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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Incel

Is not a word I have ever heard before, but when I read the BBC article about the possible reasons behind the Ram Raid in Canada caused by Alek Minassian, I will admit my thoughts did automatically fall back to FAB and some of the recent threads started by 'some' men that clearly show their frustrations about their lack of success and how they come across as self entitled to sex purely because they have joined a website made me think, is this a movement by modern day young men?

Has their thought process been skewed by watching porn?

The 'Rebellion Movement' has also been linked to thinking that r*ape should be a just cause because 'women are deemed' inferior'

If this is the case is this something we should worry about becoming wider spread?

Reading about it all did certainly make me do a double take on some of the thinking of young men of this era and is this set to become worse?

What are your thoughts?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My thoughts are almost exclusively sexualised when I look at naked women photos but (curse this bisexuality!) have a tendency to sneer at other people’s decor

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do think porn has a lot to do with it and the fact they are socially inept. Ive seen threads and status's with such things as "looking for a pussy to pound" "shag now" or simply sending a message saying "fuck". Are these guys succesful? Obviously not. They dont have two brain cells to rub together

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Instant gratification through a lifetime of the internet can skew some men’s ideas and create a non realistic level of expectation. Then, when their expectations are not met, they can’t cope with the rejection, don’t have the emotional intelligence to think about it objectively and so throw a tantrum. There was an example just yesterday. Men often think with their small heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s another facet of the entitled snowflake generation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instant gratification through a lifetime of the internet can skew some men’s ideas and create a non realistic level of expectation. Then, when their expectations are not met, they can’t cope with the rejection, don’t have the emotional intelligence to think about it objectively and so throw a tantrum. There was an example just yesterday. Men often think with their small heads. "

This is skewing off in another direction, given the OP’s example and such, but in the interests of balanced discussion (yeah, I know, it’s fabs) unrealistic expectations, a misguided sense of entitlement, is not exclusive to males.

The Kardashian effect, has a lot to answer for.

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Instant gratification through a lifetime of the internet can skew some men’s ideas and create a non realistic level of expectation. Then, when their expectations are not met, they can’t cope with the rejection, don’t have the emotional intelligence to think about it objectively and so throw a tantrum. There was an example just yesterday. Men often think with their small heads. "

That was my thought, but the man I was thinking about on here from yesterday was not a youngster!

But unfortunately his is not the only example of late, and that is what I thought was scary, is this 'thought process' actually a real thing! Will it continue to worsen?

Do sites like this make their 'skewed judgements worse'

Or is there a way to tackle this before it becomes more heightened?

I was shocked to be honest about the experts view in trying to understand why this tragedy happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the guy kills folk because he cant get laid

plenty brothels about or he could try actually going out the old fashoned way what a wierd excuse the freak no sympathy at all for the little fraggle i got family in toronto

Hell he wont have to worry about sex now im sure a big butch guy will take him under his wing

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"So the guy kills folk because he cant get laid

plenty brothels about or he could try actually going out the old fashoned way what a wierd excuse the freak no sympathy at all for the little fraggle i got family in toronto

Hell he wont have to worry about sex now im sure a big butch guy will take him under his wing"

The thing I was alluding to is that he was following the thought process of a previous mass murderer not that this was a one time act, so is this going to become a thing?

About how frustrated young men vent their anger at society?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men are bad, there are lots more lovely, normal ones who don’t treat others like sexual objects than those who see porn as being how sex should be.

Fab isn’t a true representation of the sexual proclivities of the general population anyway. Plus some on here, just say anything to get a reaction. Whether it is good or bad.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"So the guy kills folk because he cant get laid

plenty brothels about or he could try actually going out the old fashoned way what a wierd excuse the freak no sympathy at all for the little fraggle i got family in toronto

Hell he wont have to worry about sex now im sure a big butch guy will take him under his wing

The thing I was alluding to is that he was following the thought process of a previous mass murderer not that this was a one time act, so is this going to become a thing?

About how frustrated young men vent their anger at society? "

I’d say that’s probably a fair comment - the younger generation certainly seem to think they should be afforded ‘rights’ as a given that a mature generation would have never considered! Yes I do believe the internet has a lot to answer for

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If 'incel' is going to be a reason for crime, terror and abuse then we should expect this from women too. I'm often 'incel' and had 14 years when twelve of those were involuntary.

The thing that I read about Minassian was that he is described as "impressionable and socially awkward". Those are the reasons he couldn't get sex but I think their anger at men who can get sex and women for not giving them sex are rooted in their lack of self-esteem. The interweb makes it easier to find others like them and those that like to stir things up. If you're impressionable then being influenced by the stirrers is bound to happen.

I was reading a report last year that stated that about 30% of young men (24-30) felt feminism had gone too far and it was time for men to take back control and put women 'back in their place'. I'd hoped that young men would not have such outmoded ideas but there is stubborn strain that persists.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not all men are bad, there are lots more lovely, normal ones who don’t treat others like sexual objects than those who see porn as being how sex should be.

