FabSwingers.com forum: Mmf, first timer and finding decent people..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m a little fish in a big pond..

how do I find 2 decent guys?

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Try a local swingers club an get to know people

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Sit back and wait for your inbox to fill up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s full but putting myself in a position with 2 guys needs more thought than normal

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By *layfulAussieMan
over a year ago

Sydney

"It’s full but putting myself in a position with 2 guys needs more thought than normal

Willing volunteer here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think club the way to go. I have one male but finding the 2nd is a struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn your inbox is gonna blow up.

If you do get it on make sure you try dvp its the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try a local swingers club an get to know people"

I want a MFM but daren’t go to a club so gotta hope a fwb has a friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clubs scare me.. I need someone to take me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Coquette69 why not a club? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my friend have done mmf loads of times im sure he would be willing to help us out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If youre nervous about it, I highly recommend arranging it with a couple. That way you've still got another girl in the room and you can meet them first before you all find another willing guy! (of which there will be countless!)

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By *layfulAussieMan
over a year ago

Sydney

"Clubs scare me.. I need someone to take me

Club buddy? Would love to accompany you... could be fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first mmf was with a guy i was seeing off here and his mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X"

Not "fit" enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although by the offers in this thread, I think a few of us could very happily band together and make it happen haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If youre nervous about it, I highly recommend arranging it with a couple. That way you've still got another girl in the room and you can meet them first before you all find another willing guy! (of which there will be countless!)"

That's not a MFM then is it...??

I'm not bisexual so don't want another woman there!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

All the guys we have met for mmf have been lovely. I recommend it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Whaaaaaaat??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust you gut instincts. Read profiles chat to guys first but your instincts will guide you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mff I’ve done.. and most men that are part of a a mf couple aren’t interested in joining another man x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you messaged any mm couples. I thought that would have been a good place to start x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you messaged any mm couples. I thought that would have been a good place to start x"

I guess I hadn’t really thought of that thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although by the offers in this thread, I think a few of us could very happily band together and make it happen haha"

Haha, that’s the point tho.. which volunteers do I trust?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although by the offers in this thread, I think a few of us could very happily band together and make it happen haha

Haha, that’s the point tho.. which volunteers do I trust?"

None of them. Do a bit of homework and put a bit of effort in and you'll find them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I don't trust any of you! though not sure I trust myself either... hmm this is a problem

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

Swim little fishy....swim

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Swim little fishy....swim

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find a social meet first put me at ease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I think you'd be surprised over the guys in a couple. Ive never had an issue being the second guy (or 1st). Just takes the right people. Most guys get off on the idea of multiple guys with one girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always find a social meet first put me at ease"

Thanks Hun, that’s deffo part of the deal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make good friends with just one man first and build your trust with him,before looking for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For things like this, I bring along someone I know well and trust and I think that's a good idea and definitely go to a club, much more comfortable environment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For things like this, I bring along someone I know well and trust and I think that's a good idea and definitely go to a club, much more comfortable environment

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

You shouldn’t worry about that Geeky was petrified everyone would laugh at her for being a bigger lady but I had guys approaching me asking if we’d be interested? We also had a great time in the hot tub at Eureka’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Most clubs don't have a criteria you have to fit and you get swingers of literally all shapes, sizes and ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

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Yeah but women can be bitchy and they probably would be bitching... The only time I have had issues in the gym was from nasty females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Most clubs don't have a criteria you have to fit and you get swingers of literally all shapes, sizes and ages. "

I'm not talking about the club...it's the patrons

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

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Yeah but women can be bitchy and they probably would be bitching... The only time I have had issues in the gym was from nasty females

Honestly Geeky was one of the skinnier lady’s there and the ladies said she was beautiful too

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

That's not a MFM then is it...??

I'm not bisexual so don't want another woman there! "

I don't get the other female thing ( note she was called a girl ) what is the other woman supposed to do ? Hold your fucking handbag ? Be a bouncer?

I still don't get it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Most clubs don't have a criteria you have to fit and you get swingers of literally all shapes, sizes and ages.

