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"Again ? Sorry to hear that. Virtual hugs for you Xoxoxoxoxo Btw nice tits" Yeah again. Thanks! Xx | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? " Because I'm an idiot. | |||
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"Fuck him! It’s his loss not yours. " No dont fuck him.... fuck some shot hot Fab dude.. Amd when he comes back again tell him to piss off  | |||
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"I need the back story please. " Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. | |||
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"Fuck him! It’s his loss not yours. No dont fuck him.... fuck some shot hot Fab dude.. Amd when he comes back again tell him to piss off "Sounds like a plan | |||
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"Title says it all. " Again...learn from it. He didn't think you were worth it so don't waste time on someone who doesn't want you. Have a moment...then onwards and upwards x | |||
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And to cheer you up, here's a crap joke:
What's the difference between a unicorn and a carrot?
Ones a funny beast, the other is a bunny feast.
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"Tassimo’s are on special in Tescos. Well, that cheered me up no end
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"Embrace your inner unicorn
And to cheer you up, here's a crap joke:
What's the difference between a unicorn and a carrot?
Ones a funny beast, the other is a bunny feast.
Xx"Wally! Mwah | |||
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"Tassimo’s are on special in Tescos. Well, that cheered me up no end
Hugs to you x"Is that coffee? I hate coffee. If you'd had said Cadbury chocolate, that would have been a different matter. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? " Never go back.cos it happens again and again | |||
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"Fuck him! It’s his loss not yours. " I second this sending hugs Dharma xxx | |||
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"Tassimo’s are on special in Tescos. Well, that cheered me up no end
Hugs to you x"Really...how much cuz I want one   xx | |||
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"Tassimo’s are on special in Tescos. Well, that cheered me up no end
Hugs to you x
Really...how much cuz I want one xx"The Bosch one is only £39 at the moment and the coffees themselves only three quid a pop. Bargain! Grab it whilst it’s hot say I | |||
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"You don't need virtual hugs. You need cocktails...shots and karaoke. Group chat your pals and go a night out x" Hear hear! DEFINATELY wot u should do xx | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again" Not going to happen again. | |||
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"Tassimo’s are on special in Tescos. Well, that cheered me up no end
Hugs to you x
Really...how much cuz I want one xx
The Bosch one is only £39 at the moment and the coffees themselves only three quid a pop. Bargain! Grab it whilst it’s hot say I "Oooooooh may hav to take a trip to Tesco tomoro xx | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. " Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Because I'm an idiot. " Well I'm a fully fledged moron, and I've got the certificates to prove it  | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. " Yip. You don't want to do another thread that he's dumped you a 4th time x | |||
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"Sorry to hear. Seeming as your just down the road could we offer you our services of not how to repair a broken heart, more a "remedy"
BD x "What did you have in mind? Lol x Great pics btw. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. " He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. " Sell it | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it" Definitely | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it" I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. " Well put your foot down and give him an ultimatum then for god's sake Missus  | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. " give him 48 hrs to remove his shit, then its fair game after that..think about how much he'd be paying in storage for all his crap! | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. " Give him until the end of the weekend. That's taking the piss! | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. " How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed." He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. | |||
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"Hello.. we haven’t really chatted before just wanted to say you can only do what you feel is right for you... its hard to let go sometimes when you love someone but just try to remember how important you are and are worth more!! Sending hugs xx" Xxxx | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. " Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. | |||
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"Title says it all. " Theres no amount of support from your friends on the Forum that can take away the pain and hurt. We all have our own experiences, which can help us empathize, but we cant really know how you feel deep down. When people say "I know how you feel", we know the mean well, but no-one really knows how YOU feel, its personal to YOU.. I hope the kindness and support you're getting here helps. Also sending hugs...... | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff." That really hit home. X | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X" I am sick of men treating women like shit and having no repercussions. Hit him where it fucking hurts. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X" I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I am sick of men treating women like shit and having no repercussions. Hit him where it fucking hurts." Elpis has got a point They dont tend to like it when you turn the tables on them. Sometimes you have to make a stand | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it" Don’t sell it, give him a time frame and say that it’ll be outside your house if he doesn’t collect it by that time. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). " If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it" Don't, you could be in trouble if you do. As you've allowed him to store it there you have to give him "reasonable" time to remove it. Knee jerk reactions when we're hurt is understandable, but why add to your woes? Boohoo have a sale on...treat yourself to something fabulous and enjoy your life. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it Don’t sell it, give him a time frame and say that it’ll be outside your house if he doesn’t collect it by that time." Then donate it to charity. You get double the satisfaction then | |||
