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"You’ll get the answer it’s solely preference. People don’t often like to look more closely at how preferences are formed though, as people think it means they’re being accused of being something bad so it prevents us talking about entrenched social influences that help form unconscious preferences. " I'm not looking to call people out. Its just its perceived that only black and white guys are wanted. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. " Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. | |||
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"You’ll get the answer it’s solely preference. People don’t often like to look more closely at how preferences are formed though, as people think it means they’re being accused of being something bad so it prevents us talking about entrenched social influences that help form unconscious preferences. I'm not looking to call people out. Its just its perceived that only black and white guys are wanted. " I know, and I’m explaining why that’s likely. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that." I understand that. But because you're brown does that mean you get thrown into the same category? In the face I look asian. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that." Do they? | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. I understand that. But because you're brown does that mean you get thrown into the same category? In the face I look asian. " Apparently and unfortunately yes. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. Do they? " Yes alot. I come from a city where there are alot of asians around. They treat women like shit, and have a god like sense of entitlement. Also have a really bad attitude. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. I understand that. But because you're brown does that mean you get thrown into the same category? In the face I look asian. Apparently and unfortunately yes." But I have on my profile that I am English indian and not asian. Does that mean brown is not welcone here? | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian?" Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. Do they? Yes alot. I come from a city where there are alot of asians around. They treat women like shit, and have a god like sense of entitlement. Also have a really bad attitude. " I know men of all races that fall into that category and men of all races that don’t. (And I’m only saying men as this was the OP’s topic - guys) | |||
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"Where are the ones who have 'asian friends' ? " Nowhere as they obviously are not welcome on here. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. " Has India moved?  | |||
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"Where are the ones who have 'asian friends' ? Nowhere as they obviously are not welcome on here. " Bless you. I meant the people who said that they aren't racist becayse they have asian friends, while other have unlabelled friends. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. I understand that. But because you're brown does that mean you get thrown into the same category? In the face I look asian. " Unfortunately yes it does mean they get thrown into the same category. There's hundreds/ thousands of men on here and people will often group them together to make it easier to reject loads in one go. However some will treat you as a person and not as a group. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. Do they? Yes alot. I come from a city where there are alot of asians around. They treat women like shit, and have a god like sense of entitlement. Also have a really bad attitude. I know men of all races that fall into that category and men of all races that don’t. (And I’m only saying men as this was the OP’s topic - guys)" It is easier to close eyes on people's behaviour of your own skin colour... | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. " You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. " Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. " Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have ." In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. | |||
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"As an Indian guy, I get where OP is coming from. It's pretty frustrating ticking all the boxes for someone and then finding out they don't want a brown guy. It's something we just have to accept. Probability says you're gonna meet somebody if you keep at it, so just take it on the chin until you do find that special somebody to kick-start your swinging life! "They actually do you a favour. I personally wouldn't like to share my intimacy with someone who sees me as a label or a skin colour. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia." I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. " You proved again OP how (insert insult here) you are. | |||
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"As an Indian guy, I get where OP is coming from. It's pretty frustrating ticking all the boxes for someone and then finding out they don't want a brown guy. It's something we just have to accept. Probability says you're gonna meet somebody if you keep at it, so just take it on the chin until you do find that special somebody to kick-start your swinging life!
They actually do you a favour.
I personally wouldn't like to share my intimacy with someone who sees me as a label or a skin colour. "Almost everyone does if they realise it or not. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. " Well that’s just factually incorrect. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. You proved again OP how (insert insult here) you are. " I'm not. I've grown up with Pakistani guy all my life. Never got along with them and always saw how they treat women. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. Well that’s just factually incorrect. " This planet is factually incorrect.  | |||
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"As an Indian guy, I get where OP is coming from. It's pretty frustrating ticking all the boxes for someone and then finding out they don't want a brown guy. It's something we just have to accept. Probability says you're gonna meet somebody if you keep at it, so just take it on the chin until you do find that special somebody to kick-start your swinging life!
They actually do you a favour.
I personally wouldn't like to share my intimacy with someone who sees me as a label or a skin colour. "And I call you my hairy garlic tic-tac muncher  | |||
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"As an Indian guy, I get where OP is coming from. It's pretty frustrating ticking all the boxes for someone and then finding out they don't want a brown guy. It's something we just have to accept. Probability says you're gonna meet somebody if you keep at it, so just take it on the chin until you do find that special somebody to kick-start your swinging life!
