FabSwingers.com forum: Fab vs dating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have more luck having meets on dating sites than on here. :/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have more luck having meets on dating sites than on here. :/ "

For me the dating sites just seemed like shag sites so would rather just meet off here to be honest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would date someone from fab M or F

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?"

I guess it depends... if you have organised it as a social meet.. then no you wouldn’t expect anything... or even as a ‘just see what happens.. it might not... but if you organise what I consider to be a proper meet then yes I would expect something to happen if that’s what both people want xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?"

A social is just that as far as I’m concerned. So I don’t think it’s wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Have a search for MissCC's dating thread... you never know x

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I haven't dated in 5 yrs ..... i try every so often. Hide my fab etc but all roads lead back to fab.

It is almost like that tv show naked attraction... you can see what's there so first bits covered then it's all the rest. Sometimes it's easier that way.

I've had a few (situationships) that have arisen from fab over the last 7 yrs or so. One i fell completely in love with and would have moved to the ends of the earth for but ultimately he didn't want me so it was kinda fruitless.

I'd say just see what happens. I've never managed a date off pof/tinder etc but have met some amazing ppl from fab which have been better than awkward "vanilla" dates.

Good luck OP xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Have a search for MissCC's dating thread... you never know x"

Ok thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?

Yeh I see what you mean, don't think I could just arrange to fuck someone I'd never met but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I haven't dated in 5 yrs ..... i try every so often. Hide my fab etc but all roads lead back to fab.

It is almost like that tv show naked attraction... you can see what's there so first bits covered then it's all the rest. Sometimes it's easier that way.

I'd say just see what happens. I've never managed a date off pof/tinder etc but have met some amazing ppl from fab which have been better than awkward "vanilla" dates.

Good luck OP xx"

Thank you for the lovely message and that’s how I feel now!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you meet someone through fab you'd also like to date and that works for them too surely that's no bad thing.

Most on here also enjoy the social side of the community and that's got to be good too?

It depends on your perspective of what fab is to you I guess?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?

Yeh I see what you mean, don't think I could just arrange to fuck someone I'd never met but that's just me. "

Well yes... so maybe for you meeting first means no sex then because you want to get to know the person! We are all different and have to do what suits us!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?

Yeh I see what you mean, don't think I could just arrange to fuck someone I'd never met but that's just me.

Well yes... so maybe for you meeting first means no sex then because you want to get to know the person! We are all different and have to do what suits us!! X"

That's what I mean. On here you know what people are after. On dating sites they pretend they want to date but really they want a shag

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you meet someone through fab you'd also like to date and that works for them too surely that's no bad thing.

Most on here also enjoy the social side of the community and that's got to be good too?

It depends on your perspective of what fab is to you I guess?"

I totally agree... I look forward to being involved with the social side as well!! And as for dating someone off fab... who knows xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After a couple of months dipping my toes into dating and holding off fab meets I have decided fab is for me for the time being!!

Fed up of disappointing rubbish dates...and I feel much better for making that decision...

I think this is were I'm going wrong. I treat the first meet as a date and don't want or expect anything physical. Am I wrong?

Yeh I see what you mean, don't think I could just arrange to fuck someone I'd never met but that's just me.

Well yes... so maybe for you meeting first means no sex then because you want to get to know the person! We are all different and have to do what suits us!! X

That's what I mean. On here you know what people are after. On dating sites they pretend they want to date but really they want a shag"

Exactly!!!!! Xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

After my divorce I had no intention of getting emotionally involved with anyone again. Concentrated on my daughters and work. If I had an itch Fab et al provided what I needed.

My daughters grew up, got their degrees, married and had children and I began planning my retirement: life was good.

I got a message from someone, wasn't sexual or flirty, just a funny comment about my profile. I replied in kind, neither of us were what the other was looking for so it made the banter simply fun. We simply clicked. We then exchanged phone numbers and talked for hours each night. I discovered he was a right wing, ukip voting business owner who had never married and loathed kids. He speaks seven languages, is Dutch, lived in Belgium, Switzerland and France and only dated leggy Scandinavian types. He also looks like a cross between Bruce Willis and Jason Statham.

I was a full time union official, mum, tree hugging, leftie trouble maker according to him. I've not lived or worked more than eight miles from where I was born and more Monique than Halle!

We exchanged our first message 17 November 2013. Met for a coffee 24 November...he's snoring beside me!

Cupid has a sense of humour and you can find love anywhere, anytime even when you don't want it less looking for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After my divorce I had no intention of getting emotionally involved with anyone again. Concentrated on my daughters and work. If I had an itch Fab et al provided what I needed.

