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Overcoming shattered dreams

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I keep being reminded of ambitions i had many years ago.

I seem to have let go but haunted by it.

Anyone else managed to escape the 'if only' and moved on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never regret, choices made, or opportunities missed, they are what they are, and have lead me to where I am today

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes, my Father told me when I was a kid that when I was grown up, my kids would have holidays on the moon. I was also told I’d work in a paperless office.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I would be upset for days about my bad choices but then I thought one day ‘I can’t change them only learn from them’ and now I don’t fret half as much as I used too.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No coz I wanted to be a writer and there's still time for that xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You can't live in the past.

I have regrets but I also know that my now may not be have come to be if I had taken those other paths.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always said the regrets I wanted to have were the ‘I wish i’d NOT done that’ ones. I have them but I have a couple of the ‘I wish I had’ now and they bite me every day.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont dwell on it

.it is what it.is

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Yes, my Father told me when I was a kid that when I was grown up, my kids would have holidays on the moon. I was also told I’d work in a paperless office. "

I'm sure I was promised Moon Base Alpha by 1999 and that paperless office needs to arrive soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well yous are right. Just a fact of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a Newcastle fan my dreams are shattered every season

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

As Ragnar Lothbrook or whatever his name is says. Don’t look in the past you are not going that way!

We he said something like it I’m sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a dream of being an actor as I had a C for Drama in my GCSEs and I passed both drama courses at college with many merits and distinctions.

Sadly I gave up that dream a long time ago.

I did once try for Britain's Got Talent of 2012 but realised that the whole thing is rigged so never auditioned again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't change the past, but you can determine that your past will not define your present, or dictate your future.

Going over negative situations in your head is not good for you and will just hold you back let go of the should haves and be happy and grateful for what you have now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live in the present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no regrets and if i did i couldn't do anything about it anyway, so why bother dwelling on anything..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Imagine yourselves to be time travelers - unless you’re a destiny/fixed future believer - then the future is open for you to change. Learn from the past and history, that’s what it’s for. People wrote and recorded things in their present so future people could know and be informed and learn. Look to the future but learn from the past.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Don’t have regrets, learn what you can from it and focus on now and the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't change the past, but you can determine that your past will not define your present, or dictate your future.

Going over negative situations in your head is not good for you and will just hold you back let go of the should haves and be happy and grateful for what you have now . "

This I agree. Sure there have been times where I felt like I have no future after giving up my dream but I've long since let it go and am much happier with what I have now.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Live in the present. "

That’s an interesting concept insofar as one can’t measure the present as we can the past. In many ways, we flee from the past into the future and don’t stay in the present at all.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

You’ve still time to do at least one of them do you not?

Create a bucket list and do some things from that.

I’ve been to a poker night and the speedway. I had a ‘before I’m 50’ list which will be extended into my ‘now I’m 50’ list! I may even do karaoke again.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"You’ve still time to do at least one of them do you not?

Create a bucket list and do some things from that.

I’ve been to a poker night and the speedway. I had a ‘before I’m 50’ list which will be extended into my ‘now I’m 50’ list! I may even do karaoke again.

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I know I've posted this a lot but... I did 50 things I'd never done before the year I turned 50. It wasn't about recapturing the past but reinvigorating the now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Ones sixth decade is a watershed I found.

Being in my seventh decade now I understand that it's never too late. My motto is "if not now, when?"

(Primo Levi)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never look back, the past has passed.

Use it to inform future decisions. Nothing more.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Ones sixth decade is a watershed I found.

Being in my seventh decade now I understand that it's never too late. My motto is "if not now, when?"

(Primo Levi)"

Or Tracy Chapman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hCoAF2G6wQ

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