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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London

or suspected as much? If so, what happened?

I caught the tv show and it’s unreal what lengths people will go to, to pretend to be the opposite sex. Not sure if I feel anger or pity towards them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"or suspected as much? If so, what happened?

I caught the tv show and it’s unreal what lengths people will go to, to pretend to be the opposite sex. Not sure if I feel anger or pity towards them.

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Loads of times on dating sites, once or twice on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's too good to be true it probably is (apart from me of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I’m aware of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup by my friends unclne's nephew's friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"or suspected as much? If so, what happened?

I caught the tv show and it’s unreal what lengths people will go to, to pretend to be the opposite sex. Not sure if I feel anger or pity towards them.

Loads of times on dating sites, once or twice on here. "

When did you find out (for the ones here)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It was a man pretending to be a woman. I realised early on but liked him/ her so carried on chatting but pretended I believed he was she.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No I haven't. Love that show though. Maybe that's why I've not been caught out, I know the signs

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

You learn to suss them out after a while, people who are just peddling bullshit with no intention of going through with it, but every now and then one slips through the net - haven't had any for a couple of years, but I've had a couple of guys on here chat for a month then disappear the day before you were due to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes so many times..

why can’t people just grow a set and be themselves??

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"or suspected as much? If so, what happened?

I caught the tv show and it’s unreal what lengths people will go to, to pretend to be the opposite sex. Not sure if I feel anger or pity towards them.

Loads of times on dating sites, once or twice on here.

When did you find out (for the ones here)?"

Only when I saw they'd gone UNLOS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once on here, although I do suspect the couple of no shows may not have been genuine either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. But i do pity people who go to those lengths. I think they must be sad and lonely

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"No I haven't. Love that show though. Maybe that's why I've not been caught out, I know the signs "

Or you’re really the catfish...

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Yes so many times..

why can’t people just grow a set and be themselves??"

Bang on!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"No I haven't. Love that show though. Maybe that's why I've not been caught out, I know the signs

Or you’re really the catfish..."

Shhh don't give the game away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of"

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Once on here, although I do suspect the couple of no shows may not have been genuine either "

Why would they go to the trouble of arranging a meet to just not show...from what I understand they really like to just drag out the whole thing for as long as possible?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I knew he wasn't the gorgeous hunk of a man in the photo but carried on chatting to him; even talked on the phone.

I eventually asked him to reveal his true identity and we met up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. But i do pity people who go to those lengths. I think they must be sad and lonely"

I think most are. Some like the attention they get online that they wouldn't if they showed their real self.

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends. "

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not to far thankfully, but do watch the show regularly too.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you! "

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"No I haven't. Love that show though. Maybe that's why I've not been caught out, I know the signs

Or you’re really the catfish...

Shhh don't give the game away! "

The cat’s out of the bag, Fish!

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Dunno what it is"

Someone adopts a fake persona online. Like me pretending to be the famous James Diesel from Bromley...haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once on here, although I do suspect the couple of no shows may not have been genuine either

Why would they go to the trouble of arranging a meet to just not show...from what I understand they really like to just drag out the whole thing for as long as possible?! "

You tell me, I don’t understand it.

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on "

I like the way you handled that situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lads on Twitter hilarious with the girls that end up being catfish.they slide straight into dms.know loads been caught out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on

I like the way you handled that situation "

I’ve always been more mature than my age, I really showed it at 13

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

Women are now very good with filters and not sending bad pictures of themselves.

Funnily enough though I was talking to a lady and she looked better with no make up than with the full face paint on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er, if I can be a little stupid here...an hairy arsed bloke pretends to be a women in order to strike up a conversation an other women. Presumably he hopes this will lead to a meet where I guess he'll try to talk his way out of the deception and in to her knickers?.....erm, would I have to shave my legs?

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

I’m always suspicious of everyone not being what they claim to be at first and take it all with a pinch of salt until I’m given reason to believe otherwise. Never got as far as meeting with a catfish but been messaged by a fair few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on "

That's such a lovely story. The man I was talking to stopped talking when I told him I knew he wasn't a woman.

'She' asked me to mail her male friend - who I knew was his real profile. I wish I'd just kept pretending I believed. We got on well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard that term before, but yes.

I've had a few horny chats with "young women" who are so obviously men. I don't really mind though, I quite like a bit of cyber fantasising when I'm in the mood.