They actually do you a favour.
I personally wouldn't like to share my intimacy with someone who sees me as a label or a skin colour.
And I call you my hairy garlic tic-tac muncher "That just sounds amazing. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. You proved again OP how (insert insult here) you are. I'm not. I've grown up with Pakistani guy all my life. Never got along with them and always saw how they treat women. " Starting a thread abt asian men in order to bash asian men, well not all, just Pakistani, right !? | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. " Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice  | |||
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"Asian refers to all from the continent of Asia. Last I checked, which admittedly was probably a very long time ago, India was part of the continent of Asia, along with Pakistan and Bangladesh and Vietnam and Cambodia and probably many other smaller countries. Being partially, not having any contact with, Indian does sadly mean those specifying no Asians may not be interested in you. There choice. Do you want such people to show you interest? I wouldn't. Id prefer to meet people who take each and every individual on their own merit." So you'd meet someone who says no blacks or asian? | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. You proved again OP how (insert insult here) you are. I'm not. I've grown up with Pakistani guy all my life. Never got along with them and always saw how they treat women. Starting a thread abt asian men in order to bash asian men, well not all, just Pakistani, right !? " Not bashing them. The conversation turned to how they are perceived. I am just giving my experience of the matter. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice "Hardly being prejudice. I'm just giving my personal perception of them from my experience. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. " Can't say I've ever seen that, but fair enough if you have. Only 3 labels I've seen people use on here is white, black and Asian. I do kind of understand the mixed confusion though, but then if people rule me out based on anything other than my attractiveness or personality they're just no my kind of people. People will have different reasons for that preference. Ruling out a whole race/nation seems odd to me anyway because every race/nation has beautiful people. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. Can't say I've ever seen that, but fair enough if you have. Only 3 labels I've seen people use on here is white, black and Asian. I do kind of understand the mixed confusion though, but then if people rule me out based on anything other than my attractiveness or personality they're just no my kind of people. People will have different reasons for that preference. Ruling out a whole race/nation seems odd to me anyway because every race/nation has beautiful people. " I agree, but the general perception of Pakistani guys in the world makes us brown guys get roped into that. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. Can't say I've ever seen that, but fair enough if you have. Only 3 labels I've seen people use on here is white, black and Asian. I do kind of understand the mixed confusion though, but then if people rule me out based on anything other than my attractiveness or personality they're just no my kind of people. People will have different reasons for that preference. Ruling out a whole race/nation seems odd to me anyway because every race/nation has beautiful people. I agree, but the general perception of Pakistani guys in the world makes us brown guys get roped into that. " At this point, im out | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. " I’m sorry that’s not true. India and Pakistan are both in Asia. If you are implying that people can’t tell the different between Indians and Pakistanis then that is different. Many other countries are also part of Asia such as Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Bangladesh, China, Hong Kong, etc Personally my experience is that some men from other ethnicities have no foreplay skills and it’s all about their own pleasure. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. " I think you are making an issue where there isn’t one. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded! " I agree with that fully. But it still comes down to the fact that brown does not mean Pakistani and not all brown guys treat women like shit. This happens in every race but brown guys tend to be pointed out the most. | |||
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"Is India not in Asia?? I have on the odd the occasion been mistaken for being part Asian, even though the only Asian origins in my family is Chinese on my dad's side and the last of that was his great great nan. Asian is usually labelled to Pakistani people. Asians are people from the continent of Asia. Whether that be India, China, thailand or Pakistan, it's all Asia. I know. But that's just what Pakistanis are labelled as. Whereas indian, Chinese and others are labelled as their race. I think you are making an issue where there isn’t one. " I'm really not. All my life I've had people say asian implying Pakistani. I only got called out on it when I started uni and my southern roommate said that they are Pakistani and asian mean anything but inda ans Pakistan. | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. " For us, race, religion and skin colour plays no part in why we find people attractive. Unfortunately there are some Asian (Indian & Pakistani) guys who treat ladies in a really derogatory way and some people choose to discount the whole group rather than take a risk. Ultimately though there is no point worrying about things that you can't change. If people don't find you attractive then you'll never persuaded then that they should. If I was you though, I wouldn't make any refferences to your race and let people judge you as they see you. Cal | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice
Hardly being prejudice. I'm just giving my personal perception of them from my experience. "That's racial prejudice because your rating a whole race based on a limited experience of those you have met ? | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded! "
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded! I agree with that fully. But it still comes down to the fact that brown does not mean Pakistani and not all brown guys treat women like shit. This happens in every race but brown guys tend to be pointed out the most. " It comes down to you moving the goalposts yet again.. You started out saying you dont want to turn this into a whiney post but thats exactly what it now is.. If people have a preference that does not include brown people (from whatever background) don't question it.. Just move on | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice
Hardly being prejudice. I'm just giving my personal perception of them from my experience.
