FabSwingers.com forum: married man not cheating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with men not cheating on there partner.but sometimes there are things that are not right within the relationship.so the man has no other choice but find fun somewhere.surely a couple can identify the real cheats from the ones who really just need that spark back In there lives.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I agree with men not cheating on there partner.but sometimes there are things that are not right within the relationship.so the man has no other choice but find fun somewhere.surely a couple can identify the real cheats from the ones who really just need that spark back In there lives."

With the other parties knowledge?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

If you are doing it without your wifes knowledge and blessing you are cheating.

There is no such thing as nice cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this not just a quibble over the amount of cheating?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Then try and sort those things out that are not right in the relationship, rather than being a cheat on your partner.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Cheating is cheating, no way round that. There are different reasons as to why someone does it but ultimately, if you're hiding something from your partner, you're cheating.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

It's still cheating if they don't know. They don't deserve to be cheated on if they have an illness, they deserve to be supported.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

just reminded me of a thread from last year, the guys wife was terminally ill so he came in here, the thread didn’t go too well as he tried to justify himself amongst the wolves, if the partner doesn’t give consent, it’s cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree.I would just like to say I have got permission.it was only a remake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating, no way round that. There are different reasons as to why someone does it but ultimately, if you're hiding something from your partner, you're cheating. "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I agree.I would just like to say I have got permission.it was only a remake "

Well then you're not cheating , so it's ok, if your wife doesn't mind.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No. It’d be better to have an honest conversation.

I had a patient (a bit) like this years ago. She had very severe MS and gave her man the blessing to find a lady for sex.

The poorly lady lived in a VERY big house and lived in the dining room.

The husband chose the bedroom above the dining room to shag his ‘friend’.

I still get mad when I think about him doing that now but at least he wasn’t deceiving her.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

maybe she's already found someone else.....

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I agree.I would just like to say I have got permission.it was only a remake "

I would Put a note on your profile saying that your wife is willing talk to any potential meets on the phone to confirm she gives permission as that will prove she's happy which will put some people's mind at rest

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

maybe she's already found someone else.....

I tried but unfortunately I didn't have the cure, she was moaning but I think that was more to do with me accidentally slipping into the wrong hole than it being pleasure

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I agree.I would just like to say I have got permission.it was only a remake

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

If the wife (or husband) is ok with it it's not cheating. If they aren't aware, it's cheating.

Personally, if I were long term I'll, and couldn't have sex, I would tell me partner to find it elsewhere.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

maybe she's already found someone else.....

I tried but unfortunately I didn't have the cure, she was moaning but I think that was more to do with me accidentally slipping into the wrong hole than it being pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

I find your sense of humour lacking at times. Have you no work to do man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think being flippant about someone's illness or predicament puts people in a good light.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Life eh! It's tough with difficult personal and moral decisions to make.

I don't think there are degrees of deception, you either deceive yourself or you don't.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don't think one excuse for cheating is anymore exceptable than another. If your wife/husband doesn't know then it's plain cheating,it's that simple.

Can we have more empathy for some excuses then yeah I suppose so,but it's still cheating.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I don't think one excuse for cheating is anymore exceptable than another. If your wife/husband doesn't know then it's plain cheating,it's that simple.

Can we have more empathy for some excuses then yeah I suppose so,but it's still cheating."

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"No. It’d be better to have an honest conversation.

I had a patient (a bit) like this years ago. She had very severe MS and gave her man the blessing to find a lady for sex.

The poorly lady lived in a VERY big house and lived in the dining room.

The husband chose the bedroom above the dining room to shag his ‘friend’.

I still get mad when I think about him doing that now but at least he wasn’t deceiving her. "

Was the wife ok with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's human nature to try and justify everything we do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't think one excuse for cheating is anymore exceptable than another. If your wife/husband doesn't know then it's plain cheating,it's that simple.

Can we have more empathy for some excuses then yeah I suppose so,but it's still cheating."

Yep.

People complain that religious people adjust their beliefs to fit their lifestyle...everyone (almost) does. There aren't degrees of deception or betrayal but it suits people to believe there are hence my comment about self deception.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"It's human nature to try and justify everything we do.

It is and people are only kidding themselves

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It's still cheating I'm afraid,unless your wife knows.

People have allsorts of reasons for cheating ,you may think them justified,but that doesn't mean it's any less deception .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No other choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there’s more to a relationship than just sex

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"there’s more to a relationship than just sex"

Yes there is

and I think if you really loved your partner, you wouldn't go with someone else, you would try and sort the problem out another way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"there’s more to a relationship than just sex"

Thank goodness. What on earth would we all do the rest of the time?

I know sex is important but I think for lots of people its the physical closeness and intimacy that they miss rather than the act. There are so many ways of being sexual and intimate that can be achieved even if one partner is less able than the other but it requires communication and effort.

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By *lexxxxxxxxxxxxMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"No. It’d be better to have an honest conversation.

I had a patient (a bit) like this years ago. She had very severe MS and gave her man the blessing to find a lady for sex.

The poorly lady lived in a VERY big house and lived in the dining room.

The husband chose the bedroom above the dining room to shag his ‘friend’.