I'm not talking about the club...it's the patrons

To be fair I don’t have any experience to go on but this is kinda what puts me off the idea of a club..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not a MFM then is it...??

I'm not bisexual so don't want another woman there! "

There's the option to go along with a couple socially, we've had a single lady come along with us with 1st time club nerves. Once she got talking to a few people in the public areas she was fine and we left her to it so we didn't cramp her style

Mrs xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"I’m a little fish in a big pond..

how do I find 2 decent guys?"

My best advice....

What do you mean by 'decent' guys ?

See.... if you just want to be banged by 2 good looking blokes, who just want something to come in, then im sure that is easily achievable.

If you want two good looking blokes that are going to be there just to give you a really pleasurable time then they are going to HAVE to know each other and be relaxed in each other's company.

Are you aiming to be with them both at once so that it's predominantly a threesome or are you going to have one and then the other ? Which to my mind is simply sex twice. ?

Some things are easier to achieve than others.

What EXACTLY you are going for will influence the time and effort needed to make it happen.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I would say to the OP and the other lady discussing club's, you should give them a go. I go alone and have a great time. Aged 54 and a size 16 / 18 I am relaxed and happy to socialise and play as often as I want without pressure.

You can see the single gents there, get chatting and sort out your MFM in a private room later that night or make arrangements for another visit.

Being within a club, the guys should know the rules and be respectful and if you are in a private room within the room, if there are any issues, you raise your voice and help is there immediately.

Safety is vital for me. Have fun OP

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I would say to the OP and the other lady discussing club's, you should give them a go. I go alone and have a great time. Aged 54 and a size 16 / 18 I am relaxed and happy to socialise and play as often as I want without pressure.

You can see the single gents there, get chatting and sort out your MFM in a private room later that night or make arrangements for another visit.

Being within a club, the guys should know the rules and be respectful and if you are in a private room within the room, if there are any issues, you raise your voice and help is there immediately.

Safety is vital for me. Have fun OP "

*Private room within the club*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Most clubs don't have a criteria you have to fit and you get swingers of literally all shapes, sizes and ages.

I'm not talking about the club...it's the patrons

I've never experienced any nastiness at clubs in all my 10 years of swinging and I've been every size from a 12 to a 24 and for the most part, miles from fit.

You don't need to be "fit" at all. And plenty of clubs have specific BBW nights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You can see the single gents there, get chatting and sort out your MFM in a private room later that night or make arrangements for another visit.

Being within a club, the guys should know the rules and be respectful and if you are in a private room within the room, if there are any issues, you raise your voice and help is there immediately.

Safety is vital for me. Have fun OP

*Private room within the club*"

I guess, having never been, it’s the unknown that makes me apprehensive..

club etiquette, what actually goes on etc x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a little fish in a big pond..

how do I find 2 decent guys?

My best advice....

What do you mean by 'decent' guys ?

See.... if you just want to be banged by 2 good looking blokes, who just want something to come in, then im sure that is easily achievable.

If you want two good looking blokes that are going to be there just to give you a really pleasurable time then they are going to HAVE to know each other and be relaxed in each other's company.

Are you aiming to be with them both at once so that it's predominantly a threesome or are you going to have one and then the other ? Which to my mind is simply sex twice. ?

Some things are easier to achieve than others.

What EXACTLY you are going for will influence the time and effort needed to make it happen.

Obviously not the former..

And by decent I didn’t necessarily mean good looking. Just decent human being that’ll treat me with respect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Coquette69 why not a club? X

Not "fit" enough

Most clubs don't have a criteria you have to fit and you get swingers of literally all shapes, sizes and ages.

I'm not talking about the club...it's the patrons

I've never experienced any nastiness at clubs in all my 10 years of swinging and I've been every size from a 12 to a 24 and for the most part, miles from fit.

You don't need to be "fit" at all. And plenty of clubs have specific BBW nights."

Exactly this

We had a lot of wrong preconceptions about clubs before we started going to them. They're the friendliest places we've been to and far safer than a night out in town for a single lady.

Every shape, size and age go to clubs. Variety is the spice of life

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