FabSwingers.com forum: upset ladies...

By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

now I am not a stunner but fairly open in my sexuality and not shy in meet situations.

however- I have been to parties and smaller groups- and nearly every time there was at least one other lady that got upset because their partner spend too much time with me or fucked me "like he fucks me at home" quoting a lady from here.

is that normal in groups? why put yourself in a situation like this when you know you feel uncomfortable?

and no- I don't demand attention or start getting involved with people without permission and respect their boundaries.

I don't get it at times...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Maybe their partner has overstepped (unbeknownst to you) previously agreed boundaries. Perhaps they don't really want to be there at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Seen some sites in clubs that make me think who out of the couple is really into it.

Seen ladies quietly sobbing and trying to act normal and also full blown domestics.

There is a dark aspect to clubs sometimes.

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

wow, lucky both of you he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

wow, lucky both of you he he"

It’s awesome I was watching her wank as I was fucking Saturday night it was such a turn on

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

it's not even people who tried it for the first time- I could understand that as in let's give it a try and then finding out its not for them. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's not even people who tried it for the first time- I could understand that as in let's give it a try and then finding out its not for them. .."

Some insecure people will always feel threatened it’s very awkward when it does happen complete passion killer we’ve had it happen with men and women

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Shouldn't be there in the first place if their swinging rules are not thoroughly thought through. A couple not at total agreement with how situations progress or one or both who are unable to stick to the the agreement should step away from the scene, talk then decide if it's for them before inflicting their unresolved issues on others. Probably best to avoid excessive alcohol intake too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

Lucky bastard! Stop boasting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

Lucky bastard! Stop boasting!

Lmao I think you witnessed one event

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Shouldn't be there in the first place if their swinging rules are not thoroughly thought through. A couple not at total agreement with how situations progress or one or both who are unable to stick to the the agreement should step away from the scene, talk then decide if it's for them before inflicting their unresolved issues on others. Probably best to avoid excessive alcohol intake too."

exactly what I am thinking! can do a lot of damage in a relationship as well I guess...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve seen it both ways round to be honest, thankful my Mrs loves to watch me fuck in fact she has watched the last 3 weekends in the trot

Lucky bastard! Stop boasting!

Lmao I think you witnessed one event

We tried, window was far to steamy!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I have seen it happen at parties and clubs.

I've never said anything to a lady but I have had words with Dick after a party where a lady was trying to play with him without me there and that's a set rule we play together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No room for jealousy in swinging... jealous? Then swingings not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No room for jealousy in swinging... jealous? Then swingings not for you."

This

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I have seen it happen at parties and clubs.

I've never said anything to a lady but I have had words with Dick after a party where a lady was trying to play with him without me there and that's a set rule we play together.

I can imagine- if you have rules then you have to play by them. otherwise trust gets broken. I'd never try to push boundaries couples have agreed on as a single woman- but if I don't know them I can't controle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I could never be a swinger and neither do I try and claim to be one. Seeing my partner with another woman is not what I consider a turn on.

I expect most guys can put a good shift in when they're fucking another woman because their brains are wired differently. Women *usually* need a bit of a connection to have truly awesome sex so that could bring out some slight insecurities when they see their guy fucking another bird amd looks like he's having the time of his life.

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"This is why I could never be a swinger and neither do I try and claim to be one. Seeing my partner with another woman is not what I consider a turn on.

totally get that- and I suspect you wouldn't go for a group meet if that's how you feel. I just don't get couples who do this repeatedly...

I personally don't usually enjoy a duck and go because of the lack of connection but its a bit different in group situations I think.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I have seen it happen at parties and clubs.

I've never said anything to a lady but I have had words with Dick after a party where a lady was trying to play with him without me there and that's a set rule we play together.

Exactly! And you're not to blame. You're the new sought after sexual addition to the couple and the information you're given by them is absolute key but if one person in the couple isn't totally committed both of them shouldn't be playing/swinging. Sorry you've had to experience this, OP, unfortunately it seems to be too common an occurance.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"This is why I could never be a swinger and neither do I try and claim to be one. Seeing my partner with another woman is not what I consider a turn on. "

"I expect most guys can put a good shift in when they're fucking another woman because their brains are wired differently. Women *usually* need a bit of a connection to have truly awesome sex so that could bring out some slight insecurities when they see their guy fucking another bird amd looks like he's having the time of his life. "

Not all guys can or want to

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

"now I am not a stunner but fairly open in my sexuality and not shy in meet situations.

is that normal in groups? why put yourself in a situation like this when you know you feel uncomfortable?

and no- I don't demand attention or start getting involved with people without permission and respect their boundaries.