I still get mad when I think about him doing that now but at least he wasn’t deceiving her. "

Omg did I bedroom above...Jesus could he not get hotel! No morals what so ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating, no way round that. There are different reasons as to why someone does it but ultimately, if you're hiding something from your partner, you're cheating. "
agree 100%

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

So my wife’s sex drive is so much higher than mine . She meets guys either me there or when I’m at work. Suppose that makes her a cheat. Think I best have words lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"So my wife’s sex drive is so much higher than mine . She meets guys either me there or when I’m at work. Suppose that makes her a cheat. Think I best have words lol"

No, it doesn’t make her a cheat as you know what she is doing.

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By *oisineandAlCouple
over a year ago

limerick

still cheating, unless the other party knows about it then it would not be cheating, then they are giving consent for the other to play around.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Can I understand why someone in a sexless relationship wants to find sex outside of marriage? Yes I can.

Can I understand why some men want to cheat on their partners when they do have a sex life? No I can't.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure.

Suggest she comes onto fab to see if a fab guy has the cure to her illness.

Maybe it's not an actual illness and with the right guy/guys she can get lots of sexual pleasure.

It's worth trying

I find your sense of humour lacking at times. Have you no work to do man. "

Only at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

Does she know you’re getting it elsewhere?

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

"Can I understand why someone in a sexless relationship wants to find sex outside of marriage? Yes I can.

Can I understand why some men want to cheat on their partners when they do have a sex life? No I can't.

Would we meet either of these guys to have sex? No we wouldn't. The reason being that people lie and say anything to get a fuck and as we have no proof either way we just say no to meeting people who aren't single."
this make sense now wife gets loads of offers from men and couples married or single people yet male half me never ever gets offers from anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your partner doesnt know its cheating. Irrelevant of excuses or reasons its lying and deceiving to someone you claim to love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. It’d be better to have an honest conversation.

I had a patient (a bit) like this years ago. She had very severe MS and gave her man the blessing to find a lady for sex.

The poorly lady lived in a VERY big house and lived in the dining room.

The husband chose the bedroom above the dining room to shag his ‘friend’.

I still get mad when I think about him doing that now but at least he wasn’t deceiving her. "

Oooh that's a different level of mean. What a dick! I hope karma bites him in the arse

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No one ever died from not having a shag.

Tell your partner. No matter how mad they'd be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there’s more to a relationship than just sex"

Withholding it for years or not showing someone any affection is not acceptable to me.

Sex and intimacy are important in a relationship. If sex wasn't important, married couples wouldn't swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're lucky your partner will allow you to have sex with other people and you can call yourself a swinger.

If you're not lucky you're just another cheater.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. It’d be better to have an honest conversation.

I had a patient (a bit) like this years ago. She had very severe MS and gave her man the blessing to find a lady for sex.

The poorly lady lived in a VERY big house and lived in the dining room.

The husband chose the bedroom above the dining room to shag his ‘friend’.

I still get mad when I think about him doing that now but at least he wasn’t deceiving her. "

Bloody hell!! What a tactless bleeping bleep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree.I would just like to say I have got permission.it was only a remake "

Some people just don't want to meet one half of a couple where one has permission to fuck other people. It doesn't necessarily mean they think you're cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take everything everyone says on here with a massive pinch of salt. I should no more believe a married man who claims to be on here because he is unhappy at home than I should believe the 36yr woman who wanted to swap dirty pics with me but turned out to have a cock and balls.

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By *ve 66Woman
over a year ago

Blackwood

So many say their wives know ...can chat to the wife if we want... don't they realise we know the wife on the end of the phone can be anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if there partner has a illness that privents them from sexual pleasure."

If the wife has given consent to her husband getting pleasure elsewhere then this is not cheating but having said that I am confident to think if I had an illness (terminal or not) that Ads would be more worried about me then getting his cock wet somewhere else but that’s just me. He has a strong sex drive and I would hate to think he was fustrated but like everything we find a way to get through it etc.

Summary: if you are lying to your partner then you are cheating, there is no ‘nice cheating’. If you are having to sneak around etc just to get your kicks, even if you think you are being kind to your partner as not to ‘hound’ them for sex then you are still cheating, it ISNT if they have given their blessing.

Geeky x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I really fail to see how its anyone but the 'cheats' business what their marital status is.

This site is about no strings fun, sex and swinging. Its nobodys place to judge what the cheat is doing. Provided they/you are aware of the situation they/you have the choice to play or not.

Only the cheat need have a conscience or sense of guilt.

Cheffy was married and cheating when we met. Clearly things were not right at home otherwise he wouldnt have been here. It suited me that he had a wife as I did not want anything more than a fuck buddy.

By the time we realised it had grown to more he left his wife to move in with me. Im not proud to have broken his marriage, there are no children involved and when he left the only comment she made was that he should 'take the fucking cat with you aswell!' so I understand and believe that it was a pretty empty relationship.

Of course we all have the right to choose who we meet and if you choose not to meet cheats thats fine... but try not to sit in judgement... you dont know why they are cheating.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

If someone starts a thread in the forum they have to accept the comments that follow whether it's good, bad or indifferent

It would be pretty boring if the only comments allowed were those that agree with the op of any topic.

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