That's racial prejudice because your rating a whole race based on a limited experience of those you have met ?"I came to uni with an open mind about them. First month I almost get into 6 fights on nights out with them sticking up for my female friends when they can't take no for an answer. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded! " | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded! I agree with that fully. But it still comes down to the fact that brown does not mean Pakistani and not all brown guys treat women like shit. This happens in every race but brown guys tend to be pointed out the most. It comes down to you moving the goalposts yet again.. You started out saying you dont want to turn this into a whiney post but thats exactly what it now is.. If people have a preference that does not include brown people (from whatever background) don't question it.. Just move on" They don't say brown. And this is hardly a whiney post. Its just you making it look like one. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
"I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed). It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. "This is what I tried to do on this thread and everyone jumps on the racial prejudice waggon. The world we live in now is pathetic. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious.
This is what I tried to do on this thread and everyone jumps on the racial prejudice waggon. The world we live in now is pathetic. "No, what you did what was not the same as the thread discussion I was referencing. Not at all. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. ". I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past. There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences. They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to. It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships. Does this the make the person a ism or ist. In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
"Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
"Growing up I was bullied by predomemantly Pakistanis, but I am also not attracted to black women so much. For me my main attraction is towards white women. Not that I'll rule out any other race. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect. "Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women. | |||
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"This is what I tried to do on this thread and everyone jumps on the racial prejudice waggon. The world we live in now is pathetic. " Interesting thought there as you yourself showed prejudices against Pakistanis in your thread | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. Do they? Yes alot. I come from a city where there are alot of asians around. They treat women like shit, and have a god like sense of entitlement. Also have a really bad attitude. " I guess you have answered your own question. | |||
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"This is what I tried to do on this thread and everyone jumps on the racial prejudice waggon. The world we live in now is pathetic. Interesting thought there as you yourself showed prejudices against Pakistanis in your thread " Hardly a prejudice, more of an observation. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women. "Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!) | |||
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"Not looking to turn this into a Moany post. I'm not asian but mixed English, indian. Why do asian guys get frowned upon on here? I see so many profiles specifically blocking out asian guys. Asian men have a bad reputation with some people for being pushy and disrespectful towards women. Could be that. Do they? Yes alot. I come from a city where there are alot of asians around. They treat women like shit, and have a god like sense of entitlement. Also have a really bad attitude. I guess you have answered your own question." Hardly. I was looking for other peoples opinions not a one person statement. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect. "I agree there is a big input from social expectations as well. In the long run the whole subject is not black and white. | |||
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"This is what I tried to do on this thread and everyone jumps on the racial prejudice waggon. The world we live in now is pathetic. Interesting thought there as you yourself showed prejudices against Pakistanis in your thread Hardly a prejudice, more of an observation. " Prejudice is an affective feeling towards a person or group member based solely on that person's group membership. (This is exactly what your opinion did) The word is often used to refer to preconceived, usually unfavorable, feelings towards people or a person because of their sex, gender, beliefs, values, social class, age, disability, religion, sexuality, race/ethnicity, language, nationality, beauty, occupation, education, criminality, sport team affiliation or other personal characteristics. In this case, it refers to a positive or negative evaluation of another person based on that person's perceived group membership. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)"I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism. | |||
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"If you are English Indian aren't you also English Asian? Not at all. Indian and asian are completely different. You know that , but many of us would have no idea . We see Pakistani , Indian , and Asian as one . Wrong , yes , but nevertheless that’s the way it is . So is the colour of ones skin the determining factor ? Yes it is for those who specify white only , or black only , or no Asians . And some say it’s not racist , well that’s a matter of opinion . We have enjoyed meets with every race equally , and have no preference or deference to what colour skin people have . Nor their religious belief , nor what newspaper they read , or political persuasion they have . In reality it is racial prejudice. It makes sense to me why this site is almost purely black and white. Brown doesn't mean Pakistani. Personally I've never got along with them because they the ones I've met are creeps, have no respect for women and are just overall dicks. Moaning about racial prejudice while displaying racial prejudice " | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism. "You’re conflating the words prejudice and discrimination. We all have prejudices. It simply means to pre-judge. Discrimination is the action based on prejudice. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism. "Really do you feel that the majority of people on here that don't meet Asian guys is due to terrorism. Lol Is this going to be the new Godwin's law. "If you don't get the answer you want play the terrorism card" We have a number of friends that don't play with Asian guys. We were discussing this not long ago as I was interested in why. Most of them had negative experiences in clubs etc so have decided its not for them Also.a number of them don't play with single men for the same reason. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism.
