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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont do serious often but im annoyed by the promotion of non competition for kids.

I think it could be dangerous to our future if kids dont strive to be the best at what they do and are just happy to just join in as most kids will try compete naturally but are being told they cant is competition such a bad thing when trying to stand out from the crowd is natural to lots of people im not just talking sport but the brainy stuff too.

Just a question not a rant

Is competition bad brainy folks help me out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No takers?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I've never noticed kids being told they can't compete - they still have sports day and inter-school matches.

Maybe it goes on in some places, but I'm willing to bet its a slight distortion of the truth put about by the "political correctness gone mad" brigade, who actively seek things to be outraged about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our examination grading system has certainly been through the "political correctness" wringer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not really found this to be the case in my years of parenting, certainly not to the extent portrayed in the media. My children all have houses at school so they compete as groups and individually, and as pupils they are all encouraged to achieve their potential whatever their academic level. The classes and groups they attend outside of school also have events with clear winners.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our examination grading system has certainly been through the "political correctness" wringer."

How are exam grades politically correct?

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Non competitive sports for kids annoys me. Even the traditional sports days at some schools has changed to being non competitive.

My son plays footy and it’s only since he got to under 12s that it got competitive with points for wins etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an increasingly overweight and obese population. Personally I'd rather see kids taught that exercise and spirt is fun rather than it be a competition all the time where all the matters is winning. I still remember and hate every single PE teacher I had at school, it's a fucking horrible experience if you are shit at team sports.

Which isn't to say competition doesn't have it's place, of course it does. But it should never be the sole focus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our examination grading system has certainly been through the "political correctness" wringer.

How are exam grades politically correct?"

Politicians quest for everybody to pass with high grades rather than be graded on the Bell Curve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its nothing to do with being non competitive. It can also be the opposite. The Uber competitive offspring of pushy parents, can put off those who aren’t quite as good. It’s peers who can have more influence than schools or society. If someone constantly doesn’t get picked for a team, they start thinking why bother. So I’m for inclusion rather than competition.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The kids I know best have had competition in just about every part of their schooling. Whole classes competing with the others for extra play time. Grading in academic subjects. Competitive sports days.

Then they add it to their own pursuits. Learning to lose and learning to win with dignity are important lessons.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Hmmm, could get seriously entrenced here but will try not to. Parents of a very quiet child but clearly showing sporting prowess from a few years of age we encouraged the sporting ability for developing social skills reasons. What we have now is a very balanced human being who has experienced high level winning and more importantly the lessons from losing big and the emotions this has brought and how to deal with them. Luckily for them they're doing well education wise and university is an option but honestly don't think it would have been achievable without the competitiveness of the sport they were involved in because of the early exposure to the emotional side of things and how to cope in given situations. It really has given them a sound grounding for adulthood (in our opinion), which now appears to be coming to the fore.

Such a tough question because each experience is unique to the individual and the impact can vary so differently, negative for some and positive for others.

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