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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m still new(ish) and finding my feet on here. That said, I’m sending out way more messages than I’m getting back and while I know the odds aren’t in my favour, I wonder if I’m going about this wrong.

I can spell reet good, no-one’s getting less than a few sentences, and no poor soul has clicked and found my dangly bits in their inbox. If a profile has info - or sexy, sexy pics - I always try to mention it.

So. What do I need to work on, Fabbers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*bump*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paitiece is not your strong point then

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

don’t write

“Eh pet, youse flaps like ears from elephant, gannae gizem a little lick?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a woman.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"*bump*"

Mr Two Weeks and Four Minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile seems okay to me. You have to remember when sending a message that the lady you are sending to could have loads of massages in her inbox. It's impossible to read and reply to them all. I try to reply to most messages but it's hard to keep up. I'd say just keep going and maybe try heasing to a social as that seems the best way for guys to get noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply if someone has made an effort. Even if it's to say thank you but your not my type. I cant speak for anyone else though. I get lots of one liners and hit me up messages that I often delete unread. Or read and delete.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"*bump*"
seriously? after 4 minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually people bump after an hour not 4 minutes.

But to answer your question, there is no secret way that works on all.

Some women want war and piece with 'classy' pics, others want to get down to business and like a johny in their box.

Some like to be treated with respect and some like to be degraded in the initial message.

Read profile and respond adequately.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"*bump*

Mr Two Weeks and Four Minutes "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*bump* seriously? after 4 minutes? "

For someone from Brighton, you’re surprisingly aggro. Is it all those cancelled trains?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Your profile and pics are fine - but really, what expectations you had on you being knee deep in clunge within days may have to be revisited if you’re to enjoy your fab experience. Don’t sweat it - socials, clubs, forum, chat room, messages, real life. Go for it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"*bump* seriously? after 4 minutes?

For someone from Brighton, you’re surprisingly aggro. Is it all those cancelled trains? "

It’s not aggro, it’s astonishment.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"*bump* seriously? after 4 minutes?

For someone from Brighton, you’re surprisingly aggro. Is it all those cancelled trains? "

No aggro there.

You are not showing any patience at all. You have only been on this site 2 weeks (most are on months before getting their first meet) and you bumped your thread after 4 minutes.

Unless you calm yourself down, you are going to be very disappointed!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"*bump* seriously? after 4 minutes?

For someone from Brighton, you’re surprisingly aggro. Is it all those cancelled trains? "

Hey don't mess with Brighton Steve.!!!

He has a point. Bumping up your post after 4 minutes is a bit hasty

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I usually with some kind of sarcastic one-liner.

Nobody wants to read an essay, especially when they have so much inbox penis to wade through.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*bump* seriously? after 4 minutes?

For someone from Brighton, you’re surprisingly aggro. Is it all those cancelled trains?

No aggro there.

You are not showing any patience at all. You have only been on this site 2 weeks (most are on months before getting their first meet) and you bumped your thread after 4 minutes.

Unless you calm yourself down, you are going to be very disappointed!"

Sorry both. Hard to police tone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always reply if someone has made an effort. Even if it's to say thank you but your not my type. I cant speak for anyone else though. I get lots of one liners and hit me up messages that I often delete unread. Or read and delete. "
ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing I can see wrong with profile from my opinion (Jerry) but then as said before everyone on here is going to like different things and that’s the way it goes.

Best advice is go to clubs or parties and get verified and speak to actual people. X

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Nowt particular makes me wanna reply I either will or won't. Depends on mood.

So

Since when do we have bump police? Fashion police I know about as well as profile police and photo police, but bump police?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Arrest me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the bump and grind police, much more fun

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

You just have to keep trying! Your profile is decent, your pics are good.

Women get a ridiculous amount of messages and often decent ones get lost in all the crap.

I generally tend to reply to messages that make me laugh/smile, aren’t full of typos,are a little bit flirty rather than full on dirty and don’t say things like “I want to be balls deep in your pissflaps” or “will you shit in my mouth?” (Yep. Actual messages... ).

The forums are a good way of getting to know people too. One of my current Fab faves messaged me after reading some of my post/replies in the forums. Our paths would have never have likely crossed otherwise....

Good luck!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You've a decent profile OP and a good starter set of pics - maybe add some more to show off your body (but not your cock) a little?

Aside from that the only thing you really need is a little patience - two weeks is no time to have been here at all. Perhaps spend more time picking out potential meets rather than scatterbombing with messages (which your OP suggests you may have been doing).

Other than that keep an eye out for organised socials or get along to a club or even get more involved in the forums/chat rooms which are all good ways to get to know people and get yourself noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me an age to get a message but patience is a virtue. Agree that social group meets are really worthwhile and I’ve made some good friends without getting horizontal. It’s a great big learning curve and meeting other Fabbers in a non-physical situation was a real benefit for me. Swapping stories and situations with others relaxes you and helps you understand different personalities and perspectives. Always be honest about who you are and what you like and never make assumptions about others. Ask to be a friend before sending a request, it’s the polite thing to do. Don’t cut n paste that’s lazy. Read all profiles and understand a little about who and what people like. I enjoy banter but remember don’t push it to far.... I mean respect boundaries and don’t make direct assumptions. Hopefully with time and patience you will enjoy Fab for the best reasons. Vapes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Arrest me "

Shall I get my handcuffs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the criminal cyber justice system, no getting a reply is considered especially heinous.

On Fabswinger, the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies are members of an elite squad known as the Special FabVictims Unit.

These are their stories .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The OP l ft anyway. No patience.

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