FabSwingers.com forum: Changed by love?

By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

So who has been changed by love, and how did it change you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have.

Meeting and falling in love with someone who truly loves me back for exactly who I am has been life changing.

Just accepts me as I am, and supports me in all I do, my confidence has grown massively because of that! He has shown me happiness I never thought I'd feel, not everyday but for the most part. I'm a lucky girl

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Made me realise that just because you may love someone they can be bad for you.

Made me open to loving again but weary and my walls are high as far as giving second chances. I ain't got the time or strength to go through bullshit. I'd rather not bother.

I love seeing others in love.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I have.

Meeting and falling in love with someone who truly loves me back for exactly who I am has been life changing.

Fabulous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It made me stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It broke me and made me scared of relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So who has been changed by love, and how did it change you??

Well, I was living as a different gender...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships. "

This would've been my answer a few years back...it may change

Also....unrelated but I love your new hat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It made me see that I don't have to be like everyone else. The things that make me different are the things that make me lovable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships. "

Me too. I don't think I would survive another destructive man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made me let my guard down..

And then all kinds of bad things happened..

Not for me, thanks

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It made me see that I don't have to be like everyone else. The things that make me different are the things that make me lovable. "

Oh I love this answer!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say it changed me. More like blinded me

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Love is something I give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a lot more confident in myself - but I’ve been in love with the same guy since I was fourteen, so maybe that was just self growth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships.

This would've been my answer a few years back...it may change

Also....unrelated but I love your new hat!

Aww thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love currently is making me feel safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships.

Me too. I don't think I would survive another destructive man. "

I can't afford to lose myself again.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I’m a lot more confident in myself - but I’ve been in love with the same guy since I was fourteen, so maybe that was just self growth? "

I think love is required for proper growth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like the lack of self control it makes me feel I have.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Love currently is making me feel safe. "

Safe from what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My barriers are well and truly up. Don't think I'll ever love again, broke my heart and soul but has made me a stronger individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love currently is making me feel safe.

Safe from what do you think?"

My own feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. It’s not just the receiving of love, being able to give love is making me feel safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fitter and far healthier .

Thank you Pooch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fitter and far healthier .

Thank you Pooch

Love this! Doggos are love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason why I said love blinded me is because a couple of years ago, I was in a relationship with my former best friend who lived in Blackpool.

It looked like a perfectly normal relationship but during that time, she had me brainwashed into thinking that my family (mum, dad and brother) had me trapped and wanted me to leave home, quit my job and move to Blackpool to live with her and her mum and start a family. I was afraid that if I had said no, she would have dumped me there and then.

It nearly tore my family apart at Christmas as it led to an argument. After a chat with her on the phone about it, she sent me a text saying it was over and didn't want to go back to being friends. It broke my heart very badly that Christmas.

Since then, I had focused on myself by making new friends who have helped me regain my confidence and I am so grateful of them as if it weren't for them, I wouldn't be here.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Made me into a person who doesn't want to get close to anyone

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I fell in love once, it nearly destroyed me.

I'm grateful for the lesson though.

I'm the person I am today because if it.

I survived, I rebuilt my life.

I'm a better stronger person for it, and I know nothing will ever break me again.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Love currently is making me feel safe.

Safe from what do you think?

My own feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. It’s not just the receiving of love, being able to give love is making me feel safe. "

Yes, that is massively important I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So who has been changed by love, and how did it change you??

Love makes you vulnerable. You open up a part of you that you wouldn't to other people. That means when things are good is fantastic and when it's bad it feels like shit because it's a rejection of who you are. I love being in love. Hate when the person I love hurts me. Your have to risk the lows to get the awesome highs though.

The one that got me the worst though was becoming a parent. All of a sudden I had someone in my life who if they were hurt or worse would cause me as much pain or more psychologically than if it happened to me. That was a mind fuck for me.

Worth it though.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, it's definitely changed me. I'm a lot softer and more open and a lot less likely to feel guilty for being me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell in love once, it nearly destroyed me.

I'm grateful for the lesson though.

I'm the person I am today because if it.

I survived, I rebuilt my life.

I'm a better stronger person for it, and I know nothing will ever break me again.

That is the same for me except it nearly destroyed my family

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you love me or love the idea of me?

I think love doesn't really exist per se.

As most descriptions above shown that it is more abt how the other person makes them feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you love me or love the idea of me?

I think love doesn't really exist per se.

As most descriptions above shown that it is more abt how the other person makes them feel.

I love you x

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

"My barriers are well and truly up. Don't think I'll ever love again, broke my heart and soul but has made me a stronger individual.

This exactly x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm fitter and far healthier .

Thank you Pooch

The transformative power of love for our animals should not be underestimated, I cannot be without them.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Dunno. We've been rubbing along together for 37 odd years, both of us have changed in certain respects how much of that it down to love is debatable. I think if love changes your basic personality theres something not quite wholesome about that love."

Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love.

