FabSwingers.com forum: Scale

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 for social and 8/9 for sexual meet up in the back of my 205

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Come to think of it I'm probably a 8/9.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont have a scale i meet people im interested in

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We are happy to socialise with anyone so probaby a 1 there.

As long as we get along and theirs a bit of chemistry there we will play so probably a 7 there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck. "

I don't really know. I won't meet someone I don't find attractive so you could say 10. However I don't have a rigid tick list of qualities a person needs to possess before I'll consider meeting them so in that respect probably 3.

We rarely meet due to our current circumstances, the fact that we can't accommodate and won't use hotels. But if circumstances conspire we meet by either replying to or sending messages, progressing to a social and moving on from there.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm very picky and hence rarely meet anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a 10... bloody nightmare

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm very picky and hence rarely meet anymore."

Don't you get decent guys messaging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people that are interesting and engaging.... but I am very picky, so I would say a 10

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I really struggle on here, so probably a 10 to my cost

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I really struggle on here, so probably a 10 to my cost

And heres thinking it was just me that was playing this site wrong.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet people that excite me, im not looking for perfection,have no tick box as such. I guess I must have basic 'type' so i'll go for a 6 . And yes I do ok meeting wise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+"

And how does that work out for you?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you? "

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action. "

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really know if I’m picky or not. Either I want to fuck someone or I don’t. I won’t fuck someone for the sake of it, but I won’t turn someone down because they aren’t perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy? "

Just say no if you don’t want to fuck them

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

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"On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck.

off topic, apologies OP, any particular reason for not using hotels?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy? "

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I'm very picky and hence rarely meet anymore.

Don't you get decent guys messaging? "

Sometimes but usually they're miles away.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck.

off topic, apologies OP, any particular reason for not using hotels?"

Yes.

We make noises that might draw adverse attention.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

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"On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck.

off topic, apologies OP, any particular reason for not using hotels?

Yes.

We make noises that might draw adverse attention."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are."

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"On a scale from 1 being the least picky and 10 being the most, where do you all fit in. And I'd like to know how you get on getting meets.

I'm probably a 7 or 8. And I have no luck.

off topic, apologies OP, any particular reason for not using hotels?

Yes.

We make noises that might draw adverse attention.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message. "

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then? "

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys. "

Most bi men say the opposite.

If you're picky and I have no reason to believe you're not then that will be the reason you're not getting meets in all probability. You've self limited the pool of people you're prepared to meet and only a percentage of those people will be prepared to meet you.

There's nothing wrong with being picky most of us are but you need to accept that it will limit your options. If you won't eat a banana with even the slightest mark on it youre not going to get many from a bunch.

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

I never give myself or others scored for anything. Don't you think it's a little superficial...

And those I meet are those who excite my mind capture my imagination and excite me physically mentally and emotionally...if they don't what's the point.

Just a little like the real world don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either. "

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out "

I get that. I would overlook it if she was great to talk to and a laugh. But she would have to be curvy or under. Call me superficial but anything over that turns me off. I tried with a girl over that and I just couldn't get hard. She tried everything and I felt so bad for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out "

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

. OP it’s absolutely fine being fussy - but don’t limit yourself too much. If you have a very precise ‘type’, don’t rule out people outwith this type. I’m not saying message women or meet up with women you have absolutely no attraction too, but if, for example, your type is ‘curvy, brown shoulder length hair, 5’4 and only wears pink lipstick’ then that’s very very precise, and unfortunately for men on fab, you are outnumbered, and women can be just as fussy.

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 which is why I am practically celibate, but I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm -10

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!) "

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation. "

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably a 7 and the longer I've been on here the fussier I've got which is why I meet people at socials, clubs or go for a coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m probably a 3 or 4 for pickiness, since it’s only fair that ladies down there get to try a 10 now and again.

It’s a joke.

I genuinely tend to prefer ladies I can have fun with, and they come in all shapes and sizes. Brain and personality are tops.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

It isn't superficial to be specific in your requirements for casual sex, casual sex is superficial. However you need to understand that its a two way thing and women are in high demand here and can afford to be equally specific if not more so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation. "

What are you offering these women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a 6, and I don't meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average? "

For me if she is average looking and makes up for it in personality then she would be a perfect 10 for me if we clicked. But my average isn't quite holy fuck but not far from damn. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never give myself or others scored for anything. Don't you think it's a little superficial...

