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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your kidding me

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No show sunday

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in."

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No show sunday"
looks like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd drink it with you and I don't even like it

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it"
Just seen your profile. And all i can say it is there bloody loss.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Stood up Thursday, had one message to tell me he was too hungover for a social last Sunday.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your kidding me "

Wish I was, makes you question the point really

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Your kidding me

Wish I was, makes you question the point really"

Not to mention the confidence knock.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Jeez, it's rife today

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By *lueWonderMan
over a year ago

Preston.....ish

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

Really??

It's people like this that spoil it for all of us genuine people that want to meet others and have a good time.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be up there like a shot lol

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Omg!

Has he disappeared? So many at this stand up malarkey.

I hope he’s just running late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I had a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend."

Alright alright don’t rub it in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to rub it in mmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez, it's rife today

Wish it was just today, it’s every meet I’ve arranged in the last month

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By *arksss69Man
over a year ago

Stevenage

It’s happening everywhere today!! Fucking annoying

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend.

Alright alright don’t rub it in

I'm honestly not meaning to, I just don't get it!

To have it happen to you once is unfortunate but understandable but for it to happen repeatedly, wtf is that about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you had something lined up. I put a meet up for tonight and had no messages at all in response

Seriously though, sorry to hear that OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend."

Same. I think it's because I'm ultra careful who I meet. None of this needing to mess about with socials so I have to be 100% right about someone. It seems to make a difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

The world's gone mad. Lots of things I don't understand on here but the no shows are top of the list.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"Your kidding me

Wish I was, makes you question the point really

Not to mention the confidence knock.

Agree with this. It really puts you off trying to meet anyone new for some time after

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it"

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha"

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!"

There's your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the harm in a meet, even if it's just for coffee & a chat?

You'll never know if you're attracted to someone unless you meet. And you'll never meet unless you get off your a*** and get out there.

I'd never turn down a chance to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!

There's your problem"

Glad I didn’t push the boat out now though

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

9 times with the same person or 9 times with different people?

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!"
You with your coffee and me with my tea. lol

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!"

That’s what I drink, but not supermarket own brand. Gotta be Nescafé or kenco or something decent lol

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

9 times with the same person or 9 times with different people?"

9 times with 6 different people

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it

I do!!! Which brand?? If it’s somthing good I’m on the way!! Haha

It’s only instant coffee, nothing special!You with your coffee and me with my tea. lol"

And I also drink PG tips tea......... 3some??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id be seriously looking at my selection process

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend.

Same. I think it's because I'm ultra careful who I meet. None of this needing to mess about with socials so I have to be 100% right about someone. It seems to make a difference.

I think I just bore the fuck out of people with inane chit chat to start with so by the time I get around to suggesting a meet I've ed out the flaky ones and only the determined are left standing."

Yes I think it's the same with me. Seems to cut out all the trauma of no shows etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup happened to me four times in 7 weeks but the ghosting is just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id be seriously looking at my selection process"

All well verified, chat for a while first. What else can I do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf is wrong with people?

That's so awful you've been stood up so many times. There must be some really pathetic people on here. Don't let it knock your confidence OP, and to those others who have been stood up recently.

Rise above it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id be seriously looking at my selection process"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never ever make plans and simply not show up.

If anything cane up that was important enough to cancel I'd always let a person know with a legitimate excuse.

Then again, I've been raised properly.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

I’d do you

#smoothtalker

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Your kidding me

Wish I was, makes you question the point really

Not to mention the confidence knock.

Agree with this. It really puts you off trying to meet anyone new for some time after

Yep. I like to think I'm pretty thorough in the making sure they ain't fake malarkey. No, not fake, had video chats the lot. Just no show, no apology, nothing. Wasted money on hair dye and new razor blades too. Doesn't seem much but it is when you don't have much and are praying for payday to wriggle on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had it done to today also. So you are not alone. I even got t bags in.

I bought coffee, I don’t even drink it"
I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No show sunday"

It really is

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"No show sunday

It really is"

I think there’s been at least 3 or 4 threads along the same lines today

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

9 times with the same person or 9 times with different people?

9 times with 6 different people"

Ouch! Sorry to hear that.

