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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them & forget them. If you're proud of them, that's all that matters & really if you had them & didn't show them, I'd be wondering why you don't.

Display proudly is my vote!

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By *miler6969696969Man
over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield

It's a strange thing. Some love em some hate em. They are your verifications so you alone can make your mind up to show or not.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block them & forget them. If you're proud of them, that's all that matters & really if you had them & didn't show them, I'd be wondering why you don't.

Display proudly is my vote! "

Ah thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

Nope! If you wanna show them then do! Too many people on here poking their noses into things that have no need to concern them! I used to get crap for showing mine too, only from women tho. I have chosen to hide mine now as they were another reason guys would still try their luck, even tho I am not playing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a strange thing. Some love em some hate em. They are your verifications so you alone can make your mind up to show or not.x"

When I did display them, people were being messaged about me!

What’s that about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?

Nope! If you wanna show them then do! Too many people on here poking their noses into things that have no need to concern them! I used to get crap for showing mine too, only from women tho. I have chosen to hide mine now as they were another reason guys would still try their luck, even tho I am not playing "

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who’s sending the abuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t mean names, but randomers, previous meets of the veries youre displaying etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who’s sending the abuse?

"

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Show them be proud !

I’ve had so many nasty messages calling me slut and whore etc

As I have 100+

But if they were to read rather than judge they’d know over 90% are from meeting people socially or at clubs or parties !

Jealousy I say

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Just block the narrow minded ones !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Show them be proud !

I’ve had so many nasty messages calling me slut and whore etc

As I have 100+

But if they were to read rather than judge they’d know over 90% are from meeting people socially or at clubs or parties !

Jealousy I say "

One of the blokes I met,actually showed me the messages he received after he first met me. They were really crude!

You’re right though,jealous sods!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who’s sending the abuse?

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

"

Nah women message blokes about ya or put up snide status updates instead lol

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

I’ve had women and men do it !

Rejection and jealousy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who’s sending the abuse?

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

Nah women message blokes about ya or put up snide status updates instead lol "

I thought most people actually had lives. Obviously not!

Still, I guess while bombarding me with crap, they’re leaving others alone!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We don't show them anymore, too many folk wanting to dig around and talk absolute shite. Had a few messages asking about our meets, how big is their cock and were they any good. Had guys asking us why we met so and so. We'll keep our fab verifications to ourselves, sure it's cost meets but we'll live.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

You should be proud. This is a place where we should be free of fear. It's not always the case. Some are confident in having face pic on some send them with a message. Veris doesn't mean just sex. Personally I like reading them. Almost like a starter to a meal.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

What ever you do somebody will moan do what ever the feck you like it your profile. I'm a shower

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I prefer to just show my tick, but then I like to keep my veris private.

It's your profile; use it how you wish to...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think there was a similar thread a couple of days ago. One last stayed that other women had started a whispering campaign telling guys they would not meet them if they had met her. Appalling behaviour for a swingers site. But then if people are willing to listen to the bigots more fool them. Sadly no one seems to get past the verification summary and actually read them, repeat meets socials etc. I say it's their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I did display them, people were being messaged about me!

What’s that about?

"

There are an awful lot of people in here who have such small minds and, clearly, sad lives that all they have to do is find things to be nasty about... Ignore them.

Your profile is for you to do what you want with... If they don't like it, tough shit.

Sometimes people's attitudes on here makes me wonder if they are actually teenagers who have signed up for the site by pretending to be adults...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there was a similar thread a couple of days ago. One last stayed that other women had started a whispering campaign telling guys they would not meet them if they had met her. Appalling behaviour for a swingers site. But then if people are willing to listen to the bigots more fool them. Sadly no one seems to get past the verification summary and actually read them, repeat meets socials etc. I say it's their loss. "

I don't meet guys that have met a certain local woman, does that make me a bigot? I think not. I have very good reasons for not doing so plus it's my choice.

If one of her meets messages me then I politely say no, if they persist then I tell them why. It's not a whispering campaign, as I said I have very good reasons.

I also hide my veri's because of this person.

There are some sick people on here!!!!