And those I meet are those who excite my mind capture my imagination and excite me physically mentally and emotionally...if they don't what's the point.

Just a little like the real world don't you think?

exactly this.

That’s why I like the clubs to get a feel of someone, before getting a real feel. If you don’t excite my mind my body won’t follow. I don’t see it as fussy; I need a connection to get turned on... simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?"

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not picky but I do have a type and won't stray from it.

I do ok, I don't get to meet a lot of guys but I get alot of repeat meets so I'm obviously doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong? "

I don’t want to give profile advice as it’s frowned upon. Make your profile about what you can offer, not just about what you want. Don’t have too many do’s and do not’s.

Be suggestive in pics and inventive...stand out from the crowd. Lose any cock pics or put them in friends pics.

Messages - read their profile and respond with something about it. Be polite, respectful and try and be engaging. Girls and couples get plenty of messages....again you’ve got to stand out and give them a reason to reply. Be different.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around. "

Maybe you could think about what the holy fuck and damn women might look for in a guy and see if you can offer any of those things. If you're picky you need to understand that others are too.

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over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong?

I don’t want to give profile advice as it’s frowned upon. Make your profile about what you can offer, not just about what you want. Don’t have too many do’s and do not’s.

Be suggestive in pics and inventive...stand out from the crowd. Lose any cock pics or put them in friends pics.

I have all that stuff on my profile, maybe except for what I can offer.

I've always stood out and I think I just stand out the wrong way. Also I have no clue how to open conversations properly. I feel like I'm not good at it.

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer."

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

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over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around.

Maybe you could think about what the holy fuck and damn women might look for in a guy and see if you can offer any of those things. If you're picky you need to understand that others are too."

I fully understand that. But in all honesty I've done ok off this site (I don't know how) but talking to girls/couples has always been a grey area for me and makes me over analyse.

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over a year ago

We have no filters, I'll talk and flirt with pretty much anyone socially, but don't let that fool you, I'm incredibly picky, I want that inner growl to guide me and I'll stand for no less

Fuzz, well he's a tart and responds best to being hunted and teased by sexy confident ladies

Peach x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most. "

That's kind of what I'm saying. There are only small numbers of *your* type here ergo you are going to be hardly anyone's type. However you need to recognise the part you're playing in your lack of success rather than continually blame it on factors outside your control.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m a 10+ and there’s not really any men here that impress me enough to want to meet them.

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over a year ago

My scale changes depending how horny I am at the time!

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over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around.

Maybe you could think about what the holy fuck and damn women might look for in a guy and see if you can offer any of those things. If you're picky you need to understand that others are too.

I fully understand that. But in all honesty I've done ok off this site (I don't know how) but talking to girls/couples has always been a grey area for me and makes me over analyse. "

You contradict yourself alot, in the threads that you start

That wont do you any favours

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over a year ago

"We have no filters, I'll talk and flirt with pretty much anyone socially, but don't let that fool you, I'm incredibly picky, I want that inner growl to guide me and I'll stand for no less

Fuzz, well he's a tart and responds best to being hunted and teased by sexy confident ladies

Peach x"

I can definitely say he and I have the same taste in women.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around.

Maybe you could think about what the holy fuck and damn women might look for in a guy and see if you can offer any of those things. If you're picky you need to understand that others are too.

I fully understand that. But in all honesty I've done ok off this site (I don't know how) but talking to girls/couples has always been a grey area for me and makes me over analyse. "

Your op says you have no luck!

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

But it's hard to find other factors than that. I see a fair few guys my age or younger and they have plenty of veris and then I just wonder what I'm doing wrong.

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over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

What are you offering these women?

I've never thought about that. I've always been the armoured shell type. I don't really let people in. People call me a pain in the ass and blunt as hell but a delight to have around.

Maybe you could think about what the holy fuck and damn women might look for in a guy and see if you can offer any of those things. If you're picky you need to understand that others are too.

