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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The wink system,

Does anyone think its a useful feature?

Would it just be easier to mail someone?

Get to the point?

Most people ignore it, if they had a feature which disables people from winking you permanantly.

Would you use it?

Your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


""

Have you got that shirt on with just the cuffs

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Nah... bulk delete them every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a wink

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I just find it confusing, but then again I'm easily confused

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Love a wink "

No different to fabbing a picture in my opinion

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I just find it confusing, but then again I'm easily confused "

Bless you

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We don't mind them and wink back if they match what we are looking for

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep the wink!! It's always nice to receive one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."

Well said

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I don't mind them and check a few times a week. If I like the look of the profile I'll wink back and see if they message.

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By *cotsman_and_herCouple
over a year ago

North Somerset


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."

We've found quite a few profiles through the 'wink'. I think it's flattering.

L xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proper winker here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at winks now, I would keep them, although I only just started using that feature of site XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.

Well said "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a positive response to a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do the winks work when trying to get someones attention?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a little wink every now and then. Use it as a first point of contact. Wink someone and if the wink back send a message, but if they don’t then you know not to bother them again. It can be disheartening sending a message only to have it deleted, where as a wink with no response doesn’t make you feel so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..

But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens

But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink to show we may be interested and if they wink back after looking and reading our profile then we mail them . Our view it gives them the option to view our profile ,see we are interested in chatting , if they do not wink back they are not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..

But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens

But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wink to show we may be interested and if they wink back after looking and reading our profile then we mail them . Our view it gives them the option to view our profile ,see we are interested in chatting , if they do not wink back they are not interested "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met from what started as a wink so they're useful for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've met from what started as a wink so they're useful for me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've met from what started as a wink so they're useful for me.

"

Something in your eye, Blanche?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I've met from what started as a wink so they're useful for me.

Something in your eye, Blanche? "

Aye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us guys - we’ll me there lovely to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't wink but may wink back if someone winks at us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had a positive response to a wink "

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back."

Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.

Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it . "

Spot on!

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Never had a positive response to a wink "

That's got less to do with the wink and more so you're not their type. Would be no different sending a detailed message to those said profiles you'd winked at

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I always assumed a wink was kinda saying “ hello, you interest me. I’d like to know more about you” but without typing the same message over and over.

We rarely initiate contact with a wink but don’t mind if others do so with us. If we are interested in them we wink back and they generally respond with a message and we take it from there...

Don’t really understand why folks always complain on here about how people contact them. They either don’t like being winked at, messages are too long, messages are too short, messages don’t contain the magic code word in their profile, etc etc. Just be flattered if somebody respectfully contacts you. One doesn’t have to respond back.

Nail and head. Well said guys!!. You see common sense is like deodorant,the most who need it most never use it .

Spot on!"

Thanks lad

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I always understood it that if someone winked at you and you winked back then that was an invitation for them to follow it up with a message..

But also if someone winks and you dont wink back(because they are not what you are looking for) then nothing happens

But since my return there have been lots of followup messages from ignored winks, so i have to tell them im not interested rather than just ignoring than just ignoring them..."

That's true and so it should work like that but that's not to do with winking that's people trying their luck no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Have you got that shirt on with just the cuffs "

Is that request?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"We don't wink but may wink back if someone winks at us."

That's how it works lol. Only wink back if you like what you see. Don't wink for the sake of winking lol. Nobody would do it in the real world.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"For us guys - we’ll me there lovely to get "

They are nice. Always a nice confidence booster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't remember when I had my last wink. So am just happy to even get one x

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I can't remember when I had my last wink. So am just happy to even get one x"

Sure you'll get a few after posting on here

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over a year ago

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile.... "

What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

I wink all the time, let's people know you're interested I think

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I like it.. ok fair point some delete them.

Sometimes after sending a few 1st messages and no response.. sometimes a wink is quicker and easier. Yes its lazy but these are tools provided by site for use

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I wink all the time, let's people know you're interested I think"

Exactly that.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....

What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink"

Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I like it.. ok fair point some delete them.