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I love reading about what goes on in group or GB meets, such a turn on. Shame I can't read your OP, bet they are so hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there was a similar thread a couple of days ago. One last stayed that other women had started a whispering campaign telling guys they would not meet them if they had met her. Appalling behaviour for a swingers site. But then if people are willing to listen to the bigots more fool them. Sadly no one seems to get past the verification summary and actually read them, repeat meets socials etc. I say it's their loss. "

Do you mean the woman that said she wouldn't meet people that had met anyone she found repulsive? She didn't get the irony at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

What kind of crap? If they are abusive then report them.

If you want to show 1 or 1,000 veris then do it. Like attracts like.

If you show 1,000 you will attract those that like to meet people with 1,000 veris.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

OP it is down to you whether you choose to show your verifications or not. If somebody is giving you grief then report and block there is nothing else you can do. Like everything else on here some like them some hate them, if showing verifications works for you then show them and be proud.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


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I don't meet guys that have met a certain local woman, does that make me a bigot? I think not. I have very good reasons for not doing so plus it's my choice.

If one of her meets messages me then I politely say no, if they persist then I tell them why. It's not a whispering campaign!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who’s sending the abuse?

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

"

I think some men don't like competition. If a woman's veris show she has fucked 40 men on Fab and the guy's score is only say 5 women then he feels intimidated.

Alternatively he is not a swinger and is on here as a free site looking for a GF and is put off by your past.

Show and be proud. If they want to meet you at least they know who they are meeting!!

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"I don't meet guys that have met a certain local woman, does that make me a bigot? I think not. I have very good reasons for not doing so plus it's my choice.

If one of her meets messages me then I politely say no, if they persist then I tell them why. It's not a whispering campaign, as I said I have very good reasons.

I also hide my veri's because of this person.

There are some sick people on here!!!! "

The most shocking thing to me about this is that they actually persist and ask you why you don’t want to meet. Why can’t they just take ‘no thanks’ for an answer and move on??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve hidden some of mine from social meets, I was getting grief from people saying you do meet alone. I don’t just in a group social setting. Some people on here get very arsey x

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Who’s sending the abuse?

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

Nah women message blokes about ya or put up snide status updates instead lol "

Very, very true!

No woman has ever had the balls to contact me to insult me in person - but many have contacted guys I’ve met to slag me off and ‘persuade ‘ them not to meet me again!

Sadly there are some unpleasant people on here op - just do what makes you happy without (if possible) hurting others in the process. It’s all any of us can do! Xx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I only show some of mine. Dont see the need to show them all when they basically say the same things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hid my verifications for a short while because I was sick of guys 1, asking me why I would meet this person and not them and 2, messaging guys that I had met and asking if I was as much as a bitch as I came across on my profile (I'm not btw )

Only about a week or so ago I've my latest ones back on and the rubbish has started again, I just delete the messages now and block them, so not worth getting wound up over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nowt as queer as folk even on a site for supposedly like minded, dare I say open minded adults. It's your profile to do with as you wish. If you choose to sleep your way through the population of the site then enjoy and who are they to judge. The only person sat there on judgement day is you. As long as your enjoying yourself stick 2 fingers up at them and carry on

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m thinking of hiding mine now. I’ve got single straight guys on mine. Some were part of a couple some were single and I’d met them a while ago but since then I’ve stopped meeting single guys but now I get criticised because I decline single guys and only meet couples an TVs and I always get “ well your veris say you meet single guys. My life my choices

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I am actually quite saddened by some of the experiences mentioned in this thread.

As a single female I had one incident where a woman got a bit silly about me meeting somebody she had met before me... that ended with my car being trashed and police involvement. But that was ONE person. One person in 12 years on the site!

Are there really that many narrowminded, intolerant, malicious busy bodies on here?

I prefer to hope not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's you're profile you show what you like....end of...

Nobody else's business

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

Show them off and be proud,

I show my friends list, and I've had people come back to me say that they've unfriended me because of a jealous woman.

So yes there out there, even for men.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I think there was a similar thread a couple of days ago. One last stayed that other women had started a whispering campaign telling guys they would not meet them if they had met her. Appalling behaviour for a swingers site. But then if people are willing to listen to the bigots more fool them. Sadly no one seems to get past the verification summary and actually read them, repeat meets socials etc. I say it's their loss.

