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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " I will happily, 100% admit I fall Into this category.. But I’ve worked incredibly hard to look how I look so in the same respect I don’t see anything wrong with it | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? I will happily, 100% admit I fall Into this category.. But I’ve worked incredibly hard to look how I look so in the same respect I don’t see anything wrong with it" And you look fantastic with it | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? I will happily, 100% admit I fall Into this category.. But I’ve worked incredibly hard to look how I look so in the same respect I don’t see anything wrong with it" Good for you. Love that. | |||
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"Answer OP - Yeah I feel secure enough to put face pics up on a good day. Even though I feel like s*** about myself at the mo. I admit it does feel good to get fabs but its not good to live by it. x" Hope you feel better about yourself soon. I think your pics are striking- I mean that as a compliment. x Good point that it can have the opposite effect too. | |||
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"Simple answer is some will some won't - there's no hard and fast single answer to the question. We're all here to seek attention to a greater or lesser degree, whether that be by posting pics, begging fabs, or starting forum threads of varying kinds from the trite to the pseudo intellectual or any of the other myriad ways we all interact with the site - if we weren't, and with the possible exception of those that aren't meeting (and even then it's arguable that they are still seeking attention in some way), what would be the point in being here? I personally post pics of myself because I enjoy taking them, and yes because they attract a degree of attention to me and yep seeing them get fabs provides a level of validation for my efforts. Does it overly bother me if I don't get attention, then honest answer is yes, but that's my whole point of having a profile - to attract attention and meet others as a result of it. " You said hard and fast *giggles* | |||
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"Be a bit hypocrital of me to ask for face pics without them seeing me - yes, I could send them, but that means sending a face pic to every man who sends me one. I can save time by just having them on my profile And for the other photos, well I look good! I’ve hated my body for years and after being pregnant three times last year and my body going through so many changes, I’ve learned to at least like it. I honestly do wish I could be one of those women with no pics, making chat with men myself. But I’m absolutely hopeless at approaching men, I’m far too shy and anxious so this is easier - maybe one day " You shouldn’t be, you’re a queen.. Rock it | |||
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"Simple answer is some will some won't - there's no hard and fast single answer to the question. We're all here to seek attention to a greater or lesser degree, whether that be by posting pics, begging fabs, or starting forum threads of varying kinds from the trite to the pseudo intellectual or any of the other myriad ways we all interact with the site - if we weren't, and with the possible exception of those that aren't meeting (and even then it's arguable that they are still seeking attention in some way), what would be the point in being here? I personally post pics of myself because I enjoy taking them, and yes because they attract a degree of attention to me and yep seeing them get fabs provides a level of validation for my efforts. Does it overly bother me if I don't get attention, then honest answer is yes, but that's my whole point of having a profile - to attract attention and meet others as a result of it. You said hard and fast *giggles*" I was seeking attention by doing so | |||
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"Be a bit hypocrital of me to ask for face pics without them seeing me - yes, I could send them, but that means sending a face pic to every man who sends me one. I can save time by just having them on my profile And for the other photos, well I look good! I’ve hated my body for years and after being pregnant three times last year and my body going through so many changes, I’ve learned to at least like it. I honestly do wish I could be one of those women with no pics, making chat with men myself. But I’m absolutely hopeless at approaching men, I’m far too shy and anxious so this is easier - maybe one day You shouldn’t be, you’re a queen.. Rock it " I’m trying | |||
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"And the compliments do make me feel good, even though the majority of them are just sent to me on the offchance I’d travel 200 miles+ to suck some cock, right now! " You look stunning now you mentioned a blowie | |||
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"And the compliments do make me feel good, even though the majority of them are just sent to me on the offchance I’d travel 200 miles+ to suck some cock, right now! You look stunning now you mentioned a blowie " | |||
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"Simple answer is some will some won't - there's no hard and fast single answer to the question. We're all here to seek attention to a greater or lesser degree, whether that be by posting pics, begging fabs, or starting forum threads of varying kinds from the trite to the pseudo intellectual or any of the other myriad ways we all interact with the site - if we weren't, and with the possible exception of those that aren't meeting (and even then it's arguable that they are still seeking attention in some way), what would be the point in being here? I personally post pics of myself because I enjoy taking them, and yes because they attract a degree of attention to me and yep seeing them get fabs provides a level of validation for my efforts. Does it overly bother me if I don't get attention, then honest answer is yes, but that's my whole point of having a profile - to attract attention and meet others as a result of it. " Trite is a good word. My threads are trite shite. | |||
