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its so difficult on here to prove your genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice please, I never know what to say when i want to message someone on here through fear of looking like a messer or just some time wasteing idiot. every one says dont say hi and I always try to be polite but people just seem to missunderstand me...

Ive got recent face pics so any advice would be very welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see you have quite a long friend list on you profile, Have you communicated with any of them before or just added? Try going into the chat rooms and asking for a webcam verification to start with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes I have actually spoke to all the people im friends with.

Ive had a few meets but people just dont seem to verifie you for some reason.

Thanks for replying and I will try that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone asked me to prove I was real or genuine, I’d laugh my arse off before anything else. I wouldn’t worry about it op.

The best advise op, is be yourself, only give as much information or pictures that you feel comfortable with, which will probably be what the other party/profile is doing on here. And if that’s not enough, ask yourself do they sound like they don’t trust you?

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By *LkinkyfunCouple
over a year ago

stockport

Look just be you ! So many people have rules on here just stick with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone asked me to prove I was real or genuine, I’d laugh my arse off before anything else. I wouldn’t worry about it op.

The best advise op, is be yourself, only give as much information or pictures that you feel comfortable with, which will probably be what the other party/profile is doing on here. And if that’s not enough, ask yourself do they sound like they don’t trust you? "

This!!!........ don’t try too hard otherwise you won’t be 100% you ..... we always try to never change who we are, we a shy, positive, polite and complimentary , some ladies don’t like that and don’t even sometimes have the politeness to respond to our messages but we’ll never change that because we want to connect with someone that will appreciate and enjoy that from us both........ she’s worth waiting for I’m sure

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi OP

Sorry you’re finding it hard.

It’s not that Fab women are thinking “but is this guy genuine?” It’s that there are lots AND LOTS of lovely, funny, sexy “genuine” men.

The ones who do well on Fab do one of two things. They either:

1) Have nice arty pics (not cock shots).

- Have a profile pic. Something a little different helps you stand out but an arty torso shot or whatever is fine. Yours in fine.

- Have a good profile (at least three or four paragraphs, no quasi-legal Sydney University shit, saying what you’re looking for and what you’re offering, ideally some conversation hooks (like your love of 10,000 piece jigsaws or sky diving or 80s pop or anything) and checked for spelling and grammar.

- They keep their profile high by updating their status every day with positive, funny stuff (not “so many time wasters on here”).

- They post on the forum.

- They contact women whose requirement they match and don’t push for sex or meets. They’re willing to chat.

2) Or they go to clubs. Smile, chat to men and women, don’t invade personal space. They don’t go expecting sex , they go expecting to have fun. They go repeatedly, get verified lots, get known and make friends.

So, OP, I agree that veris can be useful but it’s just one of the tools to get to the “top of the list” for women. If women are 10% of Fab you need to be better than about 90% of the men (that’s a little simplistic but you get the idea).

I hope none of this comes over as arrogant. It’s achievable and you’re already doing much better than the blokes calling themselves “PussyDestroyer”, with no pictures and a profile that says “man looking to meet women”. But being better than half the men on the site won’t get you meets. You have to do better than the vast majority of men on the site.

Final thought is that it’s not to do with being gym-fit or looking like a model. The men I know who do very well are nice, chatty and making the best of themselves and putting across the best of themselves on Fab.

Hope you can crack it OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it’s perhaps an idea that you should not refer to your fab activities as a hunt. To me that sounds like you’re just in it for your amusement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty good profile picture OP, just persevere XXX

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's 2 things -

Uncertainty on first messages and being accepted as genuinely reliable.

More veris from socials etc help confirm the latter. Scout the forum for first message advice - but focusing on their profile is the right thing, coupled with assuming that the better the senders profile, the more likely you will get others to qualify you accurately.

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