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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning all,

Firstly please don’t see this as a whinge, I’m not whinging or complaining. Just asking the question. I’m not a negative person and don’t want this to make me sound like one.

Do people experience a lot of time wasters and no shows on this site, or do I have a Nack for finding them?

I seem to have a great connection with some people, much better than some of the phone apps.

But then, when push comes to shove they either make their excuses or don’t show.

My favourite was a message 2 min before we were due to meet telling me he’d just cum on his FB’s tits. Lovely.

Does anyone have any advice on how to get round this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it men or women that are the issue?

Men tend to want wank chat then disappear when they've cum.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Its tricky... some folk like the idea of meeting but bottle it last minute. The guy who you mentioned was probably getting off on the idea too, was your chat with him smutty? We find not offering any sex talk, sexting etc helps those ones out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it men or women that are the issue?

Men tend to want wank chat then disappear when they've cum. "

Men. I’ve yet to pluck the courage up to meet a woman. As much as I love to idea, part of my fears the reality won’t be like he fantasy in my head. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its tricky... some folk like the idea of meeting but bottle it last minute. The guy who you mentioned was probably getting off on the idea too, was your chat with him smutty? We find not offering any sex talk, sexting etc helps those ones out."

I guess it’s a case of Perspective. I didn’t think it was seen as sexting. But in retrospect, coming from his point of view maybe?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Like Eton said ,don't engage in dirty talk ,that's all some want.

Dome may not be single and suddenly can't get away

Maybe try clubs?

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like Eton said ,don't engage in dirty talk ,that's all some want.

Dome may not be single and suddenly can't get away

Maybe try clubs?

Miss"

I think clubs are the next step for me. Still relatively new to this world, I’ve dipped my toe, I guess it’s time to take a plunge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Engage with guys who have veris. The more the better in my opinion. It shows they actually meet! And look at your local updates, when a guy has a new veri, perhaps contact him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning all,

Firstly please don’t see this as a whinge, I’m not whinging or complaining. Just asking the question. I’m not a negative person and don’t want this to make me sound like one.

Do people experience a lot of time wasters and no shows on this site, or do I have a Nack for finding them?

I seem to have a great connection with some people, much better than some of the phone apps.

But then, when push comes to shove they either make their excuses or don’t show.

My favourite was a message 2 min before we were due to meet telling me he’d just cum on his FB’s tits. Lovely.

Does anyone have any advice on how to get round this?"

Don't let the chat get sexual. As soon as the chat gets sexual or flirty I tail off the conversation. You can't help if they come out with something out of the blue but you can change the tone of the conversation x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Engage with guys who have veris. The more the better in my opinion. It shows they actually meet! And look at your local updates, when a guy has a new veri, perhaps contact him? "

Thanks. That’s a great bit of advice. I hadn’t thought about that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Don't let the chat get sexual. As soon as the chat gets sexual or flirty I tail off the conversation. You can't help if they come out with something out of the blue but you can change the tone of the conversation x"

I guess if that kills the conversation it’s a sign it’s not right and to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what i do!

Good luck x

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

If they're talking dirty and asking lots of details about what you'd do together then you can almost guarantee they won't turn up. Verified people are better bets but everyone has to start somewhere. After a while, you get a feel for who is fake and who is real. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they're talking dirty and asking lots of details about what you'd do together then you can almost guarantee they won't turn up. Verified people are better bets but everyone has to start somewhere. After a while, you get a feel for who is fake and who is real. Good luck. "

Thanks. I think there’s a running theme hear. Keep it clean and keep them keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Don't let the chat get sexual. As soon as the chat gets sexual or flirty I tail off the conversation. You can't help if they come out with something out of the blue but you can change the tone of the conversation x

I guess if that kills the conversation it’s a sign it’s not right and to move on. "

Very much this.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If they start asking you to describe how their meet will be, it's a bit hint that they want to wank over what you're saying, rather than being really interested in meeting. You could either stop your conversation, change it or delay your response, so that any immediate wanking is curtailed.

Question on the specifics of the potential meet - when would it be, how etc. If they're not really up for it, you may find that they start to push towards dirty talk again. You could also request video chat, so you've got an idea over where their hands are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 10 years on the scene as both a single female and part of a couple and I've honestly lost count of the time wasters and let downs.

I don't dwell on it anymore...it's definitely their loss.

I won't wait anymore than 15 mins for a meet to show unless they've let me know they'll be late.

Strumps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they start asking you to describe how their meet will be, it's a bit hint that they want to wank over what you're saying, rather than being really interested in meeting. You could either stop your conversation, change it or delay your response, so that any immediate wanking is curtailed.

Question on the specifics of the potential meet - when would it be, how etc. If they're not really up for it, you may find that they start to push towards dirty talk again. You could also request video chat, so you've got an idea over where their hands are "

Thanks. It’s seems the advice (and experience) is all towards men. Do ladies do the same?

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