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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My friend's mum recently passed away and she is currently arranging the funeral.

It got me thinking how expensive it is and I just don't understand why that's so? Does it really cost thousands to cremate someone? I appreciate there are expenses but that much?!

What other things do you think we pay too much for? And why do we do it? Social norms? No other choices? Showing off?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

No it doesn’t have to cost a fortune. The only legal requirement is disposal of the body.

The rest is down to how rich funeral directors want to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is.

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By *ilthyStrumpetCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge


"Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is. "

This! 15-20k + for a party, one day....fuck that!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

They don't have to be expensive OP. I arranged my mum's and the coffins, for instance, ranged from a few hundred to thousands of pounds. Depends how many funeral cars you have, if any etc. Our funeral directors were excellent and advised us on all the options available to us.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is.

This! 15-20k + for a party, one day....fuck that! "

Yeah, make no sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree on the funerals, my Friend paid £5k for her Dad's and that was pretty basic, but if you are organising a funeral you are not going to be in the right frame of mind to give the cost much consideration and you can hardly shop around like you do for kitchens.

I think some people like to pay extra to show off, I think most of us have a friend like that... others genuinely think they are getting value for money when splashing the cash.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no way I would spend thousands on a wedding. It's one day, and I feel it's who there that makes a day memorable, i.e. family and friends, not how fancy the venue,car,flowers etc are.

An expensive wedding doesn't guarantee a successful marriage.

Sorry OP, now back to funerals. I have no idea what makes them so expensive, I don't get it.

A cardboard box will do me, I don't need solid oak, that shoot keep the price down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is. "

We spent just under four grand on ours and we had everything we wanted. I’ve seen other brides spend triple that!

Mrs x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You can transport a body in a cardboard box on the floor of a van if you want to and have some sort of memorial down the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is. "

My mum and step dad did it on the cheap. £100 or less each for their outfits and my step dad's clothes are ones he can wear again. My mum's friend made the cake, then about six of us went out for a meal and did the ceremony in a register office. Cheap as chips.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"There is no way I would spend thousands on a wedding. It's one day, and I feel it's who there that makes a day memorable, i.e. family and friends, not how fancy the venue,car,flowers etc are.

An expensive wedding doesn't guarantee a successful marriage.

Sorry OP, now back to funerals. I have no idea what makes them so expensive, I don't get it.

A cardboard box will do me, I don't need solid oak, that shoot keep the price down "

And you can actually have those and make a great saving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our funeral director was telling us about this group that's taken over most funeral directors and crematoriums, he said had we chose another crem locally it would have come under Nottinghamshire not derbshire and would have cost £1000 more

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My friend's mum recently passed away and she is currently arranging the funeral.

It got me thinking how expensive it is and I just don't understand why that's so? Does it really cost thousands to cremate someone? I appreciate there are expenses but that much?!

What other things do you think we pay too much for? And why do we do it? Social norms? No other choices? Showing off? "

I think it's immoral how expensive it is and what they charge for.

My nan was cremated in Milton Keynes as that's where she lived after moving out of London about 10 years previously. She didn't have many demands in life but the one thing she was adamant on was that she wanted her ashes to be buried with her mum and her son in London.

The cemetery where they are buried charges my mum £25 simply because she wasn't cremated there! An admin fee allegedly..... What admin, she was dead and cremated. Disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend's mum recently passed away and she is currently arranging the funeral.

It got me thinking how expensive it is and I just don't understand why that's so? Does it really cost thousands to cremate someone? I appreciate there are expenses but that much?!

What other things do you think we pay too much for? And why do we do it? Social norms? No other choices? Showing off?

I think it's immoral how expensive it is and what they charge for.

My nan was cremated in Milton Keynes as that's where she lived after moving out of London about 10 years previously. She didn't have many demands in life but the one thing she was adamant on was that she wanted her ashes to be buried with her mum and her son in London.

The cemetery where they are buried charges my mum £25 simply because she wasn't cremated there! An admin fee allegedly..... What admin, she was dead and cremated. Disgusting. "

My aunt just buried my great aunt ashes in with her mum and dad, was all done very hush hush mind lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeans that fit properly.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Houses..

Same bricks and mortar to build the house 20 years ago.. cost 20,000. Now 90,000

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My friend's mum recently passed away and she is currently arranging the funeral.

It got me thinking how expensive it is and I just don't understand why that's so? Does it really cost thousands to cremate someone? I appreciate there are expenses but that much?!

What other things do you think we pay too much for? And why do we do it? Social norms? No other choices? Showing off?

I think it's immoral how expensive it is and what they charge for.

My nan was cremated in Milton Keynes as that's where she lived after moving out of London about 10 years previously. She didn't have many demands in life but the one thing she was adamant on was that she wanted her ashes to be buried with her mum and her son in London.

The cemetery where they are buried charges my mum £25 simply because she wasn't cremated there! An admin fee allegedly..... What admin, she was dead and cremated. Disgusting.