I don't get it at times..."

I run Parties and can honestly say we have never had that situation!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe their partner has overstepped (unbeknownst to you) previously agreed boundaries. Perhaps they don't really want to be there at all. "

This!

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"now I am not a stunner but fairly open in my sexuality and not shy in meet situations.

is that normal in groups? why put yourself in a situation like this when you know you feel uncomfortable?

and no- I don't demand attention or start getting involved with people without permission and respect their boundaries.

I don't get it at times...

I run Parties and can honestly say we have never had that situation!! "

sounds like i need to come to one of yours then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is what puts me off meeting couples. I don't want second rate sex because anything more will upset the wife. I want to give my all to both husband and wife, and I want the same back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I've only seen it on video, I like seeing my insignificant other fuck other women.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Although I've only seen it on video, I like seeing my insignificant other fuck other women. "

Sorry. The insignificant other comment really tickled.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

"now I am not a stunner but fairly open in my sexuality and not shy in meet situations.

is that normal in groups? why put yourself in a situation like this when you know you feel uncomfortable?

and no- I don't demand attention or start getting involved with people without permission and respect their boundaries.

I don't get it at times...

I run Parties and can honestly say we have never had that situation!!

sounds like i need to come to one of yours then

Sure hunnie come join us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seen some sites in clubs that make me think who out of the couple is really into it.

Seen ladies quietly sobbing and trying to act normal and also full blown domestics.

There is a dark aspect to clubs sometimes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen all kinds of issues with single straight girls playing with guys out of couples, best advice is speak to them BOTH, find out the limits before engaging

Lots of people have issues or limits whatever you want to call it, best to find out first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

All couples are different as are singles

To be invited into a couples bed is a big deal in my opinion. respect those rules and they should respect yours.

You can't group couples all together

Everyone is different and have different rules an boundaries

As "the extra" to a couple you should be respecful and listen. Same back to you.

If things aren't open and honest

Things go Pete tong

I've been in the middle of a couple having a row when boundaries were pushed that I was never aware of. I ended up being Jeremy Kyle offering marriage advice.

No person ever wants to be in that situation.

If you feel you are constantly causing problems with couples

I would look at yourself.

As I've met with many many couples. Never had an issue apart from one.

So if this happens every time ???

Hmmmmm maybe address yourself????

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By *appy squirrel OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Agreed

All couples are different as are singles

To be invited into a couples bed is a big deal in my opinion. respect those rules and they should respect yours.

You can't group couples all together

Everyone is different and have different rules an boundaries

As "the extra" to a couple you should be respecful and listen. Same back to you.

If things aren't open and honest

Things go Pete tong

I've been in the middle of a couple having a row when boundaries were pushed that I was never aware of. I ended up being Jeremy Kyle offering marriage advice.

No person ever wants to be in that situation.

If you feel you are constantly causing problems with couples

I would look at yourself.

As I've met with many many couples. Never had an issue apart from one.

So if this happens every time ???

Hmmmmm maybe address yourself????"

I have never met a couple so can't comment on that - difficult to arrange as I am not bi.

all my experiences have been in group situation- some as part of a couple some as single female.

I have talked to the guy who's partner I upset and asked if it has been anything I had done but he said it was more because I was the single female was simply younger than she was.

in a bigger group it wasn't only me she upset with- and her partner initiated the play. said no kissing- and I didn't.

I might goof around and enjoy myself but I am certainly not wanting to cause anyone hard feelings. believe me- I am rather reflected in what I do. at the end of the day I want to have fun and want everybody else to enjoy themselves as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine

Being part of a couple and also on solo female meets

The female needs to be happy to sit and watch

Or would expect to be involved.

Of course this should all be discussed. However I'm a group situation especially a large group scenario it can be difficult.

If you are joining a couple. Then check and ask. They should also make clear what the boundaries are

It's not fair for you to then feel upset when they haven't sorted the rules and boundaries between themselves. I've been there and it's a horrible feeling

They should never put you in that situation.

Also on the other hand if you are straight and joining a couple, this needs to be made clear. As often a couple wants to share the experience.

