FabSwingers.com forum: Bad at opening

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How can I make an opening comment interesting?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The million dollar question.

I genuinely don't think there is one comment that will interest everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Study their profile in detail.

Take into account their status/recent statuses.

Make it relevant, funny and witty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try not to start with a negative...

as in 'shame you're miles away....'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The million dollar question.

I genuinely don't think there is one comment that will interest everyone. "

Exactly. Be flexible and tailor it

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Tell them that the quickest you have ever cum is after an hour of rough hammering?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The million dollar question.

I genuinely don't think there is one comment that will interest everyone. "

Have to agree with this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell them that the quickest you have ever cum is after an hour of rough hammering?"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The million dollar question.

I genuinely don't think there is one comment that will interest everyone.

Exactly. Be flexible and tailor it"

For us it isn't the opening comment that's important, it's what follows.

Obviously avoid crass, crude and ignorant but we tend to go by the profile, pictures and following messages. So "Hi, how are you?" is ok by us .

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Study their profile in detail.

Take into account their status/recent statuses.

Make it relevant, funny and witty"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please see my COCK pics attached always gets a reaction

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"How can I make an opening comment interesting?"
Faf??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"try not to start with a negative...

as in 'shame you're miles away....'

Shame you are miles away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about if they have nothing on their profile?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What about if they have nothing on their profile? "

Then we don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us"

You are so average...no secret word?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if they have nothing on their profile? "

Report to admin.. simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us"

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about if they have nothing on their profile?

Report to admin.. simples "

Why report?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. "

For some you need to. This will usually be in their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. "
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For some you will, for some you won't. With others it doesn't matter what you write, it's getting bulk deleted anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if they have nothing on their profile?

Report to admin.. simples

Why report? "

Possible fake profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. .

For some you will, for some you won't. With others it doesn't matter what you write, it's getting bulk deleted anyway "

So its more to do with your profile than the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. .

For some you will, for some you won't. With others it doesn't matter what you write, it's getting bulk deleted anyway

So its more to do with your profile than the message? "

For me, it’s both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A "wow you look absolutely gorgeous" works for me!! I can't be arsed with the hi what you up to, what you doing, how's your day etc which I know sounds awful but I don't use Fab for chat at all as it takes up so much time and I only do clubs and parties rather than looking for solo meets.

So definitely read their profile first! Be witty and definitely don't be disheartened if you don't get a response back as women get a disproportionate amount of messages on a daily basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. .

For some you will, for some you won't. With others it doesn't matter what you write, it's getting bulk deleted anyway

So its more to do with your profile than the message? "

With us it's to do with the chat and how that flows, that's only us though as the majority judge by your profile and pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A "wow you look absolutely gorgeous" works for me!! I can't be arsed with the hi what you up to, what you doing, how's your day etc which I know sounds awful but I don't use Fab for chat at all as it takes up so much time and I only do clubs and parties rather than looking for solo meets.

So definitely read their profile first! Be witty and definitely don't be disheartened if you don't get a response back as women get a disproportionate amount of messages on a daily basis."

So how do you get through the haystack?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

The opening comment for me is vital. You need to interest me in order that I bother looking at your profile wording and pictures.

Reading someone's profile and commenting on something you have read, shows you are interested in getting that person.

Sending out cut and paste messages, shows you want a shag and anyone will do.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"The opening comment for me is vital. You need to interest me in order that I bother looking at your profile wording and pictures.

Reading someone's profile and commenting on something you have read, shows you are interested in getting that person.

Sending out cut and paste messages, shows you want a shag and anyone will do.

Sorry * getting to know that person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say whatever makes you happy.

If I was a man I wouldn't waste time on a personalised message as most women and couples just delete anyway.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Say whatever makes you happy.

If I was a man I wouldn't waste time on a personalised message as most women and couples just delete anyway. "

And I am the opposite

So do whatever you want. Who knows.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Hey how's you? Got any plans for the weekend?

That would be enough to start a conversation with us

I've been over thinking it then. I thought you needed to put more in than that. .

For some you will, for some you won't. With others it doesn't matter what you write, it's getting bulk deleted anyway

So its more to do with your profile than the message?

For me, it’s both. "

Me too - a crap profile or message can sometimes be saved if the other is good.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's very difficult if the person has a profile very sparse in words or even pictures. Although one would argue would you want to message someone with such a sparse profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DO NOT put "Hi" in the subject line (like 90% do) - make it interesting and don't put "How's you?" In the text.

Do not ask questions that require the person you are writing to to make all the running.

Don't send pages of obvious copy and paste messages.

Finally, if you read their profile you will see if they are compatible. If they say "Group sex only, no 121 meets and no socials" then DO NOT offer a candle lit dinner for 2 !!! Its not rocket science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me if men have a shit profile or no pics.

I'm happy with "hi"

or copy and paste messages.

I reply to all first messages. I know that most women and couples just ignore mail so that's why many men get fed up of trying to think of something to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's you answering 200 emails a day for the next week then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's you answering 200 emails a day for the next week then

Me? I'm fine with that. It's not difficult to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me if men have a shit profile or no pics.

I'm happy with "hi"

or copy and paste messages.

I reply to all first messages. I know that most women and couples just ignore mail so that's why many men get fed up of trying to think of something to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True, you'll attract more bees with honey than you will with vinegar or something along those lines.

When I'm fabbing photos I'll occasionally message just to compliment people on their efforts, not in the hope of meeting, just to spread a little happines.

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