My aunt just buried my great aunt ashes in with her mum and dad, was all done very hush hush mind lol x"

Lol my nan did say if it was going yo cost anything we should sneak her in but my mum is too much of a goody goody!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Weddings. Baby related items.

I think that there's a desire to keep up with a certain way of life and what with instagram and pinterest making those heavily stylised and cropped lifestyles seem to be achievable but luxury, it's ok to spend more to get that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A decent fitted bra.

Because I need it.

And the bloody big companies that think paying over £50 + for a bra is acceptable.

It's not fun having big breasts sometimes!

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"

It got me thinking how expensive it is and I just don't understand why that's so? Does it really cost thousands to cremate someone? I appreciate there are expenses but that much?!

What other things do you think we pay too much for? And why do we do it? Social norms? No other choices? Showing off? "

I was driving through Los Angeles last summer and there were quite a number of billboards advertising low cost cremations, here's an example pulled at random off the internet:

Cremation Service – $599

Included:

Picking up of your loved one from a medical facility.

Refrigeration prior to cremation.

Filing the death certificate.

Notifying the State and Social Security.

Cremation container.

Timely cremation.

Temporary urn.

Additional Services Available:

Goodbye Gathering

Decorative urns

Shipping available (domestic only)

Does not include:

Government Fees

Disposition permit – $12 (per final location of remains)

Coroner fees (if required)

Potential Other Fees:

$100 pick-up at non-medical facility (if required)

Mileage if outside the greater Los Angeles area

There is an awful lot of money to be made in burial and cremation in the UK.

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"but if you are organising a funeral you are not going to be in the right frame of mind to give the cost much consideration and you can hardly shop around like you do for kitchens."

Precisely why the companies get away with it.

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


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Los Angeles

Cremation Service – $599

UK similar service - £1395

Collect anywhere in England, Scotland and Wales

Out of hours collection

Delivery of ashes within 28 days

Coffin included

Doctors fees included

No hidden costs

Unattended by family

There is an awful lot of money to be made in burial and cremation in the UK.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine got donated a load of exotic animals (he is a sensible keeper of these animals and made sure they went to knowledgeable homes) when he did a fund raiser for the mother of his children's funeral. She had cancer.

He is a well known and respected member of the exotic animal community though.

I donated my spiders. Helped me thinking it was helping him.

He raised about 3 grand.

It's daft the cost of the match and dispatch these days. I'd like a wicker coffin and then burnt.

I can barely stand to buy myself anything let alone spend thousands on a wedding or funeral.

Hire a jcb and dump me in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BORN FREE..........TAXED TO DEATH

40% inheritance tax on the property you own

30 grand a year to go into a nursing home and be treated like shit..and the 30 grands coming out the sale of your property ,money for your family/siblings that you worked all your life for .

no wonder people duck n dive and hide there money..

ill be selling up so the government cant get anything , then i'll pay a carer to come to wherever im staying .

pay council tax which isnt cheap but policings cut ,street lights turned off after midnight , bins only emptied every 2 weeks

but we still pay ........

99% of my customers i chauffeur say the countries run by clowns.......

there dead right .

i booked a doctors appt 3 days ago , may the 6th im being seen .

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"BORN FREE..........TAXED TO DEATH

40% inheritance tax on the property you own

30 grand a year to go into a nursing home and be treated like shit..and the 30 grands coming out the sale of your property ,money for your family/siblings that you worked all your life for .

no wonder people duck n dive and hide there money..

ill be selling up so the government cant get anything , then i'll pay a carer to come to wherever im staying .

pay council tax which isnt cheap but policings cut ,street lights turned off after midnight , bins only emptied every 2 weeks

but we still pay ........

99% of my customers i chauffeur say the countries run by clowns.......

there dead right .

i booked a doctors appt 3 days ago , may the 6th im being seen .

"

There are ways around not having to pay inheritance tax by leaving the estate in trusts for the beneficiaries.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"You can transport a body in a cardboard box on the floor of a van if you want to and have some sort of memorial down the pub.

"

But, is that how you wish your life to be celebrated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A decent fitted bra.

Because I need it.

And the bloody big companies that think paying over £50 + for a bra is acceptable.

It's not fun having big breasts sometimes! "

They are rather marvellous though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Donate your body to science and research. Job done!

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By *LovetobewatchedMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"A decent fitted bra.

Because I need it.

And the bloody big companies that think paying over £50 + for a bra is acceptable.

It's not fun having big breasts sometimes!

They are rather marvellous though"

Agreed, £50 well spent if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Weddings.

Alot of my friends are getting married and they tell me how much they are spending and it baffles me. If its what they want, fair play, it just makes me wince at how much it is. "

I wonder if the cost of the wedding is directly in proportion to how worried they are the marriage will fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can transport a body in a cardboard box on the floor of a van if you want to and have some sort of memorial down the pub.

"

I want this for me.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"You can transport a body in a cardboard box on the floor of a van if you want to and have some sort of memorial down the pub.

But, is that how you wish your life to be celebrated?

"

Yes.

I would rather people spend the money on something other than a posh way to dispose of my dead body.

In fact they can just bury me in the garden for all I care.

Nita

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