My daughters grew up, got their degrees, married and had children and I began planning my retirement: life was good.

I was a full time union official, mum, tree hugging, leftie trouble maker according to him. I've not lived or worked more than eight miles from where I was born and more Monique than Halle!

We exchanged our first message 17 November 2013. Met for a coffee 24 November...he's snoring beside me!

Cupid has a sense of humour and you can find love anywhere, anytime even when you don't want it less looking for it.

That is exactly how I feel now!! Thank you for sharing! So pleased you found that person!!! Almost made me cry haha xxx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"After my divorce I had no intention of getting emotionally involved with anyone again. Concentrated on my daughters and work. If I had an itch Fab et al provided what I needed.

My daughters grew up, got their degrees, married and had children and I began planning my retirement: life was good.

I was a full time union official, mum, tree hugging, leftie trouble maker according to him. I've not lived or worked more than eight miles from where I was born and more Monique than Halle!

We exchanged our first message 17 November 2013. Met for a coffee 24 November...he's snoring beside me!

Cupid has a sense of humour and you can find love anywhere, anytime even when you don't want it less looking for it.

That is exactly how I feel now!! Thank you for sharing! So pleased you found that person!!! Almost made me cry haha xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After my divorce I had no intention of getting emotionally involved with anyone again. Concentrated on my daughters and work. If I had an itch Fab et al provided what I needed.

My daughters grew up, got their degrees, married and had children and I began planning my retirement: life was good.

I was a full time union official, mum, tree hugging, leftie trouble maker according to him. I've not lived or worked more than eight miles from where I was born and more Monique than Halle!

We exchanged our first message 17 November 2013. Met for a coffee 24 November...he's snoring beside me!

Cupid has a sense of humour and you can find love anywhere, anytime even when you don't want it less looking for it.

Love love love love love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Oh there is, plus the benefit of having a ‘fab’ date is this: they have normally seen every inch of you by the time you meet them (if you have naked pictures of course), usually if you get a date from one of the forum threads that person usually has been stalking you for sometime and already have a little insight to what you like and don’t like and the biggest one for me was they already know what a kinky fucker you are!! Not saying it works for all mind you lol.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Geeky x"

Thank you Geeky... yes I love the fact on here sexually you can just be yourself!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Geeky x

Thank you Geeky... yes I love the fact on here sexually you can just be yourself!!!

Also I haven’t seen the dating threads?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me a social meet is no different from a date, and I’ve never understood why on a swingers site they are called ‘meets’ and a dating site they are called ‘dates’. When I meet a guy (either alone or with my husband) I am meeting with the intention of playing, but I would have that same view on a dating site. If my judgement is wrong (which it rarely is) then obviously we don’t play. Either way that meet, whether or not it proceeds to play (and it usually does), feels like a date. The reason we use a swingers site as opposed to a dating site is because dating sites don’t cater for couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have more luck having meets on dating sites than on here. :/

For me the dating sites just seemed like shag sites so would rather just meet off here to be honest x"

Can I ask what you think fab is you think dating sites are just shag sites? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

Geeky x

Thank you Geeky... yes I love the fact on here sexually you can just be yourself!!!

Also I haven’t seen the dating threads?? Xx"

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/740935

Enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think fab hook up will keep me occupied because i can pick it up n put it down and no one is offended... Too old for dating and going by the no female interest on fab i would day i d be wasting my time on a dating site ?? i think to make sure you get a good dating site you ll have to pay a fair price... I tried a couple and uncovered so many false profiles laid down by the company themselves... Good luck in your search x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

"After my divorce I had no intention of getting emotionally involved with anyone again. Concentrated on my daughters and work. If I had an itch Fab et al provided what I needed.

My daughters grew up, got their degrees, married and had children and I began planning my retirement: life was good.

I was a full time union official, mum, tree hugging, leftie trouble maker according to him. I've not lived or worked more than eight miles from where I was born and more Monique than Halle!

We exchanged our first message 17 November 2013. Met for a coffee 24 November...he's snoring beside me!

Cupid has a sense of humour and you can find love anywhere, anytime even when you don't want it less looking for it.