I don't think it's about age etc.

I'm just a year younger than you.

I think it's about boundaries.

Thata why me and my other half w joy the social side. We socialise. Make friends. Talk. And if interested. Talk about dynamics.

Then move to play.

Happy swinging

You are gorgeous. Don't let these negative experiences get you down.

Move on and enjoy the Lifestyle. Mwah xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to watch Mr fucking a female in ffm. I'm secure in myself and comfortable to let him let himself go. Not a chance in hell I would let anyone anywhere near him if I felt in anyway uncomfortable and didn't want to be there. It certainly wouldn't be the other females fault. People shouldn't be in clubs if they have issues. We all have to start somewhere and can be nervous but it's up to yourself to go at your own pace. If a female acts like that....stop play...walk away and let them deal with their own problems. Don't let it spoil your fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love to watch Mr fucking a female in ffm. I'm secure in myself and comfortable to let him let himself go. Not a chance in hell I would let anyone anywhere near him if I felt in anyway uncomfortable and didn't want to be there. It certainly wouldn't be the other females fault. People shouldn't be in clubs if they have issues. We all have to start somewhere and can be nervous but it's up to yourself to go at your own pace. If a female acts like that....stop play...walk away and let them deal with their own problems. Don't let it spoil your fun x"

I'm confused .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now I am not a stunner but fairly open in my sexuality and not shy in meet situations.

is that normal in groups? why put yourself in a situation like this when you know you feel uncomfortable?

and no- I don't demand attention or start getting involved with people without permission and respect their boundaries.

I don't get it at times..."

Why get hung up on it, its their problem not yours. Why do it for if you are going to get upset, degrees of jealousy perhaps? Not certain.

You cannot predict what is going to happen with people, but you can damn sure, you are going to hear about if it is negative!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused ......."

What's confusing you x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They shouldn't be swinging if they're that insecure. I love watching husband fuck other ladies and seeing them both enjoying each other

There's been plenty of times where he's played and I haven't, and I've been more than happy to let him go play on his own and get the details after. If both people in the couple aren't getting something out of it, then they shouldn't do it otherwise you'll get scenarios like you've experienced op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a tricky one !

I think a little bit of jealousy can be healthy sometimes. It can show that you care about someone. Most couple have rules between them and it is what makes the difference. In my opinion, sex is a very intimate act in if one does everything and anything with everyone and anyone... The essence of the intimacy invovles in sex is lost.

Yet we are all humans before and after all, so we can easily be invovled in situation when our primal instinct can override some our principles.

I get that the whole swinging scene has no place for jealousy. But safe sex is an oxymoron. Sex doesn't stop at the mechanical act of genital thrusting. For some ppl, there is much more invovled. So when that line is crossed, and it is bound to cross at some point,as mentioned above we are simply humans, jealousy will kick in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy and lack of communication is surely the culprit, and as a couple, shouldn’t they both take the blame for a problem like you’ve encountered?

Aren’t couples supposed to be absolutely solid before swinging? It sounds like the balance is well out of whack if one is happy and the other isn’t.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We have had two women get shitty and cry whilst swinging. Both times it was obvious the women were doing it to please the men. It was also quite interesting that I (Ms) stopped play not their partners !

Women need to grow a set and say no to sgarung, too many are concerned about keeping these men

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Jealousy and lack of communication is surely the culprit, and as a couple, shouldn’t they both take the blame for a problem like you’ve encountered?

Aren’t couples supposed to be absolutely solid before swinging? It sounds like the balance is well out of whack if one is happy and the other isn’t. "

Maybe not jealousy in all cases. Maybe fear, upset at being coerced etc. Otherwise yes, I agree with what you say.

We meet socially first every time and often pick up on one partner only being there because the other wants to swing. We never meet them a second time. We did get it wrong once but it became very clear during our second meet.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

We stopped going to clubs because of my jealousy. Not jealous in the way you'd think.

Himself is a clean freak. Spontaneous sex is out. We both have to shower before sex and morning sex a no no...yet in a club he'd bury his head between the legs of any woman who'd let him, even if her pussy was still steaming from the bloke before him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We stopped going to clubs because of my jealousy. Not jealous in the way you'd think.

I wouldn't call that jealousy in any way. It seems a perfectly reasonable objection.

I did lol at "steaming".

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