I very rarely give second chances and definitely never thirds x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op. Do you give them wank material beforehand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op. Do you give them wank material beforehand"

No x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Op. Do you give them wank material beforehand

No x"

A little tease will get them gagging for more

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

True Ruby , but it is a shame there isnt a way to leave negative feedback ,like ebay and tripadvisor, we have been on here for years and on the whole has been great, and we feel that we can usually sniff out a bullshitter, but we were caught out yesterday,and still feeling pretty miffed, move on.. yes we will but still pisses you off that someone intentionaly messes up your day with no recourse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Come on, spit it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scared to post now lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s so fucking annoying, I’ve had some great meets on here but just recently all no shows...

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I think there would be a lot of objections but I would be all for an enhanced verification/feedback system, if it worked fairly.

I would also be happy to pay more for fab to give a better user experience but I know how unpopular that is on here.

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

we are the same,put in the effort,sort out your life,fun of the anticiaption, only to find out its a all lies and they were never even on there way even, even though they sent a text to say they were, then bloocked everthing and what can you do... nothing, and they will do exactly the same to another couple ....

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By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True Ruby , but it is a shame there isnt a way to leave negative feedback ,like ebay and tripadvisor, we have been on here for years and on the whole has been great, and we feel that we can usually sniff out a bullshitter, but we were caught out yesterday,and still feeling pretty miffed, move on.. yes we will but still pisses you off that someone intentionaly messes up your day with no recourse... "

But that would be so open to missuse. I could leave negative feedback saying I met you and you were really smelly people and totally crap in bed (I'm sure you're neither), but see my point?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just messaged to say he’s not coming! At least he was polite enough to do that. Now I can go on with my night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But that would be so open to missuse. I could leave negative feedback saying I met you and you were really smelly people and totally crap in bed (I'm sure you're neither), but see my point?"

Agree, Ruby

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"It’s so fucking annoying, I’ve had some great meets on here but just recently all no shows..."

Not everyone is like it but you’ve obviously picked the wrong ones recently. I can, hand on heart say, I’ve never stood anyone up. I get nervous as hell, obviously - will they like me, will they actually be there etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s so fucking annoying, I’ve had some great meets on here but just recently all no shows...

I always get nervous, but I’m where I said I’ll be when I said I’d be there. Shit happens though, just needed to get it off my chest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s such a shame, I’m sorry to hear that.

Meets aren’t that easy to come by so wouldn’t be standing anyone up. If it all falls apart at least there’s a good coffee in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I buy you a drink one day ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I officially give up as well!

As I'm on the forums I constantly see men moaning they can't get meets - I must be picking the wrong ones because I've been blown out again too

I feel shit now.

I can't help but think it's because I'm overweight and they've had a better option.

Time for a Fab break again maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"May I buy you a drink one day ? "

Mine’s an archers and lemonade, because I’m secretly 70 years old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 in a row

Fuckin loosers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I officially give up as well!

As I'm on the forums I constantly see men moaning they can't get meets - I must be picking the wrong ones because I've been blown out again too

I feel shit now.

I can't help but think it's because I'm overweight and they've had a better option.

Time for a Fab break again maybe "

No way! If you lived closer you could come over for a takeaway and a bitch and we could wallow in our self pity together!!!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I officially give up as well!

As I'm on the forums I constantly see men moaning they can't get meets - I must be picking the wrong ones because I've been blown out again too

I feel shit now.

I can't help but think it's because I'm overweight and they've had a better option.

Time for a Fab break again maybe "

That’s not the case. You’re not overweight and if they’ve got a “better” option then it’s down to what they think.

Their twattish behaviour is nothing to do with what you’ve done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give tattooguy a shout he’s had a no show & he had got some tea bags in too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I officially give up as well!

As I'm on the forums I constantly see men moaning they can't get meets - I must be picking the wrong ones because I've been blown out again too

I feel shit now.

I can't help but think it's because I'm overweight and they've had a better option.

Time for a Fab break again maybe "

Do not blame yourself. Ive just browsed your profile and you're gorgeous. They probably decided you were too good for them, and rightly so. They are idiots.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I officially give up as well!