Sometimes after sending a few 1st messages and no response.. sometimes a wink is quicker and easier. Yes its lazy but these are tools provided by site for use "

It's quoted lazy by those who get a lot of mail and responses. For those who don't it saves a hell of a lot of 1st messages that juat get deleted. All tools are here to use as each person sees fit. What one does,another doesn't for personal reasons

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....

What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink

Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort "

You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another "

Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink, we’ve had meets that have started from a wink. X

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....

What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink

Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort

You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference "

I answered the OP with my opinion and my experience... it was, after all, her question... her thread... but nice to see you've taken the burden of responding to everyone off her shoulders... so thoughtful

*wanders off to other end of the bar*

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another

Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol "

if it works for you, use it, I personally would turn it off as a feature if I could

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By *ligible GentMan
over a year ago

Wilmslow

Probably depends how many winks a day you get as to whether it’s worthwhile or not....!

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I wink, we’ve had meets that have started from a wink. X "

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Pretty much pointless... I ignore winks unless its to do with a forum thread.

Pic hunters generally just send a wink and a friend request hoping to get to see friend only pics.... their hopes are futile....

What a load of rubbish lol. Sorry not sure what area you're from but clearly not the right one ,if that's what they do to you. Yes there are pic collectors etc but winks are no way pointless. My best meets ve started from a wink

Obviously I'm just a little fussier then... I like people who make an effort

You've gone onto another subject now. Start a thread . I wink you to show I like you is no different to me looking over a bar and smiling initially. You smile back I come over and talk to you,you don't and i stay where I am. What exactly am I making an effort for before i know you even like the look of me . Makes no sense in the busy world of fab at all and neither would it in the real world. Think that's the difference

I answered the OP with my opinion and my experience... it was, after all, her question... her thread... but nice to see you've taken the burden of responding to everyone off her shoulders... so thoughtful

*wanders off to other end of the bar*"

Not sure I have responded to everyone?. If so show me please. I respond to posts that interest me. Isn't that how a forum works?. Or do you believe that I should use it how you would?. Yeah think you've got a bit carried away as most do on here. There isn't really a bar,so not sure where you can go? . Hope you find wherever it is

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I would turn this feature off, and friend invites should only be allowed to be sent once you have each messaged one another

Why bcz you attract pic collectors?. That doesn't happen to me hardly lol

if it works for you, use it, I personally would turn it off as a feature if I could"

Yeah i get that. You must get a lot that don't come of anything which can get very annoying so i hear what you're saying totally hun

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Probably depends how many winks a day you get as to whether it’s worthwhile or not....!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winking it’s fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love winking just barely get any

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Just harmless flirting in my eyes

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

Nothing like a good ol' wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winkywooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me, they are a complete waste of time, so i ignore them..but thats no reason to get rid of the feature if others find it useful obviously, im sure everyone uses various features differently..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not the first time it has worked..obviously nobody chooses to shag someone over a wink ffs.It can be used as a small gesture to lead to conversation..simple.

Personally I think a lot of profiles are taking things far too seriously...just like a message,if you dont like it dont message back, or in this case dont wink back.

not that bloody difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't remember when I had my last wink. So am just happy to even get one x

Sure you'll get a few after posting on here "
no not one from anyone in or near Belfast

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"I don't mind them and check a few times a week. If I like the look of the profile I'll wink back and see if they message. "

Ditto x storm x

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

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over a year ago

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We don't mind winks in theory, and will return the compliment if the profile warrants it. However usually the wink is from a blank profile.

If we do wink back we'll either then get a friends request (which we make clear we don't accept) or a 'how's u' type message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a good wank .. ooops wink sorry that's another thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink and respond to winks... I never used to but I do now... And I am glad I have done

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By *ilNdoCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like the wink option!

I understand it as ~

I like what I see, have a nose at my profile...if you like what you see, wink back and I'll initiate convo!

If no wink comes back then it's taken as a hint - not to bother with message!

Saves on typing out the same thing over and over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple, winks work really well for us! It's a little step towards saying we like you, what do you think? No response is a totally acceptable, no offence taken, no thanks. If we get a wink back, we send a message and take it from there

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wink and respond to winks... I never used to but I do now... And I am glad I have done "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples and single ladies probably ignore it...blokes? They're on it like a dog eating a bag of hot chips as someone's shown interest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the 'small' 'lazy' features of fab

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