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"What a huge amount for a child to have to carry on his little shoulders " agreed. I know it sounds like ur doing ur best OP, but think U have to remember a 9yr olds mentality doesnt see hthe black and white facts as clearly.To them all it is , is being unloved by someone who should be loving them- then with some years*being a teenage boy), the anger u feel will be most likely transferred to him...and U know what alot of teenage boys get up to, and in some cases its surrounding an absent parent. | |||
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"ummmm, not sure where u get venting my anger from. unfortunatly about 3 months ago my son decided to have a nose through the big black box i keep all the important stuff in, birth certificates, certain letters and stuff and came across the court papers from me and his dad going to court about his access. this opened up alot of questions and i figured there wasn't any point in lying about it as he had already read most of what was said. i'm not angry with my ex, just disappointed. when they did have contect i had no issue with it as long and even went along with him having my son's mobile number so he could talk and text him without feeling like he had to go thought me all the time. and the main reason my son knows about this csa business is because my ex decided to drag him into it at the beginning of the year by texting my son to tell me to go though csa cause he wasn't going to pay anymore. so, i chose to tell my son the truth as i don't want him growing ever believing it was anything he did that made his dad not want anything to do with him. he understands how things work and what the situation is. " i have to disagree with the majority here,assuming you are keeping your feelings about the ex in check around your son. Words like sperm donor and twat suggest anger it would be healthier for you to let go of.However honesty is vital raising kids,allowing him to build up an idealized view of his father does him no favours. It is a hard balance to get right and think no one should blame you for venting here.However make sure you do not vent to your son,simply explain why the situation is as it is. Perhaps in future it would be better to plan free treats that are not dependent on an unreliable income source. | |||
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"i have never relied on him for anything. he walked out when i was 6 months gone and only decided when my son was 6 to take me to get involved with him, which lasted a whole, ummm, 8 months before walking right back out again, leaving my son totally confused as to why he suddenly had a dad and then poof, no he didn't. all came to a head this christmas when my son begged him to come over for the afternoon, just to play computer games with him and he didn't even reply to him. i have never confused or put him in the middle of anything. i just try to explain it to him in a way he would understand. your dad's the moron, not u. if he doesn't want to spend time with u, and see just how amazing u are, then he's lost out. " One good thing about mine they walked away and stayed away. Must screw your son up big time. | |||
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