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Flattery - Does it get you anywhere?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know the situation.

In a chat room, first sign of a woman, most of the men start to make flattering statements.

Or in forums for example.

How do you feel about it?

Do you think it would get you anywhere?

What are your thoughts?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

It's mostly pretty meaningless sadly, but there is the occasional gem that warms the heart!

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Wouldn't know dont get any

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

False flattery is just cringeworthy. That'll get you nowhere fast with me.

Genuine flattery won't get you far either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually compliment what please my eyes without necessarily wanting to go any further.

Nice tits OP and the poster under OP and probably the poster above me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know, you tell me gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience women take to people that flatter them easier and more often than the ones that don't have more positive views of them.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself. "

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself. "

Me too! I quite happily will take compliments and flattery, didn't get a lot of that in my younger years so making the most of it now! Though my retorts pretty much always descend into sarcy banter

Peach x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have a friend who described me as 'Teflon coated against compliments'. I don't think Brits are naturally receptive to them.

I had a therapist who set my homework as accepting compliments. It was shortly after Lickety was born. I'm better at receiving them now but I don't think it will get you (one) as far as you might hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im too much of a cynic not to see through some of the shite people spout on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting."

I'm the same. Flattery is just that. Someone telling you what they think you want to hear in order to get what they want.

I've pretty much heard it all before and I'm nobody's fool.

I love getting flattering messages that I can turn round and make it backfire

Sarcasm just takes over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting."

Absolutely

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting.

I'm the same. Flattery is just that. Someone telling you what they think you want to hear in order to get what they want.

I've pretty much heard it all before and I'm nobody's fool.

I love getting flattering messages that I can turn round and make it backfire

Sarcasm just takes over. "

How would that feel for someone bestowing a genuine, heartfelt compliment?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting.

I'm the same. Flattery is just that. Someone telling you what they think you want to hear in order to get what they want.

I've pretty much heard it all before and I'm nobody's fool.

I love getting flattering messages that I can turn round and make it backfire

Sarcasm just takes over. "

Some flattery is genuine. I think a genuine compliment should be gracefully accepted.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Thing is when men Flatter women because they want sex, often it will be sincere.

They might say "gorgeous breasts" because they really do think you have gorgeous breasts and that's one of the reasons they want to fuck you.

Obviously, they will also think hundreds of other women have gorgeous breasts, so I think what women object to is not that compliments are insincere but that they are not in any way special to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shag everyone that compliments me.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself. "

This

Sarcy saucy banter every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the situation.

In a chat room, first sign of a woman, most of the men start to make flattering statements.

Or in forums for example.

How do you feel about it?

Do you think it would get you anywhere?

What are your thoughts?

"
its always good to be nice and polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the situation.

In a chat room, first sign of a woman, most of the men start to make flattering statements.

Or in forums for example.

How do you feel about it?

Do you think it would get you anywhere?

What are your thoughts?

"
i take every compliment on here with a huge dose of salt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I take everything I read with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know the situation.

In a chat room, first sign of a woman, most of the men start to make flattering statements.

Or in forums for example.

How do you feel about it?

Do you think it would get you anywhere?

What are your thoughts?

"

I just laugh it off most of the time

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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire


"On here I take everything I read with a pinch of salt. "

Mind your blood pressure !!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cant stand sycophonic white knights. However i do love a genuine compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is when men Flatter women because they want sex, often it will be sincere.

They might say "gorgeous breasts" because they really do think you have gorgeous breasts and that's one of the reasons they want to fuck you.

Obviously, they will also think hundreds of other women have gorgeous breasts, so I think what women object to is not that compliments are insincere but that they are not in any way special to them. "

Yeah I agree, I think women generally do want thought processes to be focused on them solely and that be specific to them.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I pay no attention to compliments from people who dont know me, Id love to know quite hour our avatar can make me look gorgeous or delicious (yep its true, I have a delicious back ) so any forum or pms that offer compliments just leave me thinking they dont care what I look like, any holes a goal.

Of course genuine compliments from friends are lovely.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

If someone doesn't know you're interested then how are you to know they're interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself.

Yep. Someone to sharpen my wits against, much more fun and interesting.

I'm the same. Flattery is just that. Someone telling you what they think you want to hear in order to get what they want.

I've pretty much heard it all before and I'm nobody's fool.

I love getting flattering messages that I can turn round and make it backfire

Sarcasm just takes over.

How would that feel for someone bestowing a genuine, heartfelt compliment?

"

On here? Pinch of salt.

I don't generally give them or accept them.

Actions speak loader than words!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

To expand. No I can't remember it working for me but I haven't really kept count on this.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

But it probably has, as really I usually say something like - 'you look good' if I like them.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Im too much of a cynic not to see through some of the shite people spout on here..

"

Cynic you?

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

If I say anything flattering it's because I mean it.

Everything else I post is utter tosh though

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I prefer a bit of sarcy banter myself. "

This is fun to watch too, I love seeing these exchanges there are a few that come to mind that I could mention, but I won’t

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By *rankyJAYMan
over a year ago

jarrow

Best form of currency is flattery haha

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