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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But I don't know what it is.

How do you deal with those days?

Do you talk about it? How do you explain it when someone asks what's wrong?

Do you hide away or do you force yourself to face the day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always talk about it

I learnt from my own mistakes keeping things inside makes it worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But I don't know what it is.

How do you deal with those days?

Do you talk about it? How do you explain it when someone asks what's wrong?

Do you hide away or do you force yourself to face the day?"

It keep busy till I can wittle it down and sort it

Hiding away does not always work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending what the issue is, sometimes its good to lay in your bed, mull it over, have a cry and then talk yourself out of it again. Get up, put your slap on and head out to face the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have hormone issues in our house an that’s all it is plain an simple. We just say it’s. That time of the month. If theirs nothing wrong, it can just be body chemistry.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

You talk to someone you feel you can open up to. It's true when they say that a problem shared... etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That feeling of something missing that you can't quite put your finger on? Which then consumes your thoughts throughout the day, but you still can't quite work out what it is? I think a lot of feelings of being in limbo present themselves around this time of year, we're tuned into the change of seasons and our bodies crave the sunshine and milder temperatures! Turn your thoughts to something else and it will all become clear...

Peach, lover of the elements and occasional voodoo priestess

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

What is it? Come on tell me. A problem shared and all that.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"But I don't know what it is.

How do you deal with those days?

Do you talk about it? How do you explain it when someone asks what's wrong?

Do you hide away or do you force yourself to face the day?"
Well I would say the fact you've opened up about it this morning would suggest you've already taken action by asking advice . So you're half way there Rubi xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"But I don't know what it is.

How do you deal with those days?

Do you talk about it? How do you explain it when someone asks what's wrong?

Do you hide away or do you force yourself to face the day?"

I take some time for myself to mull things over, and then preferably talk it out with someone sympathetic. Sometimes as you talk things can become clear too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That feeling of something missing that you can't quite put your finger on? Which then consumes your thoughts throughout the day, but you still can't quite work out what it is? I think a lot of feelings of being in limbo present themselves around this time of year, we're tuned into the change of seasons and our bodies crave the sunshine and milder temperatures! Turn your thoughts to something else and it will all become clear...

Peach, lover of the elements and occasional voodoo priestess"

That's close yeah! I can't talk about it, I don't know what it is, it's just a feeling.

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

what's bugging you? M xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably get annoyed that I don't know what's bugging me.

When a bit of up and down moodiness strikes it's horrible being in the downward bit.

Talking about it would probably be for the best, but finding someone that genuinely wants to listen is a rare thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holly Golightly: You know those days when you get the mean reds?

Paul Varjak: The mean reds, you mean like the blues?

Holly Golightly: No. The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of. Do you ever get that feeling?

Paul Varjak: Sure.

Holly Golightly: Well, when I get it the only thing that does any good is to jump in a cab and go to Tiffany's. Calms me down right away. The quietness and the proud look of it; nothing very bad could happen to you there. If I could find a real-life place that'd make me feel like Tiffany's, then - then I'd buy some furniture and give the cat a name!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep busy and get out as much as I can.

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By *ave38ukMan
over a year ago

haverhill


"But I don't know what it is.

How do you deal with those days?

Do you talk about it? How do you explain it when someone asks what's wrong?

Do you hide away or do you force yourself to face the day?"

usually like to be left alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All solid advise. Do something that elevates your heartrate (no not that) physical exercise releases happy hormones and also wikl give you something to focas on for a bit, doesnt have to be anything to taxing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hunt it down and kick it's arse.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Holly Golightly: You know those days when you get the mean reds?

Paul Varjak: The mean reds, you mean like the blues?

Holly Golightly: No. The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of. Do you ever get that feeling?

Paul Varjak: Sure.

Holly Golightly: Well, when I get it the only thing that does any good is to jump in a cab and go to Tiffany's. Calms me down right away. The quietness and the proud look of it; nothing very bad could happen to you there. If I could find a real-life place that'd make me feel like Tiffany's, then - then I'd buy some furniture and give the cat a name!"

There is a shop near my work that sells Steiffe teddy bears. I often go over and just spend time looking at them through the window when I’ve had a red day or a blue day. Calms me right down and puts a smile on my face.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I write things down, how I feel and such, then later I reflect on what I wrote

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By *ave38ukMan
over a year ago

haverhill


"All solid advise. Do something that elevates your heartrate (no not that) physical exercise releases happy hormones and also wikl give you something to focas on for a bit, doesnt have to be anything to taxing"
im a bass player and i just turn everything up to 11 and play really hard ... usually does the trick ... good for head aches too

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I write things down, how I feel and such, then later I reflect on what I wrote "

Ooooh that’s a great idea.

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By *ave38ukMan
over a year ago

haverhill


"I write things down, how I feel and such, then later I reflect on what I wrote

Ooooh that’s a great idea. "
writing works but not nearly as much fun

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I work on the premise that, if I don't know what "it" is, then I cant do anything about it, and worrying will just make things worse, so I just let it go, and carry on.

Once I find something else to do, I really put my full concentration into that, and often I find, when I then take a break, whatever "it" was pops into my head, and I can deal with it.

I then again decide if its in the "I can sort that" category, and if it is, I deal with it, if not, I might worry a little, but again, I "park" it until I can either deal with it, or it resolves itself one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Holly Golightly: You know those days when you get the mean reds?

Paul Varjak: The mean reds, you mean like the blues?

Holly Golightly: No. The blues are because you're getting fat and maybe it's been raining too long, you're just sad that's all. The mean reds are horrible. Suddenly you're afraid and you don't know what you're afraid of. Do you ever get that feeling?

Paul Varjak: Sure.

Holly Golightly: Well, when I get it the only thing that does any good is to jump in a cab and go to Tiffany's. Calms me down right away. The quietness and the proud look of it; nothing very bad could happen to you there. If I could find a real-life place that'd make me feel like Tiffany's, then - then I'd buy some furniture and give the cat a name!"

Love that book.

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By *ave38ukMan
over a year ago

haverhill


"I work on the premise that, if I don't know what "it" is, then I cant do anything about it, and worrying will just make things worse, so I just let it go, and carry on.

Once I find something else to do, I really put my full concentration into that, and often I find, when I then take a break, whatever "it" was pops into my head, and I can deal with it.

too deep.... loud music thats all you need lol

I then again decide if its in the "I can sort that" category, and if it is, I deal with it, if not, I might worry a little, but again, I "park" it until I can either deal with it, or it resolves itself one way or another."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So two things that work me;

1) Running, allows me to clear my head and 'purge' my system. Its proven to be good for the brain chemically, (quick plug for the FCRC thread )

2) I've recently discovered meditation and have found it very 'grounding' happy to discuss and recommend apps books etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate days like that, I just shut myself away and let the feeling pass. I’m not good at talking about myself so will probably avoid people as much as possible x

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