I fully understand that. But in all honesty I've done ok off this site (I don't know how) but talking to girls/couples has always been a grey area for me and makes me over analyse.

Your op says you have no luck!

No luck on this site. And to be honest I've not been with a lass since the begging of November.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a bratty sub?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I am sure we have had this discussion before. Knowing you can only meet people within 10 miles of where you live and being picky about the kind of lady you want to meet will really restrict you. Not all of Sheffield is on here ya know !!!

Maybe look to see who is online nearby to see numbers.

Remember they have to be interested in you, and you don't seem to be very clear about what you provide that helps you stand out from the other gents in your area.

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over a year ago

"I am sure we have had this discussion before. Knowing you can only meet people within 10 miles of where you live and being picky about the kind of lady you want to meet will really restrict you. Not all of Sheffield is on here ya know !!!

Maybe look to see who is online nearby to see numbers.

Remember they have to be interested in you, and you don't seem to be very clear about what you provide that helps you stand out from the other gents in your area.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

But it's hard to find other factors than that. I see a fair few guys my age or younger and they have plenty of veris and then I just wonder what I'm doing wrong. "

With all due respect what you are doing wrong is disregarding everything that's being said to you.

There's no solution to wanting near perfection and it not being immediately available.

I wish you luck on your journey.

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over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong?

I don’t want to give profile advice as it’s frowned upon. Make your profile about what you can offer, not just about what you want. Don’t have too many do’s and do not’s.

Be suggestive in pics and inventive...stand out from the crowd. Lose any cock pics or put them in friends pics.

I have all that stuff on my profile, maybe except for what I can offer.

I've always stood out and I think I just stand out the wrong way. Also I have no clue how to open conversations properly. I feel like I'm not good at it. "

You have 3 chances to impress someone on here...your profile, your pics and your messages...4 actually, if you include how you come across in the forums.

If you aren’t getting responses after sending messages then you need to re-think how you do things, be it, your profile, pictures or messages.

Don’t send the same generic message...tailor it to suit that person and spend some time on it. But they will read your message and then go to your profile and pics, so it all needs to appeal to them.

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over a year ago

With all due respect what you are doing wrong is disregarding everything that's being said to you.

There's no solution to wanting near perfection and it not being immediately available.

I wish you luck on your journey."

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over a year ago

"What's a bratty sub?"

Its a sub that likes to be playful, but will also be teasing. Maybe it goes by another label I don't know of.

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over a year ago

Social wise, probably a 5 as I'd be happy to socialise with anyone who's an interesting decent human.

Anything more intimate, 10 as I rarely find people really attractive who I have good chemistry with. But I haven't been actively meeting in a loooong time.

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

But it's hard to find other factors than that. I see a fair few guys my age or younger and they have plenty of veris and then I just wonder what I'm doing wrong.

With all due respect what you are doing wrong is disregarding everything that's being said to you.

There's no solution to wanting near perfection and it not being immediately available.

I wish you luck on your journey."

But I'm not looking for near perfection. At least that not how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

I think if your standards are that high, you’re probably not going to get any sex from this site. Even if there are women here who are ‘not far from damn’, unless you are ‘not far from damn too’ they probably aren’t going to be interested in you.

Mrs

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again"

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Mrs"

I'm not entirely sure how I stand. Would be a bit biased calling myself damn worthy right?

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck. "

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?"

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

But it's hard to find other factors than that. I see a fair few guys my age or younger and they have plenty of veris and then I just wonder what I'm doing wrong.

With all due respect what you are doing wrong is disregarding everything that's being said to you.

There's no solution to wanting near perfection and it not being immediately available.

I wish you luck on your journey.

But I'm not looking for near perfection. At least that not how I see it. "

You might not be looking for near perfection. But if they are after an 8 / 10. After reading your message and your profile, will you appeal to them. It's not just about the girls you like the look of, you haven't grasped that you have to appeal to them.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?"

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

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over a year ago

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation.

I’m glad it made sense. And what is ‘average’? Your average may be someone else’s ‘holy fuck she’s amazing’, why would a women settle for a man who thinks she’s average?

