FabSwingers.com forum: Reasons why

By *duk70 OP Man
over a year ago

langley

You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

You’re not their type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

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your not the only one who gets it i got from day one give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats wrong with that..

At least its a response!

Some men would kill for a response!

But its probably because you are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

I could have something to do with your not there type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give reasons now when I say no thanks x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

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Their loss... move on.

You look very familiar OP.... did we meet a few years ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't rs to engage in any kind of conversation to know if someone is my type or not. I just look at their picture and that tells me if someone is my type.

Obviously when they said you weren't their type they were talking about physical attributes and what they find attractive.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Maybe they want gym fit.

Maybe they want single.

Maybe they want over 6ft.

Maybe they want long hair...

Just because "You" may think you match the basic there's an x factor missing.

No one has to justify who they want to have sex with: on this occasion it's not you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the answers in the question

your not there type ,no attraction to her/them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What difference does it make why they aren't interested OP? It's not as if you can click your fingers and magically become what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they want gym fit.

Maybe they want single.

Maybe they want over 6ft.

Maybe they want long hair...

Just because "You" may think you match the basic there's an x factor missing.

No one has to justify who they want to have sex with: on this occasion it's not you. "

^^ good answer ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whats wrong with that..

At least its a response!

Some men would kill for a response!

But its probably because you are married

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i would agree with you 100% only telling him he should do what you say as for me i get none lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you’re not their type, what would talking achieve? Do you want to be told “no you fucking huge fat monster”? Some ladies get told things like that and it’s not very pleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they want gym fit.

Maybe they want single.

Maybe they want over 6ft.

Maybe they want long hair...

Just because "You" may think you match the basic there's an x factor missing.

No one has to justify who they want to have sex with: on this occasion it's not you. "
that is so true so i been told by a few single who mail me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

You were given a reason

Or do you think you warrant a complete analysis of why you are not their type?

Did you give a complete breakdown in your message why they should further engage with you?

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By *duk70 OP Man
over a year ago

langley

I understand there needs to be an initial feeling to the photos posted, it doesn’t say who I am just what I look like.

Thank you all for the responses it was just an airing of my chest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know that whatever reason they give you is likely to be their diplomatic answer. Accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a kind way of saying I don't find you attractive. I really don't think anyone would feel better if I was completely honest in my responses

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I understand there needs to be an initial feeling to the photos posted, it doesn’t say who I am just what I look like.

Thank you all for the responses it was just an airing of my chest."

You're not their type from looking at your pictures maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand there needs to be an initial feeling to the photos posted, it doesn’t say who I am just what I look like.

Thank you all for the responses it was just an airing of my chest.

You're not their type from looking at your pictures maybe?"

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

I rarely give a reason because it seems to hurt his fragile ego and he starts spitting out his dummy, and I don't come on Fab to deal with childish temper tantrums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand there needs to be an initial feeling to the photos posted, it doesn’t say who I am just what I look like.

Thank you all for the responses it was just an airing of my chest."

If they are not attracted to you via your photos then they don't need to know who you are, it will not change anything so rather pointless. We can't all be attracted to everyone...hence people having a type!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

I rarely give a reason because it seems to hurt his fragile ego and he starts spitting out his dummy, and I don't come on Fab to deal with childish temper tantrums

Oh, I always do

I tell 'em straight.

" Get back to me when you have some manners, sweetie"

Usually along those lines

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

There's absolutely no advantage in having someone try to explain why they don't find you physically attractive (quite apart from the fact it's also time consuming). Usually, I either fancy them or I don't - it's an instinctive, overall thing rather than something glaringly obvious. What I certainly don't want to do is hurt anyone's feelings by drawing attention to physical features they can't help (and increase my risk of getting abuse back from a minority) because it wouldn't be helpful to potentially give them a complex and/or damage their confidence. Bear in mind that just because one individual isn't drawn to you that doesn't make you unattractive per se and someone else may think entirely differently anyway.

Obviously, other, non physical reasons can also lead to rejection too ...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I know I am not everyone’s type.

I am not gym fit (I do go to the gym)

I am 6 1

I don’t have tats (don’t like needles)

My thighs are big my arms the opposite

I have a big nose, deep set eyes

I have pubes

I don’t accommodate.

For most people as long as they say I was a decent bloke then I am happy

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

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Not sure what you're looking for ?

You do realise that

Not my type is a feeling protecting euphemism?

Why do you want them to elaborate and say

Hi thanks for the message but I personally find you unattractive

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

And this is why I ignore most of my messages

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP you say on your profile you are looking for couples aged between 35-99. Does that mean you will fuck anyone who is in this age group? I'm guessing the answer is no because some people you just don't fancy.

There is your answer, this couple didn't fancy you so said they weren't interested

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"What difference does it make why they aren't interested OP? It's not as if you can click your fingers and magically become what they want."

Sometimes they do though and magically change from straight to bi curious without realising we checked them out ninja stylee before answering them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Nothing wrong with that response if you ask me. I've sent replies like that to only get a 'can I ask why, I won't be offended' so I tell them and then get abused back so I usually don't bother anymore.