Do you mean the woman that said she wouldn't meet people that had met anyone she found repulsive? She didn't get the irony at all."

If you are going to continue and attempt to slate you should try and get your facts correct. That would be the second time you've aimed a repulsive dig at me and I find it quite childish and immature .

I didn't say I wouldn't meet

There were men who brought to my attention women who said if they had met me that wouldn't meet me.

It's a swinging site and I host socials of course people will have met me. If they are that insecure I've decided leave them to it however I am tired of you attacking me. You don't know me and it's been picked up on different threads by numerous people. I think if youve nothing nice to say .... do as thumper said and say nothing at all.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

I don't post often but it's OP that was asking advice not a free for all on people's personal spats. Is hard enough for newbies to post in here without feeling like there is already an elitist club here

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

You should do whatever makes you happy. If you've a funny veri it a great one or you want to shout from the roof tops who you've met theb you do that!

Everyone is different and holds different views. Keep smiling

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"I don't post often but it's OP that was asking advice not a free for all on people's personal spats. Is hard enough for newbies to post in here without feeling like there is already an elitist club here"

Thiers nothing elitist about being in here. We are all the same. Granted some do take it a bit too serious at times and can become a bit confrontational to others. What we choose to do or say on our profiles is up to us no one should be personally attacked for how thier profile and veris read

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

I agree but there are some with a holier than thou mind set and there opinion is always right. I get grief for being a shadow. I have pics if asked. If people don't like me or what I say I guess they block or ignore me. I mean by elitist there is already an established core in the forum and sometimes it's daunting to have a say against them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t recal ever getting abuse from showing veri’s but people have messaged to say they’ve met or are meeting someone I have.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"I agree but there are some with a holier than thou mind set and there opinion is always right. I get grief for being a shadow. I have pics if asked. If people don't like me or what I say I guess they block or ignore me. I mean by elitist there is already an established core in the forum and sometimes it's daunting to have a say against them. "

This established core as you say are just normal people just trying to have a bit of fun and say what they think. Some are stronger at criticising other too easy. But I stil wouldn’t call them elitist. I have other words to call them but I won’t as this is not allowed

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Show them be proud !

I’ve had so many nasty messages calling me slut and whore etc

As I have 100+

But if they were to read rather than judge they’d know over 90% are from meeting people socially or at clubs or parties !

Jealousy I say

One of the blokes I met,actually showed me the messages he received after he first met me. They were really crude!

You’re right though,jealous sods!!"

I'd question him. Why on earth would he do that?

Verifications mean nothing to me as what one stranger says about another has zero baring on who I take into my bed.

Conversely, if I showed them I'd give zero fucks to what anyone thought.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I agree but there are some with a holier than thou mind set and there opinion is always right. I get grief for being a shadow. I have pics if asked. If people don't like me or what I say I guess they block or ignore me. I mean by elitist there is already an established core in the forum and sometimes it's daunting to have a say against them.

This established core as you say are just normal people just trying to have a bit of fun and say what they think. Some are stronger at criticising other too easy. But I stil wouldn’t call them elitist. I have other words to call them but I won’t as this is not allowed "

And this is why forums are good as we are allowed a difference of opinions without falling out. If it becomes personal attack block report if needed and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all OP. Fab does have its fair share of maniacs with not better to do then troll genuine people..... I have recently hidden mine because of jealous types who forget that this is a swinging site. You can’t please them all OP. Just block and report

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Who’s sending the abuse?

Men actually,well a few,I’ve blocked women or no doubt I’d be inundated!

Nah women message blokes about ya or put up snide status updates instead lol

Very, very true!

No woman has ever had the balls to contact me to insult me in person - but many have contacted guys I’ve met to slag me off and ‘persuade ‘ them not to meet me again!

Sadly there are some unpleasant people on here op - just do what makes you happy without (if possible) hurting others in the process. It’s all any of us can do! Xx"

For the life of me I can't see what is gained telling a meet "I was warned not to meet you as your typhoid Mary" etc. And I couldn't imagine having sex with someone who thought that was foreplay...but that's just me.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

You will never please everyone op ,so display whatever you choose,it's your profile.