Why don't you understand why this is limiting your success?

There aren't that many women who are "holy fuck" only a few more who are "damn". Factor out those for who you aren't their type and you're left with very few women. There's your answer.

From what I can see I'm not hardly anyones type on here. But that could be my age too. I've found out that being 23 is also unattractive to most.

But it's hard to find other factors than that. I see a fair few guys my age or younger and they have plenty of veris and then I just wonder what I'm doing wrong.

With all due respect what you are doing wrong is disregarding everything that's being said to you.

There's no solution to wanting near perfection and it not being immediately available.

I wish you luck on your journey.

But I'm not looking for near perfection. At least that not how I see it.

I message that I'm a nice, funny guy thats easy to talk. Then ask a question off of their profile. But I've found a fair few around me with next to nothing about themselves on their profiles.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much. "

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much. "

Why have you decided to use a site that doesn’t offer you much? It sounds like you are a guy who has no trouble attracting women of your taste in regular life. Why make it it more difficult by using Fab?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Im very fussy so probably about a 9. Luckily i manage to find some hidden treasures on Fab so im happy.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer! "

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations? "

You agree with me disagreeing with your statement?

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

You agree with me disagreeing with your statement?

I agree that the site has alot to offer people but I haven't seen much on offer for me. Maybe its just because I don't get noticed on here.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them. "

I know guys on here who do amazingly well, so the site can work for men just depends on how you come across

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them. "

Earlier on you said you do ok.

I'll be honest I'm confused.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations? "

Try other routes to getting sex if Fab doesn’t work for you at this moment in time. Fab doesn’t work for everyone, it’s no big deal. Besides at your age, and being a student, it’s easy to get sex (well it was in my day anyway). A lot of guys, especially the younger ones, find casual dating sites more fruitful for getting nsa sex. Fab is not the be all and end all.

Mrs

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them. "

and people have given you plenty of advice, on numerous threads, which you completely dismiss, so yes, you probably are wasting your time on here.

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over a year ago

and people have given you plenty of advice, on numerous threads, which you completely dismiss, so yes, you probably are wasting your time on here."

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them.

Earlier on you said you do ok.

I'll be honest I'm confused. "

I did ok. But since I moved to Sheffield in September, everything just went quiet. I talk to plenty of girls at parties and nightclubs. Put it this way. I haven't done anything with a girl since November.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them. "

Ok I misunderstood you. Tbh guys who don’t tend to pull easily in real life tend not find it easier on Fab. And guys who do well on Fab probably have no trouble in real life. Men who women find attractive doesn’t really change just because it’s the Internet.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs"

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we keep replies to this on the forum please

Plenty of advice has already been given x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. "
beginning to sound like it

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

I wish that was the truth. But I hardly get a second look. Be lucky to even be noticed.

And I joined fab to explore my fantasies and see if I like them.

I know. Its a confidence thing and how they talk. Just seems like I have no clue what I'm doing.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it"

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

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over a year ago

im very picky so I'd say 10, which I have a cheek as im in no way perfect either! but do very well with my meets as they all come back, so Im doing something right at least

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over a year ago

"im very picky so I'd say 10, which I have a cheek as im in no way perfect either! but do very well with my meets as they all come back, so Im doing something right at least

You're a lass you can get away with it.

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over a year ago

"im very picky so I'd say 10, which I have a cheek as im in no way perfect either! but do very well with my meets as they all come back, so Im doing something right at least

You're a lass you can get away with it. "

probably true that!

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. "

Hate to be blunt but if you can’t get sex anywhere, in any shape or form, then it probably is just you. Without knowing you, nobody can advise you why. But swingers/sex site will certainly not be the solution to someone who finds it difficult to get sex. Unfortunately in life there will be men who get lots of sex and men who don’t. There is no magic solution to this unfair inequality. There will also always be more men wanting nsa sex than women, meaning some men will always struggle.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly."
ok. Heres my take. I cant offer profile advice. My guess is your used to pulling in real life and dont quite get its different in real life. Ask for profile advice and i will give it

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me.

