FabSwingers.com forum: Not my type

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This isn't a moan so please don't take it that way, but am interested in your thoughts

One of the nicest thanks but no thanks about, but how do you know someone is not your type, based on a profile, and without actually getting to know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat.

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By *ilthyStrumpetCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Kinda depends on the information in their profile...

Certainly possible tho!

If I message someone who's into shy, petite blondes I think it's rather evident from my profile that I'm not their type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat. "

No more to be said

Floppsy x

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat. "

This. Exactly

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

When they have aload of dick pics he ain't for me.

When he has another bird in his pics he ain't for me.

When he asks me hi do you fancy a fuck, he ain't for me.

When he says he's never been with a mixed race girl before but would love to see what it's like, he ain't for me.

I could go on lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat.

This. Exactly

Yep this again

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat.

This. Exactly

Yep this again

And again

It's all you have to go on on here OP, unless you've met someone at a group social or similar and therefore inevitably people will make judgement calls based on the tools the site provides.

You must surely have looked at profiles and decided they're not someone you'd want to message? Which is effectively you deciding they're not your type.

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By *erfect imperfectionCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

On the other hand OP we can ask you the same question, what makes you think you are someone’s type? Based on a profile only?

The profile is everything we have here and defines us. If you know to read through the lines you can say a lot about the person who wrote it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is I don’t always know if someone’s is or isn’t my type. A few are definitely my type at first glance, a lot are out of the question, and there will be some who it will be impossible to know without meeting them. But as I don’t have time to meet all those who fall in that in between ground, it’s probably easier to regard this group as ‘not my type’. And let’s face it, I’m sure we’d all rather give first refusal to those who are our type, than hope for the best with those we not so sure about. It’s a different matter if I get to know someone in a club.

Mrs

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat. "

Why was this comment not 'mic drop thread closed'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your right it is hard to judge... but a lot of the time the harsh facts are your going on a picture and the limited information you have to hand... gut feeling also comes into it... as one of the other comments said if it’s a ”might be” then often that becomes a no! It’s very superficial sadly but how these sites work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a personal thing to fancy someone. If it’s from a picture, it’s hard to explain what isn’t my type.

To do that, I’d have to understand, what my type is, and that is op, is a combination of lots of different things

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

The best rejection I received, after swapping messages for a little while, all going well up to the point she asked for a face pic, to which she replied;

"I'm not instantly attracted to you, sorry"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The best rejection I received, after swapping messages for a little while, all going well up to the point she asked for a face pic, to which she replied;

"I'm not instantly attracted to you, sorry"

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been there and had the jigsaw

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If they have pics, I can tell if I'd fancy them or not right away.

If they have a decent profile with some humour, I'd be more likely to want to try and get to know them.

Profiles with ask,fill in later etc not so much.

Profiles full of cock pics or pics of their conquests I delete,I'd know we wouldn't be compatible, as I love the chatting and social side.I find the graphic ones don't tend to want to chat much,just my experience. Miss

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

One of my

Won't meet smokers. That's fine, I respect everyone's decisions and I agree that it's a filthy habit....

But don't fucking message me to say I'm soooooo your type when I don't hide the fact I smoke on my profile!

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By *ilthyStrumpetCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

"One of my

Won't meet smokers. That's fine, I respect everyone's decisions and I agree that it's a filthy habit....

But don't fucking message me to say I'm soooooo your type when I don't hide the fact I smoke on my profile! "

Yes!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"One of my

Won't meet smokers. That's fine, I respect everyone's decisions and I agree that it's a filthy habit....

But don't fucking message me to say I'm soooooo your type when I don't hide the fact I smoke on my profile! "

Perhaps they're "Fab non-smokers"

Seriously though I can relate totally and feel the same about the "straight" guys that message me looking to meet

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"One of my

Won't meet smokers. That's fine, I respect everyone's decisions and I agree that it's a filthy habit....

But don't fucking message me to say I'm soooooo your type when I don't hide the fact I smoke on my profile!

Perhaps they're "Fab non-smokers"

Seriously though I can relate totally and feel the same about the "straight" guys that message me looking to meet "

The amount of people I've discounted on the basis of "won't meet smokers" yet apparently they "never noticed they put it on their profile"

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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre

"This isn't a moan so please don't take it that way, but am interested in your thoughts

One of the nicest thanks but no thanks about, but how do you know someone is not your type, based on a profile, and without actually getting to know someone"

Generally, if you haven’t brought any imagination to your profile, how do you expect to convince someone you can bring imagination into their bedroom...

So... If they don’t float my boat visually, I could easily be swayed by a well written, funny or interesting profile

Intelligence is sexy, so poorly written and difficult to understand messages are a turn off

Not the end of the world, especially if you’ve got banter, or a certain twinkle in your eye... but not great

That’s just my personal take on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know visually I am not everyone's cup of tea, and I accept that, not an issue, I think my profile has enough humour to show a little of my personality and what I am looking for, although I could do with some better pictures, but what you see is what you get, I am comfortable in my own skin, and am not desperate, as I said to someone a while ago, it's a marathon not a sprint, thanks for your insight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way they look, the way they present themselves on their profile, by message or on forums or chat. "

Exactly this

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A gut feeling mainly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way they come across in messages, how their profile looks, and gut feeling. I can usually tell after a first couple of messages are exchanged as to if I'm going to connect with the person or not.

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By *apillon500Couple
over a year ago

kent

It can work in reverse sometimes too ... we’ve met people at clubs, randomly not pre-arranged, and found them to be lovely, friendly peeps. You look at their profiles after and realise you wouldn’t have met them on the basis of their profile. So, you never know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can work in reverse sometimes too ... we’ve met people at clubs, randomly not pre-arranged, and found them to be lovely, friendly peeps. You look at their profiles after and realise you wouldn’t have met them on the basis of their profile. So, you never know! "

That’s me. I’ve played with men who I met at parties, when I probably wouldn’t have noticed them for on their profile. It can’t be helped though - unless I have the opportunity to meet them, I have to go on what attracts me in the profile.

Mrs

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm as shallow as fuck, if I see a face pic and it's one I don't fancy kissing then that be it, end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly the same as people judge me.

Pics.

If I see a pic and don't think "o he's nice" cute sexy or whatever then it's goodbye. Exactly the same as in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't a moan so please don't take it that way, but am interested in your thoughts

One of the nicest thanks but no thanks about, but how do you know someone is not your type, based on a profile, and without actually getting to know someone"
i get it all the time but i only make me more stronger will to for fill my real interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't a moan so please don't take it that way, but am interested in your thoughts

One of the nicest thanks but no thanks about, but how do you know someone is not your type, based on a profile, and without actually getting to know someone"

Conversely; how do people “know” someone IS there type based on a profile without actually getting to know them?

Kinda works both ways don’t you think?

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