You’re conflating the words prejudice and discrimination. We all have prejudices. It simply means to pre-judge. Discrimination is the action based on prejudice. "Who mentioned discrimination? That is where the original prejudice comes from. As the typical terrorist is browns so the prejudice translates into nit picking at the majority from a few guys acting like dicks and mistreatment of women. But in a black or white race they aren't picked as much because the image is already there about brown. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism.
Really do you feel that the majority of people on here that don't meet Asian guys is due to terrorism. Lol
Is this going to be the new Godwin's law. "If you don't get the answer you want play the terrorism card"
We have a number of friends that don't play with Asian guys. We were discussing this not long ago as I was interested in why.
Most of them had negative experiences in clubs etc so have decided its not for them
Also.a number of them don't play with single men for the same reason."Never said that. And this is you taking it out of context. And overall Pakistani guys do tend to be overly more pushy than others I've seen. Nightclubs are a prime example. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism.
You’re conflating the words prejudice and discrimination. We all have prejudices. It simply means to pre-judge. Discrimination is the action based on prejudice.
Who mentioned discrimination? That is where the original prejudice comes from. As the typical terrorist is browns so the prejudice translates into nit picking at the majority from a few guys acting like dicks and mistreatment of women.
But in a black or white race they aren't picked as much because the image is already there about brown. "I mentioned it as you were saying you don’t have prejudice, everyone has prejudices. You were actually meaning (from your post that I had been replying to) that you don’t discriminate. I didn’t answer your point about terrorists as I didn’t want to get into a discussion where I’m going to have to explain words. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I remember that thread. I saw a few people trying to discuss what I talk about in my first response at the top of this thread, and people shutting down a more nuanced conversation (within which not a single person trying to discuss the point, was ever suggesting that people don’t have the right to choose who to sleep with, but that there is more of a conversation intellectually to understand how preference is formed).
It’s really an interesting conversation but people aren’t willing to have it if it means really shining a light on themselves and their subconscious. .
I agree Personal preferences are deep rooted and built from experiences from the past.
There was a really interested study around subconscious prejudices and partner preferences.
They found that negative experiences from childhood can shape who we are attracted to.
It could be that someone was bullied by a certain type of person. During the years going forward may exclude people who fit this type of person as friends or relationships.
Does this the make the person a ism or ist.
In the long run be it right or wrong every one of us has prejudices normal built on personal experiences or learnt behaviour.
Actually not just individual experiences but social constructs have a much more insidious and unconscious affect.
Makes sense as I have always been around white people as friends and I'm mainly attracted to white women.
Not quite what I mean. And you appear to be using my point (as you interpret it) in the response before this post re individual experience as an excuse and therefore it being okay to act on your prejudice - that’s not my point at all!)
I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism.
You’re conflating the words prejudice and discrimination. We all have prejudices. It simply means to pre-judge. Discrimination is the action based on prejudice.
Who mentioned discrimination? That is where the original prejudice comes from. As the typical terrorist is browns so the prejudice translates into nit picking at the majority from a few guys acting like dicks and mistreatment of women.
But in a black or white race they aren't picked as much because the image is already there about brown.