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"Again ? Sorry to hear that. Virtual hugs for you Xoxoxoxoxo Btw nice tits" Yes, I agree, nice tits | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again" Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. " But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods?" Send him an email or text. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact" You can still walk away with dignity and pride after giving a second chance. We shouldn’t make people feel bad for doing so. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. " Hmmmm. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Hmmmm. " Not sure what that means. You send him an email saying what I said, keep the email and there's your evidence. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact You can still walk away with dignity and pride after giving a second chance. We shouldn’t make people feel bad for doing so. " Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just giving my view on the matter which I believe is allowed | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I am sick of men treating women like shit and having no repercussions. Hit him where it fucking hurts." I doubt there's a person on here who hasn't been hurt: I know I have...my trust really taken advantage of and nearly left in financial ruin with two daughters in tow. I've never put myself in that position again. What I've not done is allow myself to become bitter and respond negatively to all men. The op needs to move forward, and I believe giving her ex a reasonable time to remove his shit will be more cathartic in the long run rather than do something to prolong contact, hit her financially etc. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). " I think if OP sends him a letter giving him a timescale to collect and he fails to, in terms of a washing machine and half a kitchen. He can’t take action as he’s been given notice to come fetch it. Two motorcycles more complicated maybe. I’d still give a timescale to collect though. If he doesn’t, I’m sure he’d soon appear if they were just left outside in all weathers . Alternatively, I know there is a cost , but pay someone to deliver them back to his and leave them outside his place. You can invoice him the cost, he likely won’t pay but least you’ve tried to get reimbursed. Least when it’s gone, he has no reason to return. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Hmmmm. Not sure what that means. You send him an email saying what I said, keep the email and there's your evidence. " I'm not arguing with you, my friend I'm sure you are right. Our legal system is entirely fair and reasonable, after all | |||
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"Definitely, don't sell his stuff that's the type of thing that ends up in court. You could come to an agreement if it's not moved by a certain time then you can charge storage fees. Everyone here is jumping to conclusions based on only one side of the story. " Be a different reaction if the op was a bloke too. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. " Tell him in writing he needs to pick it up or you will get rid of it. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Tell him in writing he needs to pick it up or you will get rid of it. " | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. " Do it via txt or email and copy a screen shot or other type of copy on a cloud storage service. You just need to be able to justify why your offer is reasonable. The OP needs to think about what type of out come she wants from the situation before taking any drastic measures. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact You can still walk away with dignity and pride after giving a second chance. We shouldn’t make people feel bad for doing so. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just giving my view on the matter which I believe is allowed" As am I. | |||
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"Title says it all. " His loss. Some great advice on. Just don't dwell on it to much. Control alt delete and get on with your life. You are an amazing person and certainly don't need someone like that on your life. HUGS | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). I think if OP sends him a letter giving him a timescale to collect and he fails to, in terms of a washing machine and half a kitchen. He can’t take action as he’s been given notice to come fetch it. Two motorcycles more complicated maybe. I’d still give a timescale to collect though. If he doesn’t, I’m sure he’d soon appear if they were just left outside in all weathers . Alternatively, I know there is a cost , but pay someone to deliver them back to his and leave them outside his place. You can invoice him the cost, he likely won’t pay but least you’ve tried to get reimbursed. Least when it’s gone, he has no reason to return. " This! | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Do it via txt or email and copy a screen shot or other type of copy on a cloud storage service. You just need to be able to justify why your offer is reasonable. The OP needs to think about what type of out come she wants from the situation before taking any drastic measures." She should send this Dear x As you know you have left the following property at my house [list property] I am no longer willing to store this property so please contact me so we can make arrangements for you to collect it. If I don't hear from you by 12 may, I will assume you have abandoned the property and I will dispose of it. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact You can still walk away with dignity and pride after giving a second chance. We shouldn’t make people feel bad for doing so. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just giving my view on the matter which I believe is allowed As am I. " Indeed and I would encourage everyone to do the same. I would just add regarding the OP's current situation that no-one can treat you badly without your permission. Hopefully this will be the last time this happens and life will eventually be much better as a result. | |||
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"Definitely, don't sell his stuff that's the type of thing that ends up in court. You could come to an agreement if it's not moved by a certain time then you can charge storage fees. Everyone here is jumping to conclusions based on only one side of the story. Be a different reaction if the op was a bloke too. " Din't tell the women that
I have been told stories from people that make themselves out to be mother Teresa and someone else Satan but with a tiny bit of information gathering you learn the story you've been told is jackanory and if I would have jump to conclusions would have made me look like a cunt.
People very rarely admit blame when they are in the wrong and right and wrong is a western idea the east has the concept of useful and not useful which means the moral dilemmas which are based on ends and means do not become dilemmas.
You can't be held responsible for things you have no control over and can't have control over things unless your willing to take responsibility.
