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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently been chatting to one of my lovely female friends on here about this topic. We’ve both experienced ‘the ghost’ in the past, from guys.

Just wondering if women/couples do this to guys too?

Interested to hear your experiences.

Fyi, I find it very fucking annoying!

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

If I knew what was I would tell you

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I get it all the time, don't worry about it, the norm on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do.

Chat for ages, form a bond, wake up one morning and they’ve vanished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if someone pisses me off I let them know. Going quietly (ghosting) is not my style.

I’ve only experienced it once and that was someone i’d been on a few dates with. Was quite upsetting at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, if someone pisses me off I let them know. Going quietly (ghosting) is not my style.

I’ve only experienced it once and that was someone i’d been on a few dates with. Was quite upsetting at the time."

Yeah, I can imagine how it would be. Especially when you’ve met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya it happens... thankfully havent met anyone before its happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it with someone who I was submissive to. Have to say it fucked me over for ages. Initially worried he might have died! Lol

Then I came to the realisation he had just vanished. Eventually (over 6months later) popped back up on here claiming to have been mugged of his phone and couldn't contact me! BOLLOCKS

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Ghosting, breadcrumbing etc always happens in this internet day and age, especially on here. It’s sadly part and parcel of life. You live and learn though and don’t let it put you off fab or dating out in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently been chatting to one of my lovely female friends on here about this topic. We’ve both experienced ‘the ghost’ in the past, from guys.

Just wondering if women/couples do this to guys too?

Interested to hear your experiences.

Fyi, I find it very fucking annoying! "

Seems to happen to me quite a bit OP...not sure why, maybe it’s me haha

After all I am the common denominator

But at this point I’ve given up wondering...as I figure it’s not my lose

MrsK x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had it with someone who I was submissive to. Have to say it fucked me over for ages. Initially worried he might have died! Lol

Then I came to the realisation he had just vanished. Eventually (over 6months later) popped back up on here claiming to have been mugged of his phone and couldn't contact me! BOLLOCKS

"

The lies are kind of hilarious!

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Some people over react to somebody going quiet...

I did go a little quiet for a while last year when I got diagnosed with cancer...

When I did eventually log back in, someone who I had been chatting with a lot and met on a couple of occasions, got real pissy with me, sent a ranting message and blocked me..

At the time it was a little upsetting but then I wasn't in a good place... Guys hospital mainly, really not a good place to be...

There are circumstances that may cause people to go a little quiet, surprisingly, real life does get in the way on the odd occasion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going through it now, just putting it down to experience, shrugging my shoulders and moving on.

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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago

Bury

I’ve had few winks then when I send a message they leave the message unread and never reply. Why fucking send the wink then??!!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I’ve had few winks then when I send a message they leave the message unread and never reply. Why fucking send the wink then??!!"

That's not the same as ghosting. Maybe they didn't like the message you sent.

I've never been ghosted or ghosted someone but I can see how it might happen. I would just take it that they'd moved on, and do the same.

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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago

Bury


"I’ve had few winks then when I send a message they leave the message unread and never reply. Why fucking send the wink then??!!

That's not the same as ghosting. Maybe they didn't like the message you sent.

I've never been ghosted or ghosted someone but I can see how it might happen. I would just take it that they'd moved on, and do the same. "

Yeah, I’m aware of that. As for the messages, if a short “Hi how are you doing thanks for the wink” or similar is a turn off then WTF do people expect to a wink?

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yeah happens all too often form and bound and friendship able to be open with each then one morning boom no reply and then the eventual block with no explanation.

Wouldn't worry about part of the fab experience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I be the resident exorcist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never do it, purely because I know how fucking terrible it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. No idea why.

People change. Just gotta move on.

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I once ghosted a girl because she asked me to beat up her ex boyfriend. I dont know what she thought of me by looking at my pics but I'm no Tyson! She could of picked someone bigger

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Best form of defence is attack bloody lying ass hole...so yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once ghosted a girl because she asked me to beat up her ex boyfriend. I dont know what she thought of me by looking at my pics but I'm no Tyson! She could of picked someone bigger "

That’s not ghosting, that’s just being sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people over react to somebody going quiet...

I did go a little quiet for a while last year when I got diagnosed with cancer...

When I did eventually log back in, someone who I had been chatting with a lot and met on a couple of occasions, got real pissy with me, sent a ranting message and blocked me..

At the time it was a little upsetting but then I wasn't in a good place... Guys hospital mainly, really not a good place to be...

There are circumstances that may cause people to go a little quiet, surprisingly, real life does get in the way on the odd occasion..."

people who have no life beyond fab or whose world revolves entirely around themselves don't seem to get this....

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By *nfinitylandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I once ghosted a girl because she asked me to beat up her ex boyfriend. I dont know what she thought of me by looking at my pics but I'm no Tyson! She could of picked someone bigger

That’s not ghosting, that’s just being sensible "

First time I've been called sensible. I'll treasure that forever.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Yeah some women do it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time with women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once ghosted a girl because she asked me to beat up her ex boyfriend. I dont know what she thought of me by looking at my pics but I'm no Tyson! She could of picked someone bigger

That’s not ghosting, that’s just being sensible

First time I've been called sensible. I'll treasure that forever."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have uffred ghosting on a few occasions... either felt uncomfortable or pleased afterwards.

the "tardis" act does lead to a bit of paranoid..

Even worse, received a message after being on cam that my cam had been streamed to social media!!!

That was from a ghost and very off-putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcoming to 2018 ghosting and breaking up by text messaging is the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP I’m back from my break, yes I find ghosting particularly annoying

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Mother fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats Ghosting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats Ghosting?"