As I'm on the forums I constantly see men moaning they can't get meets - I must be picking the wrong ones because I've been blown out again too

I feel shit now.

I can't help but think it's because I'm overweight and they've had a better option.

Time for a Fab break again maybe "

You are picking wrong 'ens for sure. They must be wrong in the head, hang in there chuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"May I buy you a drink one day ?

Mine’s an archers and lemonade, because I’m secretly 70 years old"

Considered it done. But not sure of the day so I'll get baxk in touch but be sure I'll show up and we will drink a kinder bueno milkshake at the funkycow !

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Jeez, it's rife today

Wish it was just today, it’s every meet I’ve arranged in the last month"

Ok.

Once or twice could just be bad luck, but 9 times in a month?

Harsh truth time.

Maybe its your selection process?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

And just to qualify that... we have been on here nearly 10 years and never had a no show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jeez, it's rife today

Wish it was just today, it’s every meet I’ve arranged in the last month

Ok.

Once or twice could just be bad luck, but 9 times in a month?

Harsh truth time.

Maybe its your selection process?"

It’s not harsh, it probably is. I had a good run so probably got a bit cocky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"May I buy you a drink one day ?

Mine’s an archers and lemonade, because I’m secretly 70 years old

Considered it done. But not sure of the day so I'll get baxk in touch but be sure I'll show up and we will drink a kinder bueno milkshake at the funkycow ! "

I don’t do milkshakes! I’m awkward, best warn you now. If you turned up on my doorstep with a kinder bueno and then left straight away it’d still be the best interaction I’ve had on fab for a long time!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend.

Same. I think it's because I'm ultra careful who I meet. None of this needing to mess about with socials so I have to be 100% right about someone. It seems to make a difference. "

I only had a social if I had doubts, I should have gone with my gut. Socials never turned into meets. Well apart from Swing but that wasn’t a social with a meet in mind. We had an opportunity to meet the person behind the profile and took it

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

"Jeez, it's rife today

Wish it was just today, it’s every meet I’ve arranged in the last month

Ok.

Once or twice could just be bad luck, but 9 times in a month?

Harsh truth time.

Maybe its your selection process?

It’s not harsh, it probably is. I had a good run so probably got a bit cocky."

Bad luck too obviously played a part. Did you chat on phone and stuff like that first?? If I ever meet anyone I usually want it to be somewhere neutral for us both too. I’m a bit wary of turning up at someone’s house when I’ve never met them - worried they’ve given a fake address and are secretly watching and laughing at me

“Look at that ugly fatty actually thinking he had a chance with me” kind of thing. I’m sure it doesn’t happen often but it’s always in the back of my mind

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over a year ago

"May I buy you a drink one day ?

Mine’s an archers and lemonade, because I’m secretly 70 years old

Considered it done. But not sure of the day so I'll get baxk in touch but be sure I'll show up and we will drink a kinder bueno milkshake at the funkycow !

Considered it done then !

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Jeez, it's rife today

Wish it was just today, it’s every meet I’ve arranged in the last month

Ok.

Once or twice could just be bad luck, but 9 times in a month?

Harsh truth time.

Maybe its your selection process?

It’s not harsh, it probably is. I had a good run so probably got a bit cocky."

Ok, that's fair enough, but don't be too hard on yourself, and remember it really is their loss.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I honestly have no idea how this happens to people so often!?

So many people have it happen to them repeatedly but having never had it happen to me I find it hard to comprehend.

Same. I think it's because I'm ultra careful who I meet. None of this needing to mess about with socials so I have to be 100% right about someone. It seems to make a difference.

Failed to mention it never happened to me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I’m in the process of being stood up for the 9th time in a row

Awww buddy pop on some.good music and it's his loss indeed

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I kinda think this...

some of them DO think they've had a "better" offer and no show without the balls to tell you they're off to meet a proper mega fit bird.

It gives me a wry smile that she's not gonna show up for them coz she's a man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I kinda think this...

some of them DO think they've had a "better" offer and no show without the balls to tell you they're off to meet a proper mega fit bird.

It gives me a wry smile that she's not gonna show up for them coz she's a man

Hahahaha!!!!!! I love you

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