And rather than thinking he or she is 100% to blame for everything it's easier to think or responsibility like percentages. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Do it via txt or email and copy a screen shot or other type of copy on a cloud storage service. You just need to be able to justify why your offer is reasonable. The OP needs to think about what type of out come she wants from the situation before taking any drastic measures. She should send this Dear x As you know you have left the following property at my house [list property] I am no longer willing to store this property so please contact me so we can make arrangements for you to collect it. If I don't hear from you by 12 may, I will assume you have abandoned the property and I will dispose of it. " I only have a very basic understanding of the law but if I didn't reply to that message by the 12th it would become a tacit agreement and and an acceptance. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Do it via txt or email and copy a screen shot or other type of copy on a cloud storage service. You just need to be able to justify why your offer is reasonable. The OP needs to think about what type of out come she wants from the situation before taking any drastic measures. She should send this Dear x As you know you have left the following property at my house [list property] I am no longer willing to store this property so please contact me so we can make arrangements for you to collect it. If I don't hear from you by 12 may, I will assume you have abandoned the property and I will dispose of it. " Klp are brilliant. Also, It's easy to take someone back after they've dumped you. You don't need to be victim shamed about that. | |||
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"If he dumped you, why did you take him back? Never go back.cos it happens again and again Completely agree! Being dumped once is more than enough. Walk away with your head held high and your dignity intact You can still walk away with dignity and pride after giving a second chance. We shouldn’t make people feel bad for doing so. Not trying to make anyone feel bad, just giving my view on the matter which I believe is allowed As am I. Indeed and I would encourage everyone to do the same. I would just add regarding the OP's current situation that no-one can treat you badly without your permission. Hopefully this will be the last time this happens and life will eventually be much better as a result. " Definitely. I think that’s the best outcome that could happen. | |||
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff. That really hit home. X I'd think it'd be illegal as it's not yours. He'd probably be able to take you to court if you did sell anything. (In case you changed your mind). If she tells him that he has to come and collect his stuff by a certain date and that if he does not she will consider he no longer wants it and it's hers to do with as she will, she will be fine legally. The law will not support him using her house as a storage place indefinitely. But wont the onus be on her to prove that conversation took place? How does one do that? Prove they have given the other party a reasonable time in which to remove their goods? Send him an email or text. Do it via txt or email and copy a screen shot or other type of copy on a cloud storage service. You just need to be able to justify why your offer is reasonable. The OP needs to think about what type of out come she wants from the situation before taking any drastic measures. She should send this Dear x As you know you have left the following property at my house [list property] I am no longer willing to store this property so please contact me so we can make arrangements for you to collect it. If I don't hear from you by 12 may, I will assume you have abandoned the property and I will dispose of it. Klp are brilliant. Also, It's easy to take someone back after they've dumped you. You don't need to be victim shamed about that. " We are all different I guess. I have never found it easy to take someone back and so never have. I certainly didn't intend to shame anyone, just to show that it is possible to walk away the first time if you choose. | |||
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It’s also very therapeutic!!
Big hugs. It’s horrible when they do that to you & totally human nature to let them, when you’ve still got feelings 
Also, get dressed up & go out on the town with your girlfriends tonight. Dance, laugh, have a few cocktails, enjoy yourself. That’s also good therapy x | |||
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" Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. " sensible advice.
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"Aww sweetheart, i think we've all been there, don't be hard on yourself.... time to walk away and be treated how you should be x Yes! Be kind to yourself. Self-awareness is a great thing, there is always the possibility of change"
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"Aww sweetheart, i think we've all been there, don't be hard on yourself.... time to walk away and be treated how you should be x Yes! Be kind to yourself. Self-awareness is a great thing, there is always the possibility of change
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"I need the back story please. Together for 3 years, split in July, got back together after that. Split again at Christmas. Then I thought we were back together, but he said very bluntly that we weren't. Left feeling hurt and used. Which is understandable. Delete everything you have of him from your life. Block everywhere he can contact you on. He no longer exists. He has so much crap here. Been using me as a free storage centre I think. 2 motorbikes, his ex wife's washing machine, half a kitchen. Sell it I can't do that. I'm not a bitch. How is it being bitchy? It's no more than treating him like he'd treat you if the roles were reversed. He wouldn't do that either. Just not that kind of people. Not the kind of person to sell your crap if you'd left it, but the kind of person to use you emotionally and sexually Under a pretense. What a shame you think that's OK compared to selling his stuff." I'm with Elpis on this | |||
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"Aww sweetheart, i think we've all been there, don't be hard on yourself.... time to walk away and be treated how you should be x Yes! Be kind to yourself. Self-awareness is a great thing, there is always the possibility of change
Don’t beat yourself up. You’re human. And if you make the same mistake again so what
Then you made the same mistake again, you id**t"I KNOW LOL | |||
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"Aww sweetheart, i think we've all been there, don't be hard on yourself.... time to walk away and be treated how you should be x Yes! Be kind to yourself. Self-awareness is a great thing, there is always the possibility of change
Don’t beat yourself up. You’re human. And if you make the same mistake again so what
Then you made the same mistake again, you id**t"I'm missing the part where this is the end of the world. OP suggests she is aware that things won't change but there was clearly something on each occasion that lead to thinking that change might be apparent. Some peoples nature is to be forgiving and see the best in everyone and wanna change people. It's commendable, although exhausting and foolhardy to most. Unfortunately manipulators are better at manipulating than most people are at seeing through the lies and deceit | |||
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