I thought it was a new craze where the guy puts on a white sheet with eye holes cut in it (like the latest Ikea ad) then jumps out and puts the willies up you?? I could be wrong though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ghost the 7th person on my friends list every 7th of July.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Whats Ghosting?

I thought it was a new craze where the guy puts on a white sheet with eye holes cut in it (like the latest Ikea ad) then jumps out and puts the willies up you?? I could be wrong though "

Aaw that would be so much better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats Ghosting?

I thought it was a new craze where the guy puts on a white sheet with eye holes cut in it (like the latest Ikea ad) then jumps out and puts the willies up you?? I could be wrong though "

It’s where someone just ignores messages and doesn’t reply until you get the message they are not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey OP I’m back from my break, yes I find ghosting particularly annoying "

Do you? You never said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey OP I’m back from my break, yes I find ghosting particularly annoying

Do you? You never said! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've had this, very annoying - especially when you get on so well... At least you thought you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people do it both men and women for various reasons. Some do it without knowing they have (been accused of this ) And some do it because it easier than explaining to the other person. It can massively suck, but life goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I haven't done it. I'm only just getting that hang of not pestering people

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By *ucy83SOWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

It’s happended to me a couple of times recently, and I hate it. I hate loose ends in my life and I’d much rather someone say “not into this any more” as I can then shut the book and move on.....ghosting messes with my head a bit and takes me a while to get over as I over think things.

Guess I just need a thicker skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens usually I’f they think that the other person is developing feelings they just panic and vamos. Or they think the other person might impact future meets they cut all ties. It’s just the nature of the site wouldn’t take it personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats Ghosting?

I thought it was a new craze where the guy puts on a white sheet with eye holes cut in it (like the latest Ikea ad) then jumps out and puts the willies up you?? I could be wrong though "

That sounds a bit ghoulish

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I've had this, very annoying - especially when you get on so well... At least you thought you did. "

Aye, I’ve had it in the past where I’ve gotten on with someone really well.

Good to know that women do it too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do couples ghost?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Its happens so many times that its almost normal, I hate it....

I have never ghosted on my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't experienced it but I've probably been mutually involved... there have been those where we've just kinda stopped. I haven't bothered. Neither have they. Mutual ghosting? Is this a thing,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I've had this, very annoying - especially when you get on so well... At least you thought you did.

Aye, I’ve had it in the past where I’ve gotten on with someone really well.

Good to know that women do it too! "

They do indeed, only happened twice but that's 2 times too many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ghosting just happens everywhere - I think its coz people loose interest or just get enticed by someone else. I kinda feel that in this day and age due to social media contact people dont actually create a proper bond (easier to ghost when its online than when you physically meet someone).

I find it so rude and infuriating, if you cant be arsed with chatting or arent interested , then just say.

Zombieing is just as annoying

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife

It's doesn't leave a nice feeling inside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a fantasy world,and as such should be treated.

Isn't this supposed to be nsa swinger site ??

Surely we are allowed to disappear for a while without having to give an explanation.

#getalifeoutsideoffab

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It’s happened to me a couple of times .. a bit disconcerting for us single ladies who are also safety conscious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is a fantasy world,and as such should be treated.

Isn't this supposed to be nsa swinger site ??

Surely we are allowed to disappear for a while without having to give an explanation.

#getalifeoutsideoffab

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't experienced it but I've probably been mutually involved... there have been those where we've just kinda stopped. I haven't bothered. Neither have they. Mutual ghosting? Is this a thing,"

I've had that a lot of times. If the will was there one of us would have bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone from here did it I wouldn't give a second's thought to it.

If my LTP did it I would worry at first, in case something had happened to him, then I would be a bit sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per previous posters I think it's been a mutual thing. Neither of us were pushed to make the effort in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't experienced it but I've probably been mutually involved... there have been those where we've just kinda stopped. I haven't bothered. Neither have they. Mutual ghosting? Is this a thing,

I've had that a lot of times. If the will was there one of us would have bothered. "

Yeah exactly!:

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Have done in the past if I felt they were getting a bit clingy or if Ive felt myself feeling a bit too involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it only really counts as ghosting if you've actually met the person a few times and would normally have regular contact with them. It's ghosting if that person suddenly decides they no longer want to return your messages or see you again.

Just exchanging a few messages on here and then them dissapearing I don't think that really counts as anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it only really counts as ghosting if you've actually met the person a few times and would normally have regular contact with them. It's ghosting if that person suddenly decides they no longer want to return your messages or see you again.

Just exchanging a few messages on here and then them dissapearing I don't think that really counts as anything. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ghosting just happens everywhere - I think its coz people loose interest or just get enticed by someone else. I kinda feel that in this day and age due to social media contact people dont actually create a proper bond (easier to ghost when its online than when you physically meet someone).

I find it so rude and infuriating, if you cant be arsed with chatting or arent interested , then just say.

Zombieing is just as annoying"

I agree if there enticed by some one else then just be polite and say your not interested...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ghosting just happens everywhere - I think its coz people loose interest or just get enticed by someone else. I kinda feel that in this day and age due to social media contact people dont actually create a proper bond (easier to ghost when its online than when you physically meet someone).

I find it so rude and infuriating, if you cant be arsed with chatting or arent interested , then just say.

Zombieing is just as annoying"

What is Zombieing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ghosting just happens everywhere - I think its coz people loose interest or just get enticed by someone else. I kinda feel that in this day and age due to social media contact people dont actually create a proper bond (easier to ghost when its online than when you physically meet someone).

I find it so rude and infuriating, if you cant be arsed with chatting or arent interested , then just say.

Zombieing is just as annoying

What is Zombieing ? "

Thats when someone ghosts you then months later gets back in touch and basically acts like nothings happened .

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