Mrs"

Its just the fact that the guys that are better with girls will revel, while guy that aren't great will stuggle and ultimately give up. I know that its something I can change but its just the how I stuggle with. And the cliché always stick. Nice guys finish last.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly."

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

If you were my son I would be concerned that you were finding yourself lonely after moving to Sheffield and were feeling isolated leading to non productive introspection. Why not step away from fab and concentrate on making friends

#mummode

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.ok. Heres my take. I cant offer profile advice. My guess is your used to pulling in real life and dont quite get its different in real life. Ask for profile advice and i will give it"

Like I said before. I wish that wad true. If it was I'd be getting meets on here too. I feel girls label me as a friend and nothing more. Or an ear to listen.

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over a year ago

" Its just the fact that the guys that are better with girls will revel, while guy that aren't great will stuggle and ultimately give up. I know that its something I can change but its just the how I stuggle with. And the cliché always stick. Nice guys finish last. "

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode"

Even before I moved to Sheffield I had no friends. But that was by choice as everyone I knew would have had me either in prison or dead. Growing up my mates where the type to go out, smoke bud and go steal a car or cause shit. Also they were drug dealers, and football hooligans. I cut myself off from everyone when I was about 15 because I realised that and just got used to being on my own.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly."

Saying you’ll only meet girls within 10 miles and getting a bus?? Get rid of that.

You’ve said you like bratish sub and something else, then said or neither...confusing!

Your pics are the same as 100’s of other guys...I’m not saying mine are special or anything but I do get nice comments about them.

Offer something different...be the guy that stands out, even just a little.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Ive been out.... is this STILL going? What have I missed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet everyone who asks.

They don’t call me the forum bike for nothing you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

Saying you’ll only meet girls within 10 miles and getting a bus?? Get rid of that.

You’ve said you like bratish sub and something else, then said or neither...confusing!

Your pics are the same as 100’s of other guys...I’m not saying mine are special or anything but I do get nice comments about them.

Offer something different...be the guy that stands out, even just a little. "

In all honesty your profile just shows how bad mine really is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode

Time to make some new friends who aren't hooligans then.

As harsh as it sounds the solution to this lies with you.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I'm very picky and hence rarely meet anymore."

I'm rather particular too x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode

Time to make some new friends who aren't hooligans then.

As harsh as it sounds the solution to this lies with you."

I had this conversation with him last night.

Told him to get off here and go find a bar or an activity and make friends... all sorts of friends. No need to be just looking for sex. There are probably a 100 excuses for not doing that.

Some folk just won't be helped

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over a year ago

I recon most guys must be very picky, hence the lack of verifications

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I recon most guys must be very picky, hence the lack of verifications

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I totally and absolutely agree.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode

Time to make some new friends who aren't hooligans then.

As harsh as it sounds the solution to this lies with you."

I know. I have been pretty antisocial for 8 years. I do talk to people at uni but not really what you'd call friends. Mainly just people that are good for a night out.

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over a year ago

"I had this conversation with him last night.

Told him to get off here and go find a bar or an activity and make friends... all sorts of friends. No need to be just looking for sex. There are probably a 100 excuses for not doing that.

Some folk just won't be helped

As have I, on multiple threads x

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over a year ago

"I recon most guys must be very picky, hence the lack of verifications

Or maybe its just the girls that are too picky.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode

Time to make some new friends who aren't hooligans then.

As harsh as it sounds the solution to this lies with you.

I had this conversation with him last night.

Told him to get off here and go find a bar or an activity and make friends... all sorts of friends. No need to be just looking for sex. There are probably a 100 excuses for not doing that.

Some folk just won't be helped

I agree with the ladies here. After reading the thread through and some others from the OP my Mummymode is screaming out! Needy and not in the place for Fab is the main alerts. Hope the OP takes on board the great advice given on here and acts on it.

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over a year ago

"I had this conversation with him last night.

Told him to get off here and go find a bar or an activity and make friends... all sorts of friends. No need to be just looking for sex. There are probably a 100 excuses for not doing that.

Some folk just won't be helped

As have I, on multiple threads x"

Since you said that I have been out but nothing really happened. Like I said, I talk to people at the gym and at uni but thats it.

