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By *inky Biscuit Dunker OP   Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

See now I thought this was going to be some kinky food related thing. Damn

Interesting to read the article about it though. Anyone else come across it before or, had first hand experience of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never heard of it

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

What is if it's nothing to do with a tasty chicken escalope?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

I'm guessing here as well as dating sites will be rife with this sort of behaviour.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex-sister-in-law does this, a lot.

I sometimes feel sorry for the guys she's constantly messing around.

Although if they are too daft to notice what's going on... meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."

So it’s just one step away from ‘ghosting’? I’d never heard of it, but I suppose that friendship will fizzle out eventually if communication is like that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

'Hi again? I've got some free time to meet in a couple of years. My gift list has some lovely platinum and diamond pieces from Tiffany's, if you'd like to free up some of my time to possibly meet a little earlier . I'll chat on cam wearing them, once they have arrived. What's your name again?'

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West


"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."

Ah, thanks for the explanation, it's being done to me I just didn't know there was a name for it. Should move on but like you say they then do something incredibly nice that lures you back in!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So they've given it a name, that's interesting.

I have a friend who does this to men. In her case it seems to lead to the men behaving in an obssessive way e.g. sending endless messages until she eventually answers one. It's a kind of co-dependent thing that if one stopped the other would eventually be forced to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."

bad.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose "

Seriously just fuck his better looking mate and sack him off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting... Ive never been ghosted but have a feeling im being breadcrumbed.... Never knew there was a name for it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is the point? You like someone let it progress. You don't - don't.

Be nice to people. Don't get an ego boost out of making someone feel crap.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone isn't interested enough to give you their full attention don't hang about waiting for them.

As I said my friend does this to men. One of them hung on for over twenty years being thrown the odd bone. He eventually came to his senses, met another woman and married her. My friend was absolutely furious. I still can't understand the way either of them think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting... Ive never been ghosted but have a feeling im being breadcrumbed.... Never knew there was a name for it.... "

There is a name for everything nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting... Ive never been ghosted but have a feeling im being breadcrumbed.... Never knew there was a name for it....

There is a name for everything nowadays "

So.it seems... Although i have been calling it shitty friend syndrome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who aren't interested in you, who know you're interested, who only do just enough to keep you interested and nothing more. Horrible people, but at the same time you mostly get treated in a way you allow people to."

Not some Hansel and Gretel paedophilia sex ring scandal then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the point? You like someone let it progress. You don't - don't.

Be nice to people. Don't get an ego boost out of making someone feel crap. "

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose "

I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose

I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up."

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this for 2 years with someone, in the end I said enough was enough, like a mug it cost me a fortune over that 2 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never heard of that term before, mind you- when I first joined here, there were plenty I hadn’t heard of. Ha.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"See now I thought this was going to be some kinky food related thing. Damn

Interesting to read the article about it though. Anyone else come across it before or, had first hand experience of it? "

We just call it “left dangling on a string”

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"See now I thought this was going to be some kinky food related thing. Damn

Interesting to read the article about it though. Anyone else come across it before or, had first hand experience of it?

We just call it “left dangling on a string” "

The other term is "back up plan". Keep you around, but never actually have any interest of having a relationship with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more interested in who comes up with the names for these things!

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"I’m more interested in who comes up with the names for these things!"
someone trying to sound klever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose

I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up."

Now have to google what gas lighting is.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I’ve had a giy Whos been doing this to me for years. It’s fucking awful but you can’t help who you fall in love with I suppose

I know the feeling well. And if they are using it with gaslighting you don't know which way is up.

Now have to google what gas lighting is. "

It comes from a film where the tactic was deliberately used to make someone think they were going insane - it's usually reflecting back their own flaws and failings so convincingly they start to make the victim question their own judgement.

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