It just seems a little sad that they can't just be open about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Er, if I can be a little stupid here...an hairy arsed bloke pretends to be a women in order to strike up a conversation an other women. Presumably he hopes this will lead to a meet where I guess he'll try to talk his way out of the deception and in to her knickers?.....erm, would I have to shave my legs? "

No usually it's just a fantasy thing. He may be trans but scared to admit to himself. Or he may be doing it as wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on

That's such a lovely story. The man I was talking to stopped talking when I told him I knew he wasn't a woman.

'She' asked me to mail her male friend - who I knew was his real profile. I wish I'd just kept pretending I believed. We got on well. "

Oh that’s a shame

I try not to judge, we got on well and hell, we were super young. Pretended to be a 13 year old boy for two years - never once asked for any sexual pictures (a lot of boys that age when I was at school were ) and was just lovely all around. It’s a shame that your friend stopped chatting though! Especially if you weren’t angry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say i ever have..

Dont think id want to be either

Chatted to loads of people who churn out the BS but have always managed to sniff it out early on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on

That's such a lovely story. The man I was talking to stopped talking when I told him I knew he wasn't a woman.

'She' asked me to mail her male friend - who I knew was his real profile. I wish I'd just kept pretending I believed. We got on well.

Oh that’s a shame

I try not to judge, we got on well and hell, we were super young. Pretended to be a 13 year old boy for two years - never once asked for any sexual pictures (a lot of boys that age when I was at school were ) and was just lovely all around. It’s a shame that your friend stopped chatting though! Especially if you weren’t angry about it. "

You've cheered me up, thank you. Most people say I'm mad for having done that. I see no harm at all. You sound like a nice person, she was lucky to have you as a friend. x

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

so it's just another name for being conned or fooled? why do we have to have all these stupid terms for things? does my nut in, and worse still is folk dropping them in every chance they get like they're in the know

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"Er, if I can be a little stupid here...an hairy arsed bloke pretends to be a women in order to strike up a conversation an other women. Presumably he hopes this will lead to a meet where I guess he'll try to talk his way out of the deception and in to her knickers?.....erm, would I have to shave my legs? "

My understanding is that a real meet is not really what they’re after, it’s the pretence of it all, which gets them off...(either way!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I’m aware of

Oh! I have! Lord

It was back in the Be-b.o days. A guy added me when I was 11. After a few months I knew it was a girl - and at thirteen, she admitted it. She’s two years older than me, and was bullied for being gay, so made a fake male profile as an outlit.

10 years on, I still have her on Facebook and snapchat and we still chat often

Never met as she’s in England, but still good friends.

Wow that’s amazing! In this case you couldn’t feel anything but sadness and sympathy for her, rather than anything else surely?! Amazing how you’re still in touch with her. Good on you!

I felt really, really bad for her. When she was pretending to be a guy we would webcam, and she would tuck her hair in a beanie hat and she pulled it off well - but then her ‘friend’ added me, and I knew from that moment they were the same person. I never confronted her - she had a really bad home life (it’s improved a bit as she’s moved out) and she was young. When she did eventually tell me the truth, I just said I had known for over a year, and that was that. She was so grateful that I never got angry - she used to chat to a lot of my friends, who all hated her and gave her a load of abuse for it. Who doesn’t make shitty mistakes when they’re young?

There’s a woman I went to school with who is still obsessed with the situation. Messages me often and asks if I still speak to her. 10, nearly 11 years on

That's such a lovely story. The man I was talking to stopped talking when I told him I knew he wasn't a woman.

'She' asked me to mail her male friend - who I knew was his real profile. I wish I'd just kept pretending I believed. We got on well.

Oh that’s a shame

I try not to judge, we got on well and hell, we were super young. Pretended to be a 13 year old boy for two years - never once asked for any sexual pictures (a lot of boys that age when I was at school were ) and was just lovely all around. It’s a shame that your friend stopped chatting though! Especially if you weren’t angry about it.

You've cheered me up, thank you. Most people say I'm mad for having done that. I see no harm at all. You sound like a nice person, she was lucky to have you as a friend. x"

Oh thank you so much! She’s gotten me through some really tough times - sometimes it’s essier to talk to someone who doesn’t know you in person x

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By *ames_diesel OP   Man
over a year ago

London


"so it's just another name for being conned or fooled? why do we have to have all these stupid terms for things? does my nut in, and worse still is folk dropping them in every chance they get like they're in the know "

Yes, I suppose so. Blame the Yanks!

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