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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many is too much

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Not quite sure what you're asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many is too much"

4 sex veris displayed.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Not really. Verifications aren't a true reflection of how many people you've met anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really.

What I pay attention to is the verification itself.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not quite sure what you're asking?"
if a lady ,couple or guy has a lot of verified meets on show would that stop u meeting them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. "
so my verifications total wouldn't for example sway your decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. I do have a read though and that may put me off, for example if someone insists on safe sex yet their verifications show they do bareback, I’ll be put off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

No. I only play in clubs so i’ve no idea what someone has on their Fab at the time (if they’re even on Fab!) and it doesn’t interest me.

If there’s chemistry & I like them, that’s enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me"

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

"
to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite sure what you're asking?if a lady ,couple or guy has a lot of verified meets on show would that stop u meeting them"

Well I wouldn't meet ladies or couples but it MAY have make a difference when meeting a man. It depends as I don't base my decisions on verifications alone as I KNOW many are actually fake... Some men have told me that women have verified them hoping to get a meet out of it which I find weird and also don't know whether to believe it but I'm sure it probably does go on from all sexes!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those who say yes how many is too many ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more concerned with their modus operandi than numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those who say yes how many is too many ?"

If someone had say 50 in a year and every one of them said turned up, had a quick fuck and blew his load he wouldn't be for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat "

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

The amount doesn't bother us,we look more at the sort of people(ie body type) they've met and what the veries say tbh .If they are all really graphic or ott, that would probably put us off

Miss

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

We prefer face to face meets within clubs. So how many veris a person/couple have, has no impact on our decision to play. It all comes down to compatability. Not everyone who attends clubs are members of Fabs. So you could have no veris whatsoever, that wouldn't stop us from getting to know you within the club scene. Xxxxx Suzi

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We have a shitload of veries, and we show every single one, including the one bad one (you had to be there to understand lol). We show them all as, if someone has taken the time to write one, then it means they want people to know what we are like.

However, some are repeat veries from the same people (we have, after all, been doing this for about 10 years), and many are from socials and other events where we didn't play.

We have had negative messages about the number of veries we have, but our response has always been, that to us, this is what swinging is all about, and in fact, we probably, on average, meet to play less than your average swinging couple.

If it bothers people, then it means that we are probably not what they are looking for, and vice-versa.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation. "
not at all I like a variety of meets it's the person that attracts me not their prowess in bedroom

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation. "

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting"

I have 100’s .. don’t make me a slut!! As I have meet this folks at my parties not slept with them .....just a reflection of the person I am!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries? "

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting

I have 100’s .. don’t make me a slut!! As I have meet this folks at my parties not slept with them .....just a reflection of the person I am!! "
this is my point I'm trying to get across I'm a very relaxed people guy and if it ends in sex brilliant lol

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Not really...

I've got over 80, 68 displayed, a couple UNLOS, the others repeats from events organisers.

Out of those, only 8 are more than social verifications.

I'd be more interested in what was written and who wrote it, than looking at actual numbers.

Not everyone displays every Veri, so numbers really are immaterial.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

"

Quite simply, I don't see a difference between the two?

You wouldn't meet us if we otherwise met any criteria you had, purely because of our veries, however, if we hadn't displayed any, then, again considering if we met your criteria, you would meet us, so it doesn't really stack up?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat "

I know what you mean. Sadly most won't look past the verification summary to see what type of meet and who with. But then if they are that ignorant I wouldnt want to meet them anyway lol.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"No. so my verifications total wouldn't for example sway your decision"
no as ive probably got 4 times as many

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I have over 300 on my single profile.

I love reading others verification. I probably wouldnt be put off by them apart from those that have "just wow! Hands off ladies, he's mine" type of thing... fallen foul of one of those before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting"

It doesnt bother me how many someone has, as i tend not to read them anyway..

What bugs me is when you are reading a profile and the first line says 'check out my veri's, it will give you an idea of the type of guy i am'...

Total turn off for me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only once in all the time ive been here as someone said they wont meet me because of my verifications. It was some random guy id never had contact with. Lost alot of sleep over that

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"For those who say yes how many is too many ?"
20 in a short space of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys, guys!!

The number of verifications, and indeed the content, mean nowt!!

People lie on here. You all know that, right?