(All I said was I like my guys to be a bit smarter and a bit beefier

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Nothing wrong with that response if you ask me. I've sent replies like that to only get a 'can I ask why, I won't be offended' so I tell them and then get abused back so I usually don't bother anymore.

(All I said was I like my guys to be a bit smarter and a bit beefier

See I play down my intelligence

when people know what I do they are like no way.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

(All I said was I like my guys to be a bit smarter and a bit beefier

Haha well he asked !! I jist don't reply now if I don't feel an attraction to someone cos got sick of the abuse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

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So would you prefer to receive a reply from someone who is being brutally honest saying " Sorry, it's a no thankyou because I think your fucking ugly!?" Not that I think you are as I've not looked at your profile, but personally we would both prefer the "not our type" reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but It is hard to always give reasons... or always reply... I have loads of messages in my inbox and I’m not bragging but it would take me all night to give a detailed response.. so if I can then at least a quick no thank you is a response.... also I wouldn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings and say no thanks I think your ugly or whatever the reason may be....

So as hard as it is.. on sites like these it’s just the way it is unfortunately!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rob me no response means I’m not their type or maybe they are chatting to one or two already that they definitely want to meet .

I’d rather not know the specific reason to be honest as your ego and confidence takes enough of a bashing on here already .

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

They might have a physical/visual type you don't fit, it could be that some of your interests don't align, it could be something you've written on your profile etc. Fitting the widest age, race and gender criteria doesn't mean you are automatically someone's type. If someone is looking for a white early forties woman then I fit those criteria - but not if they have a thing for slim women, blonde women, brown eyed women, women who like watching wrestling or any other specific parameter. Me knowing why I'm not someone's type won't change the fact. Knowing why wouldn't provide any useful feedback since I'm not going to change who I am for a meet and no-one owes me an explanation just to satisfy my curiosity.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Their response should be enough.

Imagine this:

'Hi, can I buy you a drink?' 'No thank you.' 'Why not?' or

'Would you like to dance?' 'No thanks.' 'Why not, what's the reason?'

To me there isn't a lot of difference. You can stay and try to sweet talk them if you want but don't be surprised if you don't get the reaction you are after.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Should people give a reason?

I definitely don't - I don't even send a "no thanks" mail. I've had chats and when a face pic is sent, I don't like it, I just do not maintain contact. What's the point?

It isn't impolite to not chat up someone you don't fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should people give a reason?

I definitely don't - I don't even send a "no thanks" mail. I've had chats and when a face pic is sent, I don't like it, I just do not maintain contact. What's the point?

It isn't impolite to not chat up someone you don't fancy. "

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should people give a reason?

I definitely don't - I don't even send a "no thanks" mail. I've had chats and when a face pic is sent, I don't like it, I just do not maintain contact. What's the point?

It isn't impolite to not chat up someone you don't fancy. "

Got to disagree. A polite “sorry but you’re not my type” takes no time at all and is polite. If you were already chatting to them at least let them know the conversations over. Not to do so is just fucking rude.

If it was unsolicited then fine.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Should people give a reason?

I definitely don't - I don't even send a "no thanks" mail. I've had chats and when a face pic is sent, I don't like it, I just do not maintain contact. What's the point?

It isn't impolite to not chat up someone you don't fancy.

If it was unsolicited then fine."

In my experience, it then leads to further conversation about why, because plenty don't have the good grace to accept that some people don't find them attractive.

I'm not here to deal with that bullshit.

It even says in the FAQ - if someone does not reply take it as a "no thanks" and leave it at that (or words to that effect).

I'm sorry some people get so butthurt about it - perhaps this isn't the place for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not saying go on to outline why but leaving people hanging is shitty. The FAQs do say that but perhaps I’ve higher expectations than some on here. It takes no time and the person (if equally polite can move on or...:you block them after the reply and move on.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I’m not saying go on to outline why but leaving people hanging is shitty. The FAQs do say that but perhaps I’ve higher expectations than some on here. It takes no time and the person (if equally polite can move on or...:you block them after the reply and move on."

Stop having expectations then. It'll make the place more enjoyable - If something happens, it's a bonus, if not it's no skin off your nose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours is not to reason why

Its.. something else

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"You read a profile ‘looking for 35-50 yr white male’........

Send a polite message.

Response ‘sorry you’re not my type’

I’m white, between 35-50......

I have no issue with rejection as I’m quite use to it here, but give a reason.

I’m not bothered if it’s because I’m fat, ugly, married whatever but how in reality without at least engaging in conversation can you tell what type I am.

Rant over

Think your self lucky you got a Response in the 1st place.

90% of the time its just deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. I always reply to first messages. I think it's rude not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men."

500 words or more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men."

And do their bit for the economy by employing a PA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men."

Like , your nose is far too wonky or your legs are too long.

Your face is too fugly and so is your schlong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men.

Like , your nose is far too wonky or your legs are too long.

Your face is too fugly and so is your schlong.

Roses are red

Violets are blue

Your cock stinks of cheese

I don't want to fuck you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every woman should give a detailed answer when rejecting men.

Like , your nose is far too wonky or your legs are too long.

Your face is too fugly and so is your schlong.

Roses are red

Violets are blue

Your cock stinks of cheese

I don't want to fuck you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting that many are assuming it’s women who are replying to men.

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