FabSwingers.com forum: Decisions, decisions

By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

How do you make decisions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toss a coin

Then ask the wife lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the wife, it's easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about the options. Continually. Over and over. Weigh up the options. Make up my mind. Change my mind. Start the process again.

I'm a bit indecisive. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually the first idea that pops into my head

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Toss a coin

Then ask the wife lol x "

I have a coin but no wife.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ask the wife, it's easier. "

May I ask your wife?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Think about the options. Continually. Over and over. Weigh up the options. Make up my mind. Change my mind. Start the process again.

I'm a bit indecisive. Sorry.

How do you manage to get dressed every day?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Usually the first idea that pops into my head "

No regrets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how do I make decisions?... terribly !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what its for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If In doubt I like to use...

What would Bart Simpson do ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think about the options. Continually. Over and over. Weigh up the options. Make up my mind. Change my mind. Start the process again.

I'm a bit indecisive. Sorry.

How do you manage to get dressed every day?

Sometimes I don't.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Depends if I am at work I make command decisions and stick by them, if at home I make command decisions and then ask the Mrs if it is ok

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I usually don't tend to consciously think about and let my unconscious do the work- anwer pops up after a while by itself

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"how do I make decisions?... terribly !!"

The decisions are terrible or the process is terrible?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Depends what its for "

Shoes or trainers?

New job or no job?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How do you make decisions?

I don't, and then the opportunity has sailed.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I usually don't tend to consciously think about and let my unconscious do the work- anwer pops up after a while by itself

Even for time critical/immediate decisions?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"How do you make decisions?

I don't, and then the opportunity has sailed. "

Isn't that a decision in itself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As best I can. With anxiety but determination. Using comfortable habit where possible. Acknowledging that change comes with fear. With support and encouragement where possible. But mostly on my own with an underlying feeling of melancholy.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"As best I can. With anxiety but determination. Using comfortable habit where possible. Acknowledging that change comes with fear. With support and encouragement where possible. But mostly on my own with an underlying feeling of melancholy."

Eek! I really hope not every decision faced on your own has an underlying feeling of melancholy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a whole lot of analysis

Ever tried just tossing a coin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't even decide how I make decisions I'm that bad at making them. I mull over everything.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I usually don't tend to consciously think about and let my unconscious do the work- anwer pops up after a while by itself

Even for time critical/immediate decisions?

I am very much a gut feeling person. time critical- still gut feeling and not allowing myself to let fear interfear with it. do it and remember that you might have been afraid of it afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm buying clothing or shoes I buy the first thing or pair that I like. I can't look around in case something else turns up I like more.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I couldn't even decide how I make decisions I'm that bad at making them. I mull over everything. "

And yet... I know you make them.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

I make decisions based on is it long term or short, time or money.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I make decisions based on is it long term or short, time or money."

You have criteria for each?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"How do you make decisions?

I don't, and then the opportunity has sailed.

Isn't that a decision in itself?

Nope, I sit there going shall I shan't I? Shall I, shan't I?

Before I know it, I think I will... then look at the clock and do the maths. Ahhhh.... too late.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I just make the decision.

Then think about the options for longer than I should.

Then go with what I first decided on.

A bit like shopping really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toss a coin sometimes, guess that way I abdicate responsibility.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not good at making decisions i get others to do it for me

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Always toss a coin.

I've made some of the most important choices of my life based on heads or tails.

It's not always ended well.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I check whether i have really decided already - if not, i review the pros and cons of the choices and their costs, plus how much i may want them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask my 8 ball everything. Never goes wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my gut. It rarely steers me wrong.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"How do you make decisions?

As quickly as possible. That is after deciding how important the decision is, now that could take some time.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

"I make decisions based on is it long term or short, time or money.

You have criteria for each?

A bit analytical about my thinking.

time/money, heavily depend on you saying yes or no, by being decisive and carefully choosing what you spend your time on not to say don't enjoy your time but the 80/20 rule comes in handy. I work and think with the mindset of time is much more valuable than money. Anything that wants to waste my time like some people on fab immediately I will put a stop to that.

At the end of the day a yes, is a yes, a no is a no and no answer is also a no.

If I am going to do something I will factor in the pros and cons - am I going to regret so and so, what is the circumstance if yes for how long short-term or long-term.

short-term decisions and changes can be rectified if all fail within a year to 5 tears.

long-term, however, are life-changing decisions could cost you a lifetime of worries and pain so no or think very carefully before taking that step and think what does it mean to me?

My criteria are basically short-term, long-term, time, money. Temporary or permanent.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Mull. Ruminate. Think about it swimming laps. Avoid it for a length of time and then make a snap decision!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with my gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If You're a guy... get a wife... you'll never make a choice again! Ok, I'm not married... but I've heard its true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consult my horoscope and my psychic.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Consult my horoscope and my psychic. "

I'd have thought you read the tea leaves.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Consult my horoscope and my psychic.

I'd have thought you read the tea leaves....."

I'm slightly annoyed I didn't think of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you make decisions?

Depends on what the decision is about...if its personal tend to go with gut/heart...if its professional then pros/cons list...if its financial then in depth financial analysis

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By *esireXposedMan
over a year ago

East sussex

I would look at the positives the negatives, weight it all up, sit with it for a while, and if it still feels right in a day or so go with it.

Which is how I lost my driving license!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I toss a coin. You do then have to go with the coin. Thems the rules.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"How do you make decisions?

Badly

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Consult my horoscope and my psychic.

I'd have thought you read the tea leaves.....

I'm slightly annoyed I didn't think of that "

No need to thank me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write down the choices with positives and negatives choose the best looking one

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

With my big gut.

It's rarely let me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weigh things up....

Pros cons etc

Failing that my gut.

The trouble being a libran is it's bloody hard to make decisions sometimes

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I think with my head and ignore my heart.

Then I scrap that and think with my heart and not my head.

Then I just swear a bit and go for the spur of the moment feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fortune telling fish that you get in Christmas crackers

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"How do you make decisions?

If it's only a choice of 2 things then I just toss a coin and let the fates decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you make decisions?

I make a rash decision at the last minute! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To paraphrase Gigerenzer: The quest of certainty is a deep human desire. Therefore, I usually try to weigh the pros and the cons of any situation and if I can assess all the risks, I follow up a logical reasoning.

But unfortunately, not every situation is that simple and most of things are uncertaint so I use my intuition and smart rules of thumb.

Hopes that helps

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"How do you make decisions?

I tend to think; "what would the Lone Ranger do?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you make decisions?

I tend to think; "what would the Lone Ranger do?""

Thank God...for a moment there I thought you were going to say Kanye...phew!!!

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Consult my horoscope and my psychic.

I'd have thought you read the tea leaves.....

I'm slightly annoyed I didn't think of that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how do I make decisions?... terribly !!

The decisions are terrible or the process is terrible?

usually the process is well thought through but then the decision is wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm rather impulsive, I make my mind up fairly quickly and go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider options, research, make list of pros and cons, then ignore all of this and go with my gut .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Consider options, research, make list of pros and cons, then ignore all of this and go with my gut .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make the decision , have a chat with myself , change my mind then refer to my first decision , which my gut is telling me is the right way to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be indecisive but I’m not so sure now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weigh up the pros and cons, discuss with trusted friends and then sleep on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you make decisions?

Incredibly slowly, with plenty of anxiety, until I get to the point of "fuck it".

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