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"And the compliments do make me feel good, even though the majority of them are just sent to me on the offchance I’d travel 200 miles+ to suck some cock, right now! " Yeah some will be tripe for sure but many will be sincere. Distance is irrelevant when you fancy someone. If they have no chance of meeting you then perhaps they are more likely to be sincere. Hope that makes sense. x | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " Sometimes to the first question. No to the second. Although I do find it a turn on if people like my pics - especially people I know/am attracted to. I find sexual pleasure in sharing pics, not self-esteem. I think highly enough of myself as it is. | |||
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"And the compliments do make me feel good, even though the majority of them are just sent to me on the offchance I’d travel 200 miles+ to suck some cock, right now! Yeah some will be tripe for sure but many will be sincere. Distance is irrelevant when you fancy someone. If they have no chance of meeting you then perhaps they are more likely to be sincere. Hope that makes sense. x" Yeah I get you! It’s the ‘you’re the hottest women on fab, would you suck this right now?’ Which every word is usually spelt incorrect, and then sent five dick pics, all from a slightly different angle, and a 78% chance of a toilet seat in view | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " In my case, yes. I'm an unashamed exhibitionist in certain circumstances. I don't need them to be fabbed or admired (I'd be massively disappointed if I did ) to make me feel secure. Mr N and I just like taking and showing them. It's the fact that my partner wants to and enjoys taking photos of me that makes me secure. | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " I've got 3 pics on my public photos and my fab my pics option is turned off. I don't need an ego boost x | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? I've got 3 pics on my public photos and my fab my pics option is turned off. I don't need an ego boost x" I don't need an ego boost and I certainly don't get it from fabs or forum. I just like showing off | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? I've got 3 pics on my public photos and my fab my pics option is turned off. I don't need an ego boost x I don't need an ego boost and I certainly don't get it from fabs or forum. I just like showing off " | |||
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"O think there's probably some correlation there on attention seeking bit there's a diverse group of people here and some have loads of pics as a tool to secure more sex - some do the opposite, just having 1 or 2 poor ones,for the same reason. Eg, they make them poorly focused or unusual angles as a photographic blemish remover, hoping their self-perceived downsides won't get discovered, so they'll get meets. I'm unsure why people want masses of Fabs, unless they get little interest or aren't particularly secure unless getting attention. " There's a reason I have poor/ no pics... The Fabs thing I think could sometimes be an insecurity thing. But I think for some it's a self worth thing in a good way. Like Adsub33 said above. I can understand that. I actually think posting pics for Fabs is good either way. Whether it gives someone a boost despite their insecurity - or if they already feel good about themselves and want to show it off. | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " No but I find it intensely annoying to have to make a decision about interacting with someone without enough public pics to get an idea of if I might fancy them or not, so I would not dream of offering less. | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " Mine are public so people know what I look like, if they like me they message if they don’t, they don’t | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. " | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. " Yeah. Me too. The British love a whinging underdog. They don't like confident self assured. Bloody weird bunch. | |||
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"Im not insecure I just enjoy taking and posting pics.. And i like getting them fabbed It has bugger all to do with my self worth.. My profile is my shop window and im just displaying my wares" It's a good attitude to have. I enjoy Fabbing as much as being fabbed, if not more. | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. " Yes! I was pretty confused about this when I first moved here. I think it's quite reversed in the U.S.. Generally speaking. | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. " Me too. For some odd reason this made me think of Beach Body SOS. Vicky Pattison is on there and she gives them such a withering look up and down, I thought she was being such a bitch when I saw the adverts. But then she comes out with some really body positive comments like what amazing tits she has or what fabulous big arms he has. I love it!! She clearly means it and it gives them a massive boost. I realise that's random and unrelated to what you said but hey it's after midnight. | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. Me too. For some odd reason this made me think of Beach Body SOS. Vicky Pattison is on there and she gives them such a withering look up and down, I thought she was being such a bitch when I saw the adverts. But then she comes out with some really body positive comments like what amazing tits she has or what fabulous big arms he has. I love it!! She clearly means it and it gives them a massive boost. I realise that's random and unrelated to what you said but hey it's after midnight. " The way I see it is you've got the body your life's given you. If you like it life is so much easier, it's one less thing weighing you down. I know what my body looks like, I'm well aware that it isn't perfect but I think it looks good I'm happy with it and I'm a bloody great big show off. I don't know who Vicki Pattison is but if she says nice things and means them she can't be all bad. | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? I will happily, 100% admit I fall Into this category.. But I’ve worked incredibly hard to look how I look so in the same respect I don’t see anything wrong with it" . I don’t see anything wrong with it either. You owe me another apology | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. Yes! I was pretty confused about this when I first moved here. I think it's quite reversed in the U.S.. Generally speaking." I don't know a lot about the U.S. but I get the impression that confidence is celebrated. I get tired of telling someone they look great and they respond with "yeah but have you seen how fat my bum looks in it" | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. Yes! I was pretty confused about this when I first moved here. I think it's quite reversed in the U.S.. Generally speaking. I don't know a lot about the U.S. but I get the impression that confidence is celebrated. I get tired of telling someone they look great and they respond with "yeah but have you seen how fat my bum looks in it" " My bum looks good in, and out of everything | |||