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over a year ago

OP on previous threads you’ve told us all about the times you would go out drinking with your friends and go to nightclubs, and have a bottle of vodka beforehand. But you don’t have friends?

Go and make some

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over a year ago

"I recon most guys must be very picky, hence the lack of verifications

Or maybe its just the girls that are too picky. "

How can someone be too picky?

Do you think that the ladies hear the alarm bells screaming loudly!

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

You portray yourself as having extremely high standards and requiring women who will fit with what you want. However you aren't saying what you can offer in return

In order to implement any changes suggested you need to work out what you can offer then say so.

You also need to be more positive.

This won't guarantee meets however.

#mummode

Time to make some new friends who aren't hooligans then.

As harsh as it sounds the solution to this lies with you.

I had this conversation with him last night.

Told him to get off here and go find a bar or an activity and make friends... all sorts of friends. No need to be just looking for sex. There are probably a 100 excuses for not doing that.

Some folk just won't be helped

I am. Really. But the more you say I'm not the more frustrated I get with the situation. Trust me, every bit of advice and information you have given I have taken on board.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Everyone's scale is 10.

If you move out to meet someone or let them into your home for a meet then you TENNED them for that day.

Who goes ..... ewwwwwww but okay I will.

Scales are changeable.

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over a year ago

"OP on previous threads you’ve told us all about the times you would go out drinking with your friends and go to nightclubs, and have a bottle of vodka beforehand. But you don’t have friends?

Go and make some

As I've stated. They are mainly just people you go out with on a night out. And being antisocial for 8 years doesn't help. Trust me. I'm being social in places I have common ground.

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over a year ago

"Everyone's scale is 10.

If you move out to meet someone or let them into your home for a meet then you TENNED them for that day.

Who goes ..... ewwwwwww but okay I will.

Scales are changeable. "

Any holes a goal

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

I had a loooong chat via pms with him last night/wee small hours of this morning and its only served to make me question whether a site like this should be open to younger adults... maybe thereis call for it being strictly over 25s only? Then i see other youngsters who absolutely have the sexual and mental maturity to be here and why should the odd few mean they are excluded? They absolutely deserve to enjoy all this site can offer.

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Personally i love that this site can bring together all people from all ages and walks of life... Its great to chat with everyone and share experience and learn new things... but some, for their own well being, are not cut out for it just yet.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. beginning to sound like it

I'm begging to analyse how I pertray myself but I genuinely have no clue what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I just don't know how to virtually present myself.

And all these threads I make, I do absorb the information provided. But I just don't know how to implement it properly.

Saying you’ll only meet girls within 10 miles and getting a bus?? Get rid of that.

You’ve said you like bratish sub and something else, then said or neither...confusing!

Your pics are the same as 100’s of other guys...I’m not saying mine are special or anything but I do get nice comments about them.

Offer something different...be the guy that stands out, even just a little.

In all honesty your profile just shows how bad mine really is. "

I’ll take that as a compliment

Do something about yours then...you have a camera on your phone...you go to uni so you are clearly an intelligent lad...sell yourself!!

Do you want to be the same shop that’s in all of the towns all over the country selling the same things or do you want to be the little independent shop that offers something a little different.

Make people want to stop and come in and buy

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong? "

The first picture makes you look bigger than the others, just an observation. Also, the comment about the ffm, that would make me think that was all you were after.

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over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

I think you are a cracker! I enjoy reading you posts and its clear you are completely the opposite of the OP and thats why I said why should you be excluded for the sake of one or two (the OP) not having the maturity to be here.

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over a year ago

"I happy to have a social with just about anyone but I'm really fussy who I'd fuck so off the scale 10+

And how does that work out for you?

We get meets and many repeat ones, it helps that I'm a bi female, so lots of female action.

Any advice for a single straight picky guy?

If your lack of success is due to your perceived pickiness there is no advice that will help you. You have a choice adjust your criteria or continue as you are.

I don't think it is. I message alot and get nothing back and like now with filters I have 27 views I know about, and not one wink or message.

To what *do* you attribute your lack of success then?

I'm not sure. Its come to my attention that people prefer to meet bi guys.