Fab isn’t a true representation of the sexual proclivities of the general population anyway. Plus some on here, just say anything to get a reaction. Whether it is good or bad.

"

Absolutely right.

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"If 'incel' is going to be a reason for crime, terror and abuse then we should expect this from women too. I'm often 'incel' and had 14 years when twelve of those were involuntary.

The thing that I read about Minassian was that he is described as "impressionable and socially awkward". Those are the reasons he couldn't get sex but I think their anger at men who can get sex and women for not giving them sex are rooted in their lack of self-esteem. The interweb makes it easier to find others like them and those that like to stir things up. If you're impressionable then being influenced by the stirrers is bound to happen.

I was reading a report last year that stated that about 30% of young men (24-30) felt feminism had gone too far and it was time for men to take back control and put women 'back in their place'. I'd hoped that young men would not have such outmoded ideas but there is stubborn strain that persists.

"

That is a worrying statistic that 1/3 (nearly) of young men still have this view in this day and age! And I have no idea how this view can be changed! Do you?

Is it porn? Is it men thinking they have got away with it for so long that they don't like being challenged?

Is it a genuine view or one past down from their fathers? And will continue to do so? Like I said at the beginning of my post, it is not a term or descriptive I have ever heard before so is this a new thing? Or one I have just been naïve about (even though that is a word I would never use to describe myself)

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If 'incel' is going to be a reason for crime, terror and abuse then we should expect this from women too. I'm often 'incel' and had 14 years when twelve of those were involuntary.

The thing that I read about Minassian was that he is described as "impressionable and socially awkward". Those are the reasons he couldn't get sex but I think their anger at men who can get sex and women for not giving them sex are rooted in their lack of self-esteem. The interweb makes it easier to find others like them and those that like to stir things up. If you're impressionable then being influenced by the stirrers is bound to happen.

I was reading a report last year that stated that about 30% of young men (24-30) felt feminism had gone too far and it was time for men to take back control and put women 'back in their place'. I'd hoped that young men would not have such outmoded ideas but there is stubborn strain that persists.

That is a worrying statistic that 1/3 (nearly) of young men still have this view in this day and age! And I have no idea how this view can be changed! Do you?

Is it porn? Is it men thinking they have got away with it for so long that they don't like being challenged?

Is it a genuine view or one past down from their fathers? And will continue to do so? Like I said at the beginning of my post, it is not a term or descriptive I have ever heard before so is this a new thing? Or one I have just been naïve about (even though that is a word I would never use to describe myself) "

Have a look at the Fawcett Society's report.

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"If 'incel' is going to be a reason for crime, terror and abuse then we should expect this from women too. I'm often 'incel' and had 14 years when twelve of those were involuntary.

The thing that I read about Minassian was that he is described as "impressionable and socially awkward". Those are the reasons he couldn't get sex but I think their anger at men who can get sex and women for not giving them sex are rooted in their lack of self-esteem. The interweb makes it easier to find others like them and those that like to stir things up. If you're impressionable then being influenced by the stirrers is bound to happen.

I was reading a report last year that stated that about 30% of young men (24-30) felt feminism had gone too far and it was time for men to take back control and put women 'back in their place'. I'd hoped that young men would not have such outmoded ideas but there is stubborn strain that persists.

That is a worrying statistic that 1/3 (nearly) of young men still have this view in this day and age! And I have no idea how this view can be changed! Do you?

Is it porn? Is it men thinking they have got away with it for so long that they don't like being challenged?

Is it a genuine view or one past down from their fathers? And will continue to do so? Like I said at the beginning of my post, it is not a term or descriptive I have ever heard before so is this a new thing? Or one I have just been naïve about (even though that is a word I would never use to describe myself)

Have a look at the Fawcett Society's report.

"

I will do, thanks

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By *oxy_minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit, I am surprised at how unpopular this thread is, surprised or disappointed I am not sure which one is the greatest but such is life

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I will admit, I am surprised at how unpopular this thread is, surprised or disappointed I am not sure which one is the greatest but such is life "

I think there's a football thing on.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

It's another worrying trend that someone thinks the way to air their 'grievance' is to mow down innocent people..

It sadly looks that most of his victims were women..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have to say what you watch and how you act are completely separate and in no way correlate with one another (GENERALLY). I watch porn and even when I was 16 or 18 I never once acted in relation to what I had seen on the internet, regardless of porn or other sexist opinions of dominance or inferiority.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I'd have to say what you watch and how you act are completely separate and in no way correlate with one another (GENERALLY). I watch porn and even when I was 16 or 18 I never once acted in relation to what I had seen on the internet, regardless of porn or other sexist opinions of dominance or inferiority.

"

But would you be described as 'impressionable'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have to say what you watch and how you act are completely separate and in no way correlate with one another (GENERALLY). I watch porn and even when I was 16 or 18 I never once acted in relation to what I had seen on the internet, regardless of porn or other sexist opinions of dominance or inferiority.

But would you be described as 'impressionable'? "

Questionable haha, but I get your point there

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