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x


"For those who say yes how many is too many ?20 in a short space of time"

I can get 20 in one night from a party.. meantz nowt.. only that I’m a genuine person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It must just be me then lol but I did have one guy slag my meets of as all fat old mingers u can guess how many veris he had

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Not really.

What I pay attention to is the verification itself. "

Agreed. Some make me want to poke myself in the eye.

Also people (like me) have meets with people outside of fab, so I don't see veris as the be-all-and-end-all

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Guys, guys!!

The number of verifications, and indeed the content, mean nowt!!

People lie on here. You all know that, right?

"

What... you, you mean we aren't nice people who are fun and great to shag too?

Shit, I've suddenly realised how cold and bleak the world is when you are just a mere mortal, and not a sex god!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take more notice of the content of the verifications rather than the number of verifications, and I follow them back through to see who they've met previously. That is just one factor out of many when deciding whether or not I'm interested in someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

Quite simply, I don't see a difference between the two?

You wouldn't meet us if we otherwise met any criteria you had, purely because of our veries, however, if we hadn't displayed any, then, again considering if we met your criteria, you would meet us, so it doesn't really stack up?"

It means we're not compatible.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

Quite simply, I don't see a difference between the two?

You wouldn't meet us if we otherwise met any criteria you had, purely because of our veries, however, if we hadn't displayed any, then, again considering if we met your criteria, you would meet us, so it doesn't really stack up?

It means we're not compatible."

But my point is, if we hadn't shown our veries, you would have no idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

Quite simply, I don't see a difference between the two?

You wouldn't meet us if we otherwise met any criteria you had, purely because of our veries, however, if we hadn't displayed any, then, again considering if we met your criteria, you would meet us, so it doesn't really stack up?

It means we're not compatible.

But my point is, if we hadn't shown our veries, you would have no idea?"

It's the showing of the veris that makes us not compatible. I explained that earlier. I don't care if you met 1 or 1,000 people.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Bear in mind some of my veris come from a mixture of parties socials and sex meets so not every one has had sex with me

You don't have to defend your profile. If your veris put people off then you're not compatible that's all.

Some people will think you have too many and some will think you don't have enough.

to be honest I don't care what people think of my profile if u actually look closely u will see I average a meet every few months and if I showed my verifications most are repeat meets some I've met 3 or 4 times it's the fact people assume I'm here to sleep my way through the site that gets my goat

Why do you care what they think? You know the truth and that's all that matters surely.

The reason I don't want to meet people with more than 4 sex veris is I think they want someone very active with lots of experience- that's why they are showing lots of veris, to attract similar people.

I've met people with no veris on show but they've met 100's. I'm ok with that because it's a different situation.

I really don't get the logic of this.. one minute you say you wont meet someone who has loads of displayed veries, but then you say you will meet someone who has had loads of meets, but shows no veries?

Yes that's right. What don't you understand?

Quite simply, I don't see a difference between the two?

You wouldn't meet us if we otherwise met any criteria you had, purely because of our veries, however, if we hadn't displayed any, then, again considering if we met your criteria, you would meet us, so it doesn't really stack up?

It means we're not compatible.

But my point is, if we hadn't shown our veries, you would have no idea?

It's the showing of the veris that makes us not compatible. I explained that earlier. I don't care if you met 1 or 1,000 people."

Ok, well, its up to you what criteria you apply, just seems a bit unusual to discount profiles that make the effort to show that they are genuine.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"For those who say yes how many is too many ?"

583?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting"

Not as such but it does make me think twice if they have met people with bareback photos on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does the amount of verified meets someone have on their profile make you still and think about wether they are worth meeting

Not as such but it does make me think twice if they have met people with bareback photos on their profile."
that doesn't mean they've done bareback though

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

For me veris are part of a whole picture. Do the veris match the profile? In both directions, does the person whose profile it is write in the same style on veris? Often a good way to spot if they are not as genuine as they seem (I had my previous profile blatantly plagiarized by others). Also looking at timescales of veris. Were they the product of a great club weekend or are they consistently prolific? I also check profiles from displayed veris, more to gauge if I will be compatible. If all their veris are from Dom Bulls or ripped Adonis types I may not open up dialogue.

I don't think it's a simple question.. but the answer is very subjective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily the amount, but certainly the wording and content can give me an idea of how they are choosing to project themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I don't know what you are worried about. People are more likely to give you a miss if you have no Veris at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't mean anything as verifications don't tell the whole story

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