Most bi men say the opposite.

I'm not looking for absolute prefection but I'm also not looking for a half brused bannana either.

That half bruised banana could have the most beautiful soul. But you wont take a bite,therefore you will never find out

I typed out a massive message about how I met someone who wasn’t my type but I did find attractive, and aside from my husband, I’ve never been so turned on by a man, but I deleted it

(I am extremely sleepy - did that make ANY sense?!)

It made sense.

My preference is under 5'2 and have a gym body and a good personality for long term. But I'd be open to meet a girl that is average if she could hold a good conversation. "

That’s very kind of you

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over a year ago

Solid 10, I'll get my coat...l

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

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over a year ago

"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong?

The first picture makes you look bigger than the others, just an observation. Also, the comment about the ffm, that would make me think that was all you were after."

I do look bigger as I have put on a bit of muscle.

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over a year ago

"So you've " done ok"

But had no luck?

Some bugger's spiked me tea again

I've done ok, nothing special off this site. But in this site I have 0 luck.

but you are still not acknowledging or listening to anything that people have gone out of their way to offer you in the way of advice, so how do you expect that to change?

I've listened. I need to stop looking for uncontrollable circumstances, I need to improve my communication skills, I need to realise that this site is not going to offer much.

But this site has SO MUCH to offer!

I agree, and thats why I joined. But what can it offer if I'm not even having meets or even proper conversations?

Mrs

I've been on tinder for the best part of 2 years and not one meet. Tried pof, nothing. I feel like its just me. "

There does seem to be a common denominator

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though?

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though? "

Why wouldn’t it? I have found that young men my age do tend to be more immature and use this website as an instashag rather than a swinging site (not all young men!). I’m sure there is young women like this too.

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over a year ago

"I'm very picky and hence rarely meet anymore."

I’m the same.

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though?

I'm sure. But as girls tend to reach maturity faster than guys, I thought that maybe they would be more popular than a single guy.

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though?

I'm sure. But as girls tend to reach maturity faster than guys, I thought that maybe they would be more popular than a single guy. "

Well yes, that’s true. I think they’re more popular than single guys for different reasons though

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over a year ago

"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though?

I'm sure. But as girls tend to reach maturity faster than guys, I thought that maybe they would be more popular than a single guy.

Well yes, that’s true. I think they’re more popular than single guys for different reasons though "

Probably because there are more of them and alot can be abusive I've heard.

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"The mother in me wants to close the OPs account and drag him out of his room and make him join a uni group, i dont know... poetry group, amature dramatics, tennis club, golf for beginners...

Fab is not the place for him in any way shape or form to make friends. At best he could use the hot pics for wank bank material, but he can find pics anywhere online.

The more threads he creates the deeper he digs his self into mush...

Its a shame admin cannot see how somebody who is not socially, sexually or mentally mature enough to use the site and send them on their merry way to tinder or pof.

Sorry OP... its nothing ive not expressed to you directly.

Its almost about a duty of care.

End of mother mode

I agree with all of this, except the age limit! I’m 21 and doing just fine

But 100000% agree and see where you are coming from. Maybe if I’m still swinging in 10 years time, I’ll look back and think how naive and silly I was

Actually it was you I thought of when I was having my maternal rant at myself

Aw I’m glad I was on your mind!

but thank you!

Does age really come into account for girls though?

I'm sure. But as girls tend to reach maturity faster than guys, I thought that maybe they would be more popular than a single guy.

Well yes, that’s true. I think they’re more popular than single guys for different reasons though

Probably because there are more of them and alot can be abusive I've heard. "

Who can be abusive? I reckon all sexes can be abusive.

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"I’m a 8/9...I’ve got have a connection with someone.

If you are messaging people and they aren’t responding then either re-think your messages, re-look at your profile or put some different pics on.

There are thousands of guys here, so you need to stand out or get yourself noticed.

From my profile, do you think anything is wrong?

The first picture makes you look bigger than the others, just an observation. Also, the comment about the ffm, that would make me think that was all you were after.

I do look bigger as I have put on a bit of muscle. "

All your pics should be you as you look now, people might think you’re a different person

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