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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So..very few of us dare be so bold as to make a very direct request to a stranger to sleep with them.

Obviously due to the rules of social interaction and common sense most situations are completely inappropriate for this kind of approach.

(Dogging scenarios excepted)

But it must happen..sometimes.

Ladies and Gentlemen.

When, how and where have you been directly asked for sex?

And has anyone said "yes"?

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"When, how and where have you been directly asked for sex?

And has anyone said "yes"?"

Yeah, I get lots of short messages like "wanna fuck?" but recently, I got a one-worded one ..."fuck?" lol

Then there was a guy whose profile is really nice, showing handsome face pic. Even said he would like to meet TV/TS (more common now-a-days but still refreshing). We were getting acquainted but suddenly, I got a "I want to fuck you this afternoon" message... WTF???

No, I don't think direct requests work. Sex should be social and respectful. We are not pieces of meat to bang...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me, but I was out with a friend years ago when we used to do things like frequent night clubs and he approached and couple of young ladies with the line..'Would you ladies care to join me and my friend here with a view to sexual intercourse?'

Smooth talking fucker..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I once sent a message to a lady saying “gizzashagyabitch” and a few weeks later after chatting we met up and we had sex so that worked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So..very few of us dare be so bold as to make a very direct request to a stranger to sleep with them.

Obviously due to the rules of social interaction and common sense most situations are completely inappropriate for this kind of approach.

(Dogging scenarios excepted)

But it must happen..sometimes.

Ladies and Gentlemen.

When, how and where have you been directly asked for sex?

And has anyone said "yes"?"

Surely that’s kinda what most people on this site are doing most of the time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just as a postscript...I meant in person.in the real world.not by message.

There is no terror in sending someone a message...which is why its so easy to ask...and so easy to ignore.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just as a postscript...I meant in person.in the real world.not by message.

There is no terror in sending someone a message...which is why its so easy to ask...and so easy to ignore."

In person? No, I have good social interaction skills so wouldn’t dream of being so unsubtle.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Surely that’s kinda what most people on this site are doing most of the time?"

Well, depends on what you mean by "direct"... The OP suggests its like going "dogging", so no humour, no niceties, no smooth talking... And in the case of dogging, no need to even talk...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely that’s kinda what most people on this site are doing most of the time?

Well, depends on what you mean by "direct"... The OP suggests its like going "dogging", so no humour, no niceties, no smooth talking... And in the case of dogging, no need to even talk...?"

No...I clearly said "dogging scenarios excepted". Which means I was talking about situations other than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say these magic words

Do ya fuck on first dates

Does ya dad own a brewery

Can i see ya tits

Or will u show them too me

Do you sleep in the nif

And give head verry often

Mi face will be leaving in quarter of an hour

Id like you to be on it

Works like a charm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is in a dogging situation (assuming you have verified that you are all actually dogging!) then you have already mutually expressed a desire for outdoor sex...and that you may be up for it.

There are few normal situations where you have this...hence why it is so hard to approach directly innit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But really i am quite cheeky in the real world

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think a one liner will only work if the person has already decided they like you...in which case they might genuinely laugh...or let you off.

Mostly they turn peeps off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say these magic words

Do ya fuck on first dates

Does ya dad own a brewery

Can i see ya tits

Or will u show them too me

Do you sleep in the nif

And give head verry often

Mi face will be leaving in quarter of an hour

Id like you to be on it

Works like a charm "

Only for kevin bloody wilson

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

When we used to go to clubs , we were pretty well known for our direct approach . We would see someone we liked the look of , and ask if they fancied coming up to a room with us . Nine times out of ten it worked out just fine , with the majority saying how refreshing it was to get such a forward approach . On the odd occasion we would be asked if we wouldn’t prefer to get to know the people first , but we would have moved on by then

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"No...I clearly said "dogging scenarios excepted". Which means I was talking about situations other than that. "

Haha, sorry this Bimbo not got her brains in gear derailing your post... As you were... (ahem!).

Well, as some have suggested, if done with humour or a bit of smooth talking, then if she is not interested, a rejection in a similar tone would be fine.

If in a sex club then I guess not inappropriate. I guess it cuts to the chase and now-a-days its just like swiping right or left? Yes? Great! No? Move on...

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"The thing is in a dogging situation (assuming you have verified that you are all actually dogging!) then you have already mutually expressed a desire for outdoor sex...and that you may be up for it.