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By *reckledWoman
over a year ago

manchester

Love has certainly had an impact in my life. It nearly broke me and it has made me stronger but also a lot more cautious and wary of people which isn’t necessarily positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been in love and never been loved so pretty big wall now around me.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Finding love has changed my perception of love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s scary, with the wrong person it can be manipulated and used against you. It can break you and leave you doubting it’s worth. But with the right person it’s the best thing ever, suddenly the world seems brighter and life much happier. Still a scary thing but slowly being shown that not everyone is out to hurt me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son....

He changed my world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love, meh!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love. "

Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones?

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Yes, it's definitely changed me. I'm a lot softer and more open and a lot less likely to feel guilty for being me."

I'm focussing on the positive aspects today!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love.

Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones?"

Yes, I agree suppressed traits are latent, which nonetheless maybe have never been seen or known of, so there is a transformation - you just become more you!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Love, meh!"

Mwah!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"My son....

He changed my world"

Love for children is a good example, and love of (from) them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Unless your personality was bound by the lack of love.

Can love put personality traits into a person that weren't there before or bring out latent ones?

Yes, I agree suppressed traits are latent, which nonetheless maybe have never been seen or known of, so there is a transformation - you just become more you!

Ah, got you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding love has changed my perception of love

I’m glad it has darling

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out

Ah yes, this is good stuff!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out

Oh Swing! That's adorable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Made me happy. Happier than I’d dare to believe I’d ever be again. And the sex. Wow love fuelled sex can be amazing

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Yep. Made me happy. Happier than I’d dare to believe I’d ever be again. And the sex. Wow love fuelled sex can be amazing

Oh yes, the best!!!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

What about the love of friends or peers???

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out

Oh Swing! That's adorable. "

I have dust in my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s scary, with the wrong person it can be manipulated and used against you. It can break you and leave you doubting it’s worth. But with the right person it’s the best thing ever, suddenly the world seems brighter and life much happier. Still a scary thing but slowly being shown that not everyone is out to hurt me x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about the love of friends or peers???

Now that boosts my confidence! I can be very insecure about my worth as a friend or colleague/Voss. But I have amazing friends and a fantastic team working for me as well as a wonderful manager who has actually told me she loves me, so I figure I’m a very lucky lady!

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

It changed me completely made me a better person realised I was worth loving gave me confidence and self esteem ..... then Death took him

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Changed my life completly. I was a complete loose cannon when i met him. His kindness, love and patience inspired me to make all the changes. Not once has he asked me not to do something or do something but has nurtered me through all my changes. He loves me inconditionly. Has been beside me through out my illness

He would never turn his back or leave me. In return i cherish and love him unconditionly and could never hurt him. Hes taught me its ok to be me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.

But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!

If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"What about the love of friends or peers???

Yes, love from unexpected quarters can be deeply touching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question. It initially blinded me, having lived through a relationship where adolescent love dictated my actions. I now understand and appreciate it so much more. It’s about being, believing and becoming. It gives you strength, focus and belief that anything is possible. We’re not together today but that gift remains and I’m thankful for receiving and giving it!

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Good question. It initially blinded me, having lived through a relationship where adolescent love dictated my actions. I now understand and appreciate it so much more. It’s about being, believing and becoming. It gives you strength, focus and belief that anything is possible. We’re not together today but that gift remains and I’m thankful for receiving and giving it!

Good stuff - a gift that keeps on giving!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though love in a relationship blinded me, the love from all the friends I've made here on fab has made me a better, happier and more confident person that I am today. It has made me explore and gain new experiences which I am glad to have experienced.

I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Even though love in a relationship blinded me, the love from all the friends I've made here on fab has made me a better, happier and more confident person that I am today. It has made me explore and gain new experiences which I am glad to have experienced.

I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life."

Aww bless you, can't argue with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has allowed (and encouraged) me to be me. To express my feelings and to give myself completely. Open all the boxes and let things out

Oh Swing! That's adorable. "

She isn’t my angel for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love has made me more cynical and untrusting. Also made me doubt myself and my choices

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By *bwmasterukMan
over a year ago

derby

"It broke me and made me scared of relationships.

This!

100 percent this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.

But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!

If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it. "

Love that.

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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Loving a toxic man destroyed me. I lost myself. For two years I became unrecognisable and fought so hard just to survive.

But love wasn't responsible for that. He was!

If I could find such comfort in loving the wrong man... I look forward to the day I find the right one who takes that love, treasures it, and returns it. "

I missed replying to this - so happy that could see the truth, separate the man from the emotion, and retain your hope instead of entrenching!!

Hope springs eternal!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saved my life, then claimed it for it's own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once again am grateful for everything they have done to help me get back on my feet and get out of a very dark place which probably would have taken my life.

Aww bless you, can't argue with that!

Yeah. The friends I've made are definitely a blessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about the love of friends or peers???

That can be powerful too. I had two close friends in my youth. I lost them both to violent deaths.I stopped making friends after that.

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