Miss

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds


"You will never please everyone op ,so display whatever you choose,it's your profile.

Miss"

Perfect advice

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Everyone displays what is good for them .i'm here for me .take me or leave me x

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"There's nowt as queer as folk even on a site for supposedly like minded, dare I say open minded adults. It's your profile to do with as you wish. If you choose to sleep your way through the population of the site then enjoy and who are they to judge. The only person sat there on judgement day is you. As long as your enjoying yourself stick 2 fingers up at them and carry on"

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I agree but there are some with a holier than thou mind set and there opinion is always right. I get grief for being a shadow. I have pics if asked. If people don't like me or what I say I guess they block or ignore me. I mean by elitist there is already an established core in the forum and sometimes it's daunting to have a say against them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report an block. Did these people have varis?

I like my varis from good friends.

I flick between showing an not showing. Also lots of women pretending to be men here. Take no notice sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never show mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there was a similar thread a couple of days ago. One last stayed that other women had started a whispering campaign telling guys they would not meet them if they had met her. Appalling behaviour for a swingers site. But then if people are willing to listen to the bigots more fool them. Sadly no one seems to get past the verification summary and actually read them, repeat meets socials etc. I say it's their loss.

Do you mean the woman that said she wouldn't meet people that had met anyone she found repulsive? She didn't get the irony at all.

If you are going to continue and attempt to slate you should try and get your facts correct. That would be the second time you've aimed a repulsive dig at me and I find it quite childish and immature .

I didn't say I wouldn't meet

There were men who brought to my attention women who said if they had met me that wouldn't meet me.

It's a swinging site and I host socials of course people will have met me. If they are that insecure I've decided leave them to it however I am tired of you attacking me. You don't know me and it's been picked up on different threads by numerous people. I think if youve nothing nice to say .... do as thumper said and say nothing at all."

I'm not attacking you at all, I was just commenting on the facts of the words used. I have no issue with you at all, I like your posts. I acknowledge that you don't like criticism or differing opinions so I apologise.

You're clearly a nice person as you hold successful socials- people wouldn't attend if they didn't like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet guys that have met a certain local woman, does that make me a bigot? I think not. I have very good reasons for not doing so plus it's my choice.

If one of her meets messages me then I politely say no, if they persist then I tell them why. It's not a whispering campaign!!"

I'm the same with a few women, but I just turn their meets down if the guys message me - I don't waste my time explaining why, that just encourages discourse.

I can't fathom why anyone (male or female) would message simply to give abuse about verifications, or to 'persuade' the verifier not to repeat the meet...why would you take any notice of what random strangers think?

I display my veris, and I've never had any negative comments about the quantity or content. Several of my regular meets have told me about a couple of women that like to discuss me, but I just find it amusing that the silly bints have nothing better to do with their time

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I show my most recent only and no summary as hosting events in a swingers club means I get tons and most just assume they are all 500+ veris of fuckery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I show my most recent only and no summary as hosting events in a swingers club means I get tons and most just assume they are all 500+ veris of fuckery "

They are though right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?

What kind of crap? If they are abusive then report them.

If you want to show 1 or 1,000 veris then do it. Like attracts like.

If you show 1,000 you will attract those that like to meet people with 1,000 veris. "

Yeah,abuse galore!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Some are better hidden and forgotten

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

Not at all fuck em show what you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had so much crap over the last couple of days. Simply for showing my verifications! I thought that’s why you received them,to choose to show or?????

Am I wrong to be proud of them?"

No but I would adjust my profile if something was annoying me that much. I don't mind who fabs my pictures but I turned that function off as there was a few messages about fabbing them x

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Show what you like OP and BLOCK ALL OF THE JEALOUS WANKERS!

I however am contractually obliged to show only the one. My business partner in Funky Monkey Enterprises™ Ltd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Show what you like OP and BLOCK ALL OF THE JEALOUS WANKERS!

I however am contractually obliged to show only the one. My business partner in Funky Monkey Enterprises™ Ltd. "

A business man,lovely!

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