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"The British are very disapproving of show offs and confident people, especially if they're women. If you say you're not confident about your body you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're fabulous. If you say you're confident about how you look you'll get hundreds of people telling you you're not all that. Confuses me no end. Yes! I was pretty confused about this when I first moved here. I think it's quite reversed in the U.S.. Generally speaking. I don't know a lot about the U.S. but I get the impression that confidence is celebrated. I get tired of telling someone they look great and they respond with "yeah but have you seen how fat my bum looks in it" My bum looks good in, and out of everything " | |||
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"My bum looks good in, and out of everything " So it seems | |||
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"My bum looks good in, and out of everything So it seems " | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " I think people who enjoy taking photos and uploading them to fab, enjoy the attention or they wouldn't be uploading all there photos for everyone to see. I think people who keep there photos private and share with who they wish are just a bit more selective and private about things. I also think people who have a few photos to show what they look like and keep the rest private are just trying to get across what they look like for potential meets. Either way do whatever makes you happy. Would be boring if we were all the same. Though the people who keep uploading fake photos, even though they've been caught out, and then they keep adding more fake photos. How are they still even here?!? | |||
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"To be honest fair play to anyone that gets themselves in top shape. It takes a lot of hard work. I think in the beginning it stems from insecurities. But long term to get in the shape that some on the men and woman are in on here it takes a lot of hard work and dedication 27/4. Why not show it off and take a little satisfaction and compliments for a job well done? I’m working towards getting in shape and trust me some days it fucking hurts!!! " I'm not in top shape and very few are. That's the point though it isn't about perfection. | |||
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"To be honest fair play to anyone that gets themselves in top shape. It takes a lot of hard work. I think in the beginning it stems from insecurities. But long term to get in the shape that some on the men and woman are in on here it takes a lot of hard work and dedication 27/4. Why not show it off and take a little satisfaction and compliments for a job well done? I’m working towards getting in shape and trust me some days it fucking hurts!!! I'm not in top shape and very few are. That's the point though it isn't about perfection." | |||
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"To be honest fair play to anyone that gets themselves in top shape. It takes a lot of hard work. I think in the beginning it stems from insecurities. But long term to get in the shape that some on the men and woman are in on here it takes a lot of hard work and dedication 27/4. Why not show it off and take a little satisfaction and compliments for a job well done? I’m working towards getting in shape and trust me some days it fucking hurts!!! I'm not in top shape and very few are. That's the point though it isn't about perfection. " Yeah but I'm not half bad for an old bird | |||
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"To be honest fair play to anyone that gets themselves in top shape. It takes a lot of hard work. I think in the beginning it stems from insecurities. But long term to get in the shape that some on the men and woman are in on here it takes a lot of hard work and dedication 27/4. Why not show it off and take a little satisfaction and compliments for a job well done? I’m working towards getting in shape and trust me some days it fucking hurts!!! " Exercise hurts? I'm not going to try that then! | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " I tend to message those with no pic, lesser pics for that very reason. I find the hidden profiles the best. | |||
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"Do you think that the quantity and type of public pics people have, correlates with how much of an attention seeker they are? Do you need your pics to be fabbed/ admired to boost your ego if you feel insecure? " Yes and no... When I can't meet for extended periods of time I tend to post pics more regularly in an effort to stay 'relevant' and to hopefully hold the interest of those I do hope to meet at some point in the future.... and yes, when a pic gets a lot of fabs its flattering and sometimes has given me a lift on a particularly shitty day. I'm still not getting my foof out for fabs though... | |||
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"I only got my shoes on public and I think I get more messages thanks to them !! " I have my ankles | |||
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"I only got my shoes on public and I think I get more messages thanks to them !! " They did it for me anyway... | |||
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