xx

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been feeling very low for a while now and yesterday the doc started me on medication for depression and anxiety plus referred me for councelling. She also told me to exercise as that helps too.

I know there are many people here with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety and i wondered if people had things they do that help them ? Also how did they get on at work ? Iv been put on the sick for now."

Well done on seeing the doctor, that can be a battle on its own.

Have a read up on magnesium an vitamins D an B they are great mood lifters. Most people in the uk need D unless you have lots of holidays. An most of our food lacks nutrients now.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

It has been proven that exercise releases endorphins, these can improve your well being.

I would take all the help you can get, I know friends who have gone through bad depression and managed to control it with the assistance of help.

You might like to look into things like positive mental attitude, mindfulness these are being implemented in my work. It helps you spot your train of bad thoughts, also how you can deal with them to turn them into positive ones.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

What a lovely post.. no bitching or sarcasm. Loads of lovely , helpful and supportive advise from people who have quite possibly been through it or are living with depression now.

Great to read thoughts from some lovely caring people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I mean.... As in right now... Used for the wall for the handstand is ok... Go on,chop chop.... Now"

I have done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get outside. Go for walks in nature. Plan your days so you're busy and doing stuff. My biggest piece of advice though would be to get off of here. It's a huge headfuck if you're not in a good place mentally. Good luck "

This is good advice.. i actually left the site last year as i just wasnt in a good place.. i was offered anti depressants but i didnt want to go down that road, i did have councelling and that helped me enormously..

Hope you find your path OP x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all the comments. Im actually writting them down so i remember all the tips. Im going to buy specific food and vit b (i already take a high dose of vit d) and i will try all the suggestions.

Theres sometimes so much negative things said about mental health issues, i have at times been told to "snap out of it" and similar comments but im aware that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain so im happy to take meds for it the same as i take meds for my asthma.

Everyone has been very positive and kind and thats wonderful, i was nervous and unsure about posting this thread incase of nasty things being said but everyone has been great including those who have sent a pm. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for all the comments. Im actually writting them down so i remember all the tips. Im going to buy specific food and vit b (i already take a high dose of vit d) and i will try all the suggestions.

Theres sometimes so much negative things said about mental health issues, i have at times been told to "snap out of it" and similar comments but im aware that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain so im happy to take meds for it the same as i take meds for my asthma.

Everyone has been very positive and kind and thats wonderful, i was nervous and unsure about posting this thread incase of nasty things being said but everyone has been great including those who have sent a pm. Thank you x"

That 'snap, out of it' phrase has been said to me numerous times and I find it makes me spiral downwards.

Its almost like saying 'have a nice day' at a funeral!

Wish it was that simple, but unless you've walked in my shoes you wouldn't understand and I bet that's the same for alot of people.

Mrs x

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thank you for all the comments. Im actually writting them down so i remember all the tips. Im going to buy specific food and vit b (i already take a high dose of vit d) and i will try all the suggestions.

Theres sometimes so much negative things said about mental health issues, i have at times been told to "snap out of it" and similar comments but im aware that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain so im happy to take meds for it the same as i take meds for my asthma.

Everyone has been very positive and kind and thats wonderful, i was nervous and unsure about posting this thread incase of nasty things being said but everyone has been great including those who have sent a pm. Thank you x

That 'snap, out of it' phrase has been said to me numerous times and I find it makes me spiral downwards.

Its almost like saying 'have a nice day' at a funeral!

Wish it was that simple, but unless you've walked in my shoes you wouldn't understand and I bet that's the same for alot of people.

Mrs x"

I find that the people who say that have never been depressed, a lot of them are people who have just been down but think that was depression and assume that is as bad as it gets.

There's something to be said by a change of attitude towards things BUT it's hard work to do that and turn it into a habit, there's no "snapping out of it".

I'm one who won't use pills, I've seen too many use them and turn into zombies with fake smiles and never actually deal with the cause BUT I've also seen some who use them as a tool to help deal with the cause(s), so realise that the solutions that work for the individual can be just as unique as the causes which can be anything from a chemical imbalance to external pressures.

It's all about finding ways of making life worth living and there's always a reason to live (as in not just existing) even if it might be difficult to find at first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you for all the comments. Im actually writting them down so i remember all the tips. Im going to buy specific food and vit b (i already take a high dose of vit d) and i will try all the suggestions.

Theres sometimes so much negative things said about mental health issues, i have at times been told to "snap out of it" and similar comments but im aware that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain so im happy to take meds for it the same as i take meds for my asthma.

Everyone has been very positive and kind and thats wonderful, i was nervous and unsure about posting this thread incase of nasty things being said but everyone has been great including those who have sent a pm. Thank you x

That 'snap, out of it' phrase has been said to me numerous times and I find it makes me spiral downwards.

Its almost like saying 'have a nice day' at a funeral!

Wish it was that simple, but unless you've walked in my shoes you wouldn't understand and I bet that's the same for alot of people.

Mrs x"

Exactly x

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"Thank you for all the comments. Im actually writting them down so i remember all the tips. Im going to buy specific food and vit b (i already take a high dose of vit d) and i will try all the suggestions.

Theres sometimes so much negative things said about mental health issues, i have at times been told to "snap out of it" and similar comments but im aware that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain so im happy to take meds for it the same as i take meds for my asthma.

Everyone has been very positive and kind and thats wonderful, i was nervous and unsure about posting this thread incase of nasty things being said but everyone has been great including those who have sent a pm. Thank you x

That 'snap, out of it' phrase has been said to me numerous times and I find it makes me spiral downwards.

Its almost like saying 'have a nice day' at a funeral!

Wish it was that simple, but unless you've walked in my shoes you wouldn't understand and I bet that's the same for alot of people.

Mrs x

I find that the people who say that have never been depressed, a lot of them are people who have just been down but think that was depression and assume that is as bad as it gets.

There's something to be said by a change of attitude towards things BUT it's hard work to do that and turn it into a habit, there's no "snapping out of it".

I'm one who won't use pills, I've seen too many use them and turn into zombies with fake smiles and never actually deal with the cause BUT I've also seen some who use them as a tool to help deal with the cause(s), so realise that the solutions that work for the individual can be just as unique as the causes which can be anything from a chemical imbalance to external pressures.

It's all about finding ways of making life worth living and there's always a reason to live (as in not just existing) even if it might be difficult to find at first."

People often dont understand it thats very true.

Im trying to be positive.

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