I mentioned it as you were saying you don’t have prejudice, everyone has prejudices. You were actually meaning (from your post that I had been replying to) that you don’t discriminate. I didn’t answer your point about terrorists as I didn’t want to get into a discussion where I’m going to have to explain words. "Explain words? I'm just mentioning where the original prejudice comes from worldwide. | |||
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" I am not prejudice. I will happily talk to a Pakistani guy, but its just my experience that the ones I meet are dicks. Not saying all are but the minority ruin it for the majority. But I feel the real unconscious prejudice comes from terrorism. Never said that. And this is you taking it out of context. And overall Pakistani guys do tend to be overly more pushy than others I've seen. Nightclubs are a prime example. " You made the above comments hence my comments on Godwin's law and why my friends don't meet again guys. And sweeping comments about Pakistani men is showing your prejudices against thrm. End of. | |||
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"I can see I've chosen a subject that people will either say a little about, or just completely shy away from. " I’m happy to discuss but not when it requires continual explanation. I’m out, I’ll join when there’s someone who provides interesting debate (IMO). | |||
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"I can see I've chosen a subject that people will either say a little about, or just completely shy away from. " Nonalot is being said you just don't like the responses that's all. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
"I'm not surprised! Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none. "People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings. "What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to. Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people. "This!!! Sometimes it is a racial issue, sometimes people just aren’t attracted to a certain race | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people. "This was never about preference. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people. "Interestingly I have thoughts re the social construct that leads us to fat shaming too. At no point do I think that people have to sleep with anyone they don’t want to - but can we all start to look a little closer at how “sexual preferences” are formed? | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people.
This!!! Sometimes it is a racial issue, sometimes people just aren’t attracted to a certain race"Agreed there are those that are racist. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people.
Interestingly I have thoughts re the social construct that leads us to fat shaming too.
At no point do I think that people have to sleep with anyone they don’t want to - but can we all start to look a little closer at how “sexual preferences” are formed? "Now that is a conversation I would love to have with you. | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people.
Interestingly I have thoughts re the social construct that leads us to fat shaming too.
At no point do I think that people have to sleep with anyone they don’t want to - but can we all start to look a little closer at how “sexual preferences” are formed? "It might be time to post a thread with something I read recently that I think will cause debate... | |||
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"Why do people focus their attention on those not seeking them? This site caters for all because guess what? We don't have universal appeal. For every "no asians/blacks" there are dozens with no preference. This is not a place of work or the United Nations. Sexual attraction is personal. You may have close friends you love dearly but don't want to shag. I have short and fat male friends: really close friends but I don't find them sexually attractive. Of course, as everywhere, there are ist/isms. However, when it comes to who you allow into your body people should be able to say "no thanks" without people getting ball ache for being excluded!
I asked this kind of question in a thread once. I gave a few examples of sexual preferences that some people aren't attracted to but everyone just jumped on the 'black' example saying I was racist.
I'm not surprised!
Some will automatically assume race if they're excluded and cry racism whèn there is none.
People are way too shy to call out anyone. This world is getting to scared of hurting feelings.
What's there to call out. People can choice who they have consensual fun with and who they don't want to.
Damn I would be crying on my pasty if I was upset everytime someone says sorry we don't do fat people.
Interestingly I have thoughts re the social construct that leads us to fat shaming too.
At no point do I think that people have to sleep with anyone they don’t want to - but can we all start to look a little closer at how “sexual preferences” are formed?
It might be time to post a thread with something I read recently that I think will cause debate..."Please do. | |||
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"Asian refers to all from the continent of Asia. Last I checked, which admittedly was probably a very long time ago, India was part of the continent of Asia, along with Pakistan and Bangladesh and Vietnam and Cambodia and probably many other smaller countries. Being partially, not having any contact with, Indian does sadly mean those specifying no Asians may not be interested in you. There choice. Do you want such people to show you interest? I wouldn't. Id prefer to meet people who take each and every individual on their own merit. So you'd meet someone who says no blacks or asian? " No we wouldn't knowingly but then we tend only to meet at clubs and rarely feel the need to check peoples fab profiles before chatting. If a couple or single contacts us and their profile says "No blacks or Asians" we are highly unlikely to meet them simply because we prefer open minded individuals as playmates. | |||
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