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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The request you don’t want.

You have never spoken to them, they have never spoken to you.

Yet they demand to be your friend.

So they can see your private pics.

This includes males, females and couples.

Worst offenders are people who have no private pics.Then expect you to add them.

Do you believe in like for like?

What do you do, how do you deal with this menace.

Your thoughts?

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Sometimes I bulk delete, other times I accept have a nose at their private pics then remove them as a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three words

The block button

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I don't even look at that part of the site unless someone I have been chatting to sends me a message to say they'd like to be friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I bulk delete, other times I accept have a nose at their private pics then remove them as a friend "

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its wrong in many ways and gives us normal guys (yes we do exist)a bad name tarred with the same brush etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people do it..

I also don't understand why people who receive them bulk delete them....

keep them, it stops the feckers reoffending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to think that people get no replies to messages and then think maybe they need to be 'friends' before they'll get a reply. So it's just a way of asking to be friends and not sinister at all.

I've asked a few people why they've sent me a friend request when we've never chatted and that's the kind of answer they gave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find it menacing. I ignore them.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Ignore or block if they keep trying to add

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yet they demand to be your friend.

"

Surely a friend request is just that, a request. It's not a demand at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how hot the lady in question is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how hot the lady in question is "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The request you don’t want.

You have never spoken to them, they have never spoken to you.

Yet they demand to be your friend.

So they can see your private pics.

This includes males, females and couples.

Worst offenders are people who have no private pics.Then expect you to add them.

Do you believe in like for like?

What do you do, how do you deal with this menace.

Your thoughts?

"

Ignore them.... Pretty simple really. I leave their request pending so they can't send another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think that people get no replies to messages and then think maybe they need to be 'friends' before they'll get a reply. So it's just a way of asking to be friends and not sinister at all.

I've asked a few people why they've sent me a friend request when we've never chatted and that's the kind of answer they gave. "

I agree with this, people just not quite getting the way others use friends function on here. I have no reason to be offended by it in the slightest.

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

I tend to not let it bother me

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It annoys me. I have people on my friends list who I have chatted to and I want to stay friends with.

Being sent a friend request by people I have never spoken to, suggests to me that they want to nose at my photos or try to get round my filters.

I usually delete unsolicited ones, and if their name keeps reappearing, then they get blocked.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I don't even look at that part of the site unless someone I have been chatting to sends me a message to say they'd like to be friends.

"

This

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

colour don't look at them unless we have agreed it in a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont get the point of any of the wink/friend stuff, completely ignore it

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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago

just outside of liverpool

If they have pics in their friends we may sometimes wait untill they ate offline then have a quick nosey before unfriending single males that just send an invite get an instant block

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Ignore them.

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill


"If they have pics in their friends we may sometimes wait untill they ate offline then have a quick nosey before unfriending single males that just send an invite get an instant block"

Nothing like double standards is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just had a friend request from a couple, no message and they have no pics on their profile. Pretty pointless exercise really.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I review it like twice a week.

If I can’t remember them at first glance they get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't worry me that much, I just go through them, delete anyone too far away. Then look at the profiles of the others to make my decision of whether to accept or not.

It's not a big problem

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t except anyone unless I’ve been chatting first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The request you don’t want.

You have never spoken to them, they have never spoken to you.

Yet they demand to be your friend.

So they can see your private pics.

This includes males, females and couples.

Worst offenders are people who have no private pics.Then expect you to add them.

Do you believe in like for like?

What do you do, how do you deal with this menace.

Your thoughts?

I just delete

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just ignore "

Same, how difficult is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I bulk delete, other times I accept have a nose at their private pics then remove them as a friend "

This! I wait til they're offline just in case

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I don't find it menacing. I ignore them. "

Same

Plus I have no friend only pics, so they gain nothing other than my status updates in their feed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens. But just shows that they didn't bother to read my profile. So really they've just filtered themselves out for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as them wanting to see your friend pics, there's no other benefit to being 'friends' on here, if it's updates and ease of finding you they can put you on their hotlist.

I only accept people I've met and just leave all others sat there as they can't request again then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not accept anybody, even those I’ve met. Is there any benefits in being fab friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I review it like twice a week.

If I can’t remember them at first glance they get deleted"

Apologies but will you be my friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete

If guys don't have pics then they arnt going to see mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t regard it as a demand, or that they are expecting to be added. I see a friend request for what it is - a request. Which we are all within our rights to refuse. People run their profiles differently, so unless someone specifically states on their profile what their friend accepting policy is, I don’t see how it’s possible to know what someone would regard as unacceptable.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite! "

that's a good idea actually I may change mine to a pic of my ten toes. Ten pic's ten different toes.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I might just have a friends pics of Van Gogh and the likes.

Like a mini trip to the Gallery whilst you’re here. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might just have a friends pics of Van Gogh and the likes.

Like a mini trip to the Gallery whilst you’re here. Lol"

Can you stick some abstract stuff in there please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to accept them but quickly found out that they were pic collectors and had no intention of meeting. We also now look for how many friends they have if over 20 we are likely to reject with all the good will in the world 20 new meets may be hard to fit in unless a bulk club meet

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Why do people do this

I dont have any pictures in my friends file so this helps, they are all in private..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people do this

I dont have any pictures in my friends file so this helps, they are all in private.. "

Your whole account is private! Shame...because you are rather rarrrr!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite!

that's a good idea actually I may change mine to a pic of my ten toes. Ten pic's ten different toes."

Do it!

Needs to be a few pics so it entices them in.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite!

that's a good idea actually I may change mine to a pic of my ten toes. Ten pic's ten different toes.

Do it!

Needs to be a few pics so it entices them in. "

I will do I just need to knit some little hat's for my toes first,make it a little more interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally recieved a random friend request straight after posting on here earlier

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Sometimes I bulk delete, other times I accept have a nose at their private pics then remove them as a friend "

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite!

that's a good idea actually I may change mine to a pic of my ten toes. Ten pic's ten different toes.

Do it!

Needs to be a few pics so it entices them in.

I will do I just need to knit some little hat's for my toes first,make it a little more interesting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the odd random one from women without a message, I suspect they just want to a look at my pics. I usually accept and have a nose myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them so they can't re add me

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"I sometimes accept the request but don't mail them, just to see what they do. They'll be pissed off when they see my friends pics are utter shite!

that's a good idea actually I may change mine to a pic of my ten toes. Ten pic's ten different toes.

Do it!

Needs to be a few pics so it entices them in.

I will do I just need to knit some little hat's for my toes first,make it a little more interesting "

Love this idea. I am going to do similar with my friend photos. Make them silly and not sexy

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