There are few normal situations where you have this...hence why it is so hard to approach directly innit? "

And this is why we like dogging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say these magic words

Do ya fuck on first dates

Does ya dad own a brewery

Can i see ya tits

Or will u show them too me

Do you sleep in the nif

And give head verry often

Mi face will be leaving in quarter of an hour

Id like you to be on it

Works like a charm

Only for kevin bloody wilson "

May not work but it gets a giggle if u throw an accent in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I visited a petrol station a couple of times and gave a little flirt in the direction of the girl on the till. The 3rd time I went in she was smiling and said "can I ask you a rather direct question?" I said yes and she asked me for sex.

We had a good afternoon at her house 2 days later when her parents were out. It's only happened the once, happy days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been approached a few times on a night out with friend, apparently my eyes give off a signal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I visited a petrol station a couple of times and gave a little flirt in the direction of the girl on the till. The 3rd time I went in she was smiling and said "can I ask you a rather direct question?" I said yes and she asked me for sex.

We had a good afternoon at her house 2 days later when her parents were out. It's only happened the once, happy days. "

If only fab worked the same lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I visited a petrol station a couple of times and gave a little flirt in the direction of the girl on the till. The 3rd time I went in she was smiling and said "can I ask you a rather direct question?" I said yes and she asked me for sex.

We had a good afternoon at her house 2 days later when her parents were out. It's only happened the once, happy days. "

Wow! Top man..impressed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing is in a dogging situation (assuming you have verified that you are all actually dogging!) then you have already mutually expressed a desire for outdoor sex...and that you may be up for it.

There are few normal situations where you have this...hence why it is so hard to approach directly innit?

And this is why we like dogging "

..wish I lived near Gloucester!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I visited a petrol station a couple of times and gave a little flirt in the direction of the girl on the till. The 3rd time I went in she was smiling and said "can I ask you a rather direct question?" I said yes and she asked me for sex.

We had a good afternoon at her house 2 days later when her parents were out. It's only happened the once, happy days. "

It’s cos of where you live.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though."

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten? "

What are you getting at OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten? "

She weren't bad as it goes, curvy brunette cute button nose, very girl next door-sy 8 out of 10.

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By *abmummy27Woman
over a year ago

up north

Fancy a fuck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

What are you getting at OP? "

Sorry Kinky, I'm playing a dangerous game...but I'm trying to assess the "quality" of the catch...in the interests of science.

I'm aware it objectifies, discriminates etc and is sexist..blah blah..

But if that question was posed by a woman judging a man say...on the size if his todgder. Then it would be all fine and dandy.

So..equal world it is not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fancy a fuck! "

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fancy a fuck! "

Yes please.

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By *abmummy27Woman
over a year ago

up north

Sorry i was just giving the direct approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was just giving the direct approach "

well it worked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

She weren't bad as it goes, curvy brunette cute button nose, very girl next door-sy 8 out of 10."

Nice one...so did he "punch above his weight"?

Only most theories suggest we subliminally choose partners of the same worth as our self (as judged by ourselves).

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Every single day on here!

I get asked to meet some in their hotel that night, which proves they haven't even bothered to read my profile, if they can't even afford me that courtesy, then they can fuck off all together!

Never mind getting follow up messages 10 minutes later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

She weren't bad as it goes, curvy brunette cute button nose, very girl next door-sy 8 out of 10.

Nice one...so did he "punch above his weight"?

Only most theories suggest we subliminally choose partners of the same worth as our self (as judged by ourselves). "

I'd say he is a 6 but when he makes an effort an easy 7. You know how it is, your mileage may vary, what one may find attractive another might find repulsive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

What are you getting at OP?

Sorry Kinky, I'm playing a dangerous game...but I'm trying to assess the "quality" of the catch...in the interests of science.

I'm aware it objectifies, discriminates etc and is sexist..blah blah..

But if that question was posed by a woman judging a man say...on the size if his todgder. Then it would be all fine and dandy.

So..equal world it is not.

"

I really dont get why you are asking the question on a swingers site...

People use sites like this because most of them (men in particular) think its easier than going to a club, giving the chat etc..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me personally but a friend of mine told me that sex a just a numbers game, so to prove a point he asked every girl he was attracted to in the nightclub we were in at the time if they wanted to leave with him to fuck. He got to around 23 women until one said yes. Got a drink or two thrown in his face but he got his Shag, I wouldn't try it though.

Dangerous, but got to admire it...ok..and (sorry ladies)...the lady he pulled...was she a result...dare I ask yoi give her marks out of ten?

She weren't bad as it goes, curvy brunette cute button nose, very girl next door-sy 8 out of 10.

Nice one...so did he "punch above his weight"?

Only most theories suggest we subliminally choose partners of the same worth as our self (as judged by ourselves).

I'd say he is a 6 but when he makes an effort an easy 7. You know how it is, your mileage may vary, what one may find attractive another might find repulsive."

Yes very much so...tastes vary..which means even I get laid occasionally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone fancy a fuck?

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