I remember reading this about you before. Loved it then and love it now. Got me feeling all warm and fuzzy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have more luck having meets on dating sites than on here. :/

For me the dating sites just seemed like shag sites so would rather just meet off here to be honest x

Can I ask what you think fab is you think dating sites are just shag sites? X"

I think with fab I have the chance of making friends.. enjoying the social side as well as meeting like minded people.. who enjoy sex as much as me!! At least with fab you don’t have to hide your interests... where as with the dating sites my experience seems to be men just wanting sex... with none of the politeness that the genuine males on here offer or are!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx"

Copy and paste it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x"

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

Its fab all forums end up woth Pegging

Can I ask if you are hapoy with the descision why look for fab dating? Is that just not replacing one date with another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

It worked for me I just double checked

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Me and my girl met on FAB. Both not looking for a relationship but when you fall for each other you have little control over it all the timing. I don't see why you can't look for dating on here as well. I'm sure there are plenty of people who enjoy sex and/or the lifestyle in the mean time but would also love to find that special person. Also you have the added advantage of being able to judge sexual compatibility early on and be open to a more liberated and less monogomus relationship going forward should that interest you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

It worked for me I just double checked"

Haha I’m useless

I’ll retry xx

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

When I decided to look for a partner the thing I liked most about Fab was the fact that there was not need to contemplate watering down what I had got up to in the past.

I had no interest in hiding who I am. Something that created complications on traditional dating sites. The women I met either had no interest in swinging or thought I was too hard core to even consider dating. Not totally unreasonable by the way. After all how were they to know I could show any kind of commitment if they knew nothing about the swinging world?

Having said that finding a partner on here was still tough as most women on here are sceptical of single male claiming to be serious about getting into a relationship....again quite understandable. I had to earn my girlfriends trust through actions as opposed to smooth silky words.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

No that’s not what I meant! I just meant when dating it’s with the thought that maybe given time it might progress into something more.. with fab yes I would want to know them etc and like them and be liked but it isn’t with that background thought of is this going to be the one...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I decided to look for a partner the thing I liked most about Fab was the fact that there was not need to contemplate watering down what I had got up to in the past.

I can appreciate that completely and yes it’s the balance of knowing when that person is really genuine or not!!

I too love the fact you can be honest on here about your true sexuality and what turns you on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

Ah OK.

Don't you think dating is easier with the same mindset?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

Ah OK.

Don't you think dating is easier with the same mindset?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

It worked for me I just double checked

Haha I’m useless

I’ll retry xx"

We’ll probably start a new one today anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It won’t let me click on the link?? Xx

Copy and paste it x

That one says would you take a strap on up the arse....

Well yes I would haha but not the thread I was expecting hehehe

It worked for me I just double checked

Haha I’m useless

I’ll retry xx

We’ll probably start a new one today anyway

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Ok I’ll have a look when you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

Ah OK.

Don't you think dating is easier with the same mindset?

To be honest that’s what I have done.. i haven’t had loads of dates and each time I’ve gone on a date I go with the let’s just see.. but end up been made to feel quite inadequate really! I don’t expect everyone to find me attractive or me them but the naff dates drag you down after a while!! X"
every date I've been on I've just looked at it as a night out with someone new never really thought to much about the situation or if it will lead to more just gone been myself had a great time and I've not once had a bad date some have led to more some have not a date should be fun . Hope you find the right balance anyway as its quite hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

Ah OK.

Don't you think dating is easier with the same mindset?

To be honest that’s what I have done.. i haven’t had loads of dates and each time I’ve gone on a date I go with the let’s just see.. but end up been made to feel quite inadequate really! I don’t expect everyone to find me attractive or me them but the naff dates drag you down after a while!! X every date I've been on I've just looked at it as a night out with someone new never really thought to much about the situation or if it will lead to more just gone been myself had a great time and I've not once had a bad date some have led to more some have not a date should be fun . Hope you find the right balance anyway as its quite hard

I totally agree.. but unfortunately mine haven’t been that way.. hopefully it’s not me!!

haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not look for a date on here..

There are a number of threads posted for those who are looking

Is there??? I’m not sure if I can face the whole dating thing and waiting to see if the other person likes you or not etc

But you're ok with someone shagging you who doesn't like you?

Ah OK.

Don't you think dating is easier with the same mindset?

To be honest that’s what I have done.. i haven’t had loads of dates and each time I’ve gone on a date I go with the let’s just see.. but end up been made to feel quite inadequate really! I don’t expect everyone to find me attractive or me them but the naff dates drag you down after a while!! X every date I've been on I've just looked at it as a night out with someone new never really thought to much about the situation or if it will lead to more just gone been myself had a great time and I've not once had a bad date some have led to more some have not a date should be fun . Hope you find the right balance anyway as its quite hard

I totally agree.. but unfortunately mine haven’t been that way.. hopefully it’s not me!!

haha x"
Im sure it